Hey everyone, I'm Sam Kayden
and this channel is about queer life beyond binaries to inspire you to live a happy fulfilling life as your true self.
Pride is just around the corner.
So I think now is a great time to talk about who belongs at pride and who doesn't
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Every year as Pride rolls around there always seems to be a conversation
online at least, about who belongs at Pride and who doesn't. So I'm going to unpack that a little bit and talk about
who I think should be at Pride and who shouldn't be. The short answer is everyone belongs at Pride.
The way that we gatekeep Pride and determine who should be there and who shouldn't based on identity or physical characteristics or
Personality or looks is ridiculous
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So the way that this gatekeeping tends to work is that
Somebody will say that because of this identity characteristic,
you do not belong at Pride. And a lot of the people that tend to be pushed out of Pride protests or celebrations
tend to be those whose identities are on the margins of the queer community.
So for example, people who are asexual aromantic, transgender, bisexual
pansexual, fluid...folks that don't have
identities that are gay or lesbian
tend to be excluded from
the queer community as a whole. And I think part of that is due to how over the years we have
redefined what it means to be queer.
The acronym itself has grown and increased as we have discovered and accepted more and more identities
And I think that it's really important that we
have a new definition of queer than maybe what was used
20, 30, 40 years ago. The definition of queer today essentially includes anyone who does not fall under
cisgender heterosexual
A trans person could identify as straight and they would still be queer because they're trans. An asexual person might identify as asexual
but hetero-romantic
So that person is definitely still queer
Ultimately anyone that is not cisgender heterosexual and considers themself to be a
member of the queer community is queer and therefore they belong at Pride.
Including identities that have been historically excluded from Pride is not a threat to those identities that are already included at Pride.
It's simply not. It's just opening up the definition of queer. It's being more inclusive. It's being more accepting
It's being more aware and understanding of the different identities that exist because there are so many.
So that leaves the question,
Do cisgender heterosexual people belong at Pride. Yeah, absolutely
Anyone and everyone belongs at Pride. Of course, I can only speak for myself
But I don't think it's effective that if we as a queer community use the tactics that have been used
against us to exclude us and push us to the margins
against the people that were using these tactics in the first place
The better question is how much space are you taking up at Pride?
So for example, if you are a cisgender heterosexual person who does not consider yourself queer maybe instead of marching in the parade itself
You're standing on the sidelines and cheering us on. Maybe you're waving a supportive sign
But that question is actually one that all of us can ask ourselves whether or not we're queer when we're attending Pride.
The question of
how much space you're taking up is really a question of
What privileges do you experience based on your identity, based on who you are?
And what are you doing to level the playing field
so those that don't experience those privileges
are not left in the dust and are given just the same amount of space as you are
So for example, I'm somebody who doesn't require mobility aids to get around.
So when I'm attending Pride it's important for me to pay attention to how Pride is set up and how
accessible the area is and if I
notice anything that is inaccessible or that needs to be improved on I should say something about it
I should find a volunteer. I should find somebody who's working at Pride and let them know and try to get it fixed
That's a way that I can use my privilege as someone who
moves through this world without requiring mobility aids to make sure that things are set up in a way that people with varying needs
will have an accessible Pride. So if you're attending Pride this year, just ask yourself: how much space am I taking up?
Do I have some privilege that maybe others don't have and what can I do about that?
how can I make this a more inclusive Pride for everyone and not just people that fall under my
definition of what queer means. If you know someone who would benefit from this video
please share it with them and don't forget to subscribe for weekly videos on queer life beyond binaries
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complete three days which will make it 72 complete hours at 7:30 tomorrow
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Our everyday assumptions can hurt others. Here's what it takes to change your thinking - Duration: 9:36.
JUDY WOODRUFF: More than 8,000 Starbucks stores closed down across the country today so that
its employees, 180,000-plus, could get anti-bias training.
This comes after an incident last month that raises again the question of individual biases
in all of us.
Yamiche Alcindor begins with this update.
YAMICHE ALCINDOR: The implicit racial bias training that Starbucks is doing today is
aimed at reducing racial discrimination and stereotypes, even those we may harbor unconsciously
WOMAN: We understand that racial and systematic bias have many causes, sources, and ways of
showing up within each of us.
YAMICHE ALCINDOR: As seen in this video from Starbucks, the training is grounded in the
idea that communities thrive when there is a -- quote -- "third place" other than home
or work to congregate.
It includes an introduction by the rapper Common.
COMMON, Rapper: Helping people see each other fully, completely, respectfully.
YAMICHE ALCINDOR: The action by Starbucks comes after an incident in April that sparked
national outrage and protests.
A store manager at this Philadelphia Starbucks called the police on two black men who were
there for a business meeting.
But the manager became alarmed after they requested a bathroom key without ordering
anything.
The men explained they were waiting on a friend's arrival to order.
But by the time the friend arrived, the men were in handcuffs, arrested for trespassing.
The company released a video apology after the arrest.
KEVIN JOHNSON, CEO, Starbucks: I want to begin by offering a personal apology to the two
gentlemen who were arrested in our store.
YAMICHE ALCINDOR: Today, on "CBS This Morning," Starbucks chairman and founder Howard Schultz
responded to some skepticism that the training is a P.R. stunt and doesn't go far enough.
HOWARD SCHULTZ, Founder, Starbucks: As I shared with you in Philadelphia, it was a reprehensible
situation that we took complete ownership of, and something that really was embarrassing,
horrifying and all the issues we talked about that day.
It's interesting for us to be criticized for us doing it for four hours.
It's just the beginning.
What we have said to our board, to our shareholders is that we're deeply committed to making this
part of everything we do.
We hire 100,000 new people a year.
This is going to be part of the ongoing training.
We're going to globalize this.
YAMICHE ALCINDOR: For the "PBS NewsHour," I'm Yamiche Alcindor.
JUDY WOODRUFF: For a closer look at this issue and how much training or education can do
to help people overcome it, we turn to two people closely involved in these issues.
Amrita Chakrabarti Myers is an associate professor of history and gender studies at Indiana University.
She's currently on a fellowship at the Johnson Institute for the Study of Race and Difference
at Emory University.
And Patricia Devine is a professor of psychology and director of the Prejudice and Intergroup
Relations Lab at the University of Wisconsin.
And we welcome both of you to the "NewsHour."
Amrita Myers, I'm going to start with you.
Let's talk about bias.
I think it's safe to assume we all have bias inside of us.
We're human.
How do you define it?
Where does it come from?
AMRITA CHAKRABARTI MYERS, Indiana University: Thanks, Judy.
It's a pleasure to be on.
And, yes, I think you're right, Judy.
We -- we soak bias in through the very culture that we live in, Judy.
And for those of us who are born and raised in the United States, we certainly get it
from our families, from our parents.
We soak it in from media, television, news, books, our teachers in our classrooms.
And we call it implicit or unconscious because it's done so subtly that we're not even aware
that we're picking it up.
And by the time we're adult, we have these unconscious ideas or thoughts or stereotypes.
If you were to ask someone if they're racist or if they have bias against a group of people,
like African-Americans, they may well say to you no, but then they may well have these
stereotypes.
1 It might be something as small as thinking that all African-Americans like watermelon
or fried chicken, or it might be something far more damaging or severe, thinking that
African-American men are dangerous, are criminals.
They -- people might clutch their bags, for example, unconsciously and may not even be
aware of it when African-Americans pass by them on the street or when they get onto an
elevator with them.
And these are things that they may not be aware of, but they have picked up these ideas
from the culture in which they reside.
JUDY WOODRUFF: Patricia Devine, you accept the idea that most people don't realize they
have these biases inside of them.
PATRICIA DEVINE, University of Wisconsin: I do.
In fact, I would argue that most people don't want to have those biases.
They intend to be non-prejudiced or non-biased.
And yet, as the previous guest was describing, they have learned stereotypes, they have picked
them up from cultures, to the point that they get so deeply entrenched in their minds, that
they become default or habitual ways of thinking about others.
And I use the metaphor of habits of mind as the starting point for understanding the problem
and also as a starting point for trying to address how one might reduce the tendency
to show these unintentional forms of bias.
JUDY WOODRUFF: So, Patricia Devine, staying with you, how then do you get people to recognize
it and then get them to begin to change their thinking, change their behavior?
PATRICIA DEVINE: Well, the first thing is to get people just to notice that, in fact,
spontaneously and unintentionally, they make assumptions about other people.
Their conscious minds may not approve, but once they become tuned into these types of
biases and are made aware of them, then they come to understand them as a problem to be
addressed.
And once they accept that -- and one point to really recognize here is that having these
biases doesn't make people bad people.
It makes them rather ordinary, having been socialized into a culture where these biases
are embedded into the very fabric of our society.
They're picking up the messages.
They're not bad people.
They're ordinary.
And that once you understand the problem that way, you can make a commitment to change,
and you can start to think about the change process.
If they are habits of mind, they can be broken like other habits can.
And there's a number of interrelated factors that have to be set in place.
People have to care.
They have to be motivated.
They have to want to do something.
Without motivation, nothing will happen.
They need to become tuned into, aware, and notice when they're vulnerable to displaying
biases.
They have to have some tools and strategies to do something else, to disrupt that habitual
way of thinking.
JUDY WOODRUFF: Right.
PATRICIA DEVINE: And then, like breaking any other habit, they are going to have to put
effort into it over time.
It's not something that happens all at once.
There's not sort of a quick fix or a silver bullet, but we can empower people to make
the change, and we can provide them with assistance in the process to overcome these unintentional
biases.
JUDY WOODRUFF: So, Amrita Myers, I see you nodding for -- while you're listening to her.
You're saying -- both of you are saying it is possible to change behavior.
It just takes work and it takes a desire on the part of the person.
AMRITA CHAKRABARTI MYERS: Absolutely.
I think you have to want to do these things.
You have to be willing.
I talk to my students about these things all the time.
I teach African-American history.
I teach black women's history.
I teach classes on slavery.
And every semester, I have students who come in who have never taken these classes before
who will openly express the fact that they have never gone to school with students of
color, who have never had teachers of color.
And they're often very resistant to the very material I'm teaching.
And they will often say that they have never heard this material, that they often think
it's not even true, because they have come from school districts where they have actually
been taught alternative material.
And so they find it hard to believe what they're reading, what they're hearing from their classmates
and their experiences.
And yet, over the course of the semester, being in small groups and reading this material,
reading primary documents, hearing about their classmates' experiences, hearing from me,
they begin to open up, and they begin to learn another way.
JUDY WOODRUFF: Can one session change someone?
Can it change your thinking?
AMRITA CHAKRABARTI MYERS: No, I think what one session can do is, it can cause an epiphany.
It's a beginning.
But it has to be -- it's a start.
One day cannot do anything but be a beginning, but a beginning is important.
Right?
It has to be the beginning of a lifelong process.
But we have seen that happen with people.
There are -- many of us have read stories online of people who used to be white supremacists
who are now engaged with organizations like the NAACP, the Equal Justice Initiative, and
other wonderful organizations, who are now working with others to bring about change.
Right?
They have amazing transformational stories.
But it all begins with a single step.
What Starbucks has done today is taken a first step.
But it has to be the first step in another -- in a long process.
JUDY WOODRUFF: And just quickly, Patricia Devine, you agree, one session is at least
a start, it's a good thing?
PATRICIA DEVINE: I think it's not the issue of whether it's one session.
The issue is whether it engages people in a deep and meaningful way in the issues and
it provides them with tools that can empower them to create a self-sustaining process of
change that can last over time.
JUDY WOODRUFF: Patricia Devine, Amrita Myers, we thank you both.
PATRICIA DEVINE: Thank you so much.
AMRITA CHAKRABARTI MYERS: Thank you, Judy.
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Breaking News - How family-run Unicorns of Love were created and compete with the best - Duration: 7:03.
Unicorns of Love quickly won over the hearts of League of Legends fans when they debuted in the EU LCS back in 2015
The fun loving team have competed in EU LCS finals, beaten TSM, have their own official fan club in Germany and even had two of their members appear in Deadpool 2
Their achievements so far are quite astonishing when you realise that they're a family-run business which began by a Dad helping his son's passion project
Jos 'UOLDad' Mallant created the team so his son, current UoL coach Fabian 'Sheepy' Mallant, and his friends could compete in smaller tournaments
They wanted a name that would hurt twice as much if you lost to them and hence, Unicorns of Love were born
UOLDad says they're one of the few teams who don't run at a loss but for them it was never about the money: 'We created UoL purely to support my son and his passion, we're an organisation that wants to have fun and have success, money isn't the force which is driving us
'We are a a family-based start-up with low costs compared to others.' he added, 'my son is not getting the high salary
My daughter is running the shop from home. My son's girlfriend of my son was studying for computer design
She made our logo and is doing all our artwork.' The team comes from humble beginnings but things became serious once Sheepy and his friends qualified for the EU LCS
They had no salaries or organisation behind them, but there was financial interest according to Mallant
However, investors were only interested in the spot and not the players, all of whom were unproven at the professional level
Wanting to keep them together, Mallant took matters into his own hands, dipping into his own savings from years of working in research and development
He quickly found out just how difficult and expensive it is to run an EU LCS team: 'The first thing was to get a gaming house, which was difficult because most landlords were not interested in renting a house or an apartment to six young guys with the youngest being 17
'We had to buy six beds and six chairs and six desks to play at and cutlery and a washing machine and all that kind of stuff
I mean you had to buy a whole household for six people. 'All of that and after four months we could have been relegated and it would have been all for nothing
It's difficult to say how much I've invested over the years, having myself work as a CEO with no salary for four years helps
I think over the years I've probably spent around €150,000-200,000 (£131-174k).' That's a substantial investment but UoL will need a lot more in order to remain in the EU LCS next season once the league introduces 'permanent partnerships' - which will have a reported buy-in fee of $10m (£7
5m). UoL will still be applying for a spot but either way, Mallant says they have no intention of quitting LoL: 'We will go for the application and see how far we come if we can get enough investment money to afford to do so
If not, we will go play in a European league or something like that. 'I think it's difficult for everybody to get the money or the investments settle
The first deadline of the 1st of July. I think we need more time for that. Money is one thing but there are a lot of other components too
You have to prove that you know what you're doing as an organisation, that you understand esports and the fans, that you can build a fan base, build a sponsorship and you can create content
' It's going to be an uphill battle for UoL but with their strong following and what they have managed to achieve through limited resources should certainly go in their favour
Their LoL future could be in doubt but they haven't got all of their eggs in one basket
Mallant is confident of the organisation's future: 'As an organisation we had to figure out what we wanted to do, did we just want to play League or do we want to go as an esports organisation? We decided to go with the latter, with our name and brand I think we can do much more
We've started our FIFA team and we are thinking about other esports as well. Investing in CS:GO is expensive and shooters aren't accepted by most German companies and sponsors
We are looking for what do next, which could be Hearthstone, Rocket League or something like that
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Here is a simple technique to understand how much a property is worth - Duration: 3:31.
- So you're looking to invest in the property market
but you're just not sure how much the properties are worth.
Well keep watching because I'm about to show you a technique
on how to determine real market value
and the three qualities that you should be looking for.
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Hi everybody, Josh Masters here
and the other day I was teaching at a seminar
and one of the biggest questions that was coming up
or one of the biggest hurdles
that the group was facing
was really understanding the values of the properties
they were looking at on the market.
What were they really worth?
Now, if you're looking an area long enough
you'll probably start to get a natural feel for the place
and you'll start to see what the prices are
that are coming up each and every week.
But what happens when you don't have time
to inspect 10 properties every weekend
or it's an out of area purchase?
So as a regular investor,
one of the things that I like to use
is the sold section on realestate.com.au
and the sold section can be a,
it's actually a little tab up the top
next to buy and rent.
Now, what you want to be doing is comparing
the similar properties
that you've been looking at
to what's been sold recently.
This is how the valuers do it themselves
when they're working for the banks.
Now you want to make sure
that you're comparing similar configurations.
So for example if you're looking at three bedroom houses,
make sure you're putting in three bedroom houses,
with parking or whatever it is
to make sure you're getting that true comparable.
Now once you're there I want you to compare three things.
The first one is location.
Are you comparing a property that's in a similar location
to the one you're looking at
or is it on a main road?
Or in a terrible part of the neighbourhood?
You want to make sure that they're comparable,
so make sure they're in comparable locations.
The second one is size.
Are they similar sizes?
And I'm talking about either land, for houses
that's very important.
Or for units, are you talking about
a 60 square metre unit, or an 80 square metre unit?
Make sure they're comparable.
You also want to make sure that you're comparing
the newest sales and you can do that
by a drop down that says, date, newest to oldest.
Now the third and final category
is comparing the condition.
And that's both internally and externally.
Are you comparing something that's renovated?
Or are you comparing something that's just a dump?
And a bit of a knockdown.
These are three of the critical things
that you need to look at when you're comparing
like for like properties to get a real good gauge
on where the market value sits
for the properties that are on sale today
versus what has just sold.
You can also look at things like,
does it have a view?
Is the architectural quality the same?
Is there an upstairs, downstairs configuration?
You can go into all these minute details if you like
but they're the three main categories
that you should be looking at
and that will give you a really good gauge
on the value that you should be paying today.
If you have any question around this
or would like to ask more,
just drop me a line.
My name's Josh Masters and you've been watching
On The Ladder.
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Ruth Langsford tells Eamonn Holmes just how much he means to her - and it's emotional! - Duration: 1:46.
Ruth Langsford tells Eamonn Holmes just how much he means to her - and it's emotional!
The This Morning co-hosts have been married since 2010. Ruth Langsford told Eamonn Holmes just how much he meant to her in a heartfelt message read out on Wednesdays Loose Women.
The TV presenter teared up as she read out a love letter via text message, which she had sent to her husband and This Morning co-host.
Ruth – who was slightly hesitant at reading out the personal message live on air – wrote to Eamonn: My darling, we are all so busy I worry I don't take the time to tell you how much I love you.
Well, I love you more than you will ever know.
You make my life complete and give me the love and support to do everything I do. She ended the message adding: Thank you for making me feel like the most loved woman in the world..
All panellists on Wednesdays show had been tasked to write a love letter to someone they cared about, with Janet Street Porter, Stacey Solomon and guest panellist Catherine Tyldesley also reading out their messages.
Janet had decided to message Linda Robson, Stacey wrote to boyfriend Joe Swash, while Catherine took the opportunity to hint to husband Tom Pitford that she would like another baby – a suggestion he quickly shut down!.
By the end of the show, Ruth revealed to the audience that Eamonn had yet to respond to her message. She said: Eamonn! He hasn't even replied. I don't even do gushy things like that. I can him my poet.
Hes the gusher! Ruth and Eamonn have been married since 2010 following a 12 year relationship, and share son Jack, 16. They have also been working together for 17 years, something Ruth had wanted to do even before meeting her husband.
She previously told HELLO!: I always admired him as a broadcaster before I met him [Eamonn] so I would like to work with him even if he wasn't my husband because I think he is so brilliant..
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Sarah Ferguson: 20 years after her divorce how much is Sarah Ferguson actually worth? - Duration: 4:40.
One of the most famous royal divorcees of all time, Sarah Ferguson, 58, was married to the Queen's son, Prince Andrew for 10 years
Married in 1986 in a lavish ceremony held at Westminster Abbey, over 100,000 people gathered to watch the new Duke and Duchess of York share that famous kiss on the balcony of Buckingham Palace
The two met when they were both children, but their romance was kindled by the late Princess Diana, who invited Sarah to a Ascot races after-party held at Windsor Castle
The Prince and Fergie began dating the same week, with the engagement following very soon
But with 22 years having passed since the couple's divorce, how much is the Duchess of York worth in her own right?According to celebrity intelligence website TheRichest.com, flame-haired Fergie is worth around $1 million, which is approximately £751,000
Since her divorce in 1996, the Duchess has kept her name in the public eye, now known as a writer, public speaker, charity patron, brand ambassador and television personality
Along with holding celebrity status, Sarah has worked with many brands over the years including British fine china and porcelain company, Wedgwood and cosmetics giant, Avon
Fergie has also held a decade-long endorsement with Weight Watchers, no doubt contributing to her $1 million net worth
The mother-of-two has also written various books including her own 1997 autobiography, My Story and 2011's Finding Sarah: A Duchess's Journey to Find Herself in 2011
She has also hosted radio shows and the 2009 ITV reality show, The Duchess on the Estate
The controversial TV show saw the Duchess journey to a working class estate in Manchester for a fly-on-the-wall documentary
This was followed by another called The Duchess in Hull.Before meeting Prince Andrew, Fergie worked in a public relations firm based in London, before working for an art gallery and publishing company
Despite divorcing over 20 years ago, Prince Andrew and Sarah remain on good terms, purchasing a £13 million chalet together in 2015 located in Verbier, Switzerland
Along with renting her own apartment in the expensive Eaton Square in London, Fergie also resides in the multi-million pound chalet
It was in Verbier that her daughter Princess Eugenie, 28, and her fiancé Jack Brooksbank, 32, met
Fergie's other work includes autobiographical books, charity work and radio work. Despite her high net worth, it was reported by The Sun in April 2016 that Sarah was selling her £150,000 Bentley for just £33,995 as she was "always short of cash"
The car was a gift from her ex boyfriend, Norwegian business tycoon Geir Frantzen back in 2008
It seems the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, as the Duchess' youngest daughter is also said to work full-time, holding a director position at Hauser & Wirth, a contemporary art gallery in Mayfair, London
The 28-year-old Princess Eugenie is marrying her boyfriend of eight years, Jack, at St George's Chapel, Windsor, in October
Fergie will once again come face-to-face with the royal family, after Prince Charles was rumoured to have snubbed his former sister-in-law at the Royal Wedding, leaving her off the guest list for Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's evening reception
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How to Value the Love of Your Life [Ep4] - Duration: 1:57.
You love your girlfriend fiancee wife the mother of your children, how much do you value what she does in today's episode
We're gonna learn the absolute best way to communicate how much you value the love of your life. Brothers
welcome to part two in our series of how to be the best man and husband that we can be. Last week
we learned that the women our lives are doing so much more work around the house and taking care of children
even after they work all day for pay. You had some homework to do. If you haven't seen that video yet go check it out.
Now, I know you value the women in your life you love them. You respect them.
You may even profusely praise them for keeping you and the family afloat.
If you're doing that, give this video a thumbs up. That is cool...
gratitude is important, but the best men don't stop there. In the Marine Corps
I learned this philosophy: that if you really value a mission or a task
then you have to be willing to do it yourself. The same goes for our relationships.
If you really value all that unpaid labor that we talked about in last week's video,
then you have to be willing to do it yourself. This week, make a commitment to identify one household chore or childcare
activity that you didn't do last week and then add it to the list of things
you're gonna do this week. Simple, right? In our
patriarchal society, power, status and influence typically go to the people who are bringing in the most amount of income and
by and large, those people tend to be men.
We tend to be valued more for our work.
If you've ever been asked to do a simple task when you get home
and you said, "but I just worked all day," then you at some level internalized this message of status and value.
But why is it that women are getting stuck doing all this unpaid labor?
Well, we'll talk about that in our next video. For now, if you believe in equality for women
like I do and want to be part of the solution, then subscribe to this channel right now, then share this video with other men
in your life. Until next time, keep doing good in the world.
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