Kris Krohn here with Limitless TV and today we're talking about how to build
meaningful relationships built on trust.
Building trust.
Wow I got to tell you right now that um in
the 15 years that I've been in business which started when I was a college kid
being in my my mid-30's right now, I've had an opportunity to work with tens and
tens and tens and tens and tens of thousands of people. I've been able to
interview thousands of people, I've brought on dozens and dozens and
dozens of partners. Each business relationship and partnership is almost
like a marriage because you got to work your stuff out and you got to find a way
to make things happen right Nate? And I'll tell you right now that building trust,
there is an art to it. And there's two things that I think are
most important when establishing it. The first one I want to talk about is, is
managing expectations. You know, let's talk about how trust first of all gets
lost because the absence of lost trust is often trust.
And when we set ourselves
up for failure it happens when we create expectations that were unable to fulfill
on or we didn't even give appropriate disclaimers of what might have happened.
You know for example, you're working with somebody and all of a sudden they see a
very different side of you. All of a sudden, that really fails their personal
expectations. And whether you want it or not, they're projecting these
expectations on you. You can't control it. People are setting expectations up for
you of what they expect you to do, how they expect you to respond, how they
expect you to speak, how they expect, how they expect, how they expect, how they
expect. And you really cannot control the perceptions of other people but you
can influence them. So one of the ways that I like to manage expectations and
and let me bring this to a two to a business conversation. When I'm sitting
down with someone and I'm looking at doing business with them, I want to help
them understand the good the bad and the ugly. And then I want to manage my
expectations by being honest and truthful and conservative. And I say that
again, honest and truthful and conservative. And what that might mean is
people are partnering with me on real estate all the time. I go to the best
places around the country and I help them invest their money. Their 401ks,
their IRAs, their home equity. And when I'm sitting down with them, one of
the things that I'm sharing with them is the range of possibilities of the best
case scenario and the worst case scenario. And then what I would expect to happen
and I'm sharing with them the things that don't always go well and letting
them know how often those occur so that they can be ready for them, so they can
be prepared for them. A total different scenario is people will come out
hundreds of people every month will fly in from all across the country. Some of
them from around the world to be with me for three days
where I do the most intense three day mindset breakthrough event. And when I'm
when I'm putting on this event with people, I'll get up there on day one at
the start and listen to the expectation I manage. As long as you are teachable
and open-minded you will have a life-changing experience and you will
never be the same again. That's a huge promise. But you know what? there's only
one reason why I'm giving it because I know that I'm fully capable of
fulfilling on it.
When you are speaking, talking, acting, let
me ask you,
do you ever exaggerate? are you prone to hyperbole? Do you, are you
that and if you don't know the answer to this question and all this ask you this,
do you ever round up a round down? If you round down, you're probably more
skeptical and conservative. If you round up, you might be an optimist and and you
might paint rosy pictures. Building a relationship of trust is about operating
inside of reality and you can manage those expectations by sharing with
people the possibilities of what may or may not happen. you know, when I married my
wife, we were making promises to love each other on the good days and bad days.
When things were good or bad. In sickness and health. And you know there's a lot of
people these days that live in a very conditional mindset.
Well, I'll trust you as long as.
And so, while managing expectations might be the
first thing what I want to share with you next I believe is the real secret.
The secret sauce to building amazing trust comes down to two words,
unconditional love.
The real secret to building this relationship of trust
comes down to what is your motive behind how you think of this person and how you
care about them. I believe there's room in my heart, in your heart, to hold a
space of unconditional love for every person
we meet. I'm talking about your spouse or your kids or your family members. I'm
also talking about strangers. Right now, we passed these expectations that put
people in these bubbles and boxes and these judgments? They're the things that
really get in our way and this is what erodes trust. But unconditional love has
the ability to transcend that. You see, I really actually don't believe I can
trust anybody. I don't say that as a cynic what I really say is the only
thing I can trust is for them to be who they are. I can trust their bad to show
and their good to show their good choices and their poor choices. And if I
can become, if I can separate from the expectations and this is that
paradoxical almost opposing advice is that we're balancing when we need to
have expectations that we manage but then the other part for your own trust
is to love regardless of whether people actually hit your expectations or not.
You see, I'm striving to be a person where I can manage everyone else's
expectations and at the exact same time honor and hold a space of unconditional
love that says ,I love you without condition. Now if you do something that
breaks my trust instead of getting angry and upset guess what? That's what that
person was capable of. Shame on you for actually thinking that you thought of
them even differently. Like, really you think you know this person? you hardly
know yourself! So this is like the whole ridiculousness of it is, do you trust me?
It's like with what? with my life? with breakfast? what I eat? when I'm gonna pick
up my kids? whether I'm late, early, sleep in? Like, like what does that really mean?
I'm just gonna trust you to be you. And I'm gonna hold a space of unconditional
love and this unconditional love says that, regardless of the choices that you
make there's gonna be love in my heart for you and because I see the choices
you're making I am going to distance myself in my business operations from
you or because it, but it doesn't mean that I'm sour. Doesn't mean I've said it
means that I'm learning. Means that I'm learning what I the possibilities of
what I can and cannot do with you. So really today, manage your expectations
with everyone else and then at the same time be careful what expectations you do
set. Because most of the expectations that we have are super unrealistic.
If you replace that with love people, want to be in a relationship where that
love is present. Yes it's one thing to mess up an expectation, it's another to
be okay with it and those are the people that I see building some of the greatest
levels of trust.
I hope you've enjoyed today's video. If this has resonated with
you, I want to invite you to consider coming out to one of my three-day
breakthrough events because when it comes to trusting others, the reality is
is that where we find our greatest mistrust is not with others. It's with
our self. It's the choices that we've made and it's easy to blame people. It's
easy to blame their actions and the things that we perceive them doing wrong
and some of us here have been really wronged by other people. But the solution
to your problem is not going to be found in their apologies. The solution is going
to be found inside of you. So click the link below and request more information
about my three day breakthrough event. And you know what? Hop on a plane, get in
your car and spend three days falling madly in love with the most important
person on this planet, you.
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