Hi I don't know if you can hear me clearly
because today I decided to record a video outside
It's just too sunny outside
for me to stay inside the house
Oh my god,
I feel like this is going to be...
He boy!
The wind is starting to become too strong.
Anyway, I just couldn't stay inside the house because the weather is incredible outside.
At the moment, I'm on a little piece of land
located on my street.
The reason they decide to leave this piece of land is because
There's a water flow
that's happening in the street
and if there was a house here there's good chances it would be flooded
so they decided to let this place open
when it's raining, all the water flows there.
At this time of the year, it's still empty.
There's a small pond.
but this part where I am will probably be flooded in a few months.
I just came back inside and realized
No Rocco, that's not for you!
I realized that the footage outside was sh*t.
I had so much sun and wind in my face,
my eyes were close the whole time and
we could barely hear me speaking.
Argh
We'll start again!
I made myself a liquid motivation boost.
It's matcha made with almond milk
and a little bit of honey.
I'll drink a little and then we'll start all over again!
I just learned how to clap my fingers.
I feel super discouraged to start over but I feel
like I'll feel much better after drinking this!
I made it too fast and there's lumps in the drink.
I am so disgusted with lumps. Eww
I'll go shake it vigorously
I'll be back!
I shaked it as if my life depended on it.
It should be better with the lumps in it.
Today as you probably saw
in the previous footage
it's the video on relationships
it will be a super casual video.
My goal is to open your mind to some
things I think about sometimes and you probably thought about too.
Or maybe these never crossed your mind.
My goal is to influence you positively.
And perhaps help you improve your relationships.
And to give you hope if you are single
The main topic will be my relationship
and the tips I will give you will be according to what we do as a couple
if the tips can be applied to your life
and you want to apply these tips, go for it
but I'm totally fine it you think these tips are pointless
or do not fit with your lifestyle.
The first thing that I really want to talk about
is to take care of ourselves
and love ourselves
and believing in ourselves before anything else
Instead of looking for those things in the person we date.
It's really important to take lots of time for self care
to become the best person we can become
in the goal of becoming the best life partner for someone else.
I recommend lots of self care, self reflection
to decide and find out
who you really are as a person
and it can change over the years
what do you want, what are you true desires
what makes you happy
and not look to find these answers into a partner
or find it elsewhere
than having it within yourself
Another tip I learned from a podcast
from a female therapist that does relationship counseling
she's a psychologist for couples basically
she said something that is really important in a relationship
Instead of looking what the other person does for you
ask yourself what you can do for that person.
Instead of blaming your partner
and telling yourself he's not doing any chores or doing anything special for you
start by asking yourself what am I doing for that person
to make his or her life happier and easier.
We also have different ways of being satisfied and happy in a relationship.
Some people are more material, some people cherish quality time
some people prefer getting compliments
Depending on what your husband or wife needs are
You need to adapt
For example, if you keep buying this person things
but that this person
really needs quality time to meet his or her needs
Then she or he will always
feel disappointed so the goal is to
find out what your partner needs are
and to discuss and communicate to find out
what makes the other person happy
so instead of wondering what that person does for us, ask yourself
what do you do for that person. That's it for the second tip.
My third tip would be to have
common projects and interests
I believe that
before getting into a relationship both
person have different interest but sometimes
one person will influence the other person to join his or her interests
it's okay to have common interests but I think
we can also have different interests
Most of all, what is more important is to have respect for your partner's interest
if your boyfriend is passionate about video games
you should understand that he enjoys it
and we shouldn't force that person to change
If your girl loves yoga for example and that
you really don't enjoy it
it's important to stay respectful towards your girlfriend
and allow her to have these interests.
When it comes to common projects
I think it's something that is fun
to have in a relationship
and evolve together through the years with a common project
most importantly,
not to wait for these project acheivement to truly happy
we can be happy in the NOW moment too.
but to share a similar vision of what is the future
to share a project whether it's buying a house or travelling together
just to imagine something
together
for the future. Also,
the fact of spending lots of time together
I don't think it's something negative
because for 2 years Marc and I
were spending all of our time together
But we took our distances a bit
and I feel it's even better
to both have our personal space
during the day so we're not 24/7 together
It becomes even healthier to be able
to spend time apart
In the beginning of a relationship, most people
are 24/7 together and tend to lose themselves in that
It's just so intense
but it's important
to have a balance through all of that and be able
to spend time apart in order to make your relationship stronger
Actually, I believe spending time away
can strenghten a relationship
to have activites you do together and activities you do seperatly
That's a great way to bloom.
Another tip,
I think most couples have that 1 problematic
or topic that's more sensitive and tends to come up
and each couple may have a different one
Marc and I solve the
conflit or argument
before going to sleep.
The goal for that
is to have a clear mind and know
what our partner's expectations and emotions are
we solve the problematic, say we love each other
the next day is a new day, in which our relationship is strong
it's important not to let problems be unsolved
and to try to solve the arguments when they come up
and not to hold what we have to say
don't shut up haha
I know some people shut their mouth
instead of commucating
what feels wrong, how we feel
and to share our feelings
You should feel comfortable to share with person that you share your life with
especially if you share what you think in the right way
without judgement. That's a great way to achieve a healthy relationship
in which both people feel good.
Also, to complete this idea,
in order to solve problems before going to bed
I think it's important to tell the person you love: i love you
every night before going to bed
or whenever you can, in the morning
also if that's possible
in a sincere way. When I say I love you
I say it with my heart and I truly mean it
I live it
I feel it and I share it to Marc
Regarding communication,
everybody says you got to communicate to have a healthy relationship
and I totally agree with that but I think
there's a healthy way to communicate
and for us it's a non-written rule
we never had to tell each other, for us it's common sense
we will never solve anything
by being disrespectful or by screaming
We have the ability to speak like normal humans, no need to
scream to give more value to your ideas
before insulting your partner
or saying mean things,
think about using respect in your arguments
because once you cross the line of insulting your partner
it hurts a lot.
So according to myself and to our relationship,
you should not communicate by screaming
or by saying mean irrespecutful things
because saying someone is a **** *** ***
or a fu*** *** ***
will not improve the situation and has no relation
to the problem.
If you feel like your boyfriend is a ***** *** ****
Go scream in the forest
but do not say that to your boyfriend.
What brought you to think that of that person
has to be the topic of the discussion
and you need to explain why you're hurt
to end this video, I will tell you
what's our relationship biggest struggle
or conflict
I should actually name this a challenge and not a conflict
Marc and I have different opinions regarding this subject
And it makes the conversation come up pretty often
like once every two months
and it's not a disrespectful nor explosive conversation
we just need to tell each other what we have to say and what we feel
I find it extremely difficult
that Marc works a lot
and he finds it's extremly difficult when he feels that makes me sad
that he abandons... my god I feel like crying
sorry I'm super emotional, dont' worry
to he spends little time for his social life with
his friends, family and myself
in order to work a lot
and as much as I know
that it makes him super proud
my god i'll say it
as much as I know that for him, working is what makes him live to his full potential
he loves to work
for him, working is not like working
what he does is what he's highly passionate about
and I think it's beautiful and I'm beyond happy to know he found his path
he follows his true calling
he accomplishes so much
but sometimes I find it difficult
*doing well haha
because of my past experiences
what I've been through in life
the fact that I lost my father
damn I didn't think I was going to be like that
the fact that I lost my dad
because he was over-working, extreme hours and burned out
It's just that I'm so scared that this ever happens
that I feel I always try to bring him back
and I try to make him relax
and that he enjoys life fully
but for him, enjoying life is to invest himself into working
and to make his company grow
I'm happy because
it's the deep conflict
I have the impression that some couples fight
about who's cleaning the house
and little things of the life that are not important
but I think it's all of those little complaints hide an underlying problem
something deeper and for us that is the deeper conflict
we found it, we work on it
and the most important thing is love
and that we keep moving forward together
at least I don't cry I'm just
feeling a little weird in my throat, I'll drink a little to feel better
So that's it, I wanted to say
to trust life, to trust love
love does exist
trust that when the moment will be right
the right person for you will be there
maybe it's not tomorrow and not in one year
but life is amazingly well done so when the
time is right for you to be in a relationship
it will happen. But there's not a perfect relationship in this world
but we can always do our best
to better ourselves and become to best person we can be
to bring something good to the person we share our life with
That's it for the video on relationship
I hope you enjoyed
I shared openly with all of you
You can share it the comments what you thought of this video
or tips you have with your boyfriend or girlfriend
we have to take the time to love each other
to look at your partner and tell him how much we feel grateful
because we never know what can happen in life
despite the challenges of a relationship
do not give up at every obstacle
or challenge so thank you
all for watching the video, see you in the next one.
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