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5 Signs You're in a Healthy Relationship

You and your new flame love trying new restaurants together and going on long bikes rides, but does that mean you're destined to be together? When it comes to being happy and healthy in a relationship — and making it last long-term — there are more important things to consider than having common interests.

So what exactly makes a relationship healthy? "A great relationship is a safe place for both people to love, honor, and respect one another," says Jennifer Spaulding, a love and relationship coach in Austin, Texas.

You can communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries, as well as listen to the other person. Read on to discover five more signs that you're in a healthy relationship.

You're Not Afraid to Speak Up. It's easy to know when your partner does something you don't like — maybe he doesn't call you for two days, or he doesn't help out around the house when you live together.

But it's not always easy to speak up and tell your significant other how you're feeling. "This takes a lot of strength, self-confidence, and courage, because you have to come from a vulnerable place," says Spaulding.

In a healthy relationship, you'll feel secure enough to be open with your partner. You Know Each Other's Love Style.

Many couples swear by the book The 5 Love Languages for a reason: In it, you discover your partner's "love language — the way they prefer to give and receive love (through words of affirmation, quality time, or physical touch, for example).

In a healthy relationship, you've taken the time to learn each other's "love language" so you can express your love in a way that works for you both, says Spaulding. You Encourage Each Other to Go After Your Goals.

"Many of us have a dream or vision for our life, and especially as we age, we want to maintain those visions," says Spaulding.

It's okay if yours don't align with your partner's as long as you "honor and encourage each other to achieve your goals," she says. You're Comfortable in Your Own Skin.

When you're in a relationship, it's crucial to know your strengths and weaknesses, says Spaulding. Maybe you're confident around your friends but self-conscious at work.

Or you know that little things, like your partners forgetting to take out the trash, can set you off.

Whatever your strengths and weaknesses are, being aware of them can help you reach a point of loving and accepting yourself, which in turn can help you love and accept your partner. You Feel Happy and Supported.

Once the initial elation of a new relationship wears off, check in with yourself: Do you feel happy and supported by your partner? How are your mood and self-esteem? If you feel any strain or lack of support, talk to your significant other, since feeling unhappy in a relationship can lead to health problems down the road.

According to a study published in April 2013 in the journal PLoS One, people who experience poor relationship quality are 50 percent more likely to be at risk for depression.

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6 Things You Need to Know About Starting a Relationship Later in Life

If you're reentering the dating game after being out of it for a long time, don't fret: No matter how long it's been since you were single, you can navigate the new waters like a pro and find the partner you've been looking for.

But first, there are a few things you should be aware of.

Read on to discover exactly what you need to know about dating later in life, whether you're simply looking to dip your toes in the water or are ready to dive into a new relationship head first. Tinder Isn't Just for Teens.

Believe it or not, Tinder is a great place for older generations to meet, says Jenni Skyler, PhD, director of The Intimacy Institute for sex and relationship therapy in Boulder, Colorado. And it's not just for hooking up: Dr.

Skyler says that many of her patients have had more luck finding a relationship on Tinder than through online dating sites like Match.com.

"I think the level of rejection is less painful on Tinder, and it's easier to log on to an app than a website," she says. It's Helpful to Make a List of the Qualities You Want in a Partner.

Just because you're dating later in life doesn't mean you can't still have deal breakers. But when you're anxious to meet someone, it can be easy to ignore red flags, notes Skyler.

To stay focused on finding the right person, make a list of the qualities you want in a mate. "Doing so is a great way to balance your head and heart," she says. It's Ideal if You Both Have Kids.

If one of you has children, it's best if the other does, too, regardless of their ages, says Skyler. "There's this understanding that your kids come first," she explains.

When one person has kids and the other doesn't, issues like jealousy and power struggles can arise. You Still Need to Have the Sex Talk.

You might be nervous about getting busy with someone new, but it's important to communicate with your partner before hitting the sheets. "You need to talk about your sexual health, your desires, and what your boundaries are," says Skyler.

Doing so will make both of you more comfortable — and the conversation is an indicator that you're ready to take the relationship to the next level. It's a Good Idea to Examine Past Relationships.

"If you're divorced, it's for a reason," says Skyler.

"Maybe the sex got bad or you grew apart, but there were valid problems." To avoid making the same mistakes twice, it's beneficial to reflect on previous relationships and notice patterns in your behavior (for example, maybe you always shut down at the first hint of criticism, or you tend to get jealous easily).

Taking a hard look at yourself and your former relationships will help you reverse bad habits and find a relationship that works. Erectile Dysfunction at an Older Age Is Normal.

Men in their fifties and beyond may need a little extra time and stimulation to get an erection, notes Skyler.

And while that's totally normal, "having erection issues can make men shy away from dating or rely on taking Viagra more than they need to," she explains. She advises her male clients to have an open conversation with their partner.

Keep it light and playful by saying something like, Even though my penis is sometimes slow to the join the party, when it does, it will be well worth the wait..