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Hey guys! It's Hannah. Bipolar and relationships. This is another big one.

Last week, we talked about denial and bipolar disorder and the two kind of tie in together.

So please subscribe to my YouTube channel if you haven't seen that yet.

This is about using your condition against you.

You know, your romantic partner taking your bipolar disorder, depression, or anxiety

and using it as a platform for mental abuse

It's called gaslighting.

It's a form of manipulation that basically gets you to question your mental stability.

You're basically like: "Oh my god! Am I crazy?" - when any type of situation occurs.

So I have experience with this.

I was in a relationship for two years with a guy who was a real bad person.

I began advocating for mental health and I got more confident.

And the more confident I got, the more angry he got and used my condition against me.

Every normal, you know, angry response –

because I'm a very passionate person -

turned into a bipolar response, a bipolar reaction, a bipolar behavior.

He cheated on me! And I knew he did.

And I confronted him about it; the person to place, the thing.

"You're crazy, Hannah."

Two days later, I had heard that phone going ring, ring.

I looked at it. Dug a little deeper.

I was completely justified; person, place, thing. Everything.

But he made me feel like I was crazy because he didn't want to admit his own insecurities.

And he knew all he had to do was say: "She has bipolar disorder."

And I'm so emphatic that I went along with it.

I was trying to help him, make him a better person.

And I got screwed over in the end.

Doctors and therapists kept telling me

you have to acknowledge it and admit that it was mental abuse.

No! Because I felt like it made me weak.

But then, the more I learned, I saw what he was doing.

It's embarrassing. Yeah.

I tried so hard to be the strong, confident person.

It's like I didn't even see it until after.

How pathetic could you be to use someone's condition against them?

I get blamed for other people's insecurities

because of my condition, because it's a freebie, because it's a scapegoat.

It's easy.

And I don't deserve it because I'm a pretty good person.

So back off.

Most people who live with any mental health condition

have dealt with this kind of "using it against me".

Do a response video.

And share this video on social media and YouTube

because this is such a huge topic that we need to confront.

So many people I know have something to say.

Bipolar and relationships. Let's do it!

So I look forward to hearing and seeing your thoughts.

I'll see you next week. Bye.

For more infomation >> Bipolar and Relationships: Quit Using My Bipolar Against Me - Duration: 3:19.

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[HEALTHL] 7 Reasons to Take Your New Relationship Slow - Duration: 3:43.

7 Reasons to Take Your New Relationship Slow

You've been dating for years, and you finally found someone wonderful (hooray!). It's not every day that you meet someone you truly connect with.

But before you start planning the wedding, it's important to slow down and take the time to truly get to know each other, says Jennifer Spaulding, a love and relationship coach in Austin, Texas.

Rushing through the initial stages of a relationship — from the first date to moving in together — can put a damper on your partnership and decrease the odds that your relationship will last long-term.

Read on to discover seven more reasons that it's a good idea not to rush into love. You'll Both Have More Time to Reveal Your True Selves.

"When you first meet someone, you're usually not your complete, full self with that person," says Spaulding. "You stay on your best behavior and may also avoid being vulnerable." That's why it's best to take things slow.

Doing so will give you and your partner time to show your true colors — both the good and the bad. You'll Discover if You're Truly Compatible.

At the beginning of a relationship, you're going to great restaurants, catching new movies, and heading to happy hour together.

Those initial dates are fun, but as anyone who's ever watched a dating reality TV show knows, it's easy to stay in harmony when you're constantly doing fabulous things together.

To discover if you're truly compatible, it's important to do mundane activities together, too, says Spaulding.

So head to the dry cleaner or go grocery shopping; if you find yourselves arguing in the produce aisle, you might realize you're not a match after all. You'll Be Happier in the Long Run.

Taking things slow includes hitting the brakes in the bedroom.

According to a study published in December 2010 in the Journal of Family Psychology, couples who waited longer to have sex reported higher relationship satisfaction and better communication later on in their partnership than those who hit the sheets more quickly.

And the results held true even when factors like religious beliefs or past number of sexual partners were taken into account. You Wont Rush Into Moving in Together.

Delaying sex can also keep you from moving in together too quickly, which may keep your relationship happy in the long run.

A study published in 2012 in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who have sex early in the relationship tend to cohabitate sooner, which can lead to relationship problems down the road. You'll Have Time to Check Your List.

When it comes to finding love, it's crucial to have a deal-breaker list, says Spaulding. It will help you keep your values front and center and remind you of what's important to you in a relationship.

Maybe you don't want to be with someone who has credit card debt or who has a history of addiction, for example, and these issues are not things you find out on a first or second date.

Taking things slow will allow you to learn these things naturally and then compare them to your list. You'll Learn How to Develop a Healthy Fight Philosophy.

In the beginning stages of a relationship, everything is going along swimmingly: You're going on romantic dates, and you find your new special friend to be downright fascinating.

But as time goes on, it's inevitable that you'll have an argument — and chances are youll both be pretty awful at it. "Most people don't know how to argue well or treat one another during a conflict," says Spaulding.

She recommends the book The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, PhD, which offers guidelines to argue in a healthy way. Rushing into a relationship means you may skip learning this all-important skill.

You'll Know How Your Partner Reacts Under Stress.

What happens when the waiter spills water on him? What does she do when a car cuts her off on the highway? The way your new love reacts to everyday stressors can tell you a lot about their character.

"Look at how someone treats the least important person in their life," says Spaulding. "There's a real benefit to having that information.".

For more infomation >> [HEALTHL] 7 Reasons to Take Your New Relationship Slow - Duration: 3:43.

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[HEALTHL] 5 Signs You're in a Healthy Relationship - Duration: 2:37.

5 Signs You're in a Healthy Relationship

You and your new flame love trying new restaurants together and going on long bikes rides, but does that mean you're destined to be together? When it comes to being happy and healthy in a relationship — and making it last long-term — there are more important things to consider than having common interests.

So what exactly makes a relationship healthy? "A great relationship is a safe place for both people to love, honor, and respect one another," says Jennifer Spaulding, a love and relationship coach in Austin, Texas.

You can communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries, as well as listen to the other person. Read on to discover five more signs that you're in a healthy relationship.

You're Not Afraid to Speak Up. It's easy to know when your partner does something you don't like — maybe he doesn't call you for two days, or he doesn't help out around the house when you live together.

But it's not always easy to speak up and tell your significant other how you're feeling. "This takes a lot of strength, self-confidence, and courage, because you have to come from a vulnerable place," says Spaulding.

In a healthy relationship, you'll feel secure enough to be open with your partner. You Know Each Other's Love Style.

Many couples swear by the book The 5 Love Languages for a reason: In it, you discover your partner's "love language — the way they prefer to give and receive love (through words of affirmation, quality time, or physical touch, for example).

In a healthy relationship, you've taken the time to learn each other's "love language" so you can express your love in a way that works for you both, says Spaulding. You Encourage Each Other to Go After Your Goals.

"Many of us have a dream or vision for our life, and especially as we age, we want to maintain those visions," says Spaulding.

It's okay if yours don't align with your partner's as long as you "honor and encourage each other to achieve your goals," she says. You're Comfortable in Your Own Skin.

When you're in a relationship, it's crucial to know your strengths and weaknesses, says Spaulding. Maybe you're confident around your friends but self-conscious at work.

Or you know that little things, like your partners forgetting to take out the trash, can set you off.

Whatever your strengths and weaknesses are, being aware of them can help you reach a point of loving and accepting yourself, which in turn can help you love and accept your partner. You Feel Happy and Supported.

Once the initial elation of a new relationship wears off, check in with yourself: Do you feel happy and supported by your partner? How are your mood and self-esteem? If you feel any strain or lack of support, talk to your significant other, since feeling unhappy in a relationship can lead to health problems down the road.

According to a study published in April 2013 in the journal PLoS One, people who experience poor relationship quality are 50 percent more likely to be at risk for depression.

For more infomation >> [HEALTHL] 5 Signs You're in a Healthy Relationship - Duration: 2:37.

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