Hey guys! It's Hannah. Bipolar and relationships. This is another big one.
Last week, we talked about denial and bipolar disorder and the two kind of tie in together.
So please subscribe to my YouTube channel if you haven't seen that yet.
This is about using your condition against you.
You know, your romantic partner taking your bipolar disorder, depression, or anxiety
and using it as a platform for mental abuse
It's called gaslighting.
It's a form of manipulation that basically gets you to question your mental stability.
You're basically like: "Oh my god! Am I crazy?" - when any type of situation occurs.
So I have experience with this.
I was in a relationship for two years with a guy who was a real bad person.
I began advocating for mental health and I got more confident.
And the more confident I got, the more angry he got and used my condition against me.
Every normal, you know, angry response –
because I'm a very passionate person -
turned into a bipolar response, a bipolar reaction, a bipolar behavior.
He cheated on me! And I knew he did.
And I confronted him about it; the person to place, the thing.
"You're crazy, Hannah."
Two days later, I had heard that phone going ring, ring.
I looked at it. Dug a little deeper.
I was completely justified; person, place, thing. Everything.
But he made me feel like I was crazy because he didn't want to admit his own insecurities.
And he knew all he had to do was say: "She has bipolar disorder."
And I'm so emphatic that I went along with it.
I was trying to help him, make him a better person.
And I got screwed over in the end.
Doctors and therapists kept telling me
you have to acknowledge it and admit that it was mental abuse.
No! Because I felt like it made me weak.
But then, the more I learned, I saw what he was doing.
It's embarrassing. Yeah.
I tried so hard to be the strong, confident person.
It's like I didn't even see it until after.
How pathetic could you be to use someone's condition against them?
I get blamed for other people's insecurities
because of my condition, because it's a freebie, because it's a scapegoat.
It's easy.
And I don't deserve it because I'm a pretty good person.
So back off.
Most people who live with any mental health condition
have dealt with this kind of "using it against me".
Do a response video.
And share this video on social media and YouTube
because this is such a huge topic that we need to confront.
So many people I know have something to say.
Bipolar and relationships. Let's do it!
So I look forward to hearing and seeing your thoughts.
I'll see you next week. Bye.
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