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Victor Lindelof lifts lid on his relationship with Manchester United manager Jose Mourinho

Lindelof arrived at United in the summer with a big reputation after impressing for Benfica but has been limited to just four appearances this season.

Mourinho is yet to hand the defender a Premier League start but has reiterated his belief that he will soon adapt to his new surroundings and prove his worth to the side.

Asked about his discussions with the Portuguese boss, Lindelof told Swedish website Expressen: 'It's between me and him.

But we talk and have a good dialogue.

'I feel no stress. I'm at one of the world's best clubs, it's clear that it's a tough competition – but I have the time it takes.'.

Speaking about his summer signing at the end of last month, Mourinho said Lindelof will be given time and is under 'no pressure'.

'Victor will be given time and no pressure for his evolution,' the former Chelsea boss said.

'He has a very specific position on the pitch and I was saying he needs time, he needs time and he will be given time but also opportunities.

'Because just time and no opportunities to play then the evolution gets slower.

'He needs time, no pressure, but also he needs opportunities.

The fact that he played against Basel and then against Burton then in the future he's going to have more opportunities to play.

'He will prove step by step that he is ready to play.

For more infomation >> Victor Lindelof lifts lid on his relationship with Manchester United manager Jose Mourinho - Duration: 2:09.

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2 Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together | animated video - Duration: 1:47.

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

"I'm sorry". are the two most healing words in the English

language.

When they are spoken as part of a wholehearted apology, these words are the greatest gift

we can give to the person we have hurt.

many marriages fail, and family members stop speaking to one another, because someone will

not apologize, or the apology is offered in a way that only deepens the injury, rather

than widening the path for forgiveness and reconciliation.

Even good relationships suffer quietly beneath the surface, when a hurt or insult goes unrepaired.

For the want of a heartfelt apology, a kingdom of trust and affection may be lost.

Our heartfelt apology, can help free the hurt person from life-draining anger, bitterness,

and pain.

It validates their sense of reality by affirming that, yes, their feelings make sense, we get

it, and we take full responsibility for our words, and actions, or our failure to speak

or act.

Getting it right is difficult, and it's worth it.

The courage to apologize, and the wisdom to do it wisely, and well is at the heart of

effective leadership, coupledom, parenting, friendship, personal integrity, and love.

It's hard to imagine what matters more than that.

For more infomation >> 2 Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together | animated video - Duration: 1:47.

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Why Do Good Relationships Turn Bad? How Childhood Trauma Manifests in Adult Relationships. - Duration: 10:35.

that's the thing an ACOA partner will attract another ACOA unconsciously

why and this is the number one thing that's most dangerous everyone's there

oh we have so much good chemistry chemistry is gonna lead you wrong it

leads you right back to your past

thank you so much for tuning in again to Our 2nd Act with Paige and Silke

Riana Milne is back with us talking about love life and relationships and

how childhood trauma you know how we carry that into our adult relationships

so Riana welcome back to our program thank you Silke for having me ... before I

what I want our audience to know before we get back into it you were a love

coach life coach relationship coach on a television show tell us about that real

fast yes it's really exciting it's coming out this week it's broke

September 26 it's called radical dating finding lasting love over 40 and there's

five coaches certified you know life and dating coaches and five clients three

single women one male and single male and one gay male and we didn't know who

we were going to be assigned and I was assigned Scott the gay male and one of

the reasons was that there was a traumatic accident in Scott's life

unfortunately where he lost his partner of eight years to a car accident as an

adult and he was the partner was killed right in front of him so he was very

stuck in trying to move forward and find love again and nobody seems as good as

his other partner and he was real stuck you know but we did so well that Scott

found a new partner before taping was done he's with him now ten months so

that's very exciting ...good good well we look forward to seeing that and we'll

we'll link to that as well so it's our viewers can see it I look forward you've

told me a little bit more about it and I really look forward to seeing ...it let's

get back to our topic on our last segment you know you you

explained the the the ten traumas childhood traumas that we carry into

adulthood let's talk about now how we manifest that and why when we look like

we're in a happy relationship obviously what happens what happens okay well it's

very interesting because those of childhood traumas and for simplicity

I'll just say ACOA adult child of an alcoholic or other traumas and the ACOA

adult tends to be very fun-loving and charming and loving and romantic

they have big hearts they want love in the worst way you know so these partners as

a new relationship come across amazing you know they seem like the perfect guy

or girl like wow you know they're they're sexy they're dynamic they're

outgoing they want loved see because as a child they learned all these great

ways to get love and attention let's take a little girl that was neglected

cuz you know mom and dad had to work so they might have gone to school and

learned to be super charming to their teachers and you know the the best

student in the school to get the alkaloids at school that they might not

have gotten at home you see so they learn to be charming it's the same as

the the little boy that might have been beaten at home you know and told he's

not good enough and then it comes to clip school and he's a class clown and

gets all this attention well he uses humor or sarcasm to make friends and get

attention to feel liked so actually these are coping mechanisms as children

worked but as an adult they're faulty and they causes you know faulty

relationships so over time and I I have a lady coach now client now that I'm

working with that she's expecting her husband to be really perfect and she

came from Russia and she had a lot of childhood wounds that went on a very

difficult demanding mother and I call it the Prince principal that she expects

the man to save her to be perfect to love her in every way

he must be this we must be that or he's not loving me like he should so we put a

ton of expectations on our partners to be perfect because we didn't receive

that as a child so this stuff manifests in so many different ways let's say the

child that comes home with an F on their test and they're like oh my gosh I'm

going to be beat if they know I failed this test I'm gonna switch it to an A

and the little boy goes into his dad say dad you just have to sign I got an A on

my test and you know makes up this great story and it gets away with it well what

did he learn lying works so this is the adult that grows up that lies about

everything when they don't have to lie it doesn't

make sense why are you lying about this and they become so good at it because

it's saving them as a child wow that worked and you know mom or dad's gonna

yell at me I'm gonna lie again or be charming now this is the woman that's a

people-pleaser let's say mom and dad were fighting or mom was very difficult

they learned to be kind and charming and just stay out of the way and do

everything around the house that would be perfect

people please so they wouldn't get yelled at or punished

that was their coping mechanism so what happens as a woman she grows up and

she's doing for her husband her children the employees everybody else but herself

and these people it's very hard for them to say yes to themselves ...how do you

recognize that though if you're in an unhappy relationship as a lot of women

and men are especially if it's a long term relationship there's been lots of

issues even if it's a good relationship how do you recognize that and and and

know that maybe they should call someone like you or take action or ...well you know

I teach my people what my courses are both life coaching and then relationship

coaching seconds why because we have to take care of the childhood traumas we

have to make the unconscious conscious you can't change what you don't

understand it's my favorite quote so we have to have them understanding what

they're doing on how this dynamic has played out in their life when they go

out to date they have the arsenal of tools I've created like they know

exactly the first ten questions you should ask on the first date to see if

they're keeper or not we laugh a lot we call them one and done is not fitting in

and you're going to learn to recognize it and it's not an interview it's a

conversation and you learn to ask very easily these questions so you learn to

sort very quickly in your partner choice a lot of the ACOA dynamics do not come

out until about four to nine months into the relationship so that's why I tell my

people go very slowly ask your questions do not be intimate quickly okay because

you're going to find things out by the second and third date

you're gonna know and then you choose either to move forward with a lot of

risk or you're gonna say you're very nice but you're not just not quite right

for me yeah if I'm sorry to me to interrupt you but if you don't recognize

that that's when the relationship you're setting yourself up for another failure

exactly exactly and if you're intimate too early on with the oxytocin and all

the other great dopamine and serotonin levels flying around when you're making

love it's gonna be very hard to disengage after that 90-day period so I

encourage my people to wait take their time we really get to know them really

be smart and you know what they'll know exactly what they're looking for and

that's the key because nobody taught us this I should I didn't even learn in my

college programs and all my licensures and I have a lot of them on but you know

nowhere did they teach us this and I was when this happened to me I'm like what

does my husband have that we call it dr. Jekyll and mr. Hyde okay so dr. Jekyll

everyone loves successful charming outgoing fabulous in the community and

my husband at the time was a school principal and I got a knock at the door

and he's suddenly fired I'm like why porn on the computer affair with a

teacher I'm like what .. who are you you know because everyone's

there oh Riana we want a relationship like yours you know because everyone loved us

we were like the it couple around town we were so in love we had three marriage

ceremonies were so in love so Paris Atlantic City and Cancun so it's like it

was a shock to me and I'm there why would he do this why would he ruin and

take a chance with everything and who is this other person that I had no idea who

he was so that's what led me on my research that led to my book love beyond

your dreams break free of toxic relationships to have to love you to

serve and I need it at first and then it was like the floodgates opened all my

counseling clients my coaching clients I like oh my gosh guys you're suffering

from childhood trauma and so was your partner and that's the thing an ACOA

partner will attract another ACOA unconsciously why and this is the number

one thing that's most dangerous and one's there oh we have so much good

chemistry chemistry is gonna lead you wrong it leads you right back to your

past yeah well that's the problem yeah we're on I thank you for being so open

and sharing you know one thing that we that we say about all of our guests and

experts is that we all live what we preach what we you know what we talk

about the advice we give we've been there we've done it so thank you thanks

for sharing that and writing those books which we will link to in our video

description I want to make sure everybody can get ahold of you if they

want to and I want to hold you over for one other segment let's talk about what

a you know a good relationship and emotionally healthy relationship should

look like you know in our next segment so I will keep you over and we'll see

you on our next segment of our second act with Paige and Silke thank you

thanks so much for joining us today if you haven't already done so please just

take one second and subscribe to our Channel

buttons right over here and for more videos on finding love after 50 please

visit our websites 2ndact.TV and we'll see you soon on another episode of

Our 2nd Act with Paige and Silke thank you

For more infomation >> Why Do Good Relationships Turn Bad? How Childhood Trauma Manifests in Adult Relationships. - Duration: 10:35.

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Lionel Richie Isn't Thrilled With Sofia Richie and Scott Disick's Relationship | Splash TV - Duration: 1:12.

expressing a ton of PDA…

And apparently Lionel Richie has also been paying attention to tabloids.

According to Us Weekly, Lionel isn't thrilled about his 19-year-old daughter sparking up

a relationship with the 34-year-old father of three.

Lionel tells Us Weekly, "Am I in shock?

I'm the Dad, come on…

I'm scared to death, are you kidding me?"

We're not sure what concerns Lionel most.

Whether it be Disick's troubled past, alleged sex addiction, or other factors, but it doesn't

seem like the singer has plans to politely say "Hello" to Disick anytime soon.

Us Magazine also reports that Kourtney Kardashian is also wary of the situation.

Us reports, "Kourtney thinks this fling with Sofia is a little weird, but nothing

shocks her anymore."

We'll have to stay tuned how Scott and Sofia's relationship plays out.

For more infomation >> Lionel Richie Isn't Thrilled With Sofia Richie and Scott Disick's Relationship | Splash TV - Duration: 1:12.

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Victor Lindelof dismisses doubts about relationship with Jose Mourinho at Man Utd - Duration: 2:14.

Victor Lindelof dismisses doubts about relationship with Jose Mourinho at Man Utd

VICTOR LINDELOF has dismissed speculation that he does not see eye to eye with Jose Mourinho.

Lindelof is yet to make a league appearance for United since joining in a £31million move from Benfica.

The Swede, 23, suffered a shaky start to his United career when Real Madrid gave him the runaround in their 2-1 European Super Cup win.

With Phil Jones out of Uniteds two opening Champions League games, it gave Lindelof the chance to make an impression.

But, aside from another 90 minutes in an EFL Cup win over Burton, there have been few signs Mourinho trusts the centre-back.

Lindelof insists: I feel no stress. I'm in one of the worlds best clubs.

It's clear that its tough competition. But it may have the time it takes..

When pressed about what he has said to Mourinho about his situation, he added: Its between me and him.

But we talk and have a good dialogue.

Lindelof is currently away with Sweden and targeting a World Cup spot.

Sweden host Luxembourg before they visit the Netherlands next week.

They currently sit second, a point behind France in Group A of the European qualifying section.

While Lindelof and Co could still qualify for Russia through the play-offs, they will hope to win their games and that France slip up away in Bulgaria or at home to Belarus.

For more infomation >> Victor Lindelof dismisses doubts about relationship with Jose Mourinho at Man Utd - Duration: 2:14.

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Relationship Marketing Key Takeaways Kody Bateman CEO SendOutCards - Duration: 17:27.

Hi everybody this is Cody Bateman Welcome to our relationship marketing weekly show

I'm really really excited to share some fun things with you today you know we've we've

had some great shows over the last eight nine ten weeks incredible guests incredible people

on here sharing with us you know just hit bits of how they've been successful in their

business and how they've used the relationship marketing as a way for them to separate themselves

from their competitors to be the best that they can be in their respective professions

and I'll tell you I've learned a lot like I've taken copious notes I've got a gut folder

full of notes fact I got notes right here what we're going to do today is I want to

talk to you all about I'm going to do five take away there's five key takeaways from

past relationship and weekly show hosts and you know the copy writers that promote all

this stuff they turn that into a headline that says five secrets of success in the new

tangible world a business and that really does fit what we're talking about a get let

me say that headline again five secrets of success in the new tangible world a business

that says a lot because we are in a new world of business we're in a huge digital world

of business but it's kind of referring back to a tangible world where we've got to do

more than just digital communication to reach out to our client base and our customer base

so I'm going to go ahead and get started with this and jump right in and again welcome to

the show got people that are posting in here from all over the world today so I just want

to welcome everybody you know I've got people here from Australia from New Zealand from

United States of course from Canada from Mexico we have people from all over the place that

are tuning in today so my jump right in I want to talk to you about the five key takeaways

or five secrets of six. SAS coming from our past shows here's what I want to do I need

to get a yellow pad of paper in notice and listen this isn't going to be any crazy like

I don't have power points this is not a formal show this is a simple brass tacks get down

in the trenches kind of stuff this is just an informal communication and discussion with

me it's also going to do rather than focus on Kinesis grab a yellow pad of paper saying

Take some notes I'm just going to say this these are notes that I've taken by reviewing

some of these past shows there's five key takeaway so I don't like to do is just have

a pad of paper available and let's jump in let's go to number one number one is called

the three legged stool the three legged stool This is. The first secret of success in the

new tangible world of business it's called the three legged stool This actually came

from an entree producer he's the manager of Red Rock collision at of Arizona and so this

was really powerful when he shared this with us he has a philosophy in his business called

the three legged stool three legged stool represents this leg number one is great service

number two is communication the number threes appreciation so what he's saying is that any

business that you're in to keep my He's in a collision business so you go in and you

get your car fixed with him what he's saying is the first and foremost he has to deliver

deliver impeccable service great great service and number two any say in all three of these

things are equally important number two is you've got to communicate Kate how many of

you go in to repair shops or different place service oriented companies and the biggest

problem is it's if there's just not enough communication you know there's a breakdown

of communication you don't fully understand what you're getting into. Or what the price

is whatever and so what what Andrea saying is communication is huge like you've got to

spend the time massively communicating to your customer about your service what they

can expect what they can do so great service is number one communication making sure you

communicate very properly number two and the third one is appreciation. And appreciation

being equally as important so basically way says I'm going to provide the best service

in the world I'm going to communicate like there's no tomorrow man I am it communicates

six ways Dale Sunday I'm going to follow up with e-mails I'm going to do all kinds of

stuff to make sure you know exactly what the process is and then by golly I'm going to

appreciate you I'm going to send out a card and a gift in different things to it to share

with you appreciate I'm not just going to share their prescience to digitally I may

send an e-mail and say thank you but I got a follow up with a tangible touch got a follow

up to tangible touch you know that thank you greeting card and M L perhaps a gift attached

to it in the mail really solidifies the three legged stool if it doesn't work unless you

do all three impeccable service and credible communication and then tangible appreciation

on the back and we can stop the show right now guys because that alone can really catapult

your business and next let's go to number two though so number one three legged stool

number two. Number two is staying top of mind with tangible touches staying top of mind

with tangible touches Now this base became firm offer pretty much every every guest that

we had talked about this and. There's kind of two areas where where people talk about

staying top of my attended will touch is typically tangible touch is a greeting card in the mail

it might have a gift attached to it that goes in the mail giving mine a green card as eleven

times more like. Plea to be open than any other piece of mail one hundred percent of

those taxes are going to get open and they're going to feel appreciated so the power of

the greeting card is really really important. To two areas really the greeting card and

gifts in the Mel is two different areas that I know is in fact one guy Paul rising he's

a custom home builder and also Gayle's in tech and both of their stories kind of talked

about this they send out greeting cards in two different ways the first way is they send

thank you and stay in touch cards to their clients that's kind of an obvious you know

you you follow them say thank you after server after after they did business with you or

you follow up and just stay in touch with somebody that's that's the easy one the second

one both of these guys do both gals in tech and Paul raising gals in real estate Paul

as a as a home builder both of them do this strategy which is really cool they have they

have cards they send cards to celebrate people in their community so they watch what's going

on in their community. Paul tells a story about somebody that got a real estate award

his community keep community and he just sent out a you know congratulations car gals in

tech went to a networking event there was a cook off and there was a guy that won the

cook off contest she didn't know who he was she simply sent a congratulations card to

him for winning the cookoff and then had her information at the bottom of the card this

card and said cards to celebrate people and community is huge I highly encourage you to

reach out to people in your community like this so stay top of mind with tangible touches

follow for their clients and celebrate people in your community and it's just amazing what

you know what'll happen if you do that let's go on to number three third one thanking people

through the process I love this thanking them through the process and again I'm going to

go back to Paul rising from Terre custom. Holmes he talked a lot about this he has a

remodeled division so in the remodeled division you know he goes out he gives beds and stuff

to remodel people's homes and one of the things he talks about adamantly is that I think people

through the process so when he goes and gives of a bid he does not have their business yet

he doesn't have the job may never receive a dime from those people but he always sends

them a thank you card for giving him the time and the opportunity to place a bit That's

what he calls thinking through the process so he does it then then he the thanks them

for choosing them sort of so now they choose him as a client or they choose him as a service

provider he's going to come in to remodel their home he then sends another thank you

card thank you for choosing may look forward to working with you may do the best job for

you kind of thing and then of course when the job's complete He thanks them again and

sends a box of brownies this is thanking people through the process that process so think

about it in your own line of work I don't care what business you're in and there's a

process that you go through you cannot thank people in the US You just can't I mean people

do give you their time and you need to thank people and be appreciative all the way through

the process whether you get there business or not so I think that's a really really good

one so let me recap number one three legged stool number two staying top of mind with

tangible touches number three thanking people through the process is going to the fourth

one the fourth one is. Your business is about taking care of people. I want to posture affect

their Your business is about taking care of people it doesn't matter what business you're

in. Everybody all of us our business is about taking care of people in fact your business

is what you do is this. Service that you provide to so the business you're in is what you do

taking care of people is who you are OK business is what you do taking care of people is who

you are and the better you're at at taking care of people the better your business is

going to be obviously so if you get up every morning you decide I am about taking care

of people that are in my life your business puts you in front of people that's the opportunity

you have every day to take care of somebody so the business that you do is what is is

what you do and taking care of people is who you are Tom Lambert talks about this town

Lamberts from shadetree automotive he has a low quote that he says he says we don't

just fix cars we take care of people and everybody in his shop knows that they all know that

philosophy we don't just fix cars we take care of people and that makes a big difference

he's the guy that when you go into the automotive shop he has fresh baked cookies wait for you

there's the aroma of cookies in the air and he provides that so he he is all about taking

care of people and fixing cars is just byproduct of that So pretty cool stuff so your business

about taking care of people we're going to finish up now with the fifty one. Salim for

I'm just just going right off my notes and hopefully writing these notes down here and

I can send this to you but I want you to write it down writing listening and writing really

helps you to retain and this is these are five key gold nuggets are really going to

help you in your business so the fifth one is being intentional about relationships and

a lot of this be intentional about relationships beyond when is a real estate investor he was

on a couple weeks ago and he really honed in on this is the importance of being intentional

about relationships it's funny I posted it. I posted this thing on Facebook the other

day I talked about if you had a choice between chasing money or chasing relationships which

would you choose and most people got that bit lot of people got caught up in me using

the word chase and so they made it about well I don't chase it got a whole philosophical

on me and thank you for that appreciate everybody but the point is is if you if you're focused

if you could only focus on one thing relationships or money which would it be and why and there

were some incredible responses to that by the way in fact that actually came from beyond

women because if his literal quote When I interviewed him was if you have to make a

decision between chasing money or chasing relationships he would choose relationships

all the time and he went through a monumental shift when he talks about being intentional

with relationships be intentional about relationships he went through a period of time where business

was about business is about making money is all about making money what can I do to make

more money blah blah blah and about ten years into his business he transformed into becoming

a relationship person so whether you like the word chasing or not or focusing on or

pursuing let's say pursuing if you have to make a decision about pursuing money or pursuing

relationships which is it going to be and don't give me this stuff about how if you

pursue somebody they run away from you listen. If you want relationships you've got to be

in the mindset of pursuing relationship get yourself out there talk to people be nice

to people look people in the eye be kind of people every day be in it for the relationship

only not for the business that make may follow be about people that's what beyond when was

saying is be intentional about your relationships truly caring about another human being every.

A single day of your like that just has to become part of you has become a practice that

you do all the time whether you're doing your business or not that way and naturally flows

into your business when you're doing business is that you're being intentional about relationships

people feel that you know people don't buy your product they don't buy your service they

buy you and so if you're intentional about your relationships people are going to feel

that they're going to know that you really truly care about them so those are the five

key takeaways over the past several weeks the three legged stool staying top of mind

with tangible touches thinking people through the entire process that you have your business

is about taking care of people and be intentional about relationships those are really really

powerful things if you implement those five things in any business that you do you'll

have great success I'm excited about doing these lace marquee shows I'm learning a lot

I'm learning a lot from the people to come on these shows I am so proud and honored to

be a part of this to be able to be in an interviewer incredible business people that have amazing

knowledge and do amazing things so I hope you stay tuned you know we're going to keep

on doing the stuff that next week I've got Laurie doubt she's a web designer and marketing

consultant ad of Tennessee and she's going to be in are talking about online and offline

relation marks as this lady she's been doing this for about thirteen years now she's a

true pro I mean this is she's as pro as pro gets in a relationship market principles you're

going to learn a lot from Laurie doubts fact she just wrote a new book that's coming out

called We all have choices can't wait to get that book tune in next week so that you can

see Laurie as our guest and I look forward to have you I want you all to remember a couple

of things. We do this to help you with your business yes. But we do it for a bigger reason

than that we really believe that through kindness we can change the world we really believe

that we can bring the human race together and do it by being kind to people most people

have businesses they need to run bills they have to pay and the most of the time that

you spend in your life is dealing with your business so we do relationship marketing and

teach you how to be nice to people in your business because you spend most of your time

in your business if we can accomplish that you're going to be nice to people everywhere

you can be nice to people. Any place that you go and that's the key my friends we I

believe truly believe that with systems that we have in place we have a chemical sent out

cards that has a great system that helps you buy you know just a. Smart Phone You can send

out a real greeting card to somebody at a pitch or put in a message at a gift if you

want super easy you can even schedule things to go out future these things are important

it's important that your reach out and appreciate people every single day of your life we are

bringing the human race together through kindness my friends that's what this whole thing is

all about and I'm looking forward to seeing all of you next week take care everybody God

bless and we'll see you next time.

For more infomation >> Relationship Marketing Key Takeaways Kody Bateman CEO SendOutCards - Duration: 17:27.

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[DAT] 20 Relationship Warning Signs Smart Couples Never Ignore - Duration: 8:18.

20 Relationship Warning Signs Smart Couples Never Ignore

20 Relationship Warning Signs Smart Couples Never Ignore   How to know its time to bail.

It's a tale as old as time: Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Boy and girl spend the rest of their lives together in blissful harmony. Even Romeo and Juliet ended up together, in a twisted way.

Unfortunately, life doesn't just follow such sweet, simple guidelines. No, the story, more accurately and more frequently, goes like this: Boy meets girl.

Boy and girl fall in love. Boy and girl fall out of love—with levels of animosity varying from relationship to relationship.

The tough part is figuring out when to move from Act II to Act III. Barring inhumane levels of introspection, "Is my relationship doomed?" is a nearly impossible question to answer.

Leave it to someone else, like these experts right here, who have laid out 20 definitive signs that your relationship is on the rocks. And if you find out that fixing things is in your future, consider trying out an open marriage.

(Yes, they exist.) 1 You Ignored a Deal Breaker at the Beginning One surefire way to set your relationship up to fail? Overlooking a major red flag right from the start.

"People ignore their 'deal breakers' in relationships for many reasons," says Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW. "Sometimes, we are afraid of the truth because finding out the truth may lead to us having to make a change," she explains.

But the truth is, if you've always wanted kids and your partner definitely doesn't and you've known it all along, it's better to cut the cord now and save yourself the pain later.

Though if you'd rather reaffirm your love, learn how to say those three little words without saying a thing at all.

2 You Can't Remember the Positives Every relationship has tough times, but if when you think about how your relationship began, it's difficult to remember the "good times" you had together because it is buried under your current conflict and emotional pain in the relationship, it's likely a sign that things could be over, according to Christene Lozano, a licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in California.

3 Your Values Just Don't Line Up Family, money, and religion are tough to change your views on.

"People are attracted to each other for all kinds of reasons, and it's true that sometimes opposites do attract," says Denise Fournier, Ph.D., LMHC, a psychologist and founder of Evergreen Therapy in Miami, Florida.

"But if you're going to build a solid and lasting relationship with an intimate partner, it's important that your core values are aligned," she points out.

Bottom line: "If you're not on the same page and aren't able to find a common ground, the relationship isn't likely to stand the test of time." 4 Disagreements Turn Into Blowouts   "Conflict is a healthy part of relationships, but how you resolve it can be either bonding or destructive," says Dr.

Terri Orbuch, relationship expert, researcher, professor, and therapist. "If you handle conflict consistently in a destructive manner—like screaming, interrupting, yelling or calling your partner names, studies show that you are more than twice as likely to divorce or breakup over time." If you and your partner can't fight fair, it may be time to make your exit.

Though if you want to return, learn the ways that smart men apologize their way out of the dog house.

5 You Don't Look Forward to Coming Home "There is no bigger tell-tail sign that a relationship is doomed if you avoid coming home at night," says Erika Boissiere, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Founder of The Relationship Institute of San Francisco.

"If you don't want to see your partner, or be with them, you have already begun the break-up process in a passive way." Yikes. Hey, though, at least you'll have the time to build a strong-as-hell bromance.

6 You're Not Sexually Compatible Sex can be a relationship-maker or ruiner.

"If a couple finds that they are not sexually compatible (e.g., she wants sex more frequently that he does, or he is not drawn to her on a physical level), this is a sure sign that sexual issues will be a problem in the long run," explains Dr.

Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist based in California.

"If one (or both) partners are not willing to face and address the issue head-on, time will only make it worse." If you need ways to spice things up in the bedroom, check out the 3 ways to instantly turn your wife into a sex goddess.

7 You Always Blame Things on Each Other Sometimes, mishaps are no one's fault, but if you always find yourself feeling that it's your partner's fault, or vice versa, something's up, says Hershenson.

Of course, for when it comes time to making up, brush up on the romantic man's guide for buying her the perfect flowers.

8 One of You Is Dealing With Addiction Of course, former addicts can be in relationships, but those relationships are "beholden to the other person's success with sobriety.

Without it, both partners ebb and flow in a relational dance that is filled with toxicity and pain," says Boissiere. "A relationship typically can weather addiction for a period of time before one partner gets exhausted," she adds.

This might be a good time to take our quiz and find out what type of drinker you are. 9 You Can't Agree on Where to Live   "People want to live in certain places.

They have their dreams set on the where, when, at what age," says Erin Asquith, LCSW, founder of Versus Therapy in New Jersey.

Some couples are able to make long distance work when they can't come to an agreement about where to live, but generally this drives partners apart.

10 You're Keeping Secrets   If you're withholding from your S.O., it likely signals that the relationship is moving toward a breakup. "There is a difference between secrecy and privacy," Lozano points out.

"It's totally okay and healthy to have privacy, but keeping secrets can be a recipe for disaster." 11 You Wouldn't Go to Them in A Crisis   "One way of identifying who you feel emotionally close to is by asking yourself whom you would turn to for assistance and help in a stressful situation, like the loss of a job," Orbuch advises.

"An unhealthy relationship is one where you would prefer to get help from anyone but your partner," she explains.

"Your partner doesn't have to be the only one you turn to in troubled times, but you should want to go to your partner for support." 12 You Don't Trust Each Other Or one of you doesn't trust the other.

"While trust can be repaired, it is incredibly difficult, and takes two very committed individuals," Boissiere says.

If you always feel the urge to check your partner's phone or constantly wonder if what they're actually doing is different from what they said they were doing, you may want to bow out.

If you really don't trust her, you may want to learn the 15 signs that a woman is cheating on you. 13 Every Conversation Feels Like Nagging "Pay attention to how you talk to each other in a relationship," Asquith suggests.

If you feel that you're not really hearing each other and that every request or question feels like one of you is being pestered or criticized, that's a major red flag.

14 You Can't Have Uncomfortable Conversations "You've probably heard this before, but it bears repeating: communication is essential to a healthy relationship," Fournier says.

"Some of the problems that I see tear relationships apart have to do with money, sex, and differing definitions of monogamy.

Though these are difficult issues to navigate, they can almost always be reconciled if both partners are willing to talk through them openly, vulnerably, and honestly.

If you can't or aren't willing to keep the communication going, the relationship is doomed." 15 Your Ideas of the Ideal Future Look Very Different   "When partners don't align on core visions for what lies ahead, such as whether to have children or the timing of taking the relationship to the next level, relationships typically dissolve," Boissiere says.

Also, if you've begun to imagine your future without your partner, it's time to get out. 16 You Can't Name Your Partner's Positive Qualities A major indicator that you're not in love with your S.O.

anymore? "You are critical of your partner and stop seeing the 'good' in them," Lozano notes. 17 You Never Disagree Fighting unfairly is bad, but never having any conflict is also a pretty big sign that something is amiss.

"Healthy partnerships will bring up disagreements, which will get worked through together," says Shirani M. Pathak, a licensed psychotherapist and founder of the Relationship Center of Silicon Valley.

"If you never have any disagreements, it's likely because one or the other (or both) of you are avoiding discussing things that make you uncomfortable, which leads to a storm brewing under the surface." 18 There's No Interest In Meeting Each Other's Needs "When a partner does not show interest in his or her mate's needs and desires, the relationship is on rocky ground," Manly explains.

If you simply don't care what your partner wants or needs to do, you probably shouldn't be together anymore.

19 One of You Is Putting in All The Work "Relationships shift and grow and evolve as people shift and grow and evolve," notes Pathak.

If one partner is doing the work to grow into a better version of themselves and the other partner is not, the relationship is likely over." What's more, if one partner is really trying to make the relationship work and the other isn't, the effort can end up wasted.

20 You're Not Ready to Take the Next Step Some ambiguity in a relationship is normal. Not everyone knows immediately if they have found "the one" or is always sure that they want to continue being married to their spouse.

"However, there comes a point in every relationship where you need to decide fundamentals (moving in together, marriage)," says Boissiere. For married couples, this could be whether or not to buy a house, have a child, or make some other major decision.

"If you find that you 'can't' make a decision, chances are you are headed for a break up," she says.

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Kem Cetinay proves his relationship with Amber Davies is the real deal with this cute gesture - Duration: 2:06.

Kem Cetinay proves his relationship with Amber Davies is the real deal with this cute gesture

They had their ups and downs on Love Island , but Kem Cetinay and Amber Davies eventually came out on top and took the crown for the ITV2 show in July.

Fast forward two months and it seems the gorgeous couple is stronger than ever, with Amber celebrating her 21st birthday on Wednesday with a lavish dinner courtesy of her main man.

Dining at SUSHISAMBA, Kem was keen to spoil his lady love - surprising her with a gold Rolex.

If that wasnt enough, it seems hes also sprung for a romantic getaway to Dubai.

Posting a pic of her haul - alongside a fluffy stuffed elephant - to her 1.5m followers on Instagram, the birthday girl gushed: My 21st Birthday... this is definitely a moment I will never forget. Luckiest girl in the world.

Meanwhile, over on his own account, Kem wished a happy birthday to the girl that changed my entire life - alongside the same photo.

The photogenic pair have been enjoying the success off the back of winning Love Island, which saw them take home £50,000 in prize money.

Amber has been very busy working, landing a £500,000 deal with fashion chain Motel Rock, and landing a collaboration with lingerie brand Boux Avenue, while also joining Kem as guest entertainment hosts on Good Morning Britain .

Kem himself has been diving into his own projects, becoming the face of boohooMAN and, most recently, releasing a rap song alongside his Love Island co-star and best friend, Chris Hughes - Little Bit Leave It.

The song raced to the top of the charts, bringing the lads that little bit closer to their dreams of rap stardom (hes got to afford that Rolex somehow).

Meanwhile Amber has got herself into a bit of a celeb feud with Jemma Lucy, after the tattooed reality star was apparently invited then turned away from Ambers birthday party this week.

Seems that getaway to Dubai has come at the right time.

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Victor Lindelof discusses relationship with Jose Mourinho and lack of Man Utd game time

Victor Lindelof says he's biding his time to shine at Manchester United. The Sweden international is yet to play in the Premier League under Jose Mourinho following his £30m summer move from Portuguese giants Benfica.

Lindelof, 23, has made just three appearances in all competitions, two in the Champions League and one in the Carabao Cup.

However, the centre-back says he has no problems with Mourinho and he's aware there is competition for places at Old Trafford. Lindelof told Swedish newspaper Expressen: I feel no stress.

Im in one of the worlds best clubs, its clear that its tough competition. But it may have the time it takes. When asked about his relationship with United boss Mourinho, Lindelof added: Its between me and him.

But we talk and have a good dialogue. United ace Lindelof has been under criticism for some of his performances under Mourinho. However, the defender says he doesn't care what the media says, claiming he doesn't read British newspapers.

Asked whether he reads the newspapers, Lindelof said: Why would I do that? I do not care what they are writing. I do not even know what they are writing..

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Rio Ferdinand opens up about relationship with TOWIE's Kate Wright following death of his wife Rebecca

Rio Ferdinand has opened up about his relationship with TOWIE star Kate Wright for the first time. News of the pairs relationship emerged publicly earlier this year, and comes two years after the death of the former footballers wife, Rebecca Ellison.

Appearing on This Morning, Rio spoke about finding happiness with Kate, though revealed that his children have a say too.

Recalling a conversation with golfer Darren Clarke, whose own wife died in 2006, the star explained: I went and saw Darren Clarke, there were so many parallels in our lifestyles.

He just sat there and said, Listen, you will be happy again, you will be smiling again, you will be as happy as you were before.

And from someone who had been on the same walk as me, to hear that, it really hit home. That was last year.

It made me open up, because for that, I wasnt capable to open up to anyone emotionally. I didnt see it, I wouldnt accept it, I didnt want to bring anybody around my children..

Rio, whose new book Thinking Out Loud: Love, Grief and Being Mum and Dad is out this week, added: After that meeting, it did make me think there was an opportunity to be happy again.

As for his relationship with Kate, the 38-year-old revealed: Im really happy now, the kids are really happy, its the happiest theyve been. Im in a relationship and its going well.

My kids deserve to be happy, theyve had tragedy for the last few years of their lives. They have to be part of that conversation. Theres not been at any stage going into this relationship that theyve not been involved.

Even in terms of introducing – how they want it to be done. Basic stuff you take for granted. As long they feel involved in that conversation, I think theres a chance that you can get to that place of happiness.

But I will always make sure theyre at the beginning of that conversation that will have any effect on their life.

And he added that he had written a book about the familys journey after losing Rebecca as an extension of what they had learned.

Out of this type of tragedy Im sure [Rebecca] would have wanted to see some good done, especially helping the kids, Rio revealed.

This isnt the gospel on how to deal with this situation. I learnt from people who had experienced it and walked that path. They were vital in me being able to deal with my situation. Its an extension of that really..

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