News on Youtube Oct 11 2017

Tier 1 is broken down into a couple of pieces.

And the first basic-most piece is the building relationship

piece.

And this is the biggest part of the pyramid in itself.

It sets the foundation, being able to understand the things

that we do that take away from kids

emotional readiness for building that relationship.

And we call this their emotional bank.

And we think of this as a piggy bank account,

or a bank account.

And the things that we do that, take away

from their emotional bank, like telling them, no, don't stop,

or using negative language and not stating

things in a positive way.

We've come to understand it's not a one-to-one correspondence

as far as this bank account.

We know that it's a five-to-one ratio-- five deposits that

needs to go into their emotional bank for every one

of those withdrawals.

And so what we need to do as educators, as adults,

is get better at making deposits into their emotional banks.

Deposits are simple little things

that we can do on a daily basis.

One, and the biggest thing that I think we forget to do,

just smile and be excited that they're there

in our environment that day.

To look at them-- and I know it's

hard to do this when we have little ones with challenging

behaviors or that might push our buttons, that we look at them

and say we're excited that you're here.

Because not only do I get to teach you,

but you get to teach me.

You get to teach me skills about how

to interact with people, how to interact and modify curriculum,

and it challenges me to be a better teacher just to have you

around in our environment.

So deposits-- body language, smiling at our students,

generally feeling excitement that they're there,

getting down on their level, talking to them

in a soft, nice tone of voice, not yelling across the room,

those kind of things.

So that's a start.

Other things that we can do are deposits--

commenting on what they're doing, specific praise.

And what we mean by that is not saying just, good job,

but we're saying, good job keeping your hands to yourself.

Good job sitting at the table and writing

with that marker and things like that-- so

being very specific about the praise that we're giving them.

What a withdrawal is, is that language that we use

in our environments as well.

We start with trying to eliminate

"no," "don't," "stop."

Saying those words are words that

start making withdrawals within a child's emotional bank.

But there's also other big withdrawals

that we do on a daily basis that we don't ever

think are withdrawals, such as just giving

simple directions, directives, inside of our classroom.

Something like saying, come over here to large group

and have a seat, that's a withdrawal

from their emotional bank.

And what you have to understand those directives that we give

on a daily basis that are part of our routine, part

of our classroom structure, things that we have to do,

are still withdrawals from their emotional bank

and are going to need deposits in order

to repair that relationship.

If we take too many withdrawals from our students,

then what happens is that they're left

with nothing in their bank.

And they end up shutting down, and that's

why they don't want to follow our directions,

why they don't want to follow classroom routines,

why they have a difficult time being kind and friendly

to their peers.

It's because they have empty in their emotional bank.

And the self-worth, the confidence

that they have in themselves, the willingness

to participate with their peers and interact with their peers

is basically gone.

Their emotional bank is with them all the time.

And so it's not just within our school environment

that they get withdrawals from their emotional bank.

They're leaving to come to school with their mom

and their mom's in a hurry.

And she's saying, put on your shoes.

Eat your breakfast.

Put on your seat belt. We've got to go.

Those are all withdrawals as well from their emotional bank.

And a lot of our kids are coming to us already empty.

And it's important for us to understand that.

So when they walk in the door, we're

ready to start repairing, or making deposits

into that emotional bank.