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4 Relationship Habits That Are Toxic

Your relationship may be perfectly normal and natural, but is it truly living up to

its potential?

In this video, I'm going to show you 4 toxic relationship habits that seem normal, but

turn out to be damaging your relationship.

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1) Dropping Hints

What is obvious to you is often a mystery to your clueless and beloved significant other.

If we want something, it is unfair to expect our partner to read our mind.

No matter how connected they may seem, we are bound to come up disappointed when using

this strategy.

We often do this to avoid appearing overly demanding or unfairly critical.

Ironically, however, the effect usually ends up being the opposite.

Stating a desire kindly but clearly may feel uncomfortable, but it is far more healthy

in the long run.

2) Getting Jealous

Although a little bit of jealousy is normal, it should not be romanticized as we all too

often tend to do.

Instead, it should be seen for what it is, a sign of a weak relationship.

We may feel flattered when a partner is jealous.

We see it as a sign that we are valued.

However, it is also an indicator that there is a lack of trust, an unhealthy need for

control, and a worrying amount of insecurity.

Jealousy, though natural, is not a healthy part of a relationship.

It is a problem that needs to be addressed.

3) Not Taking Emotional Responsibility

Bad feelings are truly difficult to deal with, even for the most stable and functional of

adults.

It always seems easier to shift the responsibility for them to someone else.

A loving partner is usually the perfect target for this.

All too often, we will blame our partner for emotions that are not their fault.

For example, we may be stressed from blowing an assignment at work, come home to find the

house a mess, and become furious with their lack of responsibility.

Before blaming our partner for a negative emotion, we need to trace it to its true source,

which is often ourselves.

4) Keeping Score

When we feel insecure in our own behavior, we often hold on to past mistakes our partner

has made as a way of validating ourselves.

For example, we may decide it's okay to flirt with a co-worker because our partner

forgot to buy us a birthday gift.

This behavior is normal, but damaging.

It shifts our focus away from working through issues in a healthy way, and instead encourages

us to look for flaws in our partner and promote our own sense of self-righteousness.

"Normal is an ideal.

But it's not reality.

Reality is brutal, it's beautiful, it's every shade between black and white, and it's

magical.

Yes, magical.

Because every now and then, it turns nothing into something," wrote Tara Kelly.

Just because a behavior is normal does not mean you have to resign yourself to it.

Don't be scared to break the mold for something better.

Well, that's the 4 toxic relationship habits that seem normal, but turn out to be damaging

your relationship.

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Drafted in 1958: "My Eighteen Months Away Solidified Our Relationship." - Duration: 3:02.

In 1958, after five months with Bill, I got drafted.

Bill would come down every Sunday to Fort Dix, because we weren't allowed to go anywhere

on leave, and he would show up with fried chicken and deviled eggs and we had the most

wonderful time.

I think we even might have held hands and nobody paid any attention to us.

We were so happy.

But my great fear was that after my basic training, I would be sent somewhere.

Away.

Sure enough, I got the word that I was going to be sent to Germany for eighteen months.

I arrived in Germany and Bill started sending me letters every two or three times a week.

And he would send me these incredible poems and sonnets from Shakespeare and other poetry.

All about love and about commitment and about how important it was when you found somebody

to love and that person loved you back.

When I returned from the army, Bill decided that he wanted his family to meet me.

He had an older brother and a younger sister.

He took - went by train to meet his brother and his family.

And then from Huntington, West Virginia, we went to Michigan to meet his sister and his

mother.

The family embraced me and as far as I was concerned, they knew what our relationship

was, even though we never talked about it.

But they knew that we were together and that he wanted them to know that I was part of

the family and I was his partner.

It was an incredibly beautiful thing that he did and he did that right away, as soon

as I got back from the army.

My eighteen months away, if nothing else, solidified our relationship because of what

he wrote to me and what I could think about and reflect upon and couldn't wait to get

back.

Now that Bill is gone, I've come to the realization that we had a the perfect marriage.

We both loved each other.

We were the center of each other's existence.

And it was what I never thought I would have, and I did.

And I had it for 54 wonderful years.

For more infomation >> Drafted in 1958: "My Eighteen Months Away Solidified Our Relationship." - Duration: 3:02.

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10 Steps to Build Long Term Relationship with Life Partner | Love Relationship YouTube - Duration: 5:36.

The relationships are hard work.

Even the most successful couples admit that keeping their love alive isn't easy. However, if

if you're willing to put in the effort, you can build a long-lasting relationship.

Communicating Effectively:

Number 1: practice active listening

This means preparing to listen to hear the message of your partner and not to prepare your defense.

Find a time and place where you can be without distractions and focus only on what your partner is saying.

Try to set aside your negative perceptions about his or her actions, so you can focus on the conversation in real time.

Number 2:

Use "I" statements:

Communication is not about blame, it is about responsibility.

"I" statements start with how you are feeling about the behavior or action of your partner.

It means you take ownership of your feelings, and also suggest a way to improve the behavior.

"You" statements frequently blame the other person.

Avoid making these kinds of statements.

Number 3:

Use a soft, warm tone when speaking:

Your relationship should be based on mutual respect and love, not fear.

A soft voice reflects the love, compassion and understanding.

Meet your partner's eyes and speak from a place of love and understanding.

Number 4:

Be respectful to your partner always:

Save harsh words, even during arguments.

You can't take back what's been said.

When you say something hurtful to your partner you send the message that a disagreement is equivalent to a war.

you are on the same side

Remember that.

Number 5:

Discuss issues upfront instead of letting them grow in size:

It is a relationship myth that a solid relationship does not require work.

Be prepared to put the work in.

You can accomplish this by addressing any problems with your partner before they rear to their ugly heads.

you will never be perfect nor can you expect this from a partner.

Communicating problems with the idea of tackling them as soon as they come up help you establish a strong foundation.

Number 6:

Be willing to compromise:

Pick your battles wisely.

Not every issue needs to turn into a battle.

There will be some that need to be talked out, others that go unsaid and finally some that just

end up not being important compared to what you gain from the relationship.

Compromising may include writing out a pros and cons list to points of disagreement and talking through the list objectively.

Number 7:

Work through problems as a team:

Relationships are about the "we" and not the "I" or "you".

Focus on honest communication to work through problems together with room for each of you to give and take.

Learn from one another instead of working against one another.

For example, if you need a sum of money to pay for a big purchase, you can sit down and find ways for both of you to contribute.

Each of you can put money into savings for a span of time.

Number 8:

Make your values and needs known to your partner:

Be sure to clearly define what you need from a partner and what you intend to give to your partner.

Follow through on your obligations to your partner and speak up when he or she isn't doing the same in a constructive manner.

It is a myth that you do not need to tell your partner what you value and need.

You are mistaken to think that simply because your partner loves you, he or she should know what you need.

Number 9

Get on the same page about finances:

This is one area that can be very dangerous if you ignore it until it becomes a bigger issue

Make sure you share financial values early on in the relationship.

If you want to save for the future while your partner lives for the moment, this may not end up lasting long term.

Number 10

Date each other no matter how long you've been together:

Giving your partner the same level of respect and attention you did from the start.

Many relationships end as one partner just stops respecting the value or feelings of the partner

and fall into old habits they would never have done early on.

For more infomation >> 10 Steps to Build Long Term Relationship with Life Partner | Love Relationship YouTube - Duration: 5:36.

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Celebrity New : Hugh Jackman is like the 'adult' in his relationship - Duration: 3:43.

Hugh Jackman is like the 'adult' in his relationship

Hugh Jackman feels like the adult in his relationship.

The Wolverine star is incredibly happy with his wife Deborra-lee Furness, who he has been married to since 1996, and has revealed the secret to their longstanding romance.

He told People magazine: Im literally the adult in the relationship.

Shes just like a little kid.

Im the [one saying], Babe, this is not a legal parking spot.

Oh, come on, Mr Goody- Goody.

Ive always believed that in marriage you know youre going to go through some crazy ups and downs..

Meanwhile, Hugh previously admitted he is still madly in love with his wife.

He shared: One of the great pieces of fortune in my career, it started late, but that Deb and I were already set together, a team, madly in love, like literally before it all happened.

We can kind of see all the ups and downs for what they are.

Our priority is our family, and were there for each other no matter what .

Even at the Oscars, I walk out, I put my hand on my heart and I always look to Deb in the audience.

Straight afterwards, I will not see anybody in my dressing room until Debs been in.

Because that is my foundation, that is the rock, that is the foundation of our family, and therefore my life.

Underneath the surface where its real,.

and where its still and where its deep, that is the love I have with Deb.

For more infomation >> Celebrity New : Hugh Jackman is like the 'adult' in his relationship - Duration: 3:43.

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Selena Gomez's inner circle are 'worried' about star as her relationship Justin... - Duration: 3:09.

Selena Gomez's inner circle are 'worried' about star as her relationship Justin Bieber gets new layer

All we want for these two is lasting happiness, but mere weeks after rekindling their on/off relationship fresh reports have emerged Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber are already struggling.

According to multiple outlets, the two are in couple's therapy after Justin got in touch with a rather famous ex-girlfriend of his. Which is not a good sign, we repeat, not a good sign.

Now 25-year-old Selena's nearest and dearest – who were already struggling with her reunion to the guy she's been seeing on and off for the past seven years – are worried about the effect the 'tumultuous' relationship is having on her.

A source told US Weekly: People around Selena are worried about her coupling with Justin and how much stress it could be on her. Especially if it's so tumultuous.. Now, please welcome to the ring, Hailey Baldwin – 23-year-old Justin's ex.

Sources connected to Hillsong church – frequented by reformed bad boy Biebs and Selena…and Hailey – told TMZ Biebs was all about making amends with his ex, who he dated in 2015.

The source said: Justin reached out to Hailey. They didn't talk on the phone and it wasn't in person, just an exchange of texts..

The publication added Justin now has an 'open and honest' approach to life – which is always a nice way to approach life – which has resulted in him telling Selena about the 'friendly' message sent to Hailey, which, in turn, has resulted in the two attending Christian couple's therapy.

However Hailey is said to now have a thing with singer Shawn Mendes (she's got a type, it seems), but remains on friendly terms with her ex.

TMZ also claims this relationship strain is the reason Selena's mother, Mandy Teefy, checked herself into hospital for a voluntary welfare check following a 'heated' conversation with her daughter about Justin.

Then mother and daughter went and unfollowed each other on social media and woah boy this is a layered story of onion proportions.