12 Signs It's Time to Move On and End the Relationship
Are you in a relationship that feels like it may be over?
Do you feel it's time to move on?
You know, if you're in a relationship that seems to be going nowhere, perhaps it's
time to move on.
So, if you think you are stuck in your pseudo-relationship, in this video I'm going to share with you
12 signs to know when it's the time to move on from your relationship.
And, actually this signs will apply to friendships as well.
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1.
When you live in past memories more than the present.
Do you replay the happy moments of the relationship to make you feel good about it?
Do you use them as reasons to continue on with him or her?
If so, it's a sign your current relationship isn't how you want it to be.
The more we live in the past memories and or or a self-created future, the more we are
living in a self-created reality.
This is dangerous since it's not reflective of the actual state of the relationship.
Remember your relationship with the person exists in the current moment, not in the past.
Past memories should remain as memories and not as a reason to stay together.
Your decision on whether to stay with the person should be based on your current feelings
for him or her, the actual state of the relationship and the
future you see with him or her.
2.
When the relationship brings you more pain than joy.
Sometimes, we tend to be blinded by the past happy moments of the relationship.
To the extent we forget about all the unhappiness it brings us.
If your relationship leaves you frustrated, upset, or unhappy more often than not;
If your relationship is leaving you in tears every so often, perhaps this might not be
the right person for you.
The relationship you are in now should be one which brings you happiness now.
Just like before, if the main source of happiness of your relationship is from past memories,
something is amiss.
3.
When he or she expects you to change.
The truest form of love is one that's unconditional.
Your partner shouldn't expect you to change, unless it's for your well-being (such as
to quit smoking or to adopt a healthier diet).
But expects you to change such as to dress up more often to look prettier, or to lose
more weight when you're actually perfectly normal,
it isn't a good sign!
4.
When you stay on, expecting he or she will change.
The above applies for the other person as much as it applies for you.
If you are staying on or getting into the relationship expecting the person to change,
you are in this for the wrong reason.
You are trying to change the person to fit your expectations, rather than accept him
or her as the individual he or she is.
The worst thing is, if the other person isn't conscious, he or she will keep changing just
to fit your expectations.
In the end, he or she will just end up being your shadow.
5.
When you keep justifying his or her actions to yourself.
Whenever we experience a situation we're uncomfortable about, we experience cognitive
dissonance.
It refers to the discomfort from being faced with something that conflicts against our
beliefs.
When this happens, we try to come up with explanations, justifications so we can feel
good about the situation.
This if we feel the need to justify an action, that means we are uncomfortable with the action
itself and we want to explain away the discomfort.
The danger behind this is that the explanations are self-created and may or may not be true.
If you are repeatedly justifying his or her actions, the relationship becomes built on
your rationalizations, rather than the reality.
Likelihood is that you are living in your world of false assurances rather than the
truth.
To see reality as it is, see the actions as they are and let them speak for themselves.
Actions ultimately speak louder than words.
6.
When he or she is causing you emotional, physical, or verbal hurt.
Physical and verbal abuse are absolutely 'No'.
There is clearly something wrong if the other party abuses, hits, curses, or swears at you,
no matter how he or she tries to make up for it later.
Even if it may be the spur of the moment, the fact that he or she lets slip in that
moment shows there is something deep inside him or her that needs addressing.
Emotional hurt is trickier.
A lot of people negate emotional hurt because it's not visible.
Ignore it, and it's not there.
But emotional hurt is hurt all the same, if not worse.
The wounds that are hardest to heal are the emotional ones, not the physical ones.
7.
When the same situation or issue recurs even though you tried addressing it.
Once might be a coincidence.
Twice, you might want to give another chance.
But 3 times is a clear sign something is wrong.
Do you find yourself in replay mode in your relationship?
Do you keep landing in the same situation, the same scenario, the same outcome, time
and again, no matter what you do?
If so, perhaps you need to accept this is the furthest the relationship can get to.
You can keep pressing on, but it's a matter of time before it sinks in that there's
nothing further to go.
This is the end of the road.
There is a future for you and him or her, and this relationship isn't the route to
that future.
8.
When he or she puts little to no effort in the relationship.
Every relationship requires effort by the duo.
The same applies for familial bonds, friendships, mentorships and most definitely love.
Both of you have to commit to the relationship together.
If you are constantly the one putting in more effort, sooner than later it'll drain you.
You have to give more and more just to keep the relationship afloat.
Unless this imbalance is addressed, it will only become bigger and bigger over time.
Soon you sink your whole self into it, losing your self identity in the process.
9.
When your fundamental values and beliefs are different.
For any friendship or relationship to work out, there has to be certain similarity in
fundamental values.
Similarity in these values are the big rocks which will hold the friendship in place.
Even if other things are dissimilar, the big rocks will enable the friendship to weather
through even the toughest storms ahead.
On the other hand, if your core values are fundamentally different, it doesn't matter
even if everything else is the same.
The journey to keep the relationship together will only become an uphill battle.
It's just like trying to hold the soil of the ground together in a heavy rain.
Without the roots of the tree to hold this soil together, everything will just slip away
against your best efforts.
10.
When the relationship holds you back, hence preventing both of you from growing as individuals.
A relationship is ultimately a third entity formed due to two individuals.
Every relationship evolves based on how both parties are growing.
Sometimes both parties grow at the same pace.
There are times where the relationship is one of stagnancy, where both parties don't
grow.
Then there are times when one outgrows the other, by a large margin.
When this happens, you have two options: change the dynamics of the relationship to fit this
new development, or change yourself to maintain the same dynamics.
It's more important to first be true to ourselves.
Determine who you are and who you want to be, then decide if this relationship is one
that is compatible with you.
A relationship that hinders you from growing into your own isn't the best one for you.
11.When you stay on, expecting things to get better.
This is similar to the first, except it pertains to the future.
Just like how you don't live in the past, you don't live in the future.
You can hope that the future will be better, but the fact is you live now.
If the only thing that's making you hold on is the hope of a better future, the relationship
isn't exactly built on solid grounds.
The future you wish for is one of the many possibilities that can occur, a possibility
that may never come to reality.
It's dangerous to base the fate of the relationship on something that might not occur.
A building built on a shaky foundation will crash to an unsightly end when the foundation
gives way.
12.
When neither of you feel the same way about each other.
Things change.
People change.
If the feelings are no longer there, it's time to move on.
Some of you might linger on in a relationship even though the feelings are gone.
Perhaps it has become part of your routine and you don't know what to do once you break
away.
Some of you continue on because the relationship still serves certain functional purposes,
such as companionship.
Yet, a relationship without the mutual feelings is like a body without a heart.
There's no soul or life in it.
If you no longer have feelings for the other party, staying on is doing the other person
an injustice.
More importantly, it's doing you a huge injustice.
It's best for him or her and you to part ways so you can move to better places.
If the other person doesn't have feelings for you anymore, holding on to him or her
only drags out the misery.
Realize that "True love doesn't have a happy ending, because true love never ends.
Letting go is one way of saying I love you."
Just because you love the person doesn't mean you have to be with the person.
True love exists outside of the physical fabric of a relationship.
This is just a form of expression of love, but in no way is the single definition of
love.
All in all, that's all you need to know when it's the time to move on from your relationship.
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