News on Youtube Dec 7 2017

00:00:05:05] How did you feel about today's game? [00:00:08:21] After the world championship was over, [00:00:13:12] we came back and prepared for the KePSA cup during the off-season. [00:00:22:28] As you know, the game changed drastically [00:00:28:11] so it took some time getting adjusted to the new systems. [00:00:32:24] Because of that our play was a bit lacking, [00:00:36:11] even though we shouldn't be. [00:00:40:12] We are aiming to win the tournament [00:00:45:09 but Team Griffin turned out to be a formidable opponent. [00:00:50:19] Their strength has been rumored before and it proved to be true in today's game [00:00:54:02] by showing a high understanding of the new Meta. [00:00:57:23] In retrospective, it was a difficult match. [00:01:02:03] How was it playing with your new support, Effort, in his very first match? [00:01:02:03] Effort is very young and this was his first time playing as a pro. [00:01:21:15] Coach was talking to me about to reminisce when I started as a pro [00:01:27:23] and remember how nervous I was. [00:01:29:12] Because he came directly from solo queue to a team environment, [00:01:37:00] he must've been anxious. [00:01:39:08] So I was talking to him a lot to make him relax and talk about the game [00:01:43:19] to create an environment like at our practice house. [00:01:50:27 He is a player that will grow stronger in time [00:01:55:02] and I would've liked for him to perform his best on day one [00:01:59:03 and I think he performed admirably. [00:02:02:06] He didn't seem that perplexed and was able to play to his strengths [00:02:08:23 so it turned out well. [00:02:11:19] He shows great performance in solo queue [00:02:16:23] He has a kind personality and is very diligent during practice. [00:02:21:27] I feel he has nowhere but to go up at this point [00:02:26:20] and he will improve a lot in the future. [00:02:29:12] There was a lot of emphasis on Varus and Ashe [00:02:32:01] during the pick and ban phase this tournament. [00:02:33:22] Were those deliberate picks for your strategy? [00:02:40:12] To be honest, many of the picks were situational picks. [00:02:44:03] The opponent picked Miss Fortune which made us counter it [with Varus and Ashe]. [00:02:50:22] We have talked a lot about the possible pick ban scenarios. [00:03:03:20] If we don't pick Ashe or Varus, we end up in an unfavorable match up [00:03:10:03 where the opponent comes with a poke comp with Varus or Ashe. [00:03:14:22] That's why we picked Ashe and Varus. [00:03:17:25] For example, if I picked Varus, [00:03:20:21] the opponent might bring out a comp like Jhin & Miss Fortune or Ashe & Miss Fortune [00:03:29:25] which would've made the laning phase a bit difficult for me. [00:03:34:12] There were a lot of conflicts in terms of the possible matchup scenarios [00:03:37:05] so we picked Varus and Ashe as safe picks. [00:03:41:04] In the second set, your picks were Ashe and Xerath. [00:03:44:18] How did you feel about these picks? [00:03:47:25] I felt that we had a good early game during the laning phase, [00:04:01:28] but I over extended to take down the tower which led to giving them kills [00:04:07:21 which I was disappointed about. [00:04:09:14 The pick and draft wise, I think it was good. [00:04:13:03 But I felt the opponent had a bit more comfortable composition to work with [00:04:20:00] due to their longer auto attack range. [00:04:24:01]The opponent had a strong poking composition. [00:04:30:08] What went through your mind and what was it like facing them? [00:04:35:01] We had 2 strategies – dodge or have a tank champion absorb all the damage, [00:04:41:04] one of those two. [00:04:43:05] Either way both strategies were a defensive strategy [00:04:46:19] while the opponent had an offensive tactic. [00:04:48:22] I think the opponent had an easier time with this match. [00:04:54:04] Did you expect the second game to drag on as it did? [00:05:04:14] Whoever wins the longing phase and snowballs from it [00:05:09:16 determines the outcome of the game. [00:05:12:09] I expected the advantage from the laning phase will win the game, [00:05:18:07] but both sides had good defensive comps [00:05:22:12] and weren't able to siege the tower aggressively so it dragged on longer than expected. [00:05:34:24] With regards to your team roster, with 2 people leaving, [00:05:40:28] what are your thoughts on the roster change and how you feel? [00:05:47:00] If you think about it, we live, eat, sleep and play together for 1 year [00:05:59:08] and we're basically stuck together for that period and having the 2 members leave… [00:06:02:29] its common for players to leave and stay… [00:06:08:20] apart from the game, having younger brothers or older brothers leave, [00:06:17:29] it kind of hurts my heart seeing them go and I feel kind of sorry in some sense. [00:06:22:29] I feel like that sense still kind of exists right now. [00:06:27:14] Within the game, everyone works hard and prepares well to see better results. [00:06:33:19] we can expect to see better results than last year [with the new roster] [00:06:44:22] In regards to the members that left, I still miss them and when I see them my heart aches [00:06:50:10] but because they're on a different team and we have to face them, we still have to win. [00:06:56:21] Your next opponent can either be Longzhu or JinAir, [00:07:01:15] everyone thinks it will be Longzhu, [00:07:04:14] What goes in your head when thinking about going against Longzhu? Revenge perhaps? [00:07:11:06] or the specific preparation against them? [00:07:15:04]The first thing that comes across my mind is that Wang-ho (Peanut) went to Longzhu. [00:07:19:21] Even today we shared the same standby room, we still contact each other [00:07:24:09] and continue to contact each other. [00:07:26:18] And since he went to another team, we still have to compete and win against them [00:07:30:22] and in regards to Longzhu, even though they're a different team, [00:07:37:05 I have this expectation towards players and team. [00:07:41:04] With Longzhu, I personally didn't really like this team. [00:07:46:15] But now that Wang-ho (Peanut) is on this team, [00:07:53:15] before my interest level was here but now it's over here, [00:07:57:21] there is this aspect that it went higher. [00:08:00:28] Now, I have this high expectation of Longzhu if they make it. [00:08:05:02] And because it's the preseason, it's hard to tell how these teams will perform, [00:08:12:24] so there is a fun aspect. [00:08:16:14] Do you have any final messages for your fans? [00:08:20:04] If you look at this year, the World Cup ended, we still think this isn't the end of this year. [00:08:33:21] It may be a new start or end looking at KeSPA Cup. [00:08:38:09] Overall, we think it's a starting point for next year, to win, and have a good start for Spring. [00:08:52:19] Throughout KeSPA Cup, we want to show what it means to be SKT [00:09:00:26] and to show that we can bounce back. [00:09:05:01] So thank you for cheering us on and we'll do our best to show the best results.

For more infomation >> SKT T1 Bang on roster changes for 2018 & relationship with Peanut | KeSPA Cup 2017 Interview - Duration: 9:26.

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Brittany 😋 & Jax Almost Ruined My Relationship!😮Ariana Madix - Duration: 4:13.

Lisa Vanderpump and all of her messy TV children are back.

Vanderpump Rules ' season six premiere showed us a lot of drama ... including some "troubles"

between Jax Taylor and Brittany Cartwright.

Not to be outdone, Ariana Madix and Tom Sandoval have also been shown to be having relationship

struggles. And they're laying the blame for their issues directly at the feet of Jax and

Brittany.

Back when we first heard about Jax Taylor cheating on Brittany Cartwright , Tom Sandoval

seemed to try to distance himself from that narrative.

For a quick refresher:

Jax and Brittany have of course been together for ages, but Jax was accused of cheating

on her with Faith Stowers.

And then it appeared that Faith Stowers' period was late -- suggesting that she might be pregnant

with Jax's baby.

Both Ariana and Tom expressed disbelief.

As entertaining as most of us find the idea of Jax Taylor, of all people, being happily

monogamous for two years, it looks like at least some of his fellow Vanderpump Rules

stars believe that he's remained loyal to Ariana.

But while some believe that Jax has been faithful, others believed that he'd been filling Faith

.

(Sorry)

To no one's surprise, Katie Maloney was quick to bash Jax, suggesting that he should just

find a girl who won't mind his alleged cheating.

All caught up?

Well, Ariana Madix and Tom Sandoval were clearly also struggling in their relationship,

but we don't know where that storyline is going, exactly.

In an interview with TooFab , they try to explain a little about that without, you know,

spoiling their entire season's storyline on Vanderpump Rules .

They start off by talking about the drama between Jax and Brittany.

"We can't obviously give away too much," Ariana says. "But they are together now, as you can

see on social media ... it's a lot. "

You can hide a lot from social media, but people can pretty much tell if you're still

together or not.

(Also, and maybe this is a generational thing, but I love when people refer to something

as "a lot." It tells you that something will be intense and probably messy without giving

any details)

"So just gird your loins for that one."

That line could mean anything from "Faith fabricated a pregnancy just to destroy Brittany's

life!" to "Brittany is staying with Jax and has promised to help raise his lovechild once

Faith gives birth."

But, you know, probably something between those extremes.

Ariana then gets into how Jax and Brittany's problems weren't limited to each other.

"It's like a ripple effect."

That makes sense. 

"Anything that happens with any one couple, somehow ripples into all of the other people."

When a bunch of people are close, whether they're friends, family, frenemies, coworkers,

or costars, everyone's lives (and drama) can become interconnected.

And, specifically, Ariana says that she and Tom felt those effects.

"I think you see in the trailer that Tom and I went through some stuff so I'll go ahead

and say that that had something to do with it."

That is ... incredibly vague, Ariana.

But that's her job.

For a scripted series, actors play characters who aren't them at all, and are free to divulge

almost everything from their personal lives.

For a reality series, though, your personal lives are the storyline. You have to keep

personal details under wraps.

It it fair for Ariana and Tom to blame Jax and Brittany and that couple's "ripple effect"

for their own relationship problems?

Perhaps it will all make more sense once we've seen a lot more of this season.

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For more infomation >> Brittany 😋 & Jax Almost Ruined My Relationship!😮Ariana Madix - Duration: 4:13.

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How to Rebuild a Relationship After Trust is Broken - Duration: 10:40.

Sometimes we violate trust, it happens all the time. How do you rebuild a

relationship after trust is broken? That's today at Live On Purpose TV.

Trust, it's one of those issues that once it's lost, it's kind of hard to regain it, in a

relationship and really, it's one of the most troubling or damaging things that

can happen in a relationship if trust is violated. There's a book that I read

several years ago that gave us some insight into what's going on with this

by Bishop Desmond Tutu, it's called The Book of Forgiving. He's got a four fold

process in here that he walks us through related to forgiveness but one of the

quotes that the Bishop Tutu mentioned in in his book is that we are all

broken and from that brokenness, we hurt each other and then he sets up

forgiveness as the healing path that we can take to mend the brokenness that

occurs or the hurt that occurs because of our brokenness. Is this true? In my

life, I think it is. I constantly do things that hurt the people that I love,

I think it's part of being human and as we as we do these things, sometimes trust

is affected. Think of trust for a moment as a bank account. You know, if you've got

a bank account and you make deposits into that bank account and it grows up

gradually over time until you've got this nice balance and then what happens

if you go in and you make a huge withdrawal from that bank account?

Well now you don't have the same balance that you had before and if you really want to

purchase something that requires a higher balance, you're going to have to

again make some deposits into that bank account. Trust is very similar in a lot

of ways. We make little deposits. I think the best way to build trust is to do

what we say we will do, to have intergrity. In my mind, integrity is when what you

say and what happens match. Think about that, when what you say and what actually

happens are a perfect match, that's integrity and the more you can make

those deposits of integrity by doing what you say and saying what you'll do,

that helps to build up the trust. Now let's talk for a minute about what

happens if you're on the being hurt end of things, okay. Someone has done

something that has violated your trust or hurt you in some way because of their

brokenness. Okay, that's where we're going next. Anytime we are offended, we create a,

story. Now notice that this is true, the story and some stories are true, I'm not

saying that it's not, I'm saying that anytime we get hurt or offended, we

create a story. I think part of the process of letting it go or healing or

rebuilding after trust is broken is to tell the story. Tell the story, where do

you have a confidant or someone that you can share what has happened. You know I

did treatment for several years with people who had post-traumatic stress

disorder when a traumatic event happens, an important part of healing is being

able to tell that story to actually just share what happened. It helps our mind

somehow to wrap itself around what has occurred so that we can start a

healing process. Now there's a caution here because sometimes in telling the

story, we choose to attach ourselves to a story that doesn't serve us well. Can I

give you an example? One of my clients, this was probably about 25 years ago,

early in my career, I had a client who came to see me about something very very

difficult that had happened in her life and the quick version without sharing

anything that's confidential. Her now ex-husband had accused her of committing

a crime for which she was arrested while he absconded with her daughter, took off,

left the state, so that created a child custody issue, anyway, that was the basics

of what had happened. I got to meet with her for several sessions over the course

of many months. At one point in this process, I had observed that she had

attached herself to a story about this that was not serving her well. Yes, she

was telling the story about how her ex-husband had taken off with her

daughter and had her arrested so that she couldn't chase him, that's all kind

of the factual part of this story but what this had evolved into for her was a

victim story and by that, I mean, this story starred him and she showed up in a

supporting role as the pitiful victim that was getting beat up in the process.

You know what I'm talking about here with the victim story. I called this to

her attention by saying, "Hey, have you noticed in all of the sessions that

we've been having over the past several weeks and even a couple of months,

have you noticed who the story is about?" Oh, she gets this look on her face like,

"Oh my gosh, it's him, isn't it?" I said, "Yeah, who's paying for these

sessions?" Different answer. It wasn't him,

she was paying for it and yet he got to be the focus of every session, this

didn't sit well with her, we talked about how this is kind of like if the story

of your life, just think about your story for a minute, is a staged production and

we're pulling up to the theater, you're in the limo and the butler opens

the door for, you get out and you walk down the red carpet right to the

premiere of your story and we look up at the marquee and it says your story

starring all those dirty nasty terrible people who broke your trust. Wait a

minute. That doesn't feel right and that image helped her as well as she realized,

you know what I'm letting him be the star of this this story. Okay, so yes, you have to

tell your story but the caution is, let's not get sucked into a victim story where

we're the pitiful victim and that other person is the one who is the star of the

show. We don't want to go there. So in selecting your story, realize that

you can rewrite this thing is a hero story, a hero story. What's the difference?

In the hero story, you show up as the amazing powerful hero and yes, there's

other supporting actors including the one who broke your trust but they're

just there's a supporting actor and their role is to illuminate your genius.

You think about any of the movies that you've seen, you know those hero movies.

Why are the villains in those movies? Well the villains are simply there to

illuminate the hero. So we're going to be selective in which story we select and

attach ourselves to as we start to move on and rebuild this relationship of

trust. Going back to Desmond Tutu's book, I think he had a brilliant suggestion

that once the hurt occurs and we've decided that we're going to move on, we

have a choice to make and the choice that he suggests is that we are either

going to release or renew the relationship. I had a great opportunity

several years ago to interview coach Larry Gelwix, you might remember him from

the movie Forever Strong about the Highland rugby team, he was the coach of

that team. Coach Gelwix did an interview with me, you can link to that right down

here in the description, and during that interview, he told the story about one of

his rugby players who had been bitten by a snake. Well as he went to visit,

the young man's name was Mike, as he went to visit Mike in the hospital, he

was asking him, "Mike, this was a, you were out in your garage and you were

playing and you found a snake, am i clear on this?" And he's like, "Yeah

yeah yeah." "You knew what it was?" "Yeah." "You picked it up?" "Yeah." "And then you ran

around with this snake trying to scare the girls?" "Yeah."

"The snake bit you?" "Yeah." See, he's affirmatively answering all of these

questions. The coach was, it was just his mind was blown.

Okay, so you knew what it was when you picked it up. Going back to Bishop Tutu's

book as he says, you got a choice to either release or renew the relationship.

What if, no I'm not saying that the person who hurt you is a snake, but what

if they are? You know what I mean. This is just someone who's not healthy for you to

have in your life. Can you release that without holding a

grievance in your own heart about that? I think that's one of the options.

Well what if we choose to renew the relationship? Okay, there are principles

that will allow us to do that and we've talked about that in some of the other

videos. When you decide which direction you're going to go, either way, you get to

move forward with forgiveness in your own heart because going back to the

snake for example, if a snake bites you, what are you gonna do? Try to chase it

down, find a rock and smash it or let the snake go, make haste to get the venom out

of your system? That's even more important so no matter

which choice we take here, we can choose forgiveness which allows us to get the

venom out of our own system. Once that trust is broken, it can be hard to

rebuild but it is possible. Hopefully you got some good ideas about that today at

Live On Purpose TV. We'll see you tomorrow.

For more infomation >> How to Rebuild a Relationship After Trust is Broken - Duration: 10:40.

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Relationship Reboot: Dealing With Loss During The Holidays - Duration: 4:31.

For more infomation >> Relationship Reboot: Dealing With Loss During The Holidays - Duration: 4:31.

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The 5 Love Languages Might Completely Transform Your Relationship — Here's How - Duration: 6:53.

The 5 Love Languages Might Completely Transform Your Relationship — Here's How

Do you know your love language? The concept of love languages has been getting buzz for some time now.

Developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., a renowned marriage therapist and author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, the love languages are designed to help you and bae love each other better.

Sounds like the kind of class you want to sign up for, no?.

Working with couples, Chapman noticed them coming in reporting not feeling loved by their partner, says Rebecca Hendrix, LMFT, an integrative holistic psychotherapist in New York.

Upon further investigation he learned they both were loving their partner in a certain love language, and when they didn't feel love coming back in the same language, they felt unloved. To understand the power that learning to speak your S.O.s language can have on your relationship, you first have to know what the five love languages are: Words of Affirmation: This language is all about vocally affirming your loved ones.

Think lots of I love you, Youre so awesome, Im so proud of you.  Acts of Service: For some people, actions speak louder than words.

Instead of having a partner gush about their love, people with this love language would show it by volunteering to do a chore, offering up an indulgent massage, or making dinner.

Receiving Gifts: Gifts are another way to the heart.

Its not necessarily about dropping a lot of cash—even little gifts like picking up a favourite magazine at the grocery store or bringing home a partners fave flavour of kombucha can speak volumes.

Quality Time: For some lovers, getting undivided attention is the best gift of all.

People with this love language feel most loved when their partner switches into airplane mode for date night.

Physical Touch: Pretty self explanatory.

Sometimes nothing says I love you like holding hands, sharing a shower, or a good old-fashioned make out session.

To figure out which category you fall into, ask yourself when you feel most loved in your relationship.

Is it when your partner sends you a romantic text? When they prioritise spending the whole day with you on Saturday? Make a list of the top three things your partner does that make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside and ask your partner to do the same thing.

You will probably start to notice a pattern, says Hendrix.

LEARNING SOME NEW LANGUAGE SKILLS Okay, so now that youve studied up, how can you use your language skills to improve your relationship? The idea is that you want to speak to your partner in the love language they value most and vice versa.

For example, if your partners love language is Quality Time, showering bae with gifts is nice but isnt what he or she really wants.

Understanding love languages can also help you understand your partners intentions better, says Hendrix.

Take this couple, for example: One partner might say she shows her partner love because she writes him love notes and places them in his jacket and leaves him cards for no reason.

But she feels unloved because he never does the same for her.

Her love language is Words of Affirmation, Hendrix says.

Her partner might respond by saying How could she say I don't love her? I take out the trash every night, I make sure her car has gas in it, and I walk the dog every day.

His language is Acts of Service.

If this couple isn't aware that they are both feeling love for each other but expressing it differently, then they could be headed for trouble. The truth is, most couples do have different love languages—and thats totally okay, says Hendrix.

The idea is that by learning your love languages, you can understand each other better.

LOVING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP Learning your love languages is like getting a Rosetta Stone for your relationship.

Now you know exactly how to hit the bullseye when it comes to showing each other a little L-O-V-E.

Once we know what our primary love language is, we can share it with our partner and ask that they direct their love efforts in our language, says Hendrix.

Understanding our partner's love language also helps us to know we are loved even if our partner sometimes shows love in their love language instead of ours..