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Inventing was her hobby.

She not only had a complete inventing table set up in her house,

but Howard Hughes gave her a small version of the set of equipment which she

had in the trailer where she stayed in between takes in her motion pictures.

When Hedy first met Howard Hughes,

he was dating every Hollywood star and she did date him.

Howard Hughes of course was a great airplane designer,

so probably they had a compatible spirit with one another.

It was definitely cerebral because she said he was the worst lover she ever had.

Howard Hughes wanted to build the fastest planes in the world so he could sell them to the air force.

She was fascinated by his mind and his factories

and she wanted to go and see where everything was being made and built and she met all the scientists.

He said to her, "Anything you want my scientists to do for you, just ask them and they will do it.

She invented during that period a tablet that would fizz up and make a cola.

For more infomation >> Hedy Lamarr and Howard Hughes' Relationship - Duration: 2:42.

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Do you have a relationship with Jesus? - Duration: 10:27.

hey everyone I wanted to do a little bit different video than what I normally do

as my channel has grown it is incredible the messages I've received from

different ones of you that your heart is just growing in your relationship with

God and it's so amazing to see what God is doing and how you're getting inspired

to start going after your dreams to start growing in your faith but I think

the thing that really touches my heart the most is when I get emails and I get

different messages on my Facebook or Instagram of those of you that are

wanting to begin your faith journey and so I just want to talk to you you know

you might have found this video just through a youtube search and maybe you

found it because a friend shared it with you but I'll just tell you that in our

world that we live in today there's a lot of things going on and honestly

we're facing some pretty big problems and I think the one thing that people

have is a fear of not sure what tomorrow holds and I'll tell you this that I

don't pretend to have the answer to everything but I will tell you this that

Jesus is the answer to everything and from the greatest thing that we can do

or accomplish is knowing Jesus and so I want to talk to you today about the

greatest question that you could ever have is this is do you know Jesus Christ

as your Lord and Savior you know after it's all said and done and when

everything's over that is the one question that will matter the most and

so I want to ask you today is do you have a relationship with Jesus Christ

Romans 3:23 tells us that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of

God you know I think about that because my life before I was saved I remember

feeling like I was probably the only person that made really big mistakes I

looked around at everybody else and it seemed like they had it all together and

when I looked at my own life it felt like I was falling short and I'll just

tell you that if you're watching this I'll tell you that you need a Savior we

all need a Savior there's nobody who's perfect

nobody who has it all together and so I love that Romans 3:23 that says that all

have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God you know I want you to

watch this all the way to the end and I want an opportunity to pray with you if

you don't know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior I want to pray a simple

prayer with you but I'm gonna lay down some groundwork real quick before we do

that the first thing I want to let you know is this is that God loves you he

loves you without restraint and he's never quit on you he's never walked away

from you I don't know what your relationships have been like in your

life friend I don't know who's quit on you I don't know how many times people's

love has had limits but I'll tell you this that God's love comes without

limits it comes without bounds it comes without restraint and he loves you like

crazy there's never been a time where he stopped loving you one of my favorite

scriptures is found in Jeremiah 31 verse 4 in the message and it says this I have

never quit loving you and I never will I love that so much because God's letting

us know that even when we weren't aware that he loved us he loved us still and I

want to encourage you friend that God loves you without restraint in Ephesians

2 verse 5 it says even when we were dead slain by our own stroke or shortcomings

and trespasses he has made us alive together in fellowship and in union with

Christ he gave us the very life of Christ Himself the same new life with

which he quickened him for it is by grace his favor and mercy which you did

not deserve that you are saved you know I love this so much because it's letting

us know that it's all about God's love for us it has nothing to do with our

love for him friend let me just tell you that if you're here and you're watching

or you're listening to this and you're thinking goodness I've made so many

mistakes how can God love somebody like me I'll tell you that your sins do not

disqualify you and back they qualify you why would you need a Savior unless you'd

make some mistakes and so I just want to encourage you in that that God loves you

the second thing I want to encourage you in is this is that Jesus

paid it all not just some not partially not maybe if you do everything right but

no Jesus has completely paid at all Ephesians 2:8 and 9 said it is by free

grace God's unmerited favor that you are saved delivered from judgment and made

partakers of Christ's salvation through your faith and this salvation is not of

yourselves over your own doing it came not through your own striving but it is

the free gift of God not because of works not the fulfillment of the lost

demands less any man should boast it is not the result of what anyone can

possibly do so no one can pride himself in it or take glory for himself you know

I want you to think about this let's pretend that you walk into a hotel and

you walk in and you go to give your card at the front counter and they let you

know that everything's been paid for that the rooms been paid for all your

incidentals have been paid for you don't have to worry about it you can stay as

long as you want it but you don't have to pay a thing now let me just ask you

this could you still give them your credit card and pay for a separate room

and the answer is yes but with the other room that's already paid for be sitting

there vacant and the answer is yes see I think so many times in our

Christian life we think that we have to pay for what's already been paid for

we're so adamant that we've got to read our Bible we've got to go to church we

got do all these things and the truth is should we do those things yes should we

forgive people should we volunteer it or in our communities yes we should do all

kinds of great things right but we don't do it to pay for what's already been

paid for see Jesus has forever paid everything

that you need to have he is already taking care of it

now because of that we want to do things but we don't have to do them I want to

let you know that Jesus has completely forever paid the debt that you couldn't

pay you could work for the rest of your life not enough good works not enough

hours to volunteer in your church could ever pay for the sins

you've committed but Jesus and one act of love on the cross forever settled the

penalty that was set against you and that is good news the third thing I want

to let you know is that we are all and processed every single one of us if

you're watching here today I want to tell you that we are all on a journey

that no one is perfect nobody's got it all together in fact we are all in

different levels of our process but we're in process nonetheless in first

Peter 1:23 it says that you have been regenerated born again not from a mortal

origin seed or sperm but from one that is immortal and everliving the lasting

Word of God I love that so much so I want you to picture it like this when a

woman first gets pregnant does she look pregnant

no she doesn't look pregnant at all I remember when a friend of mine told me

recently that she was pregnant and I saw her and she was 21 weeks pregnant and

she didn't even look pregnant like she had no baby about no nothing and I

thought I was like you're joking right you're not really pregnant she's like no

I'm seriously I'm pregnant I couldn't believe her and sure enough she had a

baby so I had to believe her but here's the thing is just because I couldn't see

it didn't mean that she wasn't pregnant and I love that in amplified here in 1st

Peter 1:23 it calls us being born again is that we have received the sperm of

God in other words the seed of God it's growing on the inside of us so here's

the thing is that when you prayer this prayer today you'll go home and you'll

look in the mirror you might flip down your phone and look at yourself in the

selfie camera and you're gonna look no different but the Bible says on the

inside you're pregnant with the Word of God you're pregnant with eternity

there's something growing on the inside of you and so I want to challenge a

friend that just says a woman you can't tell that she's pregnant in the

beginning and as she grows as she nurtures that she begins to grow bigger

and bigger with that baby you're gonna grow bigger and bigger in Christ you're

gonna begin to grow in your faith like never before and just like if you want a

plant to grow what do you do you water it so it's so important to to water it

but you're pregnant less and so just because you can't see

change doesn't mean that change isn't happening so with all that said I want

to pray with you no matter where you're at I'd love to just take a moment and

pray this prayer salvation if you pray it I'd love to find out if you could

send us an email I'd love to know that you prayed it and just so I could

celebrate with you but let's just take a moment and pray this prayer together

repeat after me Lord Jesus I give you my sins take my

sins and by your grace I take your righteousness come into my heart let me

never be the same in Jesus name and everybody say Amen hey

if you prayed that prayer I believe that you are born again and I believe this

that God loves you that he's got you in process and he's already paid at all I'm

so proud of you for watching this video and I'm so proud of you as you begin

your faith journey take a moment and write it down somewhere so that way you

can always look back at this moment is the moment that changed everything so

hey I love you so much thank you for watching this video can you share it

with your friends and family help us get the word out if you'll take a moment

give it a thumbs up and if you will if you're not already subscribe to my

channel every week on Wednesday I put out a new video to help grow your faith

and help equip you to accomplish your dreams miracles thank you so much for

watching let's do something awesome for God

you

For more infomation >> Do you have a relationship with Jesus? - Duration: 10:27.

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Six Toxic Relationship Habits - Duration: 5:55.

I'm going to talk to you about six toxic relationship habits. Toxic means that it

brings harm to the relationship. Habit means it's something that you do

frequently and becomes a regular part of your relationship. Now this could be on

your part the other person's part or both of you.

The first one is blaming the other person for your actions. You know blame

is very common. People defensively blame other people. Little kids blame other

people. All of us want to hide from what we do and not take responsibility for it,

but we need to. We need to be willing to take responsibility for the part that

we've played for the things that we've done and if we don't, it brings harm to

the relationship. You absolutely get nowhere, as marriage counselors can

attest, when two people are doing this: pointing the finger at each other

refusing to look backward at themselves. It becomes a game. It can actually become

very toxic if it comes one-sided from the other person and it's just this

constant barrage and as the blame becomes a way of tearing the other

person down putting the other person down and actively attacking that person.

The next one is refusing to self-evaluate. People often ask me, you

know, what's the number-one important thing that I have to have in somebody

that I date to make a good partner? That's it. Somebody who can self-evaluate.

Somebody who can look inward and say "Hey, I messed up here. I did okay here." When

you come to that person and you say, "You know what you did the other day kind of

hurt my feelings. I felt like I was slighted. I felt like I wasn't important.

You want somebody to be able to listen to you think about their actions in a

healthy way, then reflect on it and come back to you and respond to you. If the person

cannot self-evaluate or if you can't self-evaluate, you will never have your

things that bother validated. You will not have a person who's able to

look back and say I'm sorry and take responsibility for the way that they

have affected you. The next one is automatic defensiveness. We are all

automatically defensive at first when somebody attacks us or criticizes us or

says something that feels hurtful or feels like it might you know kind of

pierce our self-esteem or our self-image. We automatically want to rise up and say,

"No, don't do that to me. Don't say that to me," but defensiveness is not healthy in a

relationship because defensiveness means that you defend rather than look at

something and see is it true and respond to it and just respond truthfully.

Defensiveness just automatically puts up some kind of barrier to protect you

and that will not have healthy honesty in the relationship if the defensiveness

is chronic on both of your parts. Then keeping score. Keeping score is when we

say, "You know, you've done that to me a hundred times. I've only done it to you

twice." So when somebody says to you, "You know, that kind of hurt my feelings." You

say, "Well, you've hurt my feelings way more than that." If that's the kind of

relationship you have where it's the score keeping back and forth, you've done

it more to me than I've done it to you, you're not gonna get anywhere. You will

build resentments. You will not, you will not heal. You will not forgive. You will

not move on and you will not grow. And withdrawing. Withdrawing is when you just

disconnect from the relationship. You shut down emotionally. You might shut

down physically. You might shut down by not participating. Withdrawing kind of

shuts the door. It doesn't allow the relationship to deal with what's wrong.

It doesn't allow you or the other person to be an active participant to work on

things. So withdrawing is something that we do. Sometimes people will do it with a

silent treatment, but if that silent treatment you know if you're just kind

of pouting and pulling back and taking time to think, okay, but if you're

literally actively withdrawing and not being a part of the relationship but

staying in it, then you're harming the relationship. The last one is contempt

and hostility. Contempt is to have disdain. It's to show hate

and utter disregard for the other person. Hostility means that you feel hostile.

You have just an overriding anger toward that person and that is not how you

should feel toward people that you care about. So you got to deal with that, but

if you have a lot of contempt and hostility mutually in your relationship

or coming from one person that is absolutely harming the relationship. So I

hope you will kind of assess your own actions, the actions of the other person,

figure out if something going on in your relationship that is causing it to be

toxic for you. What about these six relationship habits: blaming the other

person for your actions, refusing to self-evaluate, automatic defensiveness,

keeping score, withdrawing, and contempt and hostility. Thank you for watching

this video on Change My Relationship. I hope you'll check out more of my videos

on my website and also my YouTube channel. Thanks. Have a nice day!

For more infomation >> Six Toxic Relationship Habits - Duration: 5:55.

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7 Keys for a remote relationship to work - Duration: 2:42.

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'There's Been A Lot Of Domestic Violence In Our Relationship,' Says Woman Who Calls Boyfriend Her… - Duration: 2:04.

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7 Steps to Communicate Your Needs effectively in a Relationship | animated video - Duration: 10:16.

7 Steps to Communicate Your Needs effectively in a Relationship , in this video, i'll show

you also, how to stop taking things personally.

welcome to lifestyle therapy channel, stay tuned.

No.1, Realize that having needs is not selfish or weak.

For some reason, there's this idea that having needs makes someone selfish or needy.

Please, let that go.

Sometimes we feel this way, because we think the needs of others should come first.

But how can you be available as your best self for others, if you're not taking care

of yourself?

When you're happy and taken care of, it's more of a joy than a burden to take care of

the needs of others.

It will take some time to get over the negative ideas about having needs, so be gentle and

patient with yourself through this process.

Just remind yourself that we all have needs, and there's nothing wrong or greedy about

having them.

Recognizing and attending to your needs, is part of self-love and care.

Be good to yourself, honor your needs.

No.2, identify your needs.

For many of us, our needs aren't even on the radar.

Simply taking a moment to ask yourself what they are, can give you answers you never knew

were there.

So ask yourself: What are my needs?

What are my personal prerequisites for happiness?

Not what the commercials, or your friends are telling you.

What is your soul telling you?

Do you need more creativity, passion, fun?

More time in nature?

Less stress?

Once you've started discovering what your needs are, check in with yourself often.

Are your needs being met right now?

If not, how can you make that happen?

No.3, Clearly communicate your needs.

Find the best time to sit with your partner, and talk with them about your needs and expectations.

Let them know what you need from them and why.

Talk about how you feel when they don't do what you need from them.

Use "I Statements".

So instead of saying, "You never help me with the dishes", say "I feel overwhelmed

when I'm left to do the dishes by myself".

It can be tough to start letting others know what we need.

We're afraid of looking selfish or placing burdens on others.

Let go of this.

By communicating your needs to others, you're creating a mutually respectful environment,

one where they'll feel free to express their needs too.

So really, telling people what you need is pretty selfless!

Just be ready to hear and honor theirs as well.

Communicating our needs, requires and creates a great deal of respect, and authenticity

in our relationships.

When you're honoring one another's needs, you're creating the opportunity for greater

authenticity, respect, accountability, and love.

No.4, Don't use victimized language.

Refusing to act victimized is an important principle in general.

When you talk about what you want, steer clear of speaking in ways that sound victimized

or childish.

Maintaining a child victim role, leads to chronic passivity.

It's important not to be passive-aggressive toward loved ones.

You shouldn't punish them for not knowing instinctively what you want, or for failing

to read your mind.

No.5, Offer solutions & have a clear understanding of next steps.

Before meeting with your partner, think through objections they may have, and brainstorm solutions.

So when you meet, you can provide clear solutions that will allow you to get your needs met.

Allow them to also share their ideas, of how you can get what you need as well.

Be open to compromise, and end the conversation with a clear understanding of what both of

you will do.

You can state specifically what you both have agreed to.

This will eliminate misunderstandings.

No.6, Reward good behavior and ignore the bad.

Once the conversation is over, know that it's just the beginning.

In order for change to happen and a new behavior to form, it takes time.

So when your partner reverts back to their old behavior, ignore it.

And when they show they've implemented the agreed upon steps, acknowledge them and reward

them.

Specifically state that you're happy, or proud of them for making this change, and

you can kiss them or hug them, or do whatever action you like to show your appreciation.

No.7, Have patience.

It's a process for new habits to form.

So it's important that you have patience with yourself and your partner.

Be careful of your thoughts.

Don't adopt negative thinking when your partner resorts back to their old behavior.

And be open to having the conversation, if either one of you find the plan isn't working.

8 ways to Courageously Express and Negotiate Your Needs:

1.

Decide that your needs, and your partner's needs are equally important; both have validity.

2.

Remember how courageous you have already been in many areas of your life.

Tap into this courage; let it support you throughout your conversations.

3.

Believe a mutual solution that meets individual needs is possible.

Entering the conversation with an attitude of 'positive expectancy', gives you a

far greater chance of success.

4.

Drop your assumptions and judgments, about the other person and situation.

5.

Avoid the blame game.

It has no place in a healthy relationship.

6.

Communication is a dance, and preparation can help, or hinder it from the very beginning.

Be clear on what you need.

7.

Listen!

Seek to truly understand what your partner needs.

8.

Breathe!

In order for us to have happy and fulfilling relationships, we need to assert our needs

effectively, without resorting to attacks or defensiveness.

What someone says has everything to do with them, and very little to do with you.