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MICHAEL JACKSON and JAMES BROWN - A Relationship Like No Other ft PRINCE

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thank you very much ladies and gentlemen thank you thank you thank you right now

we're gonna get it hot before we call them so it's not revin he's dead dude

but I can't do it I gotta say it anyway we got another fantastic people put if

you're meant to be a place and just the people we got he's so beautiful

the brand

a young man I was throwing throws I got better no it was so beautiful

the effect of now that you found a blessing and thank God he said every day

I got a new inspiration a new motivation because not just just let things happen

to you make you feel good if you will ever do

spare twine is bear humming and fancy can just feel the bullet elephant is

running out of here here the whole town if you will

let's give another that innovations for young man this behind you they have no

idea

you

I love you

yeah

I'd say

what is the genius what is a genius one whose inspiration demands change a

genius I love you more

I couldn't I couldn't refuse to give this award tonight because nobody has

influenced me more than this man right

I'm happy

from the bottom of my heart since I was a child at six years old he was the one

that I looked up to more than any other entertainer and I still do today so like

to say ladies and gentlemen I am deeply honored I love you I'm deeply honored to

present to James Brown this year's a Lifetime Achievement Award and nobody

deserves it more than this man

you know years ago little my kid I remember you don't have to change bounce

steps but you're late on he's got his own steps and that's what it's about God

best Charlie got his own I love it but not too much he loved him I love you

more you told me everything we're not Michael we all noticed you

went on and did a lot of things you talked to Michael I said no I think he's

out the country he said well I love Michael he said tell him don't worry

about coming home they always scandalized those that had

the talent but tell them we need this clean up the music and I want Michael

and all of them that imitated me to come back and lift the music back to where

children and the Grandmama's can sit and listen to the music together

I didn't know that would be our last conversation but mr. Brown all through

the 35 years I knew you you used to tell me if you died first you wanted to go

out with dignity when I got the call from mr. Bobbitt I got with Yama

Dianna flew in who's my new boss now

nice Larry tear it down all the brown sugar we took you to New York where they

lightened around the pile of one more time we brought you home to the church

well now we brought you to the James Brown Arena we tried to do what you

asked us to do Reb Jackson's here mr. Brown and even though many stars you

helped and even though he knows they're gonna criticize them Michael say you

don't care what they say Michael came for you today mr. brown

come on up Michael come up here

I don't care what the media says tonight James Brown wanted Michael Jackson with

him here today

brothers and sisters as I bring the family and then mr. Bob it and then we

will conclude the eulogy I think it is only appropriate based on my last

conversation we hear some words of expression from Michael Jackson

Oh what I'm gonna say is brief but to the point James Brown is my greatest

inspiration ever since I was a small child no more than like six years old my

mother would wake me no matter what time it was I was sleeping no matter what I

was doing to watch the television to see the master at work and when I saw him

move I was mesmerised I've never seen a performer perform like James Brown and

right then and there I knew that that that was exactly what I wanted to do for

the rest of my life because of James Brown I I love you but James Brown I

shall miss you and I love you so much and thank you for everything

god bless you and I love you

For more infomation >> MICHAEL JACKSON and JAMES BROWN - A Relationship Like No Other ft PRINCE - Duration: 13:05.

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Yung Pueblo: The Power of Truth for Good Relationships - Duration: 0:29.

If you really want to have a good relationship with someone, don't lie. I

think it's so, so important. I think, you know, you think to yourself, like, oh I

want to lie because I want to save them the misery. No, absolutely not.

Lies always create long-term problems, you know, even if it doesn't happen right

now, in the future it's, you know, it's going to create, it's going to

continue popping up until you tell the truth. So, if you want to be very close to

someone, stop lying, tell the truth.

For more infomation >> Yung Pueblo: The Power of Truth for Good Relationships - Duration: 0:29.

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Listening to Hear: Relationship Skills #1 - Duration: 7:08.

When it comes to relationships if I could only help my clients learn one skill it would be this: listening to hear

Whether you're a parent child spouse co-worker or friend the ability to listen,

Understand and show that you care is an essential building block to any relationship now

I'll be the first to tell you

I'm not a naturally good listener my family and friends probably wouldn't describe me as a great listener

But it is a skill that I've worked on and developed

Over time. and this episode of therapy in a nutshell is going to teach you some of the ways you can improve your listening skills

Empathic listening helps people be more open and less

Defensive and creates a space where people are able to understand their emotions better and resolve them. It improves collaborative problem-solving

It builds trust and helps people feel connected

and it facilitates the

Building of emotional intelligence; that is the ability to understand and express what it is you're feeling.

In order to become a better listener

There's a few skills you can actively practice while you're listening to other people

The first one is simply paying attention try to focus your mind and thoughts on what they're talking about

The second skill is what one of my professors called "shuttupping"

I mean just stop talking. Talking a lot obviously gets in the way of your ability to be a good listener

I once heard this described as using the "hairy eyeball" so when someone says something you kind of lift your eye, okay?

I'm terrible with this, but you you just look interested in what they're saying and they're gonna keep talking

You don't have to say a lot of things another important step is providing a positive atmosphere using your body language, so

Opening yourself up. You're not crossing your arms or looking down at the ground. You know you look at them

you know you just open yourself up to people you can give nonverbal encouragement like head nodding and kind of matching the speaker if

they're pacing back and forth you you watch them, and you you move with them and

You can also invite people to say more by saying things like Oh

Tell me more or oh I'd like to hear more about that or what happened another really essential skill of good listening is

Listening for the deeper meaning of what they're talking about and when you can reflect that back to them it helps them feel understood

So a child comes home from school and had a rough rough experience with homework

And if you just engage about the homework, you know they say oh, I'm no good at math

Then you getting you know a discussion about the homework. "No you can do math" "here

Let me show you here's how to do this problem"

"Let me fix this" then you're completely ignoring what the child is feeling which is maybe you know a little bit down or discouraged

So stopping to acknowledge and say "okay, I can see that you're feeling discouraged"

"This is hard" can help them feel like you're on the same page with them and like you understand them

Now you might not be a good listener if you're doing the following things

And I think a lot of us don't realize it when we're doing these things that

They interfere with our ability to listen or to help the other person feel like we understand them, so good listening is not

Agreeing or disagreeing. You don't have to agree with

Someone to listen to them, and I think a lot of people get caught up in that. Remember our goal is to start with just

Understanding them. Good listening is not giving advice or teaching. It's not

Problem-solving, it's not saying "Well look. It's gonna get better tomorrow." Or "Don't worry. It's all gonna be okay." Don't ask a lot of questions

That's you directing the conversation and sometimes makes the the person who's speaking feel like they're being grilled or

interrogated. Problem solving for the other person can often feel like discounting their feelings if you say things like

"It's not that bad" or "If you only did this that would fix it it" interferes with their ability to feel understood

Saying things like "Oh, I understand" or "You think that's bad. Let me tell you about something that happened to me"

can really get in the way of helping another person feel understood. Anytime

You're trying to change them or convince them of something or sway their opinion

That's an indication that you're not doing a good job listening. Now

This is where a lot of people get their undies all in a bundle about listening skills. They get really frustrated

They say to me "Well what you're saying

I can never give advice or I can't help someone?" and that's not the case of course. There's a time for advice giving

There's a time for empathizing by saying. "Oh, you know what that happened to me once." There's a time to

Encourage someone or to teach them math, but that's just it's not listening

What I'm saying is you start with listening you start with understanding

You start with acknowledging them and checking to see if you acknowledge them, and you're understanding them, so you might say things like

"So what you're saying is you feel like your teacher doesn't get you?" or

"You're having a hard time listening to your teacher?" and you clarify and then they maybe say "Yeah

that's it" or they say "No. No that's not the problem, the problem

Is ..." and by doing that step you get to a place where you're both on the same page,

and they know that you understand them and after that if there is a need to give advice or

Try to share your opinion or change their mind there might be room for that after but it always works better

After that firm foundation of understanding that they know you understand them. Good listening is hard

But it's hardest what the people were closest to that's because when they share something that makes them feel sad or hurt or upset

We feel that same pain and those same emotions

So we often are quick to jump in and try and fix things for them, or if they're expressing something about us

We tend to be more defensive because we have a stronger emotional

Reaction to them. So when we're jumping in to fix something

Or we're jumping in with advice it might not be because we're trying to help them feel better

But because we're trying to relieve our own discomfort that means in those times

we have to work twice as hard to use our good listening skills and

Not immediately try to fix the problem

Even if you have a really good conversation with someone and you're able to share your points of view

But they don't agree with you at the end at the very least they'll feel like you understand them

And that's a valuable step forward. Now if you'd like to practice this go out there and try and have a five-minute conversation with someone

Without asking questions, giving advice or talking about yourself. This can be quite challenging, but it's a skill that can be developed.

Now one last caveat: if

all you're doing is using these listening skills as a way to try and convince or change someone else so you think "Well if I'm

A better listener I can convince that person to change."

Then this is all going to backfire you people can feel our intentions

They can tell if we actually care

Or if we're just acting like we're listening or if we're just using some skill on them especially

Teenagers are really good at sniffing out when we're using some new skill so make sure when you go in to listen to someone you

Get your heart in the right place and you try to focus your energy on caring about them, and what they have to say

So thanks for watching. Hope this is helpful take care

For more infomation >> Listening to Hear: Relationship Skills #1 - Duration: 7:08.

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Are you letting Facebook ruin your relationship - Duration: 9:57.

Ready now? Ready now. Welcome to Zippy Vibe! Are you ready to talk about Face Book some more?

When you think about Facebook the platform and how it's relatively new especially

compared to another technology like the telephone that's been around seems like

forever. Forever to us. For sure. On the telephone there's kind of some unwritten

rules with married couples like I wouldn't just call up a ex-girlfriend out

of the blue but for whatever reason on Facebook it's such a new platform and

the possibilities are endless that people end up reaching out to an ex

girlfriend or boyfriend on Facebook and it and it's just inviting... Just to see them I guess. We don't do Facebook so not sure.

I'm not exactly sure how it all works for whatever reason I guess it's

easier than making a phone call it's not as you know quite as.... Oh it's fishing.

yeah. Yeah, it's easier because it's just fishing. Sure. We are just friends on Facebook. But maybe over time as Facebook continues to evolve and

become more and more part of our lives then maybe a majority of husbands and

wives will say hey we're protecting our relationship from Facebook and we're not

going we're gonna have a Facebook account say but we're not going to have

those sorts of interactions you know there's gonna be okay boundaries. I don't

know what do you think? I think more and more married people will just get off of Facebook.

to protect their marriages and it's not about being a

jealous twit it's about just you know you go into the barbershop you're gonna

get a haircut so you know there's no point in setting yourself up for a whole

bunch of temptations and it's really interesting comment about the telephone

because an ex-boyfriend would not probably call me if they know I'm

married but they see you on Facebook and they approach you on Facebook. Right.

And you're married and they know that but it's just a trial to see well

they're married but are they happily married because you know there

are people that wait out marriages people wait out marriages. Sure.

Because they figure well you know five to seven years I'll give that one another try. Right. They circle the wagons. I will wait

this one out yeah you bring up an excellent point about the telephone

it had etiquette I guess when it was invented people had to learn to quit

just showing up at your house without calling first. Right.

We are not on Facebook because we're married and Facebook is a place where a

lot of hookups take place and I think it's now 20% of divorces could be traced

back to Facebook.

We're not cruising single bars anymore. Do they call them single bars? I don't know. What the hell.

We're not cruising the sports bars anymore.

bar hopping and doing that kind of thing meeting people out we're not on

Match.com anymore. All in all I think we made a good decision. I've never looked back

or regretted not having Facebook I was at lunch with a couple of girlfriends in

Atlanta and the first thing that came out of Mary's mouth was when are you

gonna get on Facebook? Melinda said she's not gonna get on Facebook because she

doesn't like to waste her time. That's very true.

I mean it's very true and it may be one of the best compliments I've ever received

I was really flattered that they know that and so it is also because now that

we're married I just wouldn't do that. When Facebook went public there was a

joke going around that oh now you can waste your money the same place you

waste your time. Yeah, so your marriage goes down the same drain as your

portfolio. Facebook is great for small businesses, we own and operate a small business but also I'm

talking about teeny-tiny businesses it's really small right it's it's opened up

the world for for business it really has because you can reach a marketplace so

inexpensively if you are willing to put in the work social media is a lot of work it to

market your business but it's a great platform for doing that so overall I

would give it an A++ on that and an F on Facebook for social just not not for me.

Maybe it's not just the fact that it's Facebook and what's going on but it's

the fact that we know you're missing out on so many other things.

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