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7 things, you should do after ending a relationship.

and at the end of this video, i'll show 5 steps to Stop Loving Someone.

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No.1, Stick to your decision.

If it was you who made the decision to break up with the other person, you may feel regret

afterwards.

Normally this is just due to the fact that your life has changed dramatically, and you

haven't had the time to adjust just yet.

If you do start to feel regret, and are worried that you made the wrong decision, remember

how much time you spent thinking about it before you did it.

Remember the reasons that you had for wanting to break up in the first place, and write

them down if necessary.

If you don't think you can be objective about the negatives in your relationship yet, ask

a friend who was aware of how unhappy you were, who can remind you that you made the

right decision.

No.2, Purge the social media.

Get that person off your social media, No more following on Twitter, FaceBook, Instagram.

Delete the pictures, the emails, and text messages.

I remain amazed at what people keep, and how often they continue to look at these images,

long after the relationship has ended.

Consider the level of pain just looking at those pictures, and messages inflict and how

it keeps you stuck in the past, instead of moving forward to the future.

Ask yourself, why do I continue to torture myself?

Some people don't want to cut them out of their social media life, so you can create

a facade of happiness in hopes that they will see you.

No.3, Go on an ex detox.

Thirty days without your ex.

No texts, no calls, no emojis.

No Contact.

Jumping straight from a relationship to friendship, is a shock to the system, and can lead to

a lot of fallout, accidental hook-ups, sudden fights, spontaneous crying fits, etc, Give

yourself some distance to sort out, how you feel on your own, and to figure out whether

a friendship could work.

No.4, Enlist your support system.

You know those friends and family members, who keep checking in, and asking how you're

doing?

They're not just doing it to be nice; they genuinely care about you and want to offer

support however they can.

Take them up on their offers of grabbing drinks, having dinner, or seeing a movie.

If you want to talk about the breakup with them, they're all ears.

If not, just enjoy the company; they'll be there when you're ready.

No.5, Do learn from your relationship mistakes.

so it's never all one person's fault when a relationship doesn't work.

By acknowledging your part, you can choose to change your attitudes, beliefs, or behavior

that contributed to the problems.

After all, you are the common denominator in all of your relationships, and you are

the only person you can change.

So learn everything you can from the relationship.

What worked that you want to have more of the next time?

What didn't work?

Learn it now, so you don't repeat the bad stuff.

No.6, Take some time off from love.

Avoid falling in love.

Remember, love's a trap that eventually leads to unbearable pain.

Believe in that idea for the moment.

What do you like about a relationship?

The flirting and the groping.

So go out there and do both of that.

Just don't fall in love just yet.

No.7, Focus on following your dreams and enjoy your life.

Divert your attention to your goals in life.

What do you want to achieve as a person?

What are your dreams?

Preoccupy your mind with success goals.

Pursue them with your best effort.

Make your heartbreak an inspiration to build yourself up.

read books, reconnect, visit places that you might have put on the back burner.

Expand your knowledge.

Take up a new hobby.

Revisit an old one.

Be open to new things, people, experiences.

you can also Work through your breakup with this collection of emotional songs

i'll put the link in the description to this collection.

if you want to know how to Stop Loving Someone here are an other video i've made in the pass

about this topic.

if you already watch it just end the video here.

5 Steps, to Stop Loving Someone, who doesn't love you.

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No.1, Recognize that pain is normal.

When you love someone who doesn't love you back, it hurts.

It turns out that "heartbreak" is a very real physical sensation, the pain from rejection

activates your parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for things like your

heart rate, and muscle tension.

It's natural to feel hurt, if you love someone who doesn't return the feeling.

Accepting that your feelings are normal can help you process them.

No.2, Be an individual.

When you live as a couple, your sense of individuality is transformed from "I", to "we."

You have been functioning as a couple for so long ,that maybe you forgot how to function

on your own.

Well, there's good news.

You lived your entire life without this person, and you fell in love with yourself, before

you fell in love with him or her.

You are the only one who can rescue yourself, don't think that this heartbreak will ruin

the chance to become that beautiful person again.

No.3, Immerse Yourself in Art and Culture, and Keep yourself busy with the things you

love doing.

Once you stop loving someone, you are likely to feel a vacuum of empty time.

These hours on your schedule need to be filled with that you enjoy doing, anything that doesn't

remind you of this person.

There will be moments when you will catch yourself moping and reflecting, but don't

wallow in these bad feelings.

Go out and see a local show.

Watch some movies that you've been meaning to see.

Listen to your favorite soundtrack, and immerse yourself in the greatest piece of musical

art in recent history.

Go to the museum and look at some paintings and read up about them.

Go and binge watch some tv shows on Netflix.

Get in touch with your old friends.

Make some new ones.

Channelize all your energy into something creative and productive.

Just find ways to constantly distract yourself from your heartbreak.

Art can help heal the heart, be it in whatever form.

No.4, Notice other people.

Since you are not investing your time with your unrequited love, you should begin noticing

other like-minded people around you.

Feeling a spark with someone so instantaneously, is not very likely, but that doesn't mean

you cannot appreciate a pleasant personality, a meaningful conversation, or a hilarious

joke, Put in a conscious effort to try to find people who draw you by their appeal.

This is not the time to worry about finding yourself someone new to love.

You just need to prove to yourself, that there is nothing wrong in having eyes for someone,

other than your ex, or a person who never responded to your love.

This exercise will let you feel way freer and happier, as you won't constantly think

about this person who's putting you through all this.

No.5, IT TAKES TIME.

At this point, your heart and your mind are at complete war with each other.

Since you are still in love with him or her, your heart is going to replay all the happiest

moments in the relationship, trying to convince you that it can be that way again.

On the other hand, your mind is trying to comprehend that his or her feelings have changed,

and there is nothing you can do.

It takes time for your heart and mind, to accept the reality and get in alignment with

each other.

One of the best tips on how to stop loving someone who doesn't love you back, is to

give yourself time to heal.

here are 5 practical tips to help you recover from a break-up:

Understand and acknowledge the fact that you're going to experience a wide range of emotions

and it doesn't matter if you were the one dumped or if it was you who instigated the

break-up.

Take care of yourself, be sure to get plenty of good quality sleep, eat well, and exercise.

Avoid binge drinking.

Don't stalk or threaten your ex-partner.

Socialize with others who can provide positive support.

and enjoy your life.

here are some other videos, i've made in the pass about this topic.

the links in the description.