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When my wife and I were married, I assumed I was heterosexual.

And it wasn't till many years later that I realized I was bisexual.

But both of us are in fields where communication is important and we've always been honest

on anything that might affect the other person.

We gradually knew that a traditional marriage wasn't right for us.

We knew how to negotiate things and we spent at least a couple years working through to

find agreements that were right for both of us.

So we had not just worked through the terms that would allow my bisexuality to exist actively

in the context of our marriage, but we needed to work through specific agreements on this

and when we finally had done that, then we decided that we were - that we actually wanted

to celebrate it and have a ceremony.

So before we went through with the marriage ceremony, Sandy decided she needed some time

to be away from me to sense for herself whether it was right for her and whether she could

do it.

A man who would become a friend of each of us - it wasn't just, it wasn't a couple

friend, it was a man who was living alone now.

We both trusted Bill, and Sandy decided she would like to move into Bill's home for a

while.

A matter of a couple weeks, a month, she didn't know yet.

She stayed there for - I can't remember - two, three weeks at least.

She was working a job as well, but to figure out where she was for sure.

And then one day, she called me and she said, "I want to come home and see you.

Shall I bring my suitcase?"

And I said, "What do you mean?"

And she said, "Do you want me to stay?"

And I said, "I sure do!"

So she came home with a suitcase and we knew that this was a marriage we could live with.

We both love symbols and rings and ceremonies, but we also have to go through this process

of being sure we've heard the other cognitively and emotionally and get it into words both

ways and then get it into practical "What does this actually mean in day-to-day life?"

And so all that work we had done before we actually have the second ceremony.

So we had two ministers conduct this wedding ceremony in our home.

We invited mostly other couples who already knew about our marriage and were very, very

supportive, and had this beautiful ceremony in our home, at that time was in the woods.

Whether you're gay or bisexual are lesbian or straight, to survive in a culture that's

dominated by words and things, you need to really put energy into the relationship itself,

the communication.

Part of our process is that we are forced to put into words where we are, and that we

listen deeply enough so we hear both the feelings and the meanings of the other person.

If you can't put it into words or somehow communicate it to each other, then you don't

really know where you are.

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Inside Kanye West's close relationship with dad Ray - Duration: 3:17.

 Kanye West's father has been diagnosed with prostate cancer and is undergoing treatment in LA, reports TMZ

 The rapper and his dad have a good relationship, despite his parents splitting when he was just three years old

 His father Ray's diagnosis comes 11 years after Kim Kardashian's husband lost mum Donda following complications from cosmetic surgery

 Who is Ray and what is his relationship like with son Kanye? Who is Kanye West's dad?  Kanye's dad has worked as photographer, a paparazzo and a Christian marriage counsellor

 He was also involved with the Black Panthers while a student at the University of Delaware

The Black Panthers was a political organisation founded in 1966 to challenge police brutality

Their relationship  Kanye and his father have a good relationship, with the rapper often paying tribute to his dad in some of his hit songs

 Describing his dad to Complex magazine, he said of his work ethic: "I remember he was in vacuum cleaner sales and he'd sit up there and show people how powerful the vacuum cleaner was by putting a penny on the floor and then the vacuum cleaner over it and then 'Pop!' It would come out and he would have bent the penny

"  In song Champion from his album Graduation, Kanye compared their relationship to Will Smith's character and his son in The Pursuit of Happyness

Ray's cancer diagnosis  Kanye's dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the end of July

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Former assistant principal pleads guilty to relationship with middle school student - Duration: 1:47.

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Secrets to having a long and happy relationship - Duration: 3:29.

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How to get a Deeper Relationship with God - Duration: 8:23.

In this video, we're going to talk about the question, "How can you grow a deeper,

personal relationship with God?"

Now, this question was sent into us by frischer kaese.

frischer kaese, I do hope I pronounced your name correctly.

Forgive me if I did not.

But, thank you for this question.

It is Profound.

And, by the way, if you have a question you would like talked about or

a topic to chat with me about, please leave it in the comments section below.

I'd love to hear from you.

But in the meantime, how do we grow our personal

relationship with God?

Now, my name is Charles Yerkes and I am with simplenotshallow.com.

Where we help you keep it Simple Not Shallow.

So, the very first thing that comes to mind is simply to

read the Bible and pray.

Now, it is an answer that I think has become almost

trite among Christian people.

"Read the Bible and pray."

It is spoken so fast, so quickly; I don't think we think about it a

whole lot.

And, as such, I find that little phrase to not be completely satisfying.

I want something a little more.

And you know, I think that God being a relational

God, this question demands a relational Answer.

I think what we need to do is find a way to couch reading the Bible

and praying in relational terms.

So that, we get the most out of it.

And you know, it's interesting talking about relationships.

Relationships, personal relationships always involve two people;

two people actively involved in building the relationship.

And hanging out together and talking together and joking

together just spending time relating with each other.

And, in a personal relationship with God, one of these

persons is God.

So I think, the very first thing is that you must invite God into an

active personal relationship.

And, the second person, of course, is yourself.

You must decide that you want

an active personal relationship; that you're going to be every bit as active

as God is in developing this.

Now, here's the way that this has worked itself out

in my life.

Okay, this is putting things in relational terms.

See, when I come to my study time, when I read the Bible,

before I do anything else I talk to God.

And I say, "Father, please help me find you in

this passage.

Help me learn who Jesus is, let me learn more about who you are, not

lessons, not morals, not guidance, simply who you are.

And I have found God to be a very big boy.

If I ask him to help me know him, since he wants to know me, he

makes that happen.

And all of a sudden, I start seeing him in the different passages of the Bible.

It's an amazing thing.

So, that's step one.

Now, and that, like I said, involves reading the Bible daily and praying.

But now specifically seeking a relationship.

Not seeking anything else.

Just seeking God himself.

Now, to go just a little bit deeper still.

Though, and to give us an example, more of a

direct path to follow, you know, to put some meat on these bones so to speak.

I was looking through the Bible and I came

across a passage in Luke that I found very informative.

It was Luke chapter 6 and in it Jesus, believe it or not, is

talking about love.

And he tells you how to grow.

In Luke chapter 6, and I now put the verses down below somewhere, he says to

love your enemies, bless those who curse you do good to those who harm you.

Love your enemy.

For what good does it for you to simply love those who love you back?

He says everybody does that.

How does that help you grow?

Right?

Love those who hate you, love the unlovable.

That is where we're going to get growth.

Now, before you call me all crazy and you

may already have called me crazy. But,

before you call me crazy; let's take a

look at 1 John 4.

Now, here the Bible says something very… just

utterly amazing.

It says, if you do not love others, you did not know God.

If you do not love all others, you do not know God; for God is love.

Now, before you get all, "You know that's

only talking about other Christians or people like us or in our circles.

That's just talking about loving

each other as Christians."

Check this out, just a little bit later in 1 John, he

says this, "This is the love, that God loved us while we were still his enemy."

Did you catch that?

God came down, loved us, and sent his son to

help re-establish a relationship with him while we were his enemies.

Love your enemies as you love yourself.

And it says if you love others in this way, then God

is living in you and his love is becoming complete in you.

God living in you his love becoming complete.

That sounds like growing in a relationship

with him.

Now, learn to love the unlovable.

Now, if you were to say to me, "Okay Charles, that sounds good.

But how do I do that?

Well, here I'm gonna defer you to God once again.

You know, the Bible says that if we lack wisdom, if we don't know

how to do something wisely, to ask the Father for wisdom.

And he will give it to us, in great abundance.

He will teach us how to love as he does.

We just got to ask him and listen as he instructs us.

Or as he says in Luke 6, we should ask him how

to be kind to the ungrateful, ask him how to be kind to the wicked.

Because he is kind to those two folks.

Ask him to help you know how to be merciful;

because he himself is merciful.

See, people are always more than their

choices.

Yes, where they are is the sum of their choices.

But, who the person is, is truly more than what they have chosen or

what they have done.

And, we need to learn to affirm who the person is and love the

person even as we do not affirm, necessarily, what they are doing.

We're not loving their actions, we're loving them.

Anyway, frischer kaese, I hope this answers your

question; or at least gave you a path down which to walk with your thoughts.

And, I hope you liked this video.

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