Hey everybody! Hope you all excited about this conversation
because I sure am
Today, we're going to talk about deaf and hearing relationship
or more specifically, my relationship with my hearing husband
Before we go further into this topic
I want to point out that
this video is more of an expansion
on my collaboration video with Rogan
I'll attach his channel up here
I just don't know if I can attach his video, the one I did collaboration with him up here
but it will definitely be in a description box along with his channel
if I can't put his video up there, I'll put the name either here or here
so you know which one
that we did
I will admit it
and Rogan, if you're watching this
I am so sorry for taking so long with this video
but as the saying goes: better late than never, right?
When we first met
If you have not seen the video, I highly recommend that you watch it
because I used a pick-up line on him when we first met
It was hilarious
and after that first pickup line
we bonded over our disabilities
and you may be wondering oh wait, wait, wait, wait, you said he's hearing
He is
However he has cleft palate and lip
and what that means that he has a hole in his palate and his lip
and because of that, we have similar experiences
especially with speech therapy
We both have to go through it, we both have to practice pronunciation and
while he knows way more about idioms than I do, like he knows way more
I still don't understand idioms like
It fell through
I didn't know what that means it just fell apart and just, you know, didn't work out
I thought it meant oh it got through, it worked out, it's ready, it's like ready to go
Yeah
I had a lot of strange looks from many people before I finally realize what that meant
It was bad
Anyway
While we did
have same experiences
we still have difficulty in understanding fully of each other's disabilities
For me
I have a hard time understanding
the difficulties, the obstacles that my husband had to go through
since I took eating and drinking for granted while he struggled with it
He couldn't drink through a straw until he was 5 years old
and there's me drinking through straw since I was real little, I don't know how old I was but
like it was not a problem for me while for him, it took forever
So it was, yeah
For him
While he does understand technical difficulties such as there's a glitch in my program or
whatever or battery not connecting right or stuff like that
He doesn't fully understand the impact
of sudden disruption in hearing
that you could depend on
not 24/7 but
sixteen hours a day
and all sudden, that just now becomes none you're like
uh, okay, gotta lip read, cool
it was not fun
and the other aspect that he didn't fully understand
and I've completely prepared him for it
is three days of adjustment period
or as I call it three days of Hell
Why is it three days of Hell?
Because everybody sounded robotic talking into this 1990s microphone toy
which I probably have a picture right here so you can see what I'm talking about, it was so annoying
so annoying, I was like just let me strangle you and try to stop the echo, yeah, it was that bad
but thankfully the last upgrade, it went well
no annoying for I'm just :muttering to self:
Yeah, I wouldn't do that to you but
in my head :evil cackle: yeah
since I was new to dating
and since we're still learning
I, I immediately told him no calling, I can't do phone calls
and if you have to call, it has to be a dire emergency thing like end of the world thing
you can call
Otherwise just text me or Skype me
we're good on those
Thankfully he doesn't like calling, he prefers texting or skyping so :tongue click:
it works out
Well since I don't, I didn't know
about dating
so there is some experiences that I was lacking in
when we first went out on our first date
I quickly found out that it cannot be in the dark or like dimmed area or noisy
it was both, our first date was both
I couldn't read his lips and I couldn't hear him
Thankfully we got around that by using our phone just like
typing back and forth like sharing the phone, he has way better phone than I did
My phone was a dumb phone, it was like tiny dumb phone, it was bad
His was like blackberry like yeah, look at this, yeah
and after that first date, we quickly
figured out like okay, if we would go into that situation again
we better be okay with not talking to each other and just
fool around playing pool or bowling alley or whatever
As the time goes on, we both started learning ASL
Granted, our vocabulary now is way better than back then
Back then, we were fingerspelling everything
It was bad
but we gotta start somewhere, right?
Now, our communication
because our vocabulary has improved
We're roughly 50/50
50% of spoken English and 50% of sign language
Our goal is to be able to sign 100% like all day chats for fun
this way, if it we're tired of talking and hearing we can just :tongue clicks:
just sign
Well, okay, me, it's like :tongue clicks: him, it's like :tongue click:
Turned off, we're good
We do fight, it's usually about little things that
we shouldn't be fighting about
but we did.
Why?
because we were hangry
hungry and angry, hangry
Yeah
The worst fight that came to my mind
was when we first moved into apartment together, our first time together
obviously since we just moved, I didn't have time to do grocery shopping
and because of that
my husband was
he was so irritable and hungry and he was like
what are we doing for dinner and blah blah blah
Oh gosh
Our voice
just k, the volume just kept going up and up and next thing I know
he just walked up to the fridge, slammed open the door of the fridge
and just basically why :silence: do we not have food and blah blah blah
and I got so angry and I walked out to the fridge
and just slammed the fridge
like it moved, it moved when he opened it and it moved again when I closed it
It was bad
and I just yelled right back at him well guess what, I don't have time blah blah blah
I don't remember the exact words
I don't even know why we fought about that but we did
Not even a minute later, we just looked at each other like
why are we angry?
This is stupid, stupid
So we basically just apologized, hug it out, and then went out for dinner
and after dinner, we just went to a grocery store right next to it
and did our shopping and
problem solved, we're good
We're good
The thing that I'm actually surprised about
the fridge
the fridge
is so old, er was so old
I'm actually surprised it still worked after that abuse like
We weren't gentle, it was like whish, pursh
It was bad, it almost toppled over like what I closed that it almost like
So now
After being together for so long, we've been together for
almost eight years if you want to count our dating history
If you don't wanna count that, then 2 years
We've been married for two years but eight years, I count it
We now bond over YouTube, Netflix, and video games
There's one youtuber that we religiously follow
which is Chase on two wheels
and I'll post his channel up here
Phenomenal videos, he's amazing, he's really good at
he's a really good photographer and videographer so
If you're looking for and you like motorcycles
Go to him, he's that good
Netflix
we watch a bunch of shows like
there's so many shows on there that I don't even know what we're watching anymore, it was that many
Video games
I'm still growing
To put in real life situation
My husband
he's a freaking college professor
while I'm a kindergartner
like a huge difference in video games
but I'm still growing
and
he's very patient with me which is great because I'm a very casual player
he plays every day
I play every now and then that I can't remember the last time I played
Now I'm feeling guilty about it
Eh, I don't play very often so
yeah, oh well
Alright, guys, this is all I have for you today
I hope you enjoyed learning a little bit about my relationship with my husband
and if there's anything that struck you odd or oh, okay, you're actually normal, just
one with hearing difficulty while the other perfect in hearing
So annoying sometimes
He'll hear things that I can't hear, I'm like what the, what are you talking about
and that's not something to discuss here
If you have experiences that you wanna share with us
please drop them down in the comment below
and I hope to see you next Saturday
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