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You'll Destroy Your Relationship If You Keep These 5 Toxic Behaviours

Knowing which behaviours are toxic and how to avoid making these mistakes, can save your

relationship from unnecessary hardships.

All relationships have their problems, and some are easier to work through than others.

But if you really want to keep the love alive between you, then avoid these 5 toxic behaviours.

1.

Responding irrationally to feedback, instead of hearing them out.

Communication is an essential part of any relationship.

If you can communicate clearly and openly, most of your problems in the relationship

should be resolved easily.

Perhaps you have forgotten to pay the bills on time, or the things you said you would

do, haven't been done.

If your partner reaches out to you and mentions these things, instead of getting angry and

responding irrationally, hear them out.

They are coming to you with these problems because they notice something isn't quite

right, and they care.

Responding irrationally can be caused by several things, like stress, worry, or simply feeling

overwhelmed with all the things you must do.

But that's what are partners are there for- to share our burdens with us.

First, we need to create an open dialogue with our partner so they know they can come

to us in the future if any issues arise.

Then, we need to remember that it's not a personal attack if they come to us with

a problem, they are just trying to help.

2.

Not considering your partner when making plans, or financial decisions.

If you act like there is only one person in your relationship, then it won't be too

long before that becomes a reality.

Being in a healthy relationship requires consideration for the other person.

This doesn't mean you need "approval," but rather that discussions should be held

when making plans or important decisions.

If you can't discuss it at that moment, then think about how your choices would make

them feel.

If you know they are saving money to go back to school, and you happen to see a new TV

you would love to have, thinking about their needs and discussing the matter will benefit

you both in the long run.

3.

Being codependent.

We all want to be near those we love, but there comes a point when it can border on

codependency.

If you don't have your own friends, hobbies, likes and dislikes, then your partner is essentially

in a relationship with themselves, and that isn't going to last very long.

It can become suffocating to be around someone 100% of the time, regardless of how much you

love them.

Dr. Seth Myers writes on Psychology Today, "In a push to fuse with their partner, some

people will forget about their own interests, hobbies and goals, things that may have attracted

their partners in the first place.

To break codependency's false bond, make a list of how and with whom you spent your

free time prior to your relationship, a worthwhile exercise.

Try monitoring the amount of alone time you have, as no couple should be spending all

their free time together.

Pursue an activity on your own, such as going to the gym or take a fun class at your local

community college.

If you've lost touch with friends you genuinely care about in favor of spending time almost

exclusively with your partner, regain your identify by making an effort to meet a friend

or two for an activity or a meal."

4.

Continuously picking a fight.

It might not be intentional, but always nagging your partner about little things will eventually

cause fights between you.

We all have our flaws, and being in a relationship with someone helps to illuminate them.

However much it might annoy you that they left their socks on the floor again, is it

really worth an argument?

Learn to pick your battles wisely, and your relationship will last much longer.

5.

Not being honest.

Honesty doesn't just mean telling the truth.

It also means having your actions match your words, and being clear about your feelings.

Dr. Lisa Firestone writes, "Honesty in a relationship can be tricky because it doesn't

mean saying every little critical thing to our partner that pops into our head.

We have to know our real intentions and what our real truth is.

This means we have to know ourselves.

We have to consistently ask ourselves, "Am I being honest?

What's my motivation?

Do my words and actions really match?"

If we say we really love someone, there should be actions we take that, to an outside observer,

would be viewed as loving."

"When our actions are honest, we can create genuine closeness."

Making a relationship work isn't always easy, but if you put effort into it, and keep

these points in mind, it should be much easier.

Well, that's the 5 toxic behaviours that can destroy your relationship.

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What Holding Hands Reveals About Your Relationship - Duration: 2:41.

THE WAY YOU HOLD HANDS WITH PARTNER REVEALS SECRETS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

One of the main body parts that we use the most is hands.

Our hands allow us to interact and communicate with people, even without words.

The people with whom we have a special bond whether it's our partner, children or friends,

the gesture of our hands with them reveals the true secrets of our relationship.

A lot of oxytocin is released when we hold hands of our partner, which is more than kissing

as per a survey.

The emotional quality of every relationship is defined through the physical connection

you have with your partner, and one of them is the way you hold their hands.

Holding hands reflects your formality, familiarity, dominance, and even submissiveness towards

your partner.

Action speaks louder than words, hence, in any relationship holding hands speaks a lot

and reveals the secret behind the actual bonding nature, you have with your partner.

It is one of the most powerful signals humans give each other of affection and interest

and that is touch.

1 The Down-Facing Palm

This gesture reveals that the person has a stronger personality, who always takes initiative

and are also very decisive.

They have plenty of affection for their partner and are also very protective and dominant

about the relationship.

2 The One-Finger Hold

The person who holds one finger actually express their tenderness and reassurance for their

partner.

The secrets for this gesture is that both are independent, spirited people, each with

their own passions and interests outside of the relationship.

They enjoy their space and individuality, but both are connected with each other strongly

and confidently.

3 The Interlocked Fingers

Those who interlock all of their fingers when they hold hands, actually have a passionate

relationship.

They have crossed the infatuation stage and are more level-headed towards each other.

They have endless care for one another and are also very comfortable, vulnerable and

honest with the relationship.

4 The Over-The-Shoulder Hold

People who hold hands over-the-shoulder are very protective of their partner.

It reveals the secret of a more strong, intimate and proud relationship, who don't care a

damn to display their love for each other in public.

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When people hold hands in this way, it actually is a sign of protectiveness and a stronger

bond, but chances are that it could result in codependency.

Hence, both need to be a little extra cautious into which direction the relationship travels.

For more infomation >> What Holding Hands Reveals About Your Relationship - Duration: 2:41.

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Jeannie Mai Talks Not Allowing Others Opinions To Interfere With Your Relationship - Duration: 1:04.

To me.

This is, to each person is a different situation.

For me, I personally don't have a problem with my significant other liking,

commenting on anybody else because I feel like if you are fixated

on hat other people think, you are insecure about what

other people think >> [APPLAUSE]

>> When it comes to your

relationship, okay?

And >> Well-

>> I'm gonna take it

a little bit deeper. >> Okay.

>> For me,

I know social media changed my world.

I was born in the time where there was no social media.

The worst you could get was bullying outside on the streets.

That was a lot on its own.

Now it's what other people think, you can track what people like, all that stuff.

And I realized that I really have to guard my mind and

my heart on what I want to care about.

Because the second I actually open up that threshold of what I think I should care

about with other women and [CROSSTALK] what other people think about me.

>> I get that.

>> Then it spirals me in place that I don't like about myself.

>> But I think what has to be [CROSSTALK] social media can be of

the devil's playground at times.

And I think- >> [APPLAUSE]

>> Sometimes,

it's not about you, it's about that other person.