Hey guys, it's Kaylie! I'm doing a really, really impromptu video today because I
wanted to share my thoughts on something that I'm actually struggling with a
little bit and I wanted to keep this open to your opinion on this as well. So
as I'm growing, I am getting a lot more negative comments on things like my
social media, my posts, my ads etc and it's getting to the point where a
few times a week I'm actually having to monitor this because people are actually
writing negative comments and it's just it's nothing of any substance it's just
their opinion but it's really starting to kind of annoy me a
little bit. And it's annoying me for two reasons: It's annoying me because I feel
like I have to spend time monitoring these comments and the second thing is
it's like why do people feel the need to be negative on someone else's work? It
just absolutely blows my mind. So I wanted to talk about these two
things because I know that a lot of people, they do not put themselves out
there in big ways because of this very reason, because of what other people
think about them what other people might say about them. But the thing is as you,
grow and the bigger you grow, and the more brand awareness you get, the more
you open yourself up to this happening to you. So it's happened to me loads of
times before and every single time like, the first time it happened I was like: "Oh
my god, what? Look at this..." I was actually shaking because I was like, what
is this person talking about? They have no idea who I am, they've just seen one
post and then they've decided to completely slew me and they have no
idea what they're talking about. And the first one was really, really hard because
I was thinking about it for ages and I really, really took it personally. And
then, as it happened more and more I started to be like: "Okay another one,
okay another one, okay another one..." and I was thinking, why are people doing
this and what am i doing wrong and that is the first thing that I
really realised that I needed to stop. It's not about me and what I'm
doing wrong it's just about them as a person and the way that they do that. I
mean who has the time to actually go and write negative comments on
people's things especially negative comments that they have no idea what
they're even talking about? So one time I had a meme posted on one of my social
media posts and it was a meme and it said: "I smell bullshit" and it had
this guy dancing, it was supposed to be a joke obviously.
Ha, not funny! When that's part of my marketing strategy and my blood,
sweat and tears and my heart went into that work and my work changes peoples'
lives, so what are you doing, doing that? What what do you get out of
being so negative on someone else's work? If you have an opinion of someone,
why don't you just keep it to yourself? What do you actually get from being
that ridiculously negative to someone? I really just don't get it I don't know,
I'll never get that mindset. Even if I go scrolling on my feed and I see
something I don't really like or whatever, I just keep scrolling I just
ignore it, I don't have time to even waste energy on negative things. And this
is what really gripes me, the fact that people actually sit there and search for
a meme to post on other people's stuff that's derogatory and is offensive and
just has no substance. If these things had substance, I could understand
but the one this morning... So I woke up this morning and I saw a post on one
of my sponsored ads and they were saying something about: "Oh I've seen this,
this is fake this is bullshit this doesn't work..." I'm like huh...?
Have you spoken to any of my clients? Do you even know me? Do you even know my brand?
Do you even know the work that I do? No, you don't obviously. You don't, and that's
what I mean, it has no substance. So every time this happens, you just
have to brush it off somehow, you have to develop that
thick skin. And, you know, sometimes I'm in two
minds. I'm in two minds whether to leave the comments and to respond to the
comments obviously in a really professional manner and just
highlight that I've seen their comment and, I don't know it's like, you don't
even want to try and explain yourself or try and convince someone so I don't
really like to do that and I haven't done that so far I just go and
delete the negativity away from my page because I don't want that negative
energy there and I don't want people who I know that my service can really help
seeing those comments and then being deterred because some idiot has felt the
need to post negativity on my work. So when someone, if you are
someone who goes around and posts negativity on other people's work, think
about what you're doing, why are you doing that, honestly? This video
is almost turning into a bit of a rant but I've seen it happen to myself, I've
seen it happen to some of my clients, even my coach and the
coaching systems that I'm within my master mind, it happens to them as well.
And they always struggle with the question: "What do you do when people post
negativity?" And I totally get why people just don't even bother putting
themselves out there in the first place, because of the people that do this.
And I was looking at Cardi B's Instagram the other day and she said something
about for all... like basically talk about there's so many people that hate
her and she just tries to just ignore it and you know F them basically in
Cardi B's way. And I was thinking, yeah this is why the people that love
her really, rate her because she gets so much hate why are these people hating so
much? Why does she offend people so much that people actually feel the need
to be so horrid to her. And not just talking about her now, but anyone else
if you've ever received a negative comment from someone, one that you know
is definitely not true as well, isn't that the worst? Who are these
people that actually do that to someone else? I've never done that I would
never just go... especially someone's actual work. So if it's a
sponsored post for example, you know that someone has actually put in a lot
of time and effort to create that and they have a great service that can help
someone. So if you don't like it, then just keep scrolling. Why do you need to
be negative? So I'm kind of like struggling a little bit with it because
the more that I grow and the more reach that I get and the more clients that I
have, the more I open myself up to other people's negativity... And it's
one of these things where, because it's a personal brand, everything that I
talk about comes from inside. So it's not just some mumbo jumbo
that's made up. This is my life, this is my experience, this is my journey. And
I struggle with it a little bit because when someone comes and then... It's like
being attacked almost, and the way that I try to deal with it is just remember that
they have no substance. I think that's the only way that you can deal with it. I
mean, what are your thoughts on this? Has this happened to you?
Share in the comments if this has happened you, share in the comments if
you're someone that actually does this. Because I think sometimes people don't
realize the effect of that. And I also think that the people that do that, they
just have far too much time on their hands. They must do, like I don't have
time to go around and be negative on peoples' shit, who has the time to do
that? Every time you do that, you're taking away time from doing something
productive for yourself or someone else. It just blows my mind. But yeah, it's
becoming quite a regular thing and I'm actually becoming so aware of it
and I'm thinking to myself I need to check this regularly to make sure that
my content isn't constantly getting slewed by people that feel they need
to express their hatred towards me. It's really hard to deal with because
if I had done something wrong or something offensive you could
take it a little bit more but I know I haven't. So I think it's
just a case of just forgetting it. Forgetting what they've said and just
moving on and just not internalising it, I think that's a big
thing. And the more that I get, the quicker I am to just brush it
off and not internalise it but I am kind of struggling with it a little bit at
the moment because of the degree of how often it's happening.
And it's because I'm reaching so much more people, therefore I'm reaching so
much more people who aren't gonna like me. So it's like I know everyone's not
gonna like me, everyone's not supposed to like me,
there's gonna be people that don't like me. But for the people that don't
like me and then they feel they need to express that dislike in such a vulgar
way, that's what I'm struggling with. And I will never understand it because that
is not the mindset of a successful person. Who does that? Anyway, I'm
just sharing my thoughts on that, I don't know if you've dealt with this if this has ever
happen to you. Share any of your experiences in the comments I'd love
to know some of your experiences, I'd love to know that I'm not alone in this.
I know I'm not but yeah, I'd love to hear some of your stories and your opinions
on this. How do you handle it, how would you handle it when people are
so like explicitly negative towards you for no reason? But yeah, that's what I
wanted to talk about today and I would love to know your opinion so let
me know in the comments guys. Bye!



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