Difficult as it may feel and be, it is not an impossible task.
Stopping yourself from cheating can mean saving lot of trouble and instability.
You have to stop something that is wrong.
Here are a few ways that can help you stop cheating, and stay faithful to your partner.
Stop Fantasizing About Someone Else.
Have you ever found yourself, thinking about being romantic with someone else besides your
partner?
Perhaps, you've already imagined yourself kissing a colleague once, going out on a date
with a beautiful friend, or worst, fantasizing about having sex with other person.
If you are currently in a relationship, and you are doing this, you are bound for some
trouble.
Fantasizing about others, is the first step towards infidelity, so you have to stop, some
would probably reason that having a fantasy would not hurt, as long as you are not going
to make it real.
That's true, but how sure are you, that you can keep yourself away from temptation?
This is the same with what women always accuse their partners, of whenever they catch men
checking another woman out: "you're already undressing her in your mind".
It is okay to have a crush on someone else, which is normal.
But keep it casual, you're only attracted to another person, because she or he is good-looking,
that's all.
Always remind yourself that you belong only to your partner, and your connection with
them is deeper than just good looks.
Always Imagine That Your Partner Is Watching.
If you are cheating on your partner, what will trouble you is your guilt and conscience.
If you are feeling this way, then it is not yet too late for you to stop.
Do not try to fight off your guilty feelings, let them prevail.
Whenever you are tempted to do an act of infidelity, always imagine your partner being aware of
it.
If you find yourself wanting to go out with your other man or woman, tell yourself that
your partner will be just around watching you.
If you are on a phone call, imagine that she or he's on the other line, listening to
your conversation.
If you are chatting, tell yourself that your partner knows your entire social networking
sites passwords.
This way, you will be at least a little hesitant to cheat on him or her.
Cheating will never bring good results to neither of you in the end, so how hard would
it be for you to resist this sinful act?
Avoid Physical Contact with Others.
Physical contact, should be reserved only for your partner, so you might want to back
off a little, when it comes to hugs, a lot of hand-holding, massaging, and over-the-line
gestures with others.
It doesn't matter whether it is just a friendly gesture for you, or not, others might take
it as something else, tempting you to cheat.
It's okay to hug sometimes for support, or a have someone gently giving you a pat
on the back.
But if you think that you are already getting touchier with other males or females, than
your lover, it's time to stop.
Remember the long-term consequences.
Speaking of self-deception: Adulterers often fool themselves into thinking that this time,
will be the only time or the last time.
This could be true of course, although unlikely, in any case, it is a way to rationalize and
justify a "one-time" dalliance.
If you feel tempted, and want to avoid doing something you'll regret, keep in mind the
long-term consequences of cheating, including the harm it will do to your partner, and your
relationship, to any children you have, or any whom may result from your adulterous liaisons,
as well as to your image of yourself.
Also, consider that if you give in to temptation this time, you are more likely to give in
the next time, and before you know it you've established a pattern.
But if you anticipate that pattern from the beginning, and realize how bad the consequences
of it will be, you'll be more likely to stop it beforer it starts.
Cheating is hard work, It will stress you out a lot, and it's not even worth it.
Along with the stress, your chances of ruining your image and reputation, are close to a
hundred percent.
Whatever you do, it won't end in your favor.
Don't ever cheat, Try to talk to your partner if you are beginning to feel uncomfortable
with your relationship.
Be transparent to him or her.
because if you do so, it will be easier for you to resist this sinful temptation.
Here are 18 Quick tips, to stop yourself from cheating.
Avoid constant messaging and phone calls.
Remember you have a partner who loves you.
Avoid thinking what it could be, and what you do not have.
Control your urge to meet up for just one last time, even if it is to end.
Remember it is not over until it is over.
Talk to your husband or wife, about what you expect from your relationship.
Avoid waiting for the right moment to stop cheating.
Just do it.
Imagine what will be the consequences if you are found out.
Concentrate towards making your present relationship better.
Meet long lost friends or new ones, along with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Count your blessings and you will see that life has treated you well.
Avoid criticising and comparing your partner.
Avoid comparing your situation with the movies.
You are for real.
Show respect towards your partner's trust and emotions.
Spend more time with your partner.
Do special things.
Avoid being negative about your relationship, or married life.
Share with your partner if you are not happy about something.
It works.
Consult a therapist or relationship expert, if everything else fails.
What's the best way to stop cheating from destroying your relationship?
The best first step, you can take to protecting your relationship from infidelity, is to have
a frank and honest talk with your partner, about your definitions of infidelity.
Nail down exactly what both you and your partner consider cheating, you both have to agree
on what kind of behavior is cheating.
That way, you both know the boundaries on the relationship, so you don't inadvertently
hurt your partner, or vice versa.
That, plus having open, honest lines of communication in your relationship, are the two best ways
to prevent infidelity.
When you can honestly talk about what you're dissatisfied with, as well as agree on which
behaviors are acceptable, and which are not, you're much less likely to experience infidelity
in any way in your relationship
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