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welcome to CNN ten on this Friday March 30th my name is Carl azuz we're happy to

see you the first time in almost six years Malala yousufzai has returned to

her home country of Pakistan the twenty-year-old winner of the Nobel

Peace Prize is known around the world as Malala she spent most of her life

advocating for girls rights to an education but that's something that the

Taliban a terrorist group that operates in Afghanistan and Pakistan has tried to

prevent they attempted to assassinate Malala in 2012 but she survived the

shooting and afterwards she continued her own education as well as her fight

for children's rights worldwide there was a lot of security which she visited

Pakistan early Thursday some people there see her as a hero others see her

as an agitator who should be silenced but her visit defied Taliban threats to

attack her again and fulfilled her dream of touching the ground of home there

been a whirlwind of changes on and around the Korean Peninsula since the

lines of communication between North and South Korea opened back up before the

Olympics April 27th is the date when North Korean leader Kim jong-un and

South Korean president moon jae-in are scheduled to meet at the Demilitarized

Zone the border between their Nations it'll be the first face-to-face meeting

between Korean leaders in more than a decade and it follows this week's

surprise visit by North Korea's dictator to China

that's a nation whose relationship with North Korea has been significant if not

always harmonious it used to be said that the relationship between China and

North Korea was as close as lips and teeth China has always been

North Korea's staunchest Ally since kim jong un's grandfather kim il-sung

established the totalitarian state back in 1948 it has provided economic life

support ideological backing and support for North Korea on the international

stage in return communist North Korea has served Beijing

as a buffer between China and South Korea saving China from the prospect of

US troops on its land border but the relationship has been fraying since Kim

jong-un assumed power in 2011 he has repeated

angered Beijing with nuclear bomb and ballistic missile tests that led to a

dangerous potentially military confrontation with the United States

Beijing's calls for restraint and dialogue were largely ignored by Kim

indeed some of North Korea's tests looked like they were deliberately

provocative to Beijing but the recent frosty relations are starting to thaw

diplomacy is now front and center on the Korean Peninsula the isolated Kim needs

the support of Beijing and reportedly says he's ready to put denuclearization

on the table his country has been hit hard by international sanctions and with

more than 90 percent of North Koreans foreign trade including its lifeblood

oil going through China Kim needs their backing for China it wants to assert its

role in any future negotiations on the Korean Peninsula

Beijing's bottom line remains the nuclearization but it also wants to see

Kim's regime stay intact the alternative is unthinkable a collapsed North Korea

with millions of refugees flooding into the country or a reunified Korea with US

influence stretching right up to its border there's too much at stake for

either side to walk away from each other

second trip in what year was an estimated one-third of the global

population infected by a severe flu virus 1918 1937 1968 or 2009 the flu

pandemic of 1918 also known as the Spanish flu in fact had an estimated 500

million people worldwide it was the worst in recent history

far as this year's flu virus goes the US Centers for Disease Control is warning

that a second wave may be on the way what sickened so many people this winter

making it the worst season for flu outbreaks in years was caused by a type

of flu called influenza A officials believe those outbreaks have peaked and

are now decreasing but they're warning about another type of the flu called

influenza B at this time those viruses are more frequently being reported in

America it's possible to get one flu after you already had the other this

year's vaccine was mostly ineffective against influenza A experts think it

might be more effective against influenza B with or without it most

people do not die from the flu but there are some groups that face higher risks

it's always scary when you hear of someone dying from something as common

as the flu there are four main ways the flu can turn deadly the first and most

common cause is pneumonia the influenza virus can directly cause viral pneumonia

once someone has the flu it can weaken their immune system so much that another

virus or bacteria can enter the lungs infected lungs fill with fluid making it

difficult to breathe so oxygen can't get to the rest of the body which can lead

to death sepsis is the second way the flu can become lethal especially in

healthy younger adults and children sepsis occurs when a person's immune

system goes into overdrive trying to fight the flu this causes inflammation

which can lead to a cascade of symptoms that ultimately ends in organ failure a

third way the flu can kill is by increasing your risk of heart attack

experts say in adults risk of heart attack increases six-fold in the seven

days following a flu diagnosis the fourth way the flu can kill is by

dehydration particularly among infants and young children the flu often causes

vomiting and diarrhea which can quickly become life-threatening if fluids aren't

replaced in the body so if you get the flu when should you be worried some

people have a higher risk for serious complications from the flu including the

elderly children under the age of five pregnant women and those with chronic

health problems if this is you make sure you see a doctor if you're a healthy

older child or adult watch out for sudden dizziness

severe persistent vomiting difficulty breathing pain or pressure in the chest

or abdomen and flu-like symptoms that improve them return with a fever or were

scoff its major league baseball season in America opening day was yesterday 26

teams went head-to-head in the first of the 162 games they'll play throughout

the summer and while they're focused on fields with diamonds today's positive

athlete is focused on one with goal posts when Kendall breast was diagnosed

with a heart disorder he and his coach who's also his dad found another way

Kendall could stay in the game we had a home game here on a Friday night and

Kendall you know was getting ready for school I stood up and I stretched and

got really dizzy I started falling over and got nothing on one side the body my

speech was all slurred and I had no clue what's going on I took him for a cat

scan at the local hospital and we literally walked back into the school

and my cell phone rang and they said you need to bring him back to the ER because

he had a stroke we were in shock we are in disbelief they diagnosed me with LVN

C which stands for left ventricular and on compassion they just in the end ruled

out playing physical contact sports because taking a hit to the chest could

result in bad things the conversation basically revolved around your playing

days are over there's something ahead that will be bigger and better and you

don't even know what that is right now we were so close to our doctors down in

Pittsburgh and we decided we want to give back for so much they did for us so

we decided there's a camp for kids to have heart ailments like I do and we

decided to give back and the inspiration was having the hashtag Kendall strong

game honestly in my heart I thought I want to raise $1,000 but secretly I was

hoping for 5,000 never believed it would be 10,000 we get that make sure it

halftime we talk to the center's principals below Kendall got into

coaching because he wanted to be a part of the program was just the number one

thing I knew I could do because I already knew

things about coaching football Jake Jake get ready you ready to junior year

that was the longest season of my life and when the greatest thrills was as a

dad after winning a championship his junior year was talked of him I just

felt like such a special season and setbacks and a great story and just we

just gave each other a big hug afterwards and he said we did it dad no

never forget that aurora borealis the Northern Lights get a lot of coverage in

the media but how about Aurora Australis just as beautiful just as incredible to

see just in another hemisphere these pictures come to us from a photographer

named Brad Phipps he was one of the passengers who flew from New Zealand to

the Antarctic Circle where he was able to capture the Southern Lights from his

airplane window and then put together this time-lapse video so if you thought

the Northern Lights were the only game in town Australis and up the green glow

over the Antarctic is every bit as Aurora Bowl sure some might make light

of it or say it's not Bora reality the same but scientifically speaking the

only difference between them is their potent I'm Carl azuz hope you have a

great Easter weekend and we'll look forward to seeing you again on Monday

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[RIG Ep 002] Finding Love | Relationship Advice | Dating Advice - Duration: 33:32.

Hi there, it's Clay and this is the Relationship Inner Game Experience brought to you by ModernLove.life.

Now this is actually the second episode of the Relationship Inner Game Experience.

As you may recall, if you watched last week, last week was a little bit of an experiment

and I'm glad to say that a lot of people in the Modern Love Association, in our little

online community for our students, have really appreciated this little show, this experience,

this podcast, this webcast is whatever you want to call it.

And so we've decided to go ahead and move forward with it at least for the next couple

of weeks to get a little bit more of an understanding about maybe what people think about it, what

they like, what they don't like, and all of that stuff.

So we're going to go ahead and continue again this week.

I've got my cup of tea here.

I've got my computer to answer some of your questions, but before we go ahead and get

in to all of that, I want to first talk about one of the most important things that I could

really talk about, you know, since we've kind of rebooted the podcast and since this is

just the second episode of the Relationship Inner Game Experience, I want to talk about

what is perhaps the most important thing in the whole process of finding love and that

is the big picture, OK?

Because you see, oftentimes people won't write into me and they'll ask, you know, hey, I'm

in some sort of situation, how do I make this person commit to me?

How do I get this person to love me?

Or something along those lines.

And that really isn't the first thing that you should be asking yourself when it comes

to trying to find a relationship.

Now, what do I mean by all of this?

What I mean is that, when it comes to finding a relationship, when it comes to finding love,

you don't just fumble around blindly and then find somebody that you think is attractive

and then try to make things work.

You have to have something a little bit more concrete underlying that entire foundation

specifically.

You need to know exactly what it is you're looking for in a partner and in a relationship.

Now you don't really necessarily need to do all of this stuff if you're very young and

you don't have a whole lot of relationship experience and you know, you just want to

date around and see what's out there and stuff, you know, If you are very young, then you

know, sure.

Just go ahead and date around and learn a little bit about what you like and what you

don't like.

That's absolutely fine.

But if you are actually wanting a committed relationship where maybe you might be together

for the long term or even get married or start a family together or something like that,

then you really need to stop and think about what you actually want in a relationship and

more importantly, what you don't want in a relationship or a partner as well too.

So few people actually do this.

Instead, they just kind of go with, you know, whatever.

And then they find somebody attractive and then they hope that there's chemistry or a

connection between the two of them.

And then they hope that that's enough to make the relationship work.

But it's really not.

You know, if it's really important for you to be in a relationship with somebody who,

for example, has a main value of adventure, then you really need to make sure that you

have some sort of a set of procedure in place for making sure that you find somebody who

is adventurous, who will be able to go with you on the journey of life and have that adventurous

experience.

And more importantly, you also need to know how that person perceives adventure.

So for example, you know, your idea of being adventurous might be taking a year off to

travel around the world and see everything, which is great.

I have done that before in my life and it was a great experience.

But if you are with somebody who is also adventurous, but maybe their idea of adventurous is to,

you know, try the new Thai restaurant down the street, then there's going to be a little

bit of friction, a little bit of conflict between the two of you.

So it's important that you have a good sense about who you're looking for and what sorts

of qualities you're not looking for, you know, just in the same way that you might want to

be with somebody who's adventurous.

You also might not want to be with somebody who is emotionally unavailable, for example,

or somebody who cheats or you know, something like that.

Right?

And so it's really important to know this stuff because you know, let's say for example,

you didn't want to be with somebody who cheats, but you just went along with the usual method

that most people do when it comes to dating and relationships.

You just fumble along and you find somebody and you have good chemistry.

Then suddenly you find out that person is a cheater and you're like, OK, well how do

I make the relationship work?

And that's kind of a moot point because it doesn't matter if the relationship works or

not.

Because even if the relationship works, even if the two of you get together, get married,

form the most wonderful, whatever, you're still going to be in a relationship with a

cheater and you're going to have to live with the consequences of that.

Or you're still going to be in a relationship with somebody who is emotionally unavailable.

Or you're still going to be in a relationship with somebody who thinks their idea of adventure

is to try the new Thai restaurant down the street, when really you just want to take

a year off and travel the world, so it's really important that you take the time to actually

think about what it is that you want, what it is that you don't want in a partner, in

a relationship, in a, you know, union of sorts.

And this is of course very important for you to think about if you are at all interested

in a committed relationship.

If you're just wanting to date around, sleep around or something, that's absolutely fine.

You don't need to think about this stuff as hard.

And, of course, if you're very young and you just need to get a little bit of experience,

that's fine too.

You should be out there getting experience to actually find out what it is that you like

and what it is that you don't like.

Then of course, once you find somebody who does meet your requirements for a partner,

well first of all, before you get anywhere near that, you need to be willing to accept

people as they are.

So maybe you go out, you meet somebody and you think, oh, this person seems pretty close,

but if only they would change this little thing and only they would change that little

thing, then they would be perfect.

You do not want to pursue this kind of relationship or this kind of partner because you are going

to be trying to change them, which is probably the least loving thing you could ever do is

to, is to try to make somebody be something other than what they are or what they want

to be in order to please you.

Um, and so what you want to do is you want to be willing to accept somebody 100 percent

as they are, as they are right now.

You don't want to be betting on potential.

You don't want to be betting on someday they might finally stop cheating on me or something

like that because you know, sure, yes, people do change.

Yes, people can change.

People change all the time.

But what if your little cheater over there didn't want to change for five years, 10 years,

20 years.

Would you be willing to wait twenty years for them to finally have this realization

that, oh, hey, it's kind of a dick move to be cheating on people.

Maybe I shouldn't do that anymore, right?

Um, you can't do that.

You have to accept them as they are, and if you can't accept them as they are, and if

you can't be in a great relationship with them as they are right now, then you need

to let that person go so that you can create space in your life to welcome somebody who

is going to be loyal and faithful to you, who is going to be emotionally available to

you, who is going to want to travel the world for a year together with you, who is going

to whatever your list of wants and desires and needs might be.

So this is very important.

Now, let's say you met somebody and they fit all of your requirements and all that stuff

and everything is looking great.

This is where the emotional connection really comes into play.

This is where what we call Advanced Relational Skills come into play because yeah, you know,

you might meet the right person for you, but maybe you just don't have the interpersonal

skills, the communication skills or whatever to be able to talk to that person, to be able

to engage that person, to be able to convince that person to go out on a date with you or

to spend time with you or to spend a lifetime together with you.

Um, and that's where the quality of the emotional connection really comes into play.

You want to focus on the quality of the emotional connection again, after you have already determined

that this is the right person for you to be in a relationship with and after you have

completely accepted this person as they are right now in this moment.

That's when you want to focus on the quality of the emotional connection that the two of

you have.

So this is where Advanced Relational Skills come into play.

This is where things like present moment awareness, or empathy, or curiosity, or composure, or

conversational skills come into play.

Things that we teach in our programs.

And this is where you really build up those positive interactions.

And again, there's countless things that you could be paying attention to, right?

You could be paying attention to who is initiating first, who is texting first, how long it takes

them to text you back, whether or not they "like" your posts on Facebook, whether or

not they follow you on Instagram, whether or not they do any of these other things,

right?

You could micro-analyze all of these sorts of things, but ultimately, these are not important.

Ultimately, the most important thing for you to focus on is the quality of the emotional

connection.

That is why we are really focusing on that.

You know, if you're focusing on all these other things, it's probably because you didn't

do a good job screening them first and making sure that they meet your requirements for

a partner or relationship.

So definitely make sure that you do that.

And then once they are, you know, golden with your set of requirements, that is when you

focus on the emotional connection and only the emotional connection.

If you are focusing on anything else, you are actually being distracted by things that

quite frankly just don't matter.

OK, and so that is the most important thing.

After you make sure that the person actually meets your requirements for a partner, and

then, of course, once the two of you start to come together into a relationship, your

job at that point is to get 100 percent committed to that relationship.

Be all the way in that relationship.

There are so many relationship problems that happen because somebody is maybe one foot

in the relationship, one foot out of the relationship and they're just kind of wishy washy.

They're just kind of like, well, we'll see if if you do this for me, then I'm willing

to commit 100 percent.

If you do that for me, then I'm willing to give you everything.

Right?

But if you really want to know if a relationship is going to work or not, you really need to

be all the way in.

You have to be 100 percent in the relationship.

Otherwise you're never going to know if it's gonna work or not.

So don't do this kind of like half-in-half-out kind of thing.

That's really mostly a fear that people have when it comes to relationships because oftentimes

people are afraid to commit, um, because they don't know how to get out of a relationship

and you know, I'm sure you've heard all these weird, terrible stories or somebody breaks

up with somebody else via text message or somebody, you know, does something stupid

like that, right?

And, um, that's not how you want to go about doing it.

And that's really the coward's way out because most likely that person just didn't know how

to end a relationship in a healthy way.

And so you want to be very confident in your ability to end things, to be able to walk

away, to be able to wrap things up a because if you don't know how to get out, you're gonna

have a lot of fear and hesitation when it comes to getting in.

So again, that's kind of the big picture when it comes to all of this stuff.

If you are having a dating or relationship problem somewhere in the spectrum, it's probably

due to one of those things.

Is this the right person for you to be dating?

You know, have you actually stopped and looked and accepted them as the person that they

are?

Can you accept them the way that they are?

Do they have the qualities that you're looking for?

Do they not have the qualities that you're not looking for, right?

After that, do you have the ability to form a meaningful, strong emotional connection

with that person?

If not, what can you do to improve that and once you actually start to form that connection

and commitment starts to come together in the form of a relationship, a marriage, or

whatever it might be, then are you willing to be 100 percent in that relationship?

Is there a part of you that's still kind of edging towards the escape exit, or wondering

what your Plan B is, or afraid to commit for some reason or another?

Because, if you're not ready to do whatever it takes to get out, if things don't work

out, then you're going to be afraid to get all the way in the relationship.

So again, that's the big picture when it comes to all this relationship stuff, that's the

big picture when it comes to dating and before you, you know, send in some sort of message

like, hey Clay, you know, So-and-So won't return my text message, what should I do.

Then you need to first go through this whole process.

Are they the right person for you?

Are you actually connecting with them on a deep emotional level?

Are you 100 percent in?

And if you're not, then that's what you need to go first before you start over analyzing

Facebook activity, text message, activity, or you know, whatever it might be.

So that's really what I wanted to share with you today.

And with that being said, again, we have our cup of tea and we have our computer here.

So let's go ahead and answer some questions that some people have this week.

OK, our first question this week is from Jay.

Now Jay writes in and says, "Why sometimes connection and attraction isn't enough for

some of us.

All of these things are there, but still the person decides not to be in a relationship

with one.

This feeling itself hurts a lot because it seems as if one is really not enough, no matter

what one does or doesn't do."

So when it comes to situations like this, as I mentioned in the opening part of this

webcast, There are certain things that certain people want or don't want in a relationship

or a partner, right?

Um, and you know, not everybody goes through the process of actually thinking about what

it is that they really want, what it is that they don't want and all that stuff.

But you know, people oftentimes have some inkling of what they want or don't want in

a partner or relationship.

So for example, like maybe some people just don't want to do a long distance relationship.

Maybe they've tried it in the past and it was just really difficult.

And so they've just sworn off long distance relationships for, you know, any, any number

of reasons.

Right?

And they're just closed off to that.

It doesn't matter if you're the best person in the world, they're just going to be closed

off to that idea because on some level they've already made the decision, nope, I am not

going to do a long distance relationship or, nope, I'm not going to be with a cheater,

you know, once a cheater, always a cheater.

I don't personally believe that, but you know, oftentimes people do believe that saying,

and they might think that you know, because you've cheated on them once or something like

that, that you will always cheat on them forever.

They need to just cut you out of their life because you will always be a cheater and it

doesn't matter what you do, doesn't matter any of this other stuff because they have

this strongly felt conviction.

Um, and this is kind of like them going through their own list of requirements and them basically

disqualifying you for any number of reasons, right?

It could be because of a long distance situation, it could be because maybe you cheated on them.

It could be because of something that you said.

It could be because of something that you did, it could be any number of other things

like that.

And so in situations like this, if a person already has a deeply felt conviction one way

or another, it's going to, it's not really going to matter if you establish a strong

level of connection with them or try every attraction trick in the book or anything like

that.

Because, if they just have decided that, you know, some quality of yours, some characteristic

of yours, some whatever of yours just isn't what they want to be in a relationship with

them.

There really isn't anything that you can do.

Now.

Again, like what I talked about in, uh, the, the final episode of Love Talk FM, it was

that you really can't control what somebody is going to do or say or anything like that.

You can influence it by how you bring yourself to the interaction by all of that stuff.

But you really can't control what somebody is going to do.

And if somebody is just convinced that they never want to be in a long distance relationship,

then they are just not going to go for it.

They're just going to be closed off to that.

So, you know, if all you can offer them is a long distance relationship, then they might

say, oh, well, you know, it was really nice meeting you, we have a really strong connection,

but I'm just not interested in a long distance relationship.

Best of luck to you.

Maybe things might work out in a couple of years if you ever decided to move over here,

I ever decide to move over there or whatever.

But, again, you can't control what that person is going to say.

You can influence it.

You can say, well, you know, what, if I came over once in a, a once a month or something

like that, and you know, sure, you might be able to work things out that way.

But ultimately, if they are just not interested in a long distance relationship, but there

is no wiggle room in their set of requirements for a partner or relationship or anything

like that for a long distance relationship to exist, then they are just not going to

be down for it.

OK.

And again, the whole long distance thing, that's just an example.

This could apply to any number of other outcomes or circumstances, OK?

So, for example, for me when I realized that I had a certain type of woman let's just say

that I was a sort of instinctively attracted to, after things really fell apart with me

and my ex, when I was around like 23 or 24, I made a conscious decision not to get anywhere

near people that had that kind of personality trait.

Somebody who plays the victim in life, somebody who is constantly depressed, somebody who

looks to their partner as their emotional prop to be the source of all of their emotional

well-being or something like that.

And, and that was something that was really important for me when it came to going out

there and dating and, you know, whenever I sense that somebody was like, that, I just

knew that that wouldn't be a good thing for me to get into.

Sure.

Maybe I was instinctively attracted to that kind of person.

Sure.

Maybe that was a dynamic that felt easy and comfortable for me, but I knew from my experiences

with my ex, and my experience shortly after the breakup that we had, with some other people

that was really not the right dynamic for me when it came to being in a relationship.

So what I actually did was I kind of made this list of things that I was instinctively

attracted to and then things that I really wanted out of a relationship.

And once I stopped paying attention to the stuff that I was instinctively attracted to,

that is when I actually start to have a whole lot better results when it came to dating

and relationships.

And within a short period of time, I actually met a woman that would go on to become my

wife and I'm, I'm very happy to say that she is not anything like the type of woman that

I would have normally been instinctively attracted to and I was able to avoid kind of having

a repeat of the same relationship that I had with my ex, but you know, just with a different

person in a different bag of skin, basically.

So, um, you know if your ex or if your partner or if the person that you're dating just has

some sort of deeply held conviction about, you know, any number of things and maybe you

don't even know what this thing or things might be that they just might not even give

you a chance.

Right?

And, and there's nothing you can really say or do about it now.

Sure.

You know, maybe if you really work on those Advanced Relational Skills, you can influence

them to give you another chance.

If there is some wiggle room there.

But if there's no wiggle room there, and if that person is just very deeply convicted

to whatever their belief is, whatever their limitation is, whatever their boundary is,

then there's really nothing that you can do to get past that and the best thing for you

to do and that sort of circumstance, is to let go of that person and create the space

in your life for you to welcome somebody who you know is willing to accept you for the

person or circumstances that you live in or a characteristics that you have and so on

and so forth.

So Jay, I hope that helps you out and please keep us updated on how things go moving forward

from here.

OK, and our next question is from Vixen on "When is it enough?"

Vixen writes in and says, Hi, Clay and Mika.

I had a question regarding what do you think are guidelines or items, instances that can

let us know that we should keep going or not with trying to get our ex back?

It can be an exhausting process and really quite difficult for some.

Some are tired of trying so hard and think that they deserve better.

You say a lot about it only being over if you actually give up, which is true.

You only actually have zero chance of getting back together with your ex or making something

work if you actually give up.

But then Vixen continues by saying, so I just wanted to know your thoughts on when you think

is the right time to stop things, not actively pursued the person anymore and to try to find

new love.

I know from your story with your ex that you had personally to make that choice as well.

Thanks.

OK, Vixen.

So when it comes to all of this, first of all like I said, you can give up anytime you

want to.

If you just don't want to work things out with somebody you can let go.

You can stop trying.

You can decide to drop that and go find another way to, to get things to work out.

But if you want things to work with your ex, if you want that relationship to work, if

you want to save that relationship, if you want to get back together, then, what you

want to do is you want to get all the way in, right?

Like I was saying in the beginning part of this show, you want to get all the way in

and give it a hundred percent right?

If you're halfway-in-halfway-out trying to calculate what the chances are, what the odds

are, if luck is in your favor, or fate is in your favor.

If the odds are ever in your favor or anything like that, then you are going to be really

half-hearted about things and you're going to be basically looking for an excuse to fail.

Looking for an excuse to not have things work out.

And again, if you don't want to get back together, if you don't want to save that relationship,

that's totally fine.

You don't have to, right?

There's nothing wrong with just picking yourself up after a breakup and saying, OK, that sucked.

Let me go find a different person to date, a different person to be in a relationship

with, right?

But if you want to get back together, if you want to reverse that breakup, then what you

need to do is you need to give it full, hundred percent of what you've got for a period of

time, right?

And again, it's not like, it's not like this is the last choice you'll ever make.

It's not like you're just going to say, yes, I'm going to give it everything I've got and

then you're just going to keep giving it everything you've got for years and years and years and

years and decades and decades and decades.

And then you're going to look up one day and you're going to be like, you know, eighty

years old.

And you're going to say like, how do I stop trying to get my...

That's not going to happen.

At any point in time, you can make a decision to not want to get back together with your

ex anymore.

That's absolutely fine.

And, ultimately that choice is up to you.

Ultimately the choice of whether or not you want to continue to make things work out is

up to you.

Ultimately, if you decide to stop trying to save things with your ex, then that's a choice

that's yours as well too.

But, um, me personally, as somebody who wants to see you succeed in love and wants to see

you find love, what I would do is I would look and say, OK, if it's been at least three

months, three to six months maybe, and you have seen zero progress with your ex during

that period of time, then I would personally, as somebody who wants to see you find love,

I would step in and say, hey, you know, is this still something that you want to do?

And if you say yes, then that's fine.

You can keep going.

If you say no, then OK, that's cool too.

But, you know, it's just me doing a check in with you.

And by zero progress, I mean that, I mean zero progress, OK?

Not that it's slower than you would like, not that it, uh, you know, it'd be nice if,

if you were already back together at this point or anything like that, but if you've

seen zero progress because you know, when it comes to saving a relationship, it will

take some time and we'll take some time to build trust, rebuild trust, rebuild connection

to get the other person to actually put their faith into you and say, OK, yeah, this isn't

the same relationship that I walked out of in the first place, and that is going to take

some time.

But if you're not seeing any progress, any progress at all over a period of, you know,

a couple of months, then that would really make me stop and wonder.

That would really make me stop and wonder if this person is really open to being in

a relationship with me right now.

If it's really possible for me to get back together with this person right now.

And again, there you gotta drop this black-and-white thinking, right?

Because even if it isn't possible for that person to get back together with you right

now because maybe they just have too much pain or too much hurt or they're just, you

know, resistance to working things out with you because like we were talking about with

Jay before, maybe you would be in a long distance relationship if you were to get back together

or something like that.

It doesn't mean that it's always going to be that way.

Things could be different in a couple of months or a year or something like that, right?

So just another example, you know, for me, when I broke up with my ex, we didn't talk

for I think probably about a year or two years or something like that.

And that was fine.

You know, we just weren't in a good place to talk.

We...

I didn't want to talk to her.

She didn't really seem to want to talk to me except for one time when she called me

to sort of dump on me and tell me about how much I suck as a person to my voicemail and

all that.

But that's a whole other story.

And then several months down the road, I ways just in a place where I had moved to a new

city, I was going to graduate school and all that stuff.

And I was just going through a period my life where I just wanted to get right with all

the people that I wasn't right with, emotionally and, you know, she was on the list because

of some leftover baggage from how we broke up and all that stuff.

And so (this is going to date me), but, you know, I got onto MySpace back then and I looked

her up and I sent her a message just basically saying something along the lines of, hey,

I just really wanted to apologize for how things ended with us.

Looking back, I understand why you were upset with me and I should've been more present

with you.

I should've been more understanding of you and all this other stuff.

And I sent it off to her and she actually wrote back to me.

She basically said, wow, this is what I've been waiting to hear all this time is what

I wanted to hear all this time.

And then we'll just kind of swapped some messages back and forth for a couple weeks.

But, you know, by that point she was kind of in a relationship with somebody else, actually

engaged to be married to that person.

And, it was just kind of weird for me because I didn't want to be like the guy who stepped

in and broke up somebody's wedding or anything like that.

So, that's when I kind of just bowed out of the whole thing because it was a little bit

too weird for me.

But again, there is no black-and-white to all of this.

Just because somebody doesn't want to get back together with you right now.

It doesn't mean that it's always going to be that way, right?

Just like, how, just because my ex didn't want to talk to me at that time, it didn't

mean that she was always going to be closed off to me.

In fact, it was kind of getting kind of hot and flirty towards the end before I had to

kind of set my own boundaries and say, OK, we're just going to stop talking now because

I don't want to be that guy that breaks up a marriage or something like that.

So just because something is a certain way right now, it doesn't mean it's always going

to be that way.

Like we talk about inside the Ex Solution Program, your ex has a certain emotional resistance

towards getting back together with you or possibly even interacting with you at all.

And this emotional resistance can be overcome by two factors.

One of those is how you bring yourself to the relationship, right?

This is where the Advanced Relational Skills come into play.

This is where the quality of your emotional connections come into play, right?

If you obviously are doing something that's going to make you have a poor emotional connection,

like begging and pleading, writing them a letter, dissing their rebound that they're

dating right now, or anything like that, that is going to cause them to pull back to, elevate

their walls and to not want to interact with you, right?

Obviously.

Whereas if you do something that's more likely to help them open up and interact with you,

such as take a genuine interest in their experience, asking them the, the "magic questions," all

of that stuff, they're more likely to actually open up to you and to interact with you and

all of that stuff.

But even if that doesn't work, that could be because a period of time just needs to

pass so that your ex can go through their own period of growth, their own period of

discovery to really start to let go of some of these negative feelings that they're holding

onto.

And oftentimes that can happen over a period of time.

If enough time passes, they might start to let go of some of that bitterness or that

resentment.

Now this isn't necessarily always true and sometimes time won't fix things, but if you

just bring yourself to the interaction in the right way, it can cause people to let

go of bitterness and stuff that maybe they're even holding onto despite time.

So there's really these two different factors of time and also the way that you bring yourself

to the interactions.

And when it comes to time, I mean really all you can do is wait.

But when it comes to how you bring yourself to the interactions, you absolutely have control

over that.

You absolutely have control over that.

And that's where the Advanced Relational Skills really start to shine.

But there is no real time limit, so to speak there.

There's really only a matter of whether or not you are actively interested in continuing

with this endeavor or not.

However, again, I would personally as a friend, not as some sort of person saying there's

a hard and fast rule that it is completely hopeless after three months.

No, it's not in any way whatsoever.

I know way better than that after helping people, countless people.

Over the years, I've seen so many people come back from things that, I probably would've

thought would've been hopeless situations.

I know better than to write anybody off, but, just as somebody who cares about you, I would

step in and say, hey, it's been three months.

Is this still something you want to do?

And if you say yes, cool, if you say no, that's cool too, but I just want to check in with

you.

And of course, if at any point you realize that that person just isn't meeting the qualities

that you're looking for in a partner, right?

So for example, if that person just isn't texting you back, no matter what, you have

to accept that there is a person that just isn't texting you back.

You have to be emotionally OK with that and not try to change them.

Like what I was talking about at the beginning of this recording, and based off of that,

you have to say, OK, would I want to continue to try to have a relationship with somebody

who doesn't text me back?

Is that something that I'm willing to put up with?

And if it is, then hey, that's fine, keep going, but if it's not, then you need to let

go of that person in order to create the space for somebody who is going to text you back,

assuming that's something that is incredibly important to you.

So anyway, I hope this helps you out, Vixen, and please keep us updated on how things go

moving forward from here.

All right, so those have been our questions for this week.

Again, thank you so much for everybody in the Modern Love for submitting your questions.

If you do have a question for next week, please go ahead and submit that again inside the

Modern Love Association.

And if you enjoyed this Relationship, Inner Game Experience, webcast, podcast, whatever

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CNN 10 | CNN Student News | March 30, 2018 | North Korea's historic relationship with China - Duration: 10:01.

Welcome to CNN 10 on this Friday, March 30. My name is Carl Azuz. We`re happy to see you.

For the first time in almost six years, Malala Yousafzai has returned to her home country

of Pakistan. The 20-year-old winner of the Nobel Peace

Prize is known around the world as Malala.

She spent most of her life advocating for girls` rights to an education, but that`s

something that the Taliban, a terrorist group that operates in

Afghanistan and Pakistan has tried to prevent. They attempted to assassinate Malala in 2012,

but she survived the shooting. And afterwards,

she continued her own education, as well as her fight for children`s rights worldwide.

There was a lot of security when she visited Pakistan early Thursday. Some people there

see her as a hero. Others see her as an agitator, who should

be silenced. But here visit defied Taliban threats to attack her again and fulfill her

dream of touching the ground of home.

There`d been a whirlwind of changes on and around the Korean peninsula, since the lines

of communication between North and South Korea open back up

before the Olympics. April 27th is the date when North Korean leader Kim Jong-un and South

Korean President Moon Jae-in are scheduled to meet at the

militarized zone, the border between their nations.

It will be the first face to face between Korean leaders in more than a decade and it

follows this week`s surprise visit by North Korea`s dictator

to China. That`s a nation whose relationship with North Korea has been significant if not

always harmonious.

(BEGIN VIDEOTAPE)

ANDREW STEVENS, CNN CORRESPONDENT: It just to be said that the relationship between China

and North Korea was as close as lips and teeth.

China has always been North Korea`s staunchest ally since Kim Jong-un`s granddaughter Kim

Il-sung established the totalitarian state back in 1948.

It has provided economic life support, ideological backing and support for North Korea on the

international stage. In return, communist North Korea

has served Beijing as a buffer between China and South Korea, saving China from the prospect

of U.S. troops on its land border.

But the relationship has been fraying since Kim Jong-un assumed power in 2011. He has

repeatedly angered Beijing with nuclear bomb and ballistic

missile test that led to a dangerous, potentially military confrontation with the United States.

Beijing`s calls for restraint and dialogue were largely ignored by Kim. Indeed some of

North Korea`s test looked like they were deliberately

provocative to Beijing.

But the recent frosty relations are starting to thaw. Diplomacy is now front and center

on the Korean peninsula. The isolated Kim needs the

support of Beijing and reportedly says he`s ready to put denuclearization on the table.

His country has been hit hard by international sanctions. And with more than 90 percent of

North Korean`s foreign trade, including its life blood

oil going through China, Kim needs their backing.

For China, it wants to assert its role in any future negotiations on the Korean peninsula.

Beijing`s bottom line remains denuclearization, but it

also wants to see Kim`s regime stay intact. The alternative is unthinkable -- a collapsed

North Korea with millions of refugees flooding into the

country. Or a reunited Korea with U.S. influence stretching right up to its border. There`s

too much at stake for either side to walk away from

each other.

(BEGIN VIDEO CLIP)

AZUZ (voice-over): Ten-second trivia:

In what year was an estimated one-third of the global population infected by a severe

flu virus?

1918, 1957, 1968, or 2009?

The flu pandemic of 1918, also known as the Spanish flu, infected an estimated 500 million

people worldwide. It was the worst in recent

history.

(END VIDEO CLIP)

AZUZ: As far as this year`s flu virus goes, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control is warning

that a second wave maybe on the way. What sickens so

many people this winter, making it the worse season for flu outbreaks in years, was caused

by a type of flu called influenza A.

Officials believe those outbreaks have peaked and are now decreasing. But they`re warning

about another type of the flu called influenza B. At this

time, those viruses are more frequently being reported in America. It`s possible to get

one flu after you`ve already had the other.

This year`s vaccine was mostly ineffective against influenza A. Experts think it might

be more effective against influenza B. With or without it,

most people do not die from the flu, but there are some groups that face higher risks.

(BEGIN VIDEOTAPE)

ELIZABETH COHEN, CNN SENIOR MEDICAL CORRESPONDENT: It`s always scary when you hear of someone

dying from something as common as the flu.

There are four main ways the flu can turn deadly.

The first and most common cause is pneumonia. The influenza virus can directly cause viral

pneumonia. When someone has the flu, it can weaken

their immune system so much that another virus or bacteria can enter the lungs. Infected

lungs filled with fluid making it difficult to breathe, so

oxygen can`t get to the rest of the body which can lead to death.

Sepsis is the second way the flu can become lethal, especially in healthy and younger

adults and children. Sepsis occurs when a person`s immune

system goes into overdrive trying to fight the flu. This causes inflammation which can

lead to a cascade of symptoms that ultimately ends

in organ failure.

A third way the flu can kill is by increasing your risk of heart attack. Experts say an

adult`s risk of heart attack increases six-fold in the seven

days following a flu diagnosis.

The fourth way the flu can kill is by dehydration, particularly among infants and young children.

The flu often causes vomiting and diarrhea

which can quickly become life threatening if fluids aren`t replaced in the body.

So, if you get the flu, when should you be worried?

Some people have a higher risk for serious complications from the flu, including the

elderly, children under the age of 5, pregnant women and

those with chronic health problems.

If this is you, make sure you see a doctor. If you`re a healthy older child or adult,

watch out for sudden dizziness, severe or persistent

vomiting, difficulty breathing, pain or pressure in the chest or abdomen, and flu-like symptoms

that improve, then return with a fever or worse

cough.

(END VIDEOTAPE)

AZUZ: It`s Major League Baseball season in America. Opening day was yesterday. Twenty-six

teams went head to head and the first of the one 162

games they`ll play throughout the summer. And while they`re focused on fields with diamonds,

today`s positive athlete is focused on one with

goalposts.

Kendall Brest was diagnosed with a heart disorder, he and his coach, who`s also his dad, found

another way Kendall could stay in the game.

(BEGIN VIDEOTAPE)

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: We had a home game here on a Friday and Kendall, you know, was getting

ready for school.

KENDALL BREST, POSITIVE ATHLETE: I stood up and I stretched up and really dizzy, I started

falling over and got numb on one side of the body, my

speech was all slurred and I had no clue what`s going on.

UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: I took him for a CAT scan at the local hospital and we literally

walked back into the school and my cellphone rang, and they

said, you need to bring him back to the ER because he had a stroke.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: We were in shock, we are in disbelief.

BREST: They diagnosed with LVNC which stands for left ventricular noncompaction. They just

in the end ruled out playing physical contact

sports, because taking a hit to the chest could result in bad things.

UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: The conversation basically revolved around, your playing days are over.

If there`s something ahead that will be bigger and

better and you don`t even know what that is right now.

BREST: We`re so close to our doctors down in Pittsburgh and we decided we want to give

back for so much they did for us. So, we decided there`s a

camp for kids that have heart ailments like I do, and we decided to give back.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: And the inspiration was having a #kendallstrong game.

UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: Honestly, in my heart, I thought, I want to raise $1,000. But secretly,

I was hoping for $5,000. I never believed it would

be $10,000.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: You get that.

BREST: Yes.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: Make sure at half-time, you talk to the centers --

(CROSSTALK)

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: Kendall got into coaching because he wanted to be a part of the program.

BREST: It`s just the number one thing I knew I can do because I`m finding new things about

coaching football.

Jake, Jake, you`re ready, you`re ready.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: It`s his junior year. That was the longest season of my life, and one

of the greatest thrills was as a dad, after winning

championship his junior year was (INAUDIBLE)

BREST: It just felt like such a special season, and setbacks and the great story, and we just

gave each other a big hug afterwards.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: And he said, we did it, dad. And I`ll never forget that.

(END VIDEOTAPE)

AZUZ: Aurora borealis, the Northern Lights, get a lot of coverage in the media. But how

about aurora australis? Just as incredible, just as

incredible to see, just in another hemisphere.

These pictures come to us from a photographer named Brad Phipps. He was one of the passengers

who flew from New Zealand to the Antarctic Circle

where he was able to capture the southern lights from his airplane window and then put

together this time lapse video.

So, if you thought the northern lights were the only game in town, australisten up. The

green glow over the Antarctic is every bit as

aurorable. Sure, some might make light of it, or say it`s not boreali-the- same but

scientifically speaking, the only difference between them is their pole position.

I`m Carl Azuz. Hope you have a great Easter weekend and we`re looking forward to seeing

you again on Monday.

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This podcast wants to change your relationship to the news - Duration: 3:29.

MICHAEL BARBARO, The New York Times: When I was a political reporter at The Times, you

would have all these moments where you wish that a camera crew or an audio team were with

you.

It was 2011, and I was in the Las Vegas hotel of real estate developer Donald Trump.

His wife, Melania, was in the nearby bedroom wearing a bathrobe, because he asked me to

meet her and she was feeling reticent about it because she was wearing a bathrobe.

And he just said some of the most extraordinary things, the one I remember best being that

the way he thought about same-sex marriage was how he thought about whether to use the

new kind of putter that men were using in golf.

And he said, I can't -- kind of wrap my head around using this.

I can't make that change.

And that was what he compared to his relationship to same-sex marriage.

He kind of just wasn't there yet.

My biggest objection to the kind of contemporary forum of news and news storytelling is that

it often feels like the story, whether it's a TV segment or a radio news segment or a

newspaper story, it's kind of beginning in the middle.

There's a government shutdown.

There's a crisis in Myanmar.

There's a ballistic missile that's being tested by North Korea.

In almost every case, the real story requires the clock to start way, way earlier.

And what "The Daily" does, I think uniquely, is say, no, no, no, we are really going to

start this story where you need it to begin to understand it.

The thing we love to do is genuinely surprise people in the morning.

So, you have had three or four days of coverage of President Trump, of Congress, of the shutdown.

Tomorrow, you're going to wake up, we're going to tell you 30-minute, operatic tale of Tonya

Harding and her entire life.

The idea of "The Daily" was to change the relationship between the consumer of the news

and the presentation of the news.

We did an interview the night that the United States started to bomb Syria after it had

determined that chemical warfare had been used on the Syrian people by Bashar al-Assad.

And we called up one of our dearest colleagues, Helene Cooper, at home while she was reporting

the story, and we asked her a pretty provocative question.

Did these missile strikes on Syria by the U.S., did they mean that we're at war with

Syria?

And instead of filibustering or pretending that she knew the answer, Helene said, "Michael,

I just -- I just don't know that.

I don't have an answer to that."

Inevitably, when you're transforming a story and making it human and generating all the

intimacy of sound and letting someone really hear a journalist grappling with a story,

you inevitably -- you have a different relationship with that journalist.

Your bond with them changes.

Your understanding of their mind changes and that relationship deepens.

So, that's the not-so-secret secret mission of "The Daily."

I'm Michael Barbaro, and this is my Brief But Spectacular take on "The Daily."

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Selena Gomez's Mom Responds to Justin Bieber Relationship Rumors - Duration: 1:54.

Selena Gomez's Mom Responds to Justin Bieber Relationship Rumors

EXCLUSIVE!. Selena Gomezs mom doesnt know much about her daughters current relationship status with Justin Bieber, because they simply dont talk about it.

E! News Will Marfuggi caught up with producer Mandy Teefey on Wednesday at the Alliance for Childrens Rights 26th Annual Dinner in Beverly Hills, Calif., where she shared with us why the organization is important to her.

Ive actually been a part of the organization for a while and I really love what they do, Mandy said.

I was adopted and to have that support and everybody coming together to support getting people out of the foster system, I think is really important..

  Mandy and Selena are both executive producers of the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why, which recently wrapped production on season two. And while the mother-daughter duo might talk about business, they dont talk about Selenas relationship with Justin, according to Mandy.

After the Wolves singer reunited with Justin at the end of 2017, a source told E! News that Selenas family was not happy about it.

In early March, E! News revealed that Justin and Selena are on a break and since then, Justin has been hanging out with model Baskin Champion.

So whats really going on with Jelena? You would know before I did, Mandy told us Wednesday. We dont talk about it..

Take a look at the video above to see what Mandy had to say about Selena, Justin and the projects shes currently working on!. Dont miss E! News every weekday at 7 and 11 p.

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