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- Hello my friends, Kaitlyn here.

And what happens after a relationship ends?

I mean, there are countless videos out there about breakups

and how to get over a breakup and yada yada yada.

I have contributed plenty of them!

But what about the parts of a relationship

that stay with you long after the breakup?

The post-relationship scars?

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So I've had three relationships

that I would consider serious in my lifetime.

And one of the things I found

to be consistent with all of them,

is how I found myself with scars stemming from them.

What I mean is,

ways the experience of the relationship has influenced me,

maybe good, maybe bad.

You gotta remember that scars aren't necessarily bad,

they're just physical indicators

of things that have happened to us.

Although I think the bad ones

are what tend to stick out to us over time.

Even though it's been years

since I dated my high school and college boyfriends,

there are still things that happen and will remind me

of something from so long ago and just, oh it can hurt!

I think what's important to remember

is that every relationship you're in, influences who you are

and how you act in future relationships.

Like right now,

I'm finding lots of bad habits and coping mechanisms

that I created in response to being with my ex.

And bringing those into any kind of new dating situation

that I'm in now

is making me realize how messed up they were.

And it's a lot of dumb things too.

Like my ex was very disorganized and forgetful

and so I kind of became the "Keeper of the Keys."

I kind of took on this responsibly

to know where his keys and wallet and stuff was at all times

and to know his calendar

so I could remind him of important things.

Because I learned when I didn't

then bad things would happen.

Like he'd lock his keys in his car, or get his car towed,

or lose his wallet in airport security.

All of these things really happened.

It was a mess sometimes.

So then I find myself being extra reactive with any guy now,

assuming that I'm going to have to be responsible

for his keys or stuff or whatever.

I had to have a pretty frank conversation recently

where a guy was like

"You are not responsible for my stuff, okay?

"It is not your job to be my keeper."

And that's just so revolutionary to me

because I spent so many years

being the one that had to be responsible.

So there's dumb stuff like that,

that just kinda sticks with you

until you kind of run face first into it

or someone points it out to you.

But there's also tougher stuff.

Stuff that sticks with you for a long time.

I talked about, in my "We Broke Up" video,

that I had to do a lot of emotional labor

in our relationship

and the fear of having to do that again

can be really overwhelming sometimes.

Like wanting to always stay an arm's length away

or basically overreacting

and being afraid of dealing with any emotional stuff

for fear of it all being dumped on me eventually.

Or like how ugly and unloved I was feeling

by the last year of our relationship,

and so it's really difficult for me now

to see myself as attractive,

as a person who someone would want to be with.

And pretty much if someone tells me

they think I'm attractive,

I assume that they are lying

and/or have have some sort of ulterior motive.

Because obviously they're wrong, right?

If my ex fell out of love with me

then how could anyone else find me attractive?

You see, that kind of messed up thinking?

Whoa, okay!

Not to be all super negative!

Because the positive side of all of this

is that once you start to see the scars and wounds

you have from a past relationship,

you have to take them and learn something from them.

Which, ho ho ho ho, I know is hecka hard!

But this is why self-reflection is great!

And super important in life.

So I am slowly finding all these scars

from my most recent relationship

and I'm trying to figure out

how to make them a lesson and not a detriment.

Not using them as an excuse for the way I act,

but instead trying to grow and change.

And not letting past hurts make me bitter or angry

or afraid of being in a relationship again.

It's a process, ya'll, but we can do it!

So for the question today,

I wanna know what some of your post-relationship scars are.

But, you gotta think of ways that you have learned from them

or grown or changed from them too.

Turning a negative into a positive!

Tell me down in the comments,

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And I'll see you guys next Thursday!

Bye! (blows kiss)

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3 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship (AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT) - Duration: 4:53.

Not sure if you're in the right or wrong relationship?

Keep watching so we can get you clear and I'll tell you what to do about it

Welcome to Power Love TV, my name is Michelle Baxo and for the best advice for women on

falling in love without compromising yourself, subscribe to my channel and hit the bell so

you're notified of our new videos every week.

Let me guess, your mind won't shut up.

You have this nagging thought that maybe this relationship isn't THE ONE after all.

I've been there myself and I do this professionally so let's get you clear, shall we?

First I need to say, determining whether or not you're in the right relationship is

impossible if you're not whole and complete within yourself.

So, the first sign to look for actually has nothing to do with him and everything to do

with YOU.

Ask yourself this: AM I LIVING AND ACTING CONSISTENT WITH MY VALUES?

AM I ALIGNED?

Or are you letting him take the lead of MY LIFE

If your actions and mindset are not aligned with what's important to YOU, than you haven't

given this relationship a real chance, and you need to make it YOUR job to be aligned

and happy within yourself by aligning your values with your mindset and actions.

Until you do that, NO relationship will feel quite right.

Does that mean you need to leave the relationship?

Not necessarily.

But getting yourself aligned should be your first focus, with or without him.

How effective are you with communicating your needs and boundaries?

Are you being your whole self in this relationship or are you starting to lose your sense of

self?

Tell me about it in the comments below.

The Second Sign that you're in the wrong relationship is that he doesn't respect

your values.

Now again, you have to give the guy a chance by communicating your values, what's important

to you and you have to be the police of your alignment.

HOWEVER, if he's trying to talk you out of going to yoga, laughing at you for trying

to better yourself with personal development courses and/or trying to convince you to live

a lifestyle outside of your values, then consider this is the WRONG relationship.

Third sign that you're in the wrong relationship is that you both want different things from

the relationship.

This can be so hard to face, especially if you're having fun now or you're trapped

in the mindset that something is better than nothing.

So I suppose it depends on what stage of life you're in.

The women I work with want to be with the person they are going to share their life

with.

So if that's you, you need to make sure he's on the same page.

If you want kids and he doesn't then you're in the wrong relationship.

If you want monogamy and he doesn't, wrong relationship.

If you want to wait a period of time before getting physically intimate and he's making

you feel guilty for it, then you are in the wrong relationship.

He's not a bad person for any of this, it's just simply not a match.

So let's say it's starting to look like you're in the wrong relationship, what do

you do?

Well first, you need to give this guy a chance to win with you.

If he doesn't know the rules, he can't win, so grab your courage and TALK to him

(not text, not a letter, TALK).

Tell him what your values are and help him understand how he can respect your values

and your boundaries.

Be clear about what you want in the future and find out if he wants the same.

After that, it's fair game.

Now maybe a part of you suspects that this relationship resembles an all-too-familiar

pattern.

For this, I have a free worksheet for you to complete so you can get clear on how your

past is influencing ALL your relationships.

For your own BLAST YOUR PAST workbook, go to the description box and you can access

it from there.

Tell me if this was helpful and if you have other questions!

Write in the comments below.

If you liked this video, click like, SUBSCRIBE and hit the bell and you're welcome to share this with anyone you think would make a difference with.

Extraordinary women Deserve Extraordinary Love.

Take Care

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Ask Me Anything Zambia: What is the Relationship Between Reading and Writing? - Duration: 1:55.

There's a huge relationship between reading and writing so every now and

again I'll get writer's block or something like that I'll say I don't

know what to write about and my wife will say have you been reading books

lately and I'll say no I have been reading books lately

well go read some books and as you read it a)

teaches you how to write because

you're learning how other people learn to express themselves and express

themselves clearly and b) you're gathering ideas right you're every time

I read a book I come away with a couple of ideas for articles that might just be

tracing the person's thought I'll just say I read this book here's what they

said or it might be writing a review of that book I read this book and here's

why you should read it or here's why you should not read it or I'm just finding

an idea finding us a little thing in that book that works in my mind that

helps me helps me think and gets me going with an idea. Maybe I've heard it

said that you don't well you don't read a book for the

entire book if you read a book and find a single sentence in that book that

sticks in your mind that's well worth reading the entire book for.

I think Piper says books don't change life sentences do. So if you read

that big book and there's one sentence that resonates and you can write a

couple of articles about it and you can just practice that in your own life I

gladly read 240 pages just to get that one idea that can that can resonate so

and the joy later is reading that book again and realizing how deeply it

impacted your life

you

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🔷 "Trapped" In Relationship With Khloe?🍦Tristan Thompson - Duration: 2:55.

Well, here's a twist that nobody saw coming.

All this time we figured Tristan Thompson was groveling at Khloe Kardashian's feet,

begging her to forgive him for cheating while she was carrying his child .

But according to a new report from Radar Online, Khloe is the one who's desperate to make this

relationship work, despite the many, many signs that it's time to call it quits.

A source tells the site that Tristan is currently in Los Angeles with Khloe and her familly

-- and he's hating every second of it.

"She will not let him leave, telling him that he has months before training season

even starts," says the insider .

Tristan is still in contact with at least one of his side-chicks, and there have been

other indicators that he's eager to return to the single life.

But apparently Khloe has been turning a blind eye to all of them.

It seems Thompson is willing to compromise by allowing Khloe to accompany him back to

Cleveland, but she wants no part of that plan.

"Tristan's more than happy to take True back to Cleveland, but Khloe insists she doesn't

want to go back there for a while," says the source.

We suppose that makes sense, as Khloe just spent the entire NBA playoffs alone at Tristan's

house while he traveled with the Cleveland Cavaliers.

Khloe's mother and sisters are all in LA, as well as her livelihood, and sources say

she's been desperate to get back home.

But apparently, Tristan is not at all open to the idea of spending his entire summer

on the West Coast.

Khloe's family has been encouraging her to dump Tristan for months, so not surprisingly,

they're totally on board with letting him head back to Cleveland.

"The best thing for the both of them would be space," the source says, noting that

Khloe has been resistant to that idea, as she "wants the family thing so bad."

Sadly, it seems Tristan is simply not on the same page:

"He feels trapped in this situation and feels Khloe's using the baby to manipulate

him into staying close to her," the insider claims.

Complicating the situation is the possibility that Tristan might get traded  and wind up

relocating to a city that Khloe isn't willing to live in.

We know they have a daughter together, but really -- how many warning signs can one couple

ignore?

Khloe Kardashian: Why She SHOULD Leave Tristan Thompson, But Never Will

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For more infomation >> 🔷 "Trapped" In Relationship With Khloe?🍦Tristan Thompson - Duration: 2:55.

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Relationship between mathematics and physics - Duration: 2:11.

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Relationship Coaching Intro - Duration: 1:42.

Hello, my name is Darla Colinet I am a life and relationship coach. I welcome

you today. I welcome you to think about what your relationship is like today.

Love can be amazing and frustrating but it can also be deadly.

Relationships can be fulfilling and happy. They can be frustrating and they

can be healthy and unhealthy. The question for you is what is the health

of your relationship today? What are you struggling with? We all hope

that one day we will find our love and live happily ever after.

Unfortunately, this doesn't always happen for everyone.

In fact, some relationships start out good or even great and then somewhere

along the lines it becomes very hurtful and mean and painful if not abusive. I

know this because I've lived through this and because of my life experience I

am here to tell you that when you learn your truth and you become healthy it

doesn't matter what happens in your life or relationships you can still keep

growing forward. If you're ready to discover your truth and understand

what's going on in your relationship, what you can do with in your

relationship, what you need to let go of and what you can't do then it's time to

set up your first coaching session. I look forward to meeting you and helping

you discover how to get the best of your life, your relationships and feel love

safe and secure. I look forward to seeing you soon.

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Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Relationship Update: 5 Tell-Tale Signs That Lee Min Ho's Ex-Girlfriend & 'Go - Duration: 5:25.

Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Relationship Update: 5 Tell-Tale Signs That Lee Min Ho's Ex-Girlfriend & 'Goblin' Star Are Perfect For Each Other   Some fans might still be shipping for Suzy Bae and Lee Min Ho, but the former Miss A member is now happily in love with her new boyfriend, Lee Dong Wook

In fact, the two have been proving that they are a perfect fit for each other. When the new couple started dating in March, a lot of tell-tale signs are seen that they are actually meant to be

Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Prove Age Doesn't Matter  Suzy Bae is 23-years-old while Lee Dong Wook is 36

Although an old cliché, with their 13-year age difference, the two are the living testament that age doesn't matter when it comes to love

 In fact, this is the same statement Suzy Bae said when asked about her relationship with Lee Dong Wook, per Koreaboo

Even though there are some fans who are not happy about them dating, their relationship remains stronger

Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Wonderful Serendipity  When Suzy Bae graced Strong Heart six years ago, Lee Min Ho's former girlfriend admitted that Lee Dong Wook was her ideal guy

At the time, the While You Were Sleeping star said it in front of the Goblin actor

 Now after six years, who would have thought that Suzy Bae and Lee Dong Wook would be in a relationship? Truly, a wonderful serendipity came their way

Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Both Now How To Deal With Fame  Suzy Bae started to be known as part of the girl group Miss A in 2010

She was only 16-years-old at the time. From here, her fame started to rise as a prominent actress

 On the other hand, Lee Dong Wook also started acting at an early age. With the success of Goblin in 2016, his popularity once again skyrocketed in 2017

So when the news about them dating started to emerge, they both handled it professionally

Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Are Both Known To Be Kind  Lee Dong Wook spent $10,000 to watch Paralympics with his fans for a night

Alternatively, Suzy Bae is known for being kind to her fans and workmates in the industry

 In fact, Suzy Bae even made headlines for supporting Yang Ye Won, who is a victim of sexual abuse

With their generosity and kindness, this couple will surely come a long way. Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Love Privacy  Although Suzy Bae and Lee Dong Wook openly talk about their ideal types in a partner, the couple never speaks about their relationships in public

In fact, the My Girl actor never had a public romance while Lee Min Ho's ex-girlfriend never liked to discuss her relationships

 In addition, Suzy Bae admitted in Happy Together that she was "trying to be careful" not to say anything about any of her relationships

She also refused to talk about her romance with Lee Dong Wook in public.  

For more infomation >> Suzy Bae, Lee Dong Wook Relationship Update: 5 Tell-Tale Signs That Lee Min Ho's Ex-Girlfriend & 'Go - Duration: 5:25.

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Relationships are Everything - Duration: 0:48.

this large client who may be hiring you know a hundred people a year, you know

there's some big technology companies even in this space, what does that

relationship mean to you? the relationship is everything because when I

look at it, a lot of times it's not necessarily the client, I look at it as the

person. so I've been able to have a wonderful relationship, I've come through

for a person, they like working with me, all of a sudden they take a big role at

another company, you wake up the next day you're doing business with that company

and that's because of the person, it's not because of the company, because those

high-level hiring managers are the ones who are saying "hey I want to work with

Chris" "I want to work with bridge" so all of a sudden, you're putting a contract

together for that company and that's a great feeling

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Relationship Habits - Duration: 5:03.

Hey, it's Sharon Lipinski, the Habit SuperHero and welcome to the

Habit Huddle where I share a quick tip, an insight, or a strategy you can use to master your habits.

Because the only thing that's standing between you and the life you want are the good habits

you wish you had and the bad habits you wish you didn't.

This week, we're talking about relationship habits.

Taking care of your relationships is generosity habit number 3, because we know scientific show us that

people with and deep and meaningful relationships with others have greater and physical

and emotional well-being. We know that

people will recover more quickly from an illness if they have good relationships

We know that social isolation is as big a predictor of an early death

as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day.

And we know that their emotional health is better.

That they feel a greater sense of fulfillment, enjoyment. That they suffer from less depression. So your relationships is directly related the quality of your life, and

And the quality of your relationships is a direct result of your habits. So the questions you want ask yourself is...

Are my relationships improving or deteriorating?

And if your relationships are deteriorating, is there a good relationship habit that you can create?

Listening. Treating people with respect. Giving someone full attention.

Those are good relationship habits.

Or maybe you have bad relationship habit to break? And there a lots of bad relationship habits out there.

For example, interrupting people, criticizing people, being disrespectful talking about people behind their back.

These are all kinds of bad relationship habits that some people might have.

Fair warning, relationship habits are some of the hardest habits to change because

you have years of neural wiring in your brain. You have years of learning how interact with people.

watching how people interact. So you have all of this experience that exists physically inside your brain.

But you don't just have physical baggage. You have emotional baggage, too.

You have stories about what good relationships look like, what you

need from a relationships, what you want from a relationship, how you know you're in relationship.

So you're coming in all of that stuff and by their very nature relationship

habits involve other people, right? And they got all of their neural wiring

They have all their emotional baggage, too. So when that comes together, it can be very challenging to create.

Don't get overwhelmed though. Remember that repetition is the mother of habit.

When you identify a specific behavior that will improve your relationship,

look at my habit curriculum video. Identify your triggers, identify your action step,

identify your reward. And slowly, but surely, just gently, easily, consistently--

consistently can be the hard part when we're talking about relationship habits,

because we can be so easy to be triggered by other people.

But gently, easily, consistently, if you keep doing this new action, you will improve your relationship habits.

So here's the take way: In future episodes, we're talk about specific relationship habits

and how you can create a trigger for being a good listener and how you can choose a reward for not interrupting people. But right now, I want to impress

upon you that the quality of your life is directly related to the quality of your relationships.

And if you're taking care of your physical health, that's generosity habit #1 , and your mental health

so mindfulness is generosity habit #2, then you're going to have more physical resources.

You're literally going to have more energy. And you're going to have more emotional resources. You're going to be more patient.

You're going to be more comfortable with strong emotions.

You're going to have more emotional depth that you can direct to taking care of your relationships.

All the generosity habits work together.

It's why I chose to focus on them in my book.

So join me next week when we talk about the most important relationship you have, the one you have with yourself.

Thanks for joining me for the Habit Huddle.

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