the beginning of any new journey is always exciting writing down your new
goals making plans and marking calendars towards an achievement that may be
months or even years away but if you looks right around the corner you start
out on the journey with confidence fueled by the excitement of potential
although all journeys have roadblocks everyone hits a point where self-doubt
starts to take over them in their minds and prevents them from taking future
risks if you have a small tank of self-esteem to keep yourself going you
can begin to exhaust yourself quickly and lose momentum the finish line seems
to move further and further away and you can start to feel dread about your
current endeavoring goals self-esteem gives you motivation and purpose during
this journey but it must be built up throughout the journey some
psychologists say self-esteem is there to make sure that you don't embarrass
yourself in front of others which in the past could lead to being an outcast and
even death in today's world those outcomes are not as bad failures
missteps and a lack of patience can all chip away at self-esteem but there are
ways to build yourself back up in the face of any hardships now something
that's really important is to know the importance of self-esteem self-esteem
takes into account our strengths our weaknesses flaws and opportunities
self-esteem scientifically speaking can be where you see yourself on the
hierarchy of social status no person is perfect at the top but a foundation of
self-esteem can help you set aside imperfections when they threaten to
impede your progress when you build a solid foundation of confidence you have
the ability to handle rejections with your head held high having high self
esteem doesn't mean that you won't come across rejection though it'll just help
you get through it easier rejection is a normal part of life higher self-esteem
will however make the idea of rejection less daunting and encourage you to take
more risks the thing about more risk is that they tend to lead towards more
rewards and if you do it right the failures aren't that bad for example
it's said that Thomas Edison found 1,000 ways not to build a light bulb that's a
lot of rejection before I give you some tips on how to build your self-esteem I
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self esteem what are the biggest things is to practice acceptance often your
ability to build self-esteem is blocked by the ability to accept where you are
right now in your life you may often compare yourself to others feel down
about your current position or bring up even regrets and things that you feel
bad about from past events take a moment and take all these doubts maybe you
write them down if you have to and then throw them away and accept who you are
right now so here's a little mental example let's say you're in a busy city
and you want to get across town before you figure out where to go next you
first have to assess what street you're on right now and what direction you're
facing if you get angry at yourself for where you are now or you pretend that
you're in a completely different part of town you will never be able to get where
you need to go so the journey towards your goals and building self-esteem
works in a very similar fashion you have to accept where you are and who you are
right now start building self-esteem from the place you are at the current
moment in this moment you are where you are everyone is at a different place and
has the ability to move forward and backwards the road to your goals is not
always a clear and a straight path but in order to get there faster you have to
accept where you are and start figuring out what directions you need to take in
order to get where you want to be it's important not to accept defeat though
always be moving forward another thing that can help you build your self-esteem
is to trick yourself into having high self esteem in the beginning of your
journey you may not believe positive things about yourself affirmations and
statements about self love they might seem foreign and fraud now
if you want to be able to believe these positive statements you can actually
trick yourself into doing so and all this trick involves is repetition and
patience you can create the illusion of truth with a process commonly referred
to as cognitive ease cognitive ease explains how repetition of a phrase or
an idea becomes more comfortable to you and believable as we're continually
exposed to it the more that we hear something or repeat something to
ourselves the more we believe it and the more real that it starts to become this
idea can be used to make beliefs about yourself real now you won't change your
thinking overnight but after constant repetition of the same phrase or idea
you will start to say the idea more comfortably until becomes something you
can confidently say to others and then eventually you start acting in
accordance of that idea of yourself another thing you can do is to make
confidence building part of your routine so are you ready to start building up
your self-esteem use a road map and the idea of cognitive ease to help you
believe in all of the positive things that you want to see in yourself start
by sitting down and assessing your current feelings ask yourself some
questions like these what areas in my life could use more confidence is it
dating or is it money or is it family or even friends also ask yourself what do I
want to feel when I think about three areas of my life and what positive
thoughts do I want to feel about myself then write down a list of three common
negative phrases that you tell yourself you might hear these phrases when you're
preparing to take a big risk or planning the next steps in your life these may
sound something like I'm never going to achieve my dreams or no one likes me now
after you write these down cross them out and write down the opposite of that
phrase I am going to achieve my dreams people love me this is a very powerful
method of rewiring your brain and your thought patterns now you should have a
series of a bunch of positive phrases these phrases may seem fraudulent to you
now but your new confidence building routine will make these statements a
reality set aside time to sit in front of the mirror in the morning and
actually say these positive phrases out loud I know it sounds really weird but
it works this could be in the bathroom as you get ready for the day or it can
be in the car mirror on your commute to work whatever you do remember to say
these positive phrases at least once a day at first if you're anything like me
you're going to feel a little silly and awkward repeating these ideas instead
keep pursuing the idea that these positive phrases will become true
beliefs that will empower you to move forward if you make an effort to build
up your own self-esteem you will soon see the beliefs that you're working for
and the last thing is to put it all together
you come to a roadblock that threatens to bring you down take knowledge from
all of these tips to objectively assess the situation and take appropriate risks
even if things don't always go your way you will have a strong set of personal
beliefs that provides a cushion for your fault if you need personal help I advise
reaching out to a counselor a better help who is trained and what you need
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finding motivation or maybe you lack some goals better help is a great online
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link below whether you're falling or you're standing proud accept where you
are and keep pursuing the truths that you want to believe about yourself thank
you guys so much for watching I hope you enjoyed this video and I'll see you next
time
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