Hey there, this is Clay with ModernLove.Life and this is the relationship inner game experience.
Now in this week's episode, I want to talk about something which is the idea about whether
or not you're ready for a relationship, whether or not you're ready to start dating, whether
or not you're ready to create a positive emotional connection with another person.
And oftentimes people will ask me these sorts of questions like, Hey, am I ready to start
dating?
Am I ready to, you know, contact this person and go out on a date with them and all that
sort of stuff.
And this really boils down to whether or not you are relationship focused or connection
focused.
Okay?
Now, people who are relationship focused tend to have a very difficult time when it comes
to creating positive emotional connections.
Now, keep in mind what we teach here, the, the core message is that the quality of the
emotional connection is the most important thing when it comes to whether or not you
will end up in a relationship as opposed to whether or not you will have a great connection
and all that stuff, right?
Because the emotional connection is what a healthy relationship is based on.
It's not as if you have a relationship and then suddenly the emotional connection is
there.
It's not as if you convince somebody to marry you and then suddenly you're living this amazing,
wonderful life where the two of you are madly in love with each other.
It's not as if you finally get a girlfriend and then suddenly you're having, you know,
amazing, wonderful sex and life is perfect, right?
Sure.
Maybe that happens if the emotional connection is in place, but if the emotional connection
is not in place, then the relationship is not going to happen.
In fact, there's lots of people who are in relationships where there is no emotional
connection at all.
And, they just don't want to be there.
You know, either they have been married for like a million years or something like that
and they've just kind of checked out the passion died and they're just kind of quietly putting
up with each other or they're people that are in relationships and you know, again,
the passion has just died.
It's just left and there is kind of, you know, sitting around waiting for somebody to come
along that they can have an affair with or something like that.
And so you have to be aware that it comes emotional connection first.
Relationship Second, if you are one of these people who is relationship focused, you're
kind of doing it the other way around.
You want the relationship, you want a relationship, you want a date, do you want a girlfriend
or a boyfriend?
You want a union of some sort to take place.
And as this happens, you are overlooking the emotional connection, you are outcome driven.
You are not looking at what it takes to create that outcome.
So for example, if you wanted to get a boyfriend, okay, let's just say you wanted to get a boyfriend
and you were relationship focused.
You say, I am a single woman, let's just say, and I would like to get a boyfriend, so what
do I do?
Okay, there's a guy, I want him to be my boyfriend.
Nevermind the fact that you've never been out on a date with him, nevermind the fact
that you have no idea if he's a jerk or loser, a great guy or whatever, between you have
no idea if the two of you have any sort of emotional connection whatsoever.
You have no idea if the two of you share any values you want to be in a relationship with
that guy because he looks nice.
I don't know.
Maybe he said something clever or whatever, right?
And you want him to be your boyfriend.
So you're relationship focused.
You're putting the relationship, the outcome before the process that leads to what you
actually want, which is a high quality relationship.
You don't just want to be in a relationship with any old person, right?
You want to be in a great relationship with somebody who has similar values to you, who
you can get along well with, who you can be harmonious with, you can have a great connection
with you, can explore life together with and have a great trip through life together with,
and if you start to put the connection on the back burner because you're focused on
the outcome of the relationship of the marriage, of, you know, getting back together.
If you've gone through a breakup or separation or something like that, you know, anything,
you're really putting that before, the idea of having an emotional connection.
And when you do that, you are really sabotaging the emotional connection.
Making much more difficult for you to actually get the outcome that you ironically are most
interested in because you are not focusing on what actually creates that outcome.
Remember, the great relationship comes from a solid emotional connection.
And when you don't pay attention to the emotional connection because you're trying to get the
outcome, then that is when a lot of difficulties and struggles and challenges will really start
to appear in your life and in your dating life, okay, what do you want to do instead
is is not be relationship focused, but to be connection focused, okay?
And when your connection focused, you're not so concerned about the outcome, you're not
so concerned about whether or not this guy is going to marry you, whether or not this
girl is going to be your next girlfriend, whether or not he's going to want to be your
boyfriend, whether or not the two of you are going to get back together.
You're not concerned about that because you're simply living in the present moment.
Having an emotional connection with another person and exploring who that other person
is, right?
Because if you are relationship focused, if you're outcome focused, you're projecting
what you think that other person is onto them.
You're projecting what you hope that they are onto them.
You're projecting all of your hopes and dreams onto this other person without ever bothering
to find out, are you a decent human being?
Are you able to have a good conversation with me?
Do we have any shared values?
Can we actually get along together for more than like one hour and have it be, you know,
a great, rewarding, uplifting, interaction with one another and these are questions that
a connection focused person would absolutely want to know.
Whereas a relationship focus person wouldn't really care as long as it lead to the outcome
of, you know, the relationship, the boyfriend and girlfriend.
They're getting back together, the marriage to whatever.
What you really need to do, if you want to have a successful relationship in my humble
opinion, is to let go of attachment to outcome and not see the other person as a means to
an end.
Like, Oh, I will use you as a means for me to get a relationship so I can feel better
about myself.
I will use you as you know, because you're the nearest girl around who happens to have
a pulse and I will try to use you to get a girlfriend so that I can feel better about
myself.
You're the nearest guy around who happens to have a pulse.
Therefore, I will use you as a means to an end to get a relationship.
To get a boyfriend so that I can feel better about myself, your nearest person around,
with a pulse.
So I'll use you as a means to an end so that I can get a marriage so that I will feel better
about myself because I think that marriage is going to make me happy for some reason
or other.
Right?
And so that feels bad.
Number one, that feels bad to the other person.
They don't want to be a means to an end for you.
They want you to simply just enjoy being with them as they are, as I'm sure you want other
people to do with you.
You know, if somebody was to date you, you'd want that person to enjoy being with you as
you are, you know, you wouldn't want that other person to be using you for sex or something
like that because they feel insecure about their, you know, whatever.
And they think that having sex with like a million people is gonna, like make them a
pickup artist or something like that.
You want to actually have somebody who enjoys and wants to be with you for who you are in
this moment, and when your connection focused, you can actually do that with other people.
You actually have the space to enjoy being with people and connecting with people based
off of who they are in this moment and as you start to do that, you'll start to strengthen
the connection.
As the connection strengthens, you'll be able to have more and more of these moments where
you're together more and more of these moments where you're building up a strong emotional
foundation and the stronger that emotional foundation becomes, the stronger your connection
becomes, and as that develops, as that strengthens, its going to do what all strong connections
ultimately do in the end, which is to result in a conversation that says, hey, it seems
like we get along really well.
Do you want to be my girlfriend?
Hey, it seems like we get along really well.
Do you want to be my boyfriend?
Hey, things have been going really well for us.
Would you marry me?
Things like that, right?
Those naturally come up after having a great high quality emotional connection, so don't
put the outcome, don't put the relationship ahead of the connection.
Make sure that you develop the connection first and foremost and what their relationship
handle itself.
Be Connection focused, not relationship focused.
Now with that being said, let's go over and see what sorts of questions we have this week
from people who are enrolled in our courses over @ Modern love.Life.
Okay.
Our first question is from Vixen.
Vixen writes in and says, hi clay.
I basically sent him a text that you gave me some advice on a while back about wanting
to connect with him and that I had no ulterior motives, etc, and I entered it with asking
him if he was comfortable exploring being friends.
He didn't respond, but after I saw him, he has been more responsive.
Now my grandfather passed away so it had a big impact on me and I did tell him about
it.
He gave me his condolences even though I think he is still being distant.
I was texting him and I was in his area a few days ago, so I asked if he was around.
He never responded, but I inquired today asking him if we were cool and everything and he
said that we were and then after I asked about why he didn't get back to me.
He said that he was busy with graduate school work.
He said that he has been bad with texting and apologize, but he still didn't invite
me to his graduation party.
I know that I have to focus on empathy and how he feels.
And do you have any tips about how it can be more transparent with him?
I guess so that he isn't as distant.
I tried being very vulnerable with him.
Like I told him that I recently lost my job.
This is what I want to say to him after considering your advice.
Hey, I know you're having a Grad party.
I understand it might be awkward to have me there.
I'm not expecting anything and there's no hard feelings.
I also know it might have been embarrassing for you when I was hearing our friends talk
about it.
I wanted to clear the air with you and say that this is something that we could talk
about and that I'd rather hear from you than anyone else, which is why I was asking if
we were cool.
So if you'd like to tell me your thoughts on any of that.
I am here.
Thanks, Vixen.
Okay.
So overall, the first part of this message that you're sending to him it's, it's not,
it's not so bad, but, but when it comes to the end of it, where you're, where you're
basically just saying that, you know, if you'd like to tell me your thoughts on any of this.
I'm here.
First of all, that's not really a request for him to respond to you.
That's just kind of like saying, Hey, I'm an open door if you want to walk through it,
that's okay. and that's, that's not really a request for response.
Right?
And even if it was your, you're just asking him things like, you know, what are your thoughts?
And if, if you just want to know what his thoughts are, like maybe, Hey, I'm hungry.
I want to go get some lunch right now, or this is something that I don't want to talk
about with you, Vixen, or you know, something like that.
Then that's fine.
You can ask for his thoughts, but if there's something that you actually want to know,
then that is what I would ask him instead.
So if you actually want to know, hey, can I come to your graduation party, then that
is probably what you should start with.
Okay.
As opposed to a beating around the bush being vague and nebulous, pretending that you want
to know, like what his thoughts are when really you just want him to invite you to the party
or something like that.
Right.
So I would really just start by getting clear on exactly what it is you want to know from
him and then asking him that.
Okay.
That is that that's going to cut through a lot of this ambiguity and it's also going
to help you make a more direct ask because if you have a big nebulous ask, there is a
very low chance that somebody is going to respond to that.
Okay?
But if you can ask a specific question, then that is much more likely to have somebody
respond.
You know, for, for example, like right now, my wife, Mika and I were waiting for our baby
to come, you know, Mika is at 40 weeks and I were just kind of waiting around for the
baby to, to, to come.
And as a result of that, we have all these family members and friends and everything.
They're just like contacting us all the time, like, hey, where's the baby wasn't?
And you know, those kinds of questions are easy to answer because it's like, hey, has
Mika experienced any labor pains yet?
The answer's it's like, no.
But if somebody asks a question like, Hey, what's going on?
What's new?
Or is it that that is a whole big.
And, and I know you want to give him the space to respond in any way that he wants to, but
you would by doing that, you're also putting a lot of pressure on him to figure out what
he wants to respond with.
Okay.
So in essence, you're asking him to step up to the bat.
And you're asking him to invest more than, than actually you're investing in this situation,
right?
But by saying, Hey, what are your thoughts?
That's a very low investment kind of question.
And in order to respond to that, you actually have to invest at a very high level.
And, and if you don't have that degree of rapport with him, then it's very unlikely
that he's actually going to respond with that.
So what I would do is I would start with a simple, easy to answer question something
where you actually ask him something like, Hey, you know, in my example, hey, has Mika
started to feel any labor pains?
Yet?
That's a simple yes or no question, right?
That is not a complicated question to answer.
I don't have to stop there and think, I don't have to say like, okay, well what is the main
thing that I want to communicate to this person?
Like, no, I don't have to do that is just simply like, no, she hasn't experienced in
your labor pains yet, but it could be any day now.
And boom, it's as simple as that, and then we can actually have some sort of back and
forth dialogue going on.
And so, you know, think about what it is you actually want to know.
Do you want to know why he didn't invite you to the party?
Do you want him to invite you to the party?
what exactly is going on?
Just stop and think about that and then actually get clear and direct with that.
Okay.
So you also had this other question which was, do I have any tips about how to be more
transparent with him?
so first of all, when it comes to tips and transparency, like there are no tips when
it comes to being transparent.
Either you're transparent or you're not.
If you have to have tips in order to be transparent, then you're not really being transparent and
you're trying to create the illusion of being transparent.
I wouldn't recommend any tips for being transparent. if there's anything I would look at reasons
why you're not being transparent.
Is there still a part of you that thinks, you know, you have to play hard to get that.
Whoever cares the least controls the relationship, you know, men need to feel the pursuit of
the chase, the thrill of the chase.
Is there anything like that that you're still clinging onto that is causing you to say,
okay, well, I'm just going to hide this part of myself so that I can fall into this belief
of some sorts so I can adhere to this belief that I can conform to this belief.
Right?
Is there some part of you that's falling into that category because that can often cloak
transparency and replace it with an ulterior motive, it hidden agenda and all that stuff.
So, I would really just get clear on what it is that you want and just express that
to him in a way where you actually take ownership for your desires and it's not the bad vulnerability
thing that we talked about in a previous podcast episode.
Just take some time and think about what you actually want.
And you might be thinking, well, I just want to talk to him.
I just want to be close to him or something like that and, and, and that's fine.
Okay, but, but just think about what it is you actually want.
Why do you want to be close to and why do you want to talk to him?
Why do you want to be in a relationship with him?
Okay.
And if you can get clear on these things, then it will really help you to express vulnerability
and to express transparency.
Okay.
You have to actually have some degree of consciousness when it comes to knowing what it is that you
want.
If you're going to effectively express vulnerability.
Okay.
Vixen.
So I hope this helps you out and please keep us updated on how things go moving forward
from here.
Okay.
Our next question is from Caitlin.
Hi Clay.
I have a question about ANC.
My ex for one thing, has been constantly saying how we're friends, which has made me worried
even though I know that you say the friend zone doesn't exist with exes.
It seems as if my ex has bypassed the 16 months we were together and has largely put me in
the just friends land.
He also is friends with at least one of his other exes which worries me.
He also started seeing the other girl one to two weeks after breaking up with me.
Recently he's been reaching out to me regarding life stuff.
This current girlfriend doesn't understand.
He brings her up a lot and it hurts.
I thought I just wasn't an acceptance friends and the MLA had been telling me that I need
to do ANC since I haven't, but I'm afraid that it will make my ex feel abandoned and
angry and may even lead to him and his girlfriend grown closer, especially if they're taking
it slow.
Should I do ANC.
I want to get my ex back and I know the advanced relational skills are critical, but I'm afraid
that it'll backfire.
Especially with him reaching out to me with these life issues, I feel like I'm supposed
to be there for him.
I'm afraid that he'll take it the wrong way and can push him away without meaning to thanks.
Okay, so when it comes to active, no contact, the reason that you would do active no contact
is to improve your ability to connect with other people so that when you, and you're
doing this in a low stakes scenario so that when you come out of active no contact, you
actually have improved your ability to connect with people.
You improved your ability to connect with your ex so that when you are in a situation
that you might perceive as a high stakes situation, you are going to be much more poised, much
more composed and much more able to handle whatever happens without getting caught up
in often many of the obstacles and pitfalls that people have when they are trying to connect
with somebody in a high stakes situation.
You know, anxiousness, nervousness, walking on eggshells, all of that stuff.
You only need to work on the advanced relational skills if you are not able to have a positive
emotional connection with your ex right now.
If you're able to have positive emotional connections and interactions with your ex
right now that leave both of you leaving the interaction, feeling uplifted, connected,
rewarded, and just in a much more sort of warm, buzzing kind of feeling, both of you,
not just you, not just him, but both of you.
Then you are actually able to create positive emotional connections.
Okay?
And if you are able to do that, then you don't need to improve your ability to create positive
emotional connections.
So what I would start by asking myself if I were you is to be honest with yourself here.
Okay?
Don't let any of the fear of come in and say like, Oh yeah, we can totally create real
honest, great emotional connections.
Because in reality I'm afraid that if I don't stay in contact with him, he's going to drift
away and give them and become closer to his new girlfriend and it's gonna.
Submit the relationship in place and I'm going to lose my window of opportunity and so yeah,
we're totally capable of creating great positive interactions because I am totally not attached
to outcome in any way whatsoever.
Right?
Right.
I mean, obviously that's not true if that is how you feel, but you need to be honest
with yourself about what your motives are.
You need to be honest with yourself about how it is that you're bringing yourself to
the interactions they need to be honest with yourself about the impact that the interactions
that you're having with him are having on both you and on him.
Okay.
If you are satisfied and uplifted and feeling very connected to him through your interactions,
and that's a good sign.
If you believe that he is feeling satisfied and uplifted and connected to you through
your interactions, then there is a good sign too.
So if that is not happening, then you need to improve your ability to connect with him.
Otherwise you're gonna do more damage than not, by continuing to stay in contact with
him.
Okay? so if, if you're not able to connect with him, then each interaction that you have
is going to feel worse and worse and worse, and it's going to decrease the emotional connection
is going to cause the two of you to feel less and less connection moving forward, and it's
to cause the two of you to start to drift apart, and if that is the case and you need
to stop trying to connect with him because it's clearly not working and you need to improve
your ability to connect with him through something like adopting advance relational skills and
the best way to adopt advanced relational skills to do that in a low stakes scenario
such as active no contact.
Okay.
I would recommend asking yourself those questions to determine whether or not active, no contact
is the right way to go for you.
Okay, Caitlin, so I hope that helps you out and please keep us updated on your situation.
Okay.
Our next question is from Clyde.
Clyde writes in and says, hi Clay.
I would appreciate it if you could talk about a situation that seems to be very common in
people who are trying to get back together with their ex.
In my case, I think my ex is very convinced that I'm desperately in love with her heartbroken,
grasping for anything I can get from her.
Unfortunately, my past actions were indicative of such emotionally attached state.
It's normal that she is of this perception.
I can relate to how that makes her feel and I know that she doesn't want to hurt me, which
might be why she's pushing me away.
Hoping that the discouragement will make the love sick version of me give up eventually.
I know your advice in this situation is to stay consistent with the effortless connection
stage, but perhaps you could explain further how could my ex girlfriend ever changed her
mind and be more open to interacting with me.
Okay.
So yes, your ex, if you were in the past, if you were prior to the current moment in
time, behaving in a way that would cause somebody to think that you are lovesick desperate,
I'm obsessed with them or something like that, then yeah, they are probably interacting with
you based off of that past perception they're interacting with you based off of that past
perception.
The only thing that's going to change that is if you give them a good reason to change
that perception of you.
And this is going to take obviously a change in the dynamic between the two of you, right?
So obviously you're going to have to approach the situation, approach them, approach interacting
with them in a way that is not causing you to over invest to, have attachment to outcome,
to see them as a means to an end or something like that are you're going to have to let
go of that and you're going to have to actually be in the present moment, take a genuine interest
in them, have empathy and curiosity for them.
Have composure and not collapsing, or posturing all that stuff right?
You're going to have to do that, okay?
Now, beyond that, what you need to do is you need to have consistency in how you're bringing
yourself to the interactions.
Okay?
If you have consistency in how you bring yourself to the interactions, they will start to erase
their old vision of you and start to replace it with a new vision of you.
And this will take consistency, right?
Because sure, you might be able to put on a good act.
You might be able to hold in the lovesick desperate version of you and maybe one once
or twice or like that, right?
That could be a fluke.
That could be you just, you know, being good or something like that.
But, but ultimately the only thing that's going to really convince them is if they see
this kind of behavior consistently over a period of time, and if that starts to tell
a different story than the previous assumption that they've made from you, okay?
They'll start to actually trust this new perception of you that actually start to trust seeing
you in a new way.
And as they start to trust this, they will start to begin to create a new version of
you.
They start to interact with, okay, well you have to do is you have to understand, first
of all, where this needy love sick, I'm obsessed version of you came from.
You have to really look at this and understand where that came from and understand why that,
that is not going to be the case moving forward.
Okay?
You have to actually genuinely change.
You can't just kind of like hold your breath or be good or something like that.
You have to actually make a change.
Otherwise, you know, they're just going to be able to see right through it.
They'll be able to see that you're putting on an act or eventually the act will slip.
And you'll suddenly become that desperate, needy person again, only confirming to them
in their mind that yes, you are lovesick desperate, needy, all that stuff, right?
And that is not what you want to do.
So first and foremost, you have to make a real, tangible, authentic change to the dynamic
that you're having with them so that they're not walking back into the same dynamic that
they walked out in the first place.
Now, of course, at first they're going to be suspicious of this new dynamic.
They're going to think that maybe it's a gimmick.
They're going to think that maybe you're just putting on an act.
They're going to think that you know, maybe you're just being good or something like that.
That's normal, right?
Whenever somebody has a drastic change in their behavior, it's normal for us to question
that, to say, okay, are they trying something here?
They putting on an act, are they doing some sort of gimmick or they playing some sort
of mind game, right?
And it's only through consistency, through bringing yourself to interactions in a consistent
way that people will start to be a little bit less skeptical, a little bit less suspicious
of our intentions, and they'll start to say, okay, well maybe that's just the way they
are now, or the.
Or they might even, you know, put you to the test a little bit or just to see if that's
really the way that you are or if it's just an act or a gimmick or a stunt or something
like that.
And so what you want to do is you want to really practice consistency and of course,
consistency is really something that you can only practice if you've had a major substantial
change.
So what you need to do is you need to be able to tune into the moment, understand where
your ex's emotional state is, you know, are they hesitant, are they, you know, not trusting
you, are they concerned about something right?
And you need to drop all of the desperate, needy behavior that you had before and replace
it with.
I'm actually bring yourself to the interaction in a way that you know, is, all the things
that we talked about before connected to the present moment and are attached to outcome,
empathetic, composed, not collapsing, or posturing, not trying to use them as a means to an end
or anything like that, right?
You have to make those transitions and then as that happens, you need to be able to feel
into the moment and say, okay, does it seem like they are hesitant about me right now?
Does it seem like they're holding back?
Does it seem like they're concerned about something?
And if they are, then you can directly address that.
You can say, hey, it seems like you're concerned about something.
Are you concerned that maybe, you know, I've been behaving a little bit different lately
and that you think is just an act and that maybe I'm still that desperate person that
you remember from, you know, however many months ago or whatever.
If that's the case, and you can have a conversation about that, you can say, oh well, you know,
yeah, that was me for awhile, but I made some realizations that blah blah, blah blah, and
you can kind of do something to put their mind at ease and that might help them as well
too.
But ultimately it has to be through consistency and as you're, you know, doing something like
explaining this thing in this scenario I just created here, it has to come from the same
sort of way of being as the one that you're embodying in your way of consistency.
Okay?
So does that make sense?
So by consistently bringing yourself a to interactions in a certain way and then having
these honest conversations with your ex or somebody else, you have to still be representing
the same person.
So again, this can't be an act, this can't be a gimmick, this can't be a stunt.
It's has to be something that's coming from you.
It has to be something that's coming from how you actually are and what your way of
being is.
So, I hope this helps you out, Clyde, and please keep us updated on your situation moving
forward from here.
Okay.
Our next question is from Goodman.
Goodman writes in and says, hi Clay.
I did break ANC last Saturday and Sunday R an email to ask her about her life.
And to ask her to catch up.
Her reply was nice and polite, but she said that she is going to another wedding and travel
to California so we can probably catch up in August.
My thought is to say, okay, but wonder if I need to have a back and forth email in between
to create positive feeling before a phone call in August.
Anyway, what I've learned over time is my patience, after one year and nine months from
break now, a month or two doesn't seem that important to me.
Should I keep myself from too many back and forth emails before August.
Next message should be set up a time in the beginning of August to have a call.
What do you suggest?
Okay, so yeah, if she's just not available to talk to you because she's traveling or
going to some sort of event or something like that.
Yeah, that totally makes sense and then what I would do is I would just stay in contact
with her if it makes sense.
If you have anything to contact her about.
I mean, you know that that's an important distinction here is that you don't want to
just stay in contact with somebody for the sake of staying in contact with somebody.
You want to stay in contact with someone because you actually have something to contact them
about.
Right?
You're not just there to make noise.
It's not just a consistent amount of noise that goes back and forth that creates a connection
or a relationship that that's not how it happens.
Relationships happen because we exchanged something meaningful back and forth between
each other and if there nothing meaningful to say because you know there's nothing to
say because you know they're doing their own thing.
You're doing your own thing and you don't have anything important to tell them.
Then that's fine.
You don't have to tell them anything important.
It's about quality, not quantity.
Okay?
So if you have something important to tell her, if you have something that you know you're
going through your day, something pops up and reminds you of her or something, that's
fine.
You can go ahead and do that.
But if that doesn't happen, don't force it.
Don't sit there and say, okay, I need to send her something.
What is something that I could artificially manufacture that's going to make it seem like
I'm thinking about her?
Like, like, don't do that.
That's really inauthentic.
That's really disingenuous and it's going to cause you to waste a lot of time and energy
trying to think of something that ultimately probably isn't going to have the effect that
you want anyway.
If you can think of something and it comes up naturally and organically, then sure, go
ahead.
But if it, if it's not, if it's forced or something like that, then then don't just
let the next interaction you have be something in August where you say, Hey, I hope your
time in California was great.
Let's get together and talk at this place at this time or something.
Does that work for you?
Something as simple as that would be.
Okay but don't overthink this too much.
Just stay in contact with her if you have something to contact her about, but if you
don't, then don't stay in contact with her.
Okay.
Goodman.
So I hope this helps you out and please keep us updated on how things go moving forward
from here.
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