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hi guys!

meet us again!

hoshi and moli

and in this video, we have couples q&a

yay! so, i just asked you guys on my instagram

whether you guys have any questions for both of us

and today we will answer question that has never been answered before

so, if you want to watch our previous q&a video, you can click the card, ok?

because this video will be long, let's get started!

but let's make promise, the answer has to be honest

but after that, please don't be mad or cranky!

yes, okay!

let's be honest, okay?

okay?

let's do it!

let's do it!

what's the question?

okay, first question

who do you live with?

who helps you to take care of Aiden?

do you have baby sitter or other thing similar?

or you literally take care of him by yourself?

at home, there are both of us, Aiden, my mom, my old sister, and helper

so, at home, ever since Aiden was 5 months old, I already look (not baby sitter) helper for home

she helps me clean the house, after that helping me on Aiden

yes

and now, there is new baby sitter

his name is Mr. Hoshi

no

so, we value teamwork

at first, when Aiden was born, he needed ASI for quite a long time, about 2 years

for now, i become more busy

Hoshi helps me with the work

we shift our role as we see the situation

for example if i have shooting, hoshi will take care of Aiden

so, in a family, we have like a shifting role

yes, teamwork

so, in the morning, she showered and gets him prepared, I take him to school

and then I work

then, for me, I wait Aiden while working things undone

after that, bring him home

if we both need to work, we ask for help of mom or helper

next, this question

from you two, who is the dirtiest? and why?

the dirtiest? him

it must be me

because I'm man!

I am honest to myself

as man, we don't really like to make up, take care of everything

then, as man, I personally like outdoor activities

i love fishing and hold fishes, worms, crabs, and so on

that's not dirty baby

it's not dirty?

yes, i mean the dirty thing you do

it's you, probably

aaah, okay okay

who urinates and does not flush?

the toilet

i often flush

he urinates and often forgets to flush

yes

what more?

i sometimes do that

that's what it means as dirty

as man, in my opinion, she takes a bath more than me

next question

the most memorable memory when you two have no child yet?

the most memorable?

me first?

yes

there are lots, but as we do staycation now

so, i remember when i was pregnant, that was our 3rd anniversary

and at that time, our financial condition was not good, i felt so poor

but at that time, he brought me to spa, mom n jo spa

oh, okay

after that, we went to turi to go fishing

at that time, i felt so happy, i stressed a lot back then

after spa, eating, i felt so happy

that's one of my memorable memories

for me, the most memorable one is when we had our honeymoon

far away before we have Aiden

when we had holiday

there were unique activities, like rafting

when she had babymoon, we went to Bali, even though she couldn't try rafting and so on

but everytime I have holiday with her, it's memorable

get lost, but get lost has no good impression

she was mad at me

I was not

have you or your husband ever hurt each other until asking for break or real break up?

to be honest, we have been married for 6 years, for the first 5 years, it is safe, no big matter happens

after 5 years, starting from the beginning of the year, we have non-stop conflict

it is stressful

because we never have conflict

for me, personally, it is stressful

how to face this, actually it is quite long story

so, if you are interested to know and we are ready to share our problem and how we face them,

we may create another video, special for that theme

because it will be too long to say that here

because when we talk about it, we may debate that

until more than one hour

and you guys are confused

this is actually really important, we have storm, barrier, and challenges

we have conflicts that make us not able to sleep and get angry at each other

yes, we have

as this video has limited time, we save that talk for another video

I see Ci Moli and Ko Hoshi like teenagers,

do you guys have something to say to each other every night?

like saying I love you or others?

what u say?

tbh, I think, we are kinda sweet

we are married for 6 years but still okay, holding hands, everyday saying I love you

yes

what you say

yes

sometimes, when the situation is lovable, there is the right timing, we can say to each other "I love you"

so pretty, and so on

that's easy

sometimes, when we are in fight, when we are in conflict,

we have no mood to say "I love you", we still have to learn and say that "Beb, I love you"

and hold her hand and hug her

as to shift the negative emotion to positive emotion

when you just got married, dare to fart in front of your partner?

tbh, i am not

i think half a year or a year, i dare to fart in front of him

yes, of course, at first, we keep our image

probably because we were not in a relationship back then

yes, it was too fast, we engaged for 9 months and got married,

we just knew each other

and suddenly married

we were not dare enough, even picking up nose

to someone who is not so close to you, you will feel embarrassed and choose to hold back

after you got married and closer,

but at first, I was not dare

but now

because we have been together for 6 years

we know each other really well

but it is quite weird, for example, we are about to sleep, suddenly i get up and go out

and then i fart outside

he is really mischievous nowadays

he likes to do this

beb, pull my finger

*farting sound*

he's being so michievous

he's like that

at first, we kept our image

but after we know each other, it doesn't mean we have to fart frequently in front of our partner

but if you want to let it go, then don't hold back, just let it go

let it go

have you ever in a situation where you had no money at your early marriage?

and you are embarrassed asking for help from parents and friends?

what's the way out?

the method to overcome

the situation is during our early marriage, beb

not before marriage

oh, early marriage, okay

during our early marriage, we are not that bad in our financial

it was still okay

still okay

but after I got pregnant, that was the most difficult time

when I was about to give birth, we did not have money

and I ever said that I bought a camera by spending our saving

for buying a camera

for buying laptop, we did installment to mom, to my mom

everytime we got money, we paid the leftover debt

we were ever in a very terrible financial condition

i feel traumatic

with those difficulties

to be honest, I cant live up to those lowest point

but, it does not mean I always ask him for buying me things expensive

i cant live under those high pressure

every month we had no money at all

that's what makes molita that you now see

super hardworking

i can work according to my passion

and it earns me money

that's why I am persevered, serious, and put my 100% on it

and become hardworking person, beyond hardworking

lots of people ask, what's Ko Hoshi's job?

at our early marriage, I was active in foundation, service, church, school, and so on

the income was limited; besides, I did freelance, part-time, the income was not optimum

as I had to balance between those commitments

the time I felt suppressed the most is when I underwent third year of marriage life

we had no child back then

we went to singapore and checked up

then, i did not know, even though the hospital that i visited was general hospital

the doctor was expertise

when they asked me to pay,

let's say my income was this much

and the invoice i had to pay was this much

at that time, i regretted the decision to check up at singapore

that's one of the events that makes me realize that i have to increase my income

because, soon, i would have given birth a child

thank God, through this channel and your support

we are now okay

we are partner in this business

in this channel

so, for u guys who ask my husband's job

we both are partners

he helps me as youtuber

yes

this question

he likes to answer this the most

ko hoshi, the good and bad for having wife works as youtuber?

i have lots of good things rather than bad ones

what is the good thing?

free hotel

lots of benefit, thanks for the support from you guys and sponsor and brand

the income is good, we enjoy sponsorship coming to us, travel, trip, product, and so on

that's one of the plus points

and also the flexibility

we can arrange our schedule, arrange the project that fits and can either be approved by us

the minus point is busy and working behind the screen

so, this video, makeup video, or travel vlog, we bring lots of stuff, long time setting preparation, etc

and as vlogger, e.g. travel, people can be happy, we are happy but need to bring camera and set up

remind "don't forget to vlog" and so on

that's the brief of plus and minus point

way to keep the relationship spark even though old marriage and we have children already?

tbh, if we have children already,

the relationship between husband and wife is really different compared to when they have none

and it's not easy to maintain

and one of the way to keep them spark is this, we are having staycation

we try once a month to have staycation, once a week date, and whatelse

this is the genius when it comes to that

whatelse

telling u our background, we are a bit traumatic and marriage is not easy

we see lots of great people end up divorce

we are common people, see that kind of problem and stand guard

we make some effort routinely as what moli said before

and we make schedule,

like, this week is time for only two of us to spend together

without Aiden

Aiden sometimes bothers us

we make schedule for only two of us

every week and every month

and next year, we will go to Maldives

this trip is so far

let's explain

going to Maldives is one of my biggest dream

both of us, actually

you too

even though she does not like island life too much

Maldives is so beautiful

we really wanted to have a trip to Maldives, but it is very expensive

but finally we have the chance next year

go to Maldives

yay

and we are invited by the vegan network

so, they often make events conference and so on

and next year, on june 1-8, they'll organize retreat, so everyone can join

and we both join

so, if you wanna join, you guys are able!

let's explain how to join!

if you want to read the further details, click link below and they will open you the website

you can see the explanation there, read the details, and also the contact

but in brief, we are interested because going to Maldives is normally really expensive, but

the retreat that we will join in are 7 days 6 nights

and not only two of us will go, but a group of us will go

we will go there, have some activities, like yoga, eat healthy food

then, the price for the package already includes 3 meals a day etc

the price is much more affordable

if we book by ourself, it can be really expensive, but with this program its more affordable.

and through this program we can save up and pay instalments every month leading up t o the trip

do the installment every month

till next year

then we can go together for holiday

all over the world

there are some influencers, from overseas and so on

so, if you are married or you want to have a trip with your family or partner, you can click at the link below

so, it is all for today's q n a

sorry for not being able to answer all questions

there are lots of questions

but, next, if you guys want to know, we will create another session, ok?

yes

thank you so much for watching!

don't forget to check the link below for Maldives trip

okay, that's all

thank you for watching!

bye!

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CAREER VS LOVE | How To Choose Right Relationship And Not Affect Your Career | Career Guidance - Duration: 4:35.

The other day I was sitting at Taj Hotel with these couple of young businessmen

Basically, these guys are the students of a course 'Person to Personality'. Okay, we

were having a confab over coffee about something really important and I'm

surprised that this important thing is not discussed much. I don't know why. So I

told them many strategies and out of these strategies, I'm going to tell you a few. Let

me remind you once again. This plays very important role in your success or

failure. So basically we were talking about love and relationships. Then, I

showed them these pens first - metallic silver and normal blue pen. Then I asked

them to choose one of the pens. Okay, let me hold both the pens in my

hand. I asked them to choose one of the pens.

Obviously, they chose this metallic silver pen. That's why I always say

obviousness is a dangerous thing. They didn't even care to ask whether this

pen writes or not, whether this has something or not.

They simply went for the looks, and this is called contrast comparison. Most of

the times, we simply go for the looks. But looks can be deceptive, my dear friends.

As Sherlock Holmes says I've seen many beautiful women being hanged for

poisoning their own kids, so looks can be deceptive. You shouldn't get into

relationship merely because of looks. Please evaluate people by themselves, not

by their contrast only. Aristotle once said "Personal beauty is a greater

recommendation than any other introduction." Oh boy! He was absolutely

right. Emotions come before reason in our every decision. If not every, in most of

the decisions, and this can be dangerous. We not only get involved in

relationships but spoil our relationships also, under the influence of intense

emotions. Okay here's this interesting case - I met this guy 5-6 months back

and he was asking me how to become successful. Then I started asking him

certain questions and I got to know that he had multiple relationships. He wanted

to be successful. He was using 5-6 SIM cards, of course five six different

numbers. We seek pleasure today at the cost of our future. Big round of applause

for this guy! He wanted to be successful (oh my god)

in spite of having multiple relationships. I told him dude, you can

never be successful because you're wasting the precious time of your life

in something else. At 1 AM, you're busy with someone else,

3 AM with somebody else, 7:00 a.m. with somebody else, 12:00 p.m. with somebody

else, 1:00 p.m. with somebody else.. what the hell... and you want to be successful

Forget about it!

Always remember, every action has consequences. One wrong move, one wrong

decision, one bad relationship can cause you unbearable sufferings. You might have

to repent for your whole life because every action has consequences

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"Our relationship as a band is the best we've ever had" - Angra Interviews - Duration: 6:31.

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The Beginning Of Trump's Relationship With Russia - Duration: 5:05.

Does the Russian pee-pee tape actually exist?

I had to find out for sure if Trump had hookers pee

on Obama's bed at the Moscow Ritz-Carlton.

♪♪

[ Horn honks ]

If anybody on planet Earth knows about this pee-pee tape,

how it happened, and where I can find it, it's these two guys.

David Corn and Michael Isikoff wrote a book called

"Russian Roulette: The Inside Story

of Putin's War on America

and the Election of Donald Trump."

Oh, my God. I can't believe you're on this show.

You guys are legitimate...

Thank you. As opposed to...?

Well, as opposed to the other knuckleheads

and me, number one.

Why do you think Trump hates Obama so much?

The simplistic answer

is the 2011 White House Correspondents' Dinner.

No one is prouder to put

this birth-certificate matter to rest than The Donald.

And that's because he can finally get back to focusing

on the issues that matter,

like did we fake the moon landing?

[ Laughter ]

What really happened in Roswell?

And where are Biggie and Tupac? [ Cheers and applause ]

For a narcissist, I can't think of, you know,

of anything that would really be worse,

and he seems to have vowed revenge from that point on --

And -- And that inspired Trump to run for president.

Let's talk about the Steele Dossier.

Reporter: An ex-MI6 officer named as Christopher Steele

compiled the report, which contains allegations

that Russians have compromising material on the President.

I'm like, 100% there's a pee-pee tape,

no doubt, I told everybody, I tweeted it.

100% -- Allegedly.

So tell me about the chronology -- Moscow 2013.

Aras Agalarov, the billionaire Russian oligarch

who is known as Putin's builder.

He'd done all these construction projects for the Kremlin.

He's in Las Vegas. Yeah.

He's celebrating with Donald Trump and Emin Agalarov,

the pop-singer son of Aras Agalarov.

They all go, uh, for an after party

at a, uh, raunchy nightclub called The Act.

Hyper, super-duper raunchy.

The rotating series of acts was, um, one called "Hot for Teacher"

in which, uh, dancers posing as college co-eds

urinate on their professor.

We don't know whether those particular acts

were performed that night. Yeah. Yeah.

Fast forward a bit to Russia.

We know that early on that first day, Keith Schiller,

Trump's personal security man,

has said that earlier that day,

he's approached by someone who offered them women,

prostitutes that night.

He tells Trump about this offer,

and they kind of both laugh it off.

Schiller says that he then took Trump to his hotel room,

stood guard for a little while, checked out,

made sure everything was fine, and then went home.

Uh, if you actually dissect the Steele Dossier --

The first memo, uh, that Steele sent in,

he had found from his sources

that Russia had a years-long program

to co-opt and cultivate Donald Trump

and that they did have

compromising personal information on him

that could be used for what they call kompromat.

[ Man speaking Russian ]

One of these alleged sources

is a guy named Sergei Millian,

who's a, uh, Belarus American

who had done some business with Trump.

I think Christopher Steele referenced him as Source D.

Well, yes, you know, you know,

he wasn't certainly a part of Trumps inner circle,

so how he would have known about this incident

is also really unclear.

But he is from the Balkans.

Belarus.

Is that not the same place?

No. Okay.

[ Laughs ] Close. Over there.

Arnold: Sergei has since denied those allegations,

but I don't know whether Sergei was in the room

when the pee was going on,

or whether he was holding the video camera for the Russians.

I mean, it's -- it's pretty clear that I don't know

exactly what was going on,

but I know one thing -- we need to talk to Sergei.

Now, how would I find a guy

that special prosecutor Robert Mueller cannot find

or amazing, brilliant journalists cannot find?

Google. [ Keyboard clacking ]

"Where in the world is he?" That's what I'm asking, dude.

Source D that everybody's looking for.

Oh, Belarusian, one-time Russian government translator

claimed to have brokered

Trump-branded real estate to Russian buyers.

Jesus. This guy.

He offered investigators a tantalizing clue...

Oh, Sergei really got...

Bravo.

YouTube. Okay, what's he --

Oh, my God. "Million Dollar Listing."

Coming up...

Bring up that number. Not in Manhattan.

Not in whole New York. Not in the [bleep] universe

you'll find a buyer for this price.

I don't give a [bleep]

Oh, my God. That guy?

I can see him watching a pee-pee tape.

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Local group aims to strengthen relationships between parents and their foster children - Duration: 3:40.

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Relationship Weight - Duration: 0:26.

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Signs of a Toxic Relationship | Knowing When to Let Go (The Four Horsemen) - Duration: 4:47.

It's so common for clients to ask for help identifying whether a relationship

is toxic, but what does that even mean? In this video I go over four signs of toxic

relationships and offer tools to help you navigate them.

Hi there! I'm Dr. Marie Fang, licensed psychologist. Welcome to my video series

featuring tips and tools to help you be your best self today. Today we're talking

about toxic relationships. Toxic relationships aren't just limited to

significant other relationships and our conventional understanding of what that

means. They can also occur in parent-child relationships, employer-

employee relationships, friendships, and any other number of relationships that

can occur. Let's go over some signs of toxic relationships. Dr. John Gottman's

research on committed relationships identified four communication styles that

are predictors of the demise of romantic relationships. He calls these

communication styles the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. I know it sounds scary!

I'm going to walk you through them. And I've found in my experience that these

communication styles are applicable to all kinds of relationships, not just

romantic ones. The good news is, even if one or more of these communication

styles is present in your relationship, it doesn't mean your relationship is

doomed. There are antidotes for each of these

styles which I'll go over with you. And truthfully, all relationships demonstrate

at least one of these characteristics at some point in the relationship. Let's go

over the Four Horsemen and their antidotes. Number one: Criticism. Criticism

is an attack on a person's personality or character. For example: "You are a bad

person. You're so selfish! You always have to be right."

The antidote to a critical communication style is using I-statements rather than

putting the blame on the other person. Fortunately, I've made a whole video

about I-statements, so I'll link to that in the description box or you can click

on it somewhere up here. Number 2: Contempt. This is when someone speaks to

you as though they are better than you. So this could manifest as sarcasm: "Oh

you're just the queen of the world aren't you?"

Mockery: "I can't even believe you thought that was a good idea!" Cynicism: "You're

never going to get it right." and more: [scoffs] The antidote to contempt is taking

moments to practice gratitude within the relationship and taking time to notice

each other's positive attributes, Number three: Defensiveness. If someone

continually reacts to you by playing the victim, they're being defensive. This

shuts down any opportunity to equally discuss whatever issue is at hand.

The antidote to defensiveness is taking responsibility

for one's participation in a conflict and apologizing for any wrongdoing.

Number four: Stonewalling. This is when someone withdraws from a conversation

and never returns to willingly seek resolution. Stonewalling often occurs as

a result of buildup of one of the first three toxic communication styles. The

antidote to stonewalling is inserting breaks. When there's a conflict, take

some time to step away, cool off and regroup, and then make sure to return to

the conflict and find healthy ways to problem-solve and resolve whatever has

happened. The key to resolving any of these toxic communication dynamics is

that both parties must take responsibility for making change. If only

one of the two of you is committed to change, it's not enough to turn the

problem around. If someone in your life is demonstrating any of these toxic

characteristics, consider whether there's safety in the relationship to bring it

up with them. If you bring it up and they demonstrate unwillingness to work

towards change, this may be a sign to set up boundaries, and if necessary, to

let go of the relationship. Sometimes an individual expresses a desire to make

changes, but then they never deliver on their promise. So keep an eye on their

behavior and be sure to return to the topic if needed to pursue change. If they

continuously make promises that they never follow through on, again it may be

time to consider setting boundaries, and if needed, to let go of that relationship.

Let me be absolutely clear that this is by no means a comprehensive list of all

forms of toxic relationships. So if you're in a relationship that is

directly harmful or abusive towards you I encourage you to find safety and seek

the support of safe people or professionals as needed. Hopefully you

found this video helpful to identifying toxic dynamics in relationships and

when it's appropriate to let go. Until next time, I'm Dr. Marie Fang and I hope

you have a great day. Please subscribe for more videos like this

or watch another video over here.

This thing is in the way.