can you have an argument free
relationship is it even possible at all
now for me to answer that question I'll
have to tell you the process of how we
deal with argument so we defuse any
argument in 10 seconds or less it was
the first time you're dropping by on my
youtube channel I'm Katherine Thomas and
every single day I post one video where
I share tips of how you can enrich and
enhance your relationship now many of us
we've been conditioned to think that
there is a right way and a wrong way to
argue in our relationship there is a
fair way and there's an unfair way of
arguing in the relationship but let's
look at the definition or a few
definitions of what an argument is
number one an argument is a statement or
a set of statements that you use in
order to convince somebody else that
your opinion of something is correct
number two a discussion or debate in
which a number of people put forward
different or opposing opinions and
number three an argument is a
conversation in which people disagree
with each other angrily or heatedly now
that is the one that most of us we have
utilized in our relationships where we
argue and we fight loudly angrily with
our partners with our spouses now early
in my relationship I can tell you guys
I'm the one who started most of the arguments
and the ones that I didn't start I
and usually when you argue with your
spouse or with your partner it's usually
over some small itsy-bitsy tiny things
until though say there's a fair way and an
unfair way a right way and the wrong way
to argue why I tend to disagree with it
is that no matter how you argue whether
you argue fairly whether you argue
heatedly or whether you argue kindly
somebody is always trying to win the
argument somebody is trying to get the
other person to see that their opinion
or their notion or their thought about
something is correct
now if you want to argue you can go to
the court or you can go join the debate
team but you don't need to argue in your
relationship so instead of arguing fair
or fighting fair or arguing calmly the
right or wrong way as they put it why
not just not argue at all now there's a
process to reach in the place where you
don't argue at all and as I've said
before I was the one who started most of
those arguments anyhow and the thing
about it guys is that you can't out
argue a woman and in the process you may
win the argument but in the process
you're losing at heart and therefore
early in the relationship
we went through a a process when two
people just come together to live in
each other's presence one person will do
things one way the next person will do
things another way and therefore it will
take some amount of time for you to
understand each other of how you get
things done because it's by
understanding your spouse that you'll be
able to diffuse or not to have those
arguments in your relationship now in
the initial stages what happened was
that when we had a big argument or we
had
argument my wife would go and she would curl up
and she just not talk to may cry because
of things i have said or how i handled
the situation and then when both of us
were calm we dealt with it i wanted to
deal with the situation right there and
then as we grew it reached a point where
we argued and we trashed it out right
there whether it was calm or whether it
was loud we argued on the trash though
right there but then what happened was
that one or both of us left the
conversation not feeling fulfilled by it
and therefore there was a kind of
silence in the home then It reach
another point where we argued calmly but
at the end of the day we made up we hug
we kiss and we put whatever there was
behind us so whether there's a right way
a fair way an unfair way I've tried
all of them and it didn't work what we
do now is that we have a conversation
and we have a discussion two adults
sitting down together and we put a and B
on the table
and we discuss a and we discuss b a
good C and D on the table and we discuss
C and D are a B C and D and we work
through the process and come to a
compromise
or come to an agreement instead of
arguing trying to win the conversation
but in 10 seconds or less or how do we do it
well this is how I do it whenever an
argument is about to brew I turn it into
a job a hug or a kiss I turn it into a
joke a hug or a kiss that's what I do
when an argument is about to brew my
wife just hold on to one of my hands
look me the eyes
directly and begin to speak and when she
is doing that there is no way under
heaven that I can argue with her I can't
i just can't argue with her and I can't flash
her off either can't do that
well I've never practiced doing that at any
point in your marriage but I just can't
do it
so she holds onto my hands or my hand and
begin to look Me in the eyes and she begin to
speak and then it just get diffused so
the argument in essence does not start
at all and we're about 97% of the way
right now in dealing with that because
we're headed to an argument free
relationship once and for all because it
can be done who says you can't have an
argument free relationship it is by
growth and in another video I'll share
how where my thought processes were
where I am today and where I'm headed
and how I was able to get to where I am
today where my wife was able to get to
where she is today and where both of us are
headed because of what we have done over
the years to develop such a connection
such a relationship that in 10 seconds
or less we can defuse any arguments that
argument just doesn't get started
at all so in our marriage in our
relationship we've experienced going three
four five six months without one single
argument without a one single argument and
because of that the love just continue
to be embellished and the connection is
strong because when there are no
arguments the emotions don't get dry out
and when there are no arguments and no
fuss and no fights then we can focus on
that which is important in building a
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