such a large part of our human life is spent in dealing with people whether at
home or at work or with society at large we need to enter into so many
relationships and keep them harmonious to succeed in our goal of life and yet
these very relationships often remain one of the biggest enemas for people
today on the sixth day of the happiness challenge we are going to talk about the
art of having healthy and happy relationships consider this scenario a
three year old girl is walking next to her mother in the mall she looks like a
little angel on earth with a wonderful smile on her face however when they
reach the checkout counter the situation changes the girl points to a chocolate
in the Shelf if the mother gives it to her the situation remains the same but
perchance if the mother denies her daughter's wish that is when all hell
breaks loose the daughter starts stomping her feet
tugging at her mother's dress and screaming making her mother wonder why
did she ever have a child what transformed this little angel to a
demon in few seconds it was her expectations as long as the mother was
fulfilling her expectations the mother was good but the moment the
mother denied her expectations that is when the relationship got strained most
of us have not grown up from the level of that three-year-old when it comes to
relationships we have our expectations from father mother sister brother
husband wife son daughter as long as they fulfill them they are all very nice
it is when they do not do as we expect them to do that our mood goes off so
what do we need to do to be happier than just give up these expectations and all
expectations can never be fulfilled in any case the boss expects from the
husband that he will stay in the office till 8 o'clock to show his loyalty and
his dedication to the organization the newly weds wife expects from the same
husband that he will be home by 6 o'clock so that they can have quality
time together now if the husband fulfills one
expectation the other will be disappointed the disappointments are
natural nobody can fulfill everybody's
expectations and that is what disrupts relationships the husband came home
after a hard day at the office expecting that when he reaches he will be given
the Royal Treatment from his wife and children who will go gaga about the way
he has been working to fill their stock but the wife had been taken care of June
Amano at home and been frustrated she had another set of expectations the
moment the husband entered the house she said darling the coffee has been spilt
on the floor by the youngest son please clean it up and after that do help me
lay the dinner on the table the husband killed his expectations he did what he
was asked and then he sat down after dinner to watch the television when the
elder son came to him Papa will you play video games with me
please you have to play that is when the husband lost his temper and he said
nobody cares for me nobody likes me here I'm fed up of you all and annoyed and
furious he retired to his bedroom leaving everybody builded what had
happened instead of that if the husband had just lowered the bar of his
expectations he would have found a different response from his family
that is why it is said first try to understand before being understood the
others have their own sets of issues and worries and anxieties if they don't live
up to our expectations why not give them the benefit of the doubt when we learn
to drop these high standards for others while maintaining them upon ourselves
that is when we become better at relationships and are able to make our
lives happier this was the first tool in handling relationships tomorrow we are
going to discuss an even more powerful two
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