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Six Stages of the Relationship Life Cycle.

For every committed relationship, there are six primary stages that impact partners'

experience of mutual fulfillment as

depicted in the following chart.

Let's summarize on the chart first.

Courtship.

Honeymoon.

Internal Stressors.

External Stressors.

Stagnation.

Maturation.

Rekindling.

Settling.

Termination.

Here is a more detailed explanation of each stage:

Courtship – this is the exciting "getting to know each other" stage.

This is typically experienced as an exciting adventure

often accompanied with the potential promise of a wonderful and fulfilling life together.

Honeymoon – assuming courtship leads to commitment, couples enter into the well-known

honeymoon stage.

For the vast majority

of couples, this represents the pinnacle of their mutual fulfillment and can last anywhere

from a few weeks to a couple of

years.

Internal Stressors – once the thrill of the honeymoon period wears off, routine, distraction

and gender differences start to

erode mutual fulfillment.

I call these internal stressors because they are something each partner has control over

once they

are aware of them.

External Stressors – significant further diminishment of mutual satisfaction can occur

when the relationship is impacted by

external stressors such as career, finances, health issues, and most notably, having children.

Without appropriate checks in

place, these have the potential of creating deep emotional wounding between the partners

with a subsequent and proportional

impact to their sense of mutual fulfillment.

Clearly, it is possible to experience high levels of personal fulfillment

surrounding one's children, career etc. while your committed partnership is far less

than desired.

In fact, a big trap is to

focus on external fulfillment as a distraction or replacement for the lack of fulfillment

within one's intimate relationship.

Stagnation – this is the stage where partners just keep things together as best as they

can hopefully long enough for the

external stressors to pass in example retirement, kids leave home, etc.

This is also often the most likely stage where

couple's therapy is sought to address long-brewing conflicts and the lack of intimacy and fulfillment.

Maturation – in most cases, this represents the final stage of the relationship and has

three possible outcomes:

Rekindling – this is where the partners re-ignite the love and passion they had during

earlier stages of their relationship

leading to incrementally greater levels of mutual fulfillment.

However, this rarely leads to achieving the same degree of

fulfillment as experienced during the honeymoon stage.

Settling – this is one version of relationship failure where couples stay together out of

convenience.

Either for financial

reasons or unwillingness to get out of their comfort zone that would inevitably happen

during a breakup.

Termination – this is the second version of relationship failure where a couple decides

to no longer be together primarily

due to unresolvable conflict and deep emotional wounding.

It is important to note that the Maturation stage can occur any time after the honeymoon

stage of the relationship cycle.

Also, both internal and external stressors impacting relationships are cumulative and

ongoing.

For example, just because a

couple transitions from internal stressors to external ones doesn't mean the internal

ones go away.

In fact, unless

proactively addressed, they only tend to become more deleterious over time.

Of course, all of this begs the question as to why most committed relationships seem to

follow this progression.

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Don't Allow any of these 5 types of relationship abuse in yours | animated - Duration: 10:06.

5 types of relationship abuse You should be aware of and What can you do?

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No.1, Physical abuse.

This is the type of abuse that many people think of, when they hear the word 'abuse.'

It can include punching, hitting, slapping, kicking, strangling, or physically restraining

a partner against their will.

It can also include driving recklessly, or invading someone's physical space, and in

any other way, making someone feel physically unsafe.

No.2, Emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse is perhaps the vaguest type of abuse, to which an individual can be exposed.

Emotional pain and hurt, are not uncommon in relationships, it is human to feel negative

emotions in response to arguments, or unpleasant events in a relationship.

While it is natural to feel emotional responses, it is not healthy or natural to feel as if

your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are regularly threatened by your loved one.

Emotional abuse, is a consistent denial of your right to express your feelings.

It is a violation or ridicule of your most important values and beliefs.

Some warning signs that you may be experiencing this type of abuse are:

Withholding of approval, or support as a form of punishment,

Criticism, belittling, name calling, and yelling, Regular threats to leave or being told to

leave, Invasions of privacy, and Elimination of support,

by preventing contact with friends and family.

No.3, Mental or Psychological abuse.

Mental or psychological abuse happens when one partner, through a series of actions or

words, wears away at the other's sense of mental wellbeing and health.

It often involves making the victim doubt their own sanity.

We've heard stories of abusers deliberately moving car keys, or a purse, dimming the lights,

and flat-out denying that certain things had taken place.

The result of this, especially over a sustained period of time, and often with the isolation

that abusers also tend to use, is that the victim depends on the abuser more and more,

because they don't trust their own judgment.

They also hesitate to tell anyone about the abuse they're experiencing, for fear they

won't be believed.

No.4, Sexual Abuse.

Sexual abuse is when someone forces you, into unwanted sexual activity, especially through

threats or coercion.

In a healthy sexual relationship, you shouldn't feel threatened, pressured, or uncomfortable

with your partner.

If you feel these negative emotions, it is likely that you are being abused.

No.5, Control.

"Abusive relationships", brings to mind physical violence.

At the same time, many forms of abuse don't leave bruises.

Attempts to control a partner's behavior, friends, finances, or activities, is often

the first sign of an abusive situation, and may be a precursor to violence.

Abusers tend to isolate their victims, and chip away at their self-esteem until he or

she, becomes the only person in the victim's world.

Control may be attempted by using threats, anger, or excessive criticism.

What can you do?

If you are experiencing characteristics of unhealthy relationships, do not be afraid

to ask for help.

Be sure to have a trusted friend, or family member on whom you can rely.

It is not weak, or embarrassing to ask for help when you need it.

And trust your instincts!

If you feel uneasy about going home, or fearful of your spouse or partner, take steps to ensure

your safety.

This could include having a friend with you upon returning home, so you are not alone,

or, in severe circumstances, going to the home of a loved one, or to a domestic violence

shelter, rather than going home.

Above all else, know you are not alone!

If you are experiencing the characteristics of abuse, there are those who can help and

support you.

While reaching out can seem like an impossible and perhaps dangerous task, know there is

help ready and waiting for you