Hi guys welcome back today's video is going to be about relationships, marriage
and whether or not opposites attract or more similar couples are the ones who
stay together the longest and obviously I don't have the answer to that I think
the answer is whatever works for you works but I'm really interested in
knowing what works for you guys whether you're more of the camp that opposites
attract or whether you think that similar couples are more suitable and I
think what brought this thought to my mind is that I was watching love Island
which I'm so addicted to and I was looking at all the couples and trying to
gauge which couples will were more likely to stay together and it made me
think about like real life couples and how drilled it is in our brains that
opposites attract I think from a very young age this was a statement that I
knew like you know people that are different attract and I just wanted to
discuss this with you guys and please leave comments below telling
me what you think and you know how you see this whole opposites or more similar
debate and in my opinion opposites do attract at that very first
stage when you're getting to know someone and it's really interesting to
have that back and forth and you're more likely to have a back and forth
conversation or like banter with someone that has a different opinion to you or
who does something differently and I think it's more to do with
interesting rather than opposite so if someone does something different or
opposite to you that will be interesting to you because it's new as if you meet
someone who's exactly the same as you it might not be as interesting in that
first moment but then I think it gets more interesting when you have more in
common with someone I've always been attracted to people who are similar to
me I've never fallen into the category of opposites attract and I it's always
amused me how you know people that people that are really really different
really get on and you know feel a connection and things like that so in my
opinion and according to like my relationships and the way I feel I've
always felt that similar couples who are similar and I don't want to generalize
because obviously I don't know all the couples but for me specifically the more
similar I am to someone the more I have a chance of like having a longer lasting
relationship with that person and yeah I just feel like whenever I'm very
different to someone else there are lots of things that we
disagree on and that can cause lots of issues later on but I do feel like
Matthew and I are different in a lot of things but very similar in the
fundamental things of our relationship which is what I think is important so
for me I don't mind that he likes classical music and they like pop music
I don't mind that he prefers to watch car shows and I like to watch reality TV
but the fundamental things that we have in life our values our goals and
everything like that we are very similar so what do you think so do you and your
partner or however you know like your friends close friends are you very
different or very similar I feel like a friendship might survive longer if
you're very different just because I don't know you don't have to live with
each other you don't have to put up with the things that you don't agree with but
for a relationship for me specifically I think I have to be very similar to a
person that I am in a relationship with and because of that a friend of mine
showed me a quiz like it's a personality quiz and I asked Matthew to do that
personality quiz to see what he would score and I'm gonna do mine now so we
can see what kinds of personalities we have in it will match I know very well
that a personality quiz will not tell me if I'm compatible with someone but I
just think it's a little bit of fun I'll leave the links of the personality quiz
in the description box below if you do and it would be so interesting if you
did it and you told me in the comments below your score or you know the letters
I think there's like a symbol that describes your personality I just want
to see how many of you that watches my videos are more similar to me or what
kinds of personalities you have so I'm gonna do the quiz now it is quite long
so I will only include a few bits of my answers in this video but if you want to
do the full quiz check the description box below so I'm gonna start there are
64 questions first question are you almost never late for your appointment I
am a very very punctual person you enjoy having a wide circle of acquaintances I
would say no I quite like having a very small group of friends you feel involved
when watching TV soaps I would say you have an emphatic yes you think that
everything in the world is relative now that's a big statement I think that
everything is relative to a certain extent but there's bound to be something
that is not relative and that's certain when making a decision you rely more on
your feelings than on analysis of the situation now that's a tricky one
because I'm a very analytical person but in certain aspects of my life I'm highly
emotional like with my children I'm very emotional my decisions are very
emotional so I would say that I mostly rely on analysis so I put yes there you
believe the best decision is one which can be easily changed no I think the
best decision is one that feels right to you and when it feels right you probably
won't want to change you are inclined to rely more on improvisation than on prior
planning no 107 know I'm such a planner you spent your leisure time actively
socializing with a group of people attending parties shopping no after
prolonged socializing you feel you need to get away and be
alone yes do like my own company you frequently and easily express your
feelings and emotions yes you find it difficult to speak loudly yes not to my
children that had two other people with my kids I can speak loudly to them you
get bored if you have read theoretical books no not at all you value justice
higher than mercy hmm I'm big on justice I injustice is one of my biggest pet
peeves and turn offs but I think mercy is just as important so I would say
uncertain that probably one is no actually oh I don't know that one I
don't know the more I think about the more confused I am because I do have I
think because I'm a lawyer as well and having been taught that you know the
whole justice thing and feel justice is so important but mercy is one of the
human values that puts things right when justice is not right
so I'll keep it and certain because I'm not sure when with a group of people you
enjoy being directly involved and being the center of attention
absolutely not I hate being the center of attention it makes me feel very
uncomfortable for you no surprises it's better than surprises
bad or good ones a hundred percent yes if there was a sentence that could
summarize me that would be it I hate surprises
you can easily understand new theoretical principles I would say yes
not easily but I suppose yeah I suppose easily yes certain things don't come
easily to me like spatial awareness and things like that burst understanding for
your ethical principles and books and things like that can't quite easily to
me you usually place yourself nearer to the side then in the center of the room
I suppose yes I've never talked about it before I don't think I
understand in the middle of a room how interesting
you find it difficult to talk about your feelings no quite easily as you probably
will watching these videos as a rule current preoccupations worry you more
than future plans I think I fret more and I panic more about the current
things and then the future things I feel like I have a clearer head to plan I
don't stress to the point of panicking about future worries but I do about
current things so I probably say yes right so I've got my 64 questions and
I'm gonna put my school-ready score so my type is i n f j i am 47 %
introvert 38% intuitive 28% feeling and 62% judging what does that mean I am NOT
a judgement person they are generally doers as well as dreamers this rare
combination of vision and practicality often results in INFJs taking a
disproportionate amount of responsibility in various cases - -
which so many of them seem to be drawn gosh this if this is in the description
of Who I am I don't know what it is I just I'm reading about myself here
they are in fact sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so
outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people this is giving me goosebumps
honestly on the contrary INFJs are true
introverts who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with the chosen
few from among the among their long long-term friends family of obvious soul
mates gosh this is me this is my description of who I think I am
enormous and I can't read it all to you because you'll get so bored but all I
can say is that this is so accurate or Matthew just sent me here and he's an
ENTJ just analyzing the percentage he is 59% extrovert and I'm 47% introverts or
we're different there I'm thirty percent intuitive and he's 50% intuitive so
quite similar he's sixty percent six percent thinking
and I'm 28 percent of feeling which is very true to us I go a lot more on
feelings than he does and I'm 50 percent judging and he is 62 percent judging so
I think we are quite similar in the things that matter which is what this
whole video was about in terms of how I feel about opposites attracting and
people that are most similar but yeah if you do this test then please leave a
comment below and tell me what - personality type you are and if you
think was it was true to who you are and I'd love to know whether you think
opposites attract or whether the most similar people attract and yeah I hope
you enjoyed this video was a little bit unusual but it was something that was on
my mind and I wanted to share with you guys I hope you enjoyed it if you did
give it a thumbs up and don't forget to subscribe if you're new and check out
the description box for some videos of mine that you may not have watched and
that you might like and I will see you all in my next video bye



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