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Hey guys! It's Hannah.

Relationship patterns when you live with bipolar disorder.

And I'm going to share my experience living with bipolar 2

in relationships and the patterns that I have seen personally.

There are emotions involved from day one.

So when you live with bipolar disorder,

you communicate based off of your emotions.

It's our language.

We gauge people's feelings for us based off of their emotional reactions;

which can push them away.

Because we constantly pull and push emotions from them.

And I think it's very confusing to another individual.

Our extreme empathy always puts us in the position

where we are giving and giving more

to someone who doesn't reciprocate that to us.

I've been there.

I've been in many relationships where I'm always the one

that's giving so much to the other person

but showing up empty on the other side of things.

It leads to insecurities.

And insecurities lead to toxic relationships;

which, obviously, isn't good for anybody with bipolar disorder.

We are romantics.

And we do have the tendency

to over-romanticize people and situations.

Boom! Right here.

I'm totally guilty of this.

I'm not even gonna lie about it.

And I've embraced that part of myself.

It helps with my writing

but it does blind me to the reality

of a lot of people and situations.

We tend to always go into relationships

believing we are the underdogs because of stigma.

And we live with an extremely stigmatized condition,

bipolar disorder.

So we are prone...

We grew up to believe

that we are inadequate and lesser-than individuals.

So, it's like from the start of things,

we're so insecure already.

This is a huge one.

We struggle to trust.

We reject people, even good people.

We distance ourselves.

And we are very skeptical of other individuals.

We are very skeptical of even our partner.

We have always felt unlovable.

So it's like: "What makes you different?"

"What makes you different than the others?"

or "What are your real intentions here?"

A majority, if not all of my relationships,

there's been love there from my side of things,

but I really never trusted another individual.

And I don't know if you guys can relate to this,

but I've learned to love without trust.

Like, there's really never been trust in a relationship for me,

on my side of things.

And that's, obviously, just a recipe for disaster.

I'm really curious about what your thoughts are.

Because over the years of advocating,

I have really seen that

the way people with bipolar disorder think

and how they emotionally react is so similar.

But even if it's different, I want to hear your experience.

So please leave that below.

And subscribe to my Youtube channel.

Check out my other videos.

And I will see you next week.

Bye.

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Bad mouthing and judging other couples and their relationship is a bad idea (2018) - Duration: 3:50.

don't spend your time judging other couples okay what do I mean by that

now when you judge other couples and you talk negatively about their relationship

pretty much you're judging your relationship okay now one of the things

that my wife and I we learnt very early in our relationship about people is that

if we had nothing good to say about their marriage or the relationship we

zipped it we zipped it we didn't say anything because very soon after my wife

and I got married realized that when we call person's names we end up seeing

them or hearing from them immediately like there were several occasions even

to this very day that when we call somebody's name either we're going to

get a text message an email or we're going to hear from them on social media

or we may just run into them once we're in the west of course so we've learnt

very early not to say negative things about other persons and their

relationships because when you begin to talk negatively of other couples and

their relationship you are actually talking negatively about yourself you

know lots of people have spent their time judging other people but

technically what they're doing is spending their time judging themselves

and so because of that if we have nothing good to say about somebody and

their relationship we don't bother to say anything if something arise where we

know of a situation instead of talking negatively about the persons and their

husbands and their wives and what they should be doing or what they're not

doing or what they should be doing we spend the time praying for them okay or

finding an encouraging word to say to them or in our private space as I said

we pray for them because talking negatively about other persons and their

relationship is not helping the person neither is it helping you and basically

what it's doing is that it's planting a negative seed in your mind and so when

you see the person or you hear from the persons those negative thoughts that you

would have gathered in your mind those are the things

continue to flourish unto and to grow in one's mind so don't speak negatively of

other persons and their relationship it doesn't help you and it doesn't it does

not help them and how would you feel that you're talking so negatively about

someone then within two minutes of the time that you have been talking about

them you hear from them they call you or you run into them in the supermarket or

in the store and then five minutes ago you were speaking negatively or speaking

badly about them so my wife and I we have very early in our relationship we

made a vow not to say anything negative about people and their relationships you

know just let it be and if there's something that we are aware of we go

pray for them and we seek to find uplifting and encouraging words instead

of speaking negatively because negativity that you portray on others

you're actually attracting it back into yourself it's a law of attraction so

seek not to be pessimists a cynic or somebody who's very critical of others

in their relationship spend the time to think of positive ways how you can

uplift that person how you can uplift that spouse or that partner how you can

help by contributing to their relationship in making it better and if

you like the videos that I'm making every day I'll be posting one videos so

click the like button below leave a comment and subscribe to my youtube

channel for more great tips to enhance your relationship this is your guy KT

speaking