Hey, welcome back to the Six Figure Mastermind. Today I'm going to give you
the 9 public speaking secrets that you need before you get on stage. Stay
tuned.
Okay, the first things first. Before you start even thinking about delivering
your content, you need to know that every second counts. And the first 90 seconds
on stage are the most important. You may have heard this but people make it about
10,000 decisions about another person within the first 10 seconds of meeting
them. They're deciding whether or not they trust them, they're deciding whether
or not they're credible, they're deciding whether or not they want a person they
want to be around. Just so many decisions happening. And you've got milliseconds to
make an impact. So, the first 90 seconds on stage are the
most important. When you come out on stage, you need to walk with confidence,
you need to know what you're standing for. You need to know your message, you
need to... Most of all, know that you've got this. If you have any doubts coming out
for you, they're going to show on stage. The stage is a magnifier for who you are.
That first 90 seconds is pivotal. The first thing you need to know about
speaking on stage is that every second counts. And no seconds count more than
the first seconds you have on stage. People make 10,000 decisions about
someone when they meet them for the first time. And now, you're in front of a
room of dozens maybe even hundreds of people. Think about how many decisions
are being made about you. Let me just ask you, do you want to have control over any
of that? Yeah. Yeah, you do. You want to be seen as credible, you want to be seen as
valuable. And you want to be seen as a person of legitimacy on stage. So, when
you're walking on stage for the first time, you can't be wringing your hands,
you can't be fixing your hair, you can't be doing all of that stuff that belongs
backstage. When you're on stage, it's game on. The second secret about speaking on
stage is you need to understand, it's not about you. It's about your audience. The
most value that your audience is going to take from their experience is how
they feel about themselves after having spent time with you. You know, a lot of
people may think the Guru onstage is all about consumed with how they look and
how they feel. You need to let all of that go before you get on stage. And when
you're in that zone, you need to be zoned in on that audience member. Your secret
number 3 and you're going to laugh because it's going to contradict
directly secret number 2. Remember secret number two is it's not about you,
guess what secret number three is. It's all about you.
Here's what I mean by that. I don't want you to be confused. When I say it's all
about you, I want you to think this: It's all about the authentic core, the genuine
version of you. Now, I've worked with so many people on stage that will try to be
someone else. And I'm guilty of this. When I was first
taking stage instruction, I was so amazed by the power and the presence and
the persona of the person on stage that when it was my turn, I tried to mimic
that, okay? Helium can't be gold, oxygen can't be
nickel. These elements on the periodic table, they can't be another element. They
need to be purely their element. So, when I say it's all about you, what I mean is
this: Peel off the layers. Any layers of inauthenticity. Peel off any layers of
wanting to be someone else. Peel off any layers of wanting to act or be
unauthentic. Peel off any layers of wanting to hide or shield yourself
from the big scary audience out there. Whether you're you in your home or
whether you're you on your stage, you're always you. So, don't pretend to be anyone
or anything you're not. Just let yourself be seen and let yourself be vulnerable.
Because guess what? Even though that's the scariest thing that people think of
when they're going onstage, it's what the audience actually wants most.
The fourth secret to being onstage is to remember that you're really building a
tribe. You're really building a community. Any time you appear on stage, you're
inviting those people that are in front of you to enroll in your ideas. You're
really building this kind of different Empire, if you will. And any time you
appear on stage, every word that comes out of your mouth matters, alright? So,
you want to be very careful with your language. And I'm talking beyond using
bad language. I'm talking about carefully crafting and honing a unique language.
Now for example, if I use the words like organic or if I use the words evergreen
or if I use the words homegrown or if I use the words eco-friendly then you're
probably going to start thinking around this certain phrase of you know, maybe
maybe people that are vegans or maybe people that are a whole food plant-based
diet or maybe this community of health gurus,
right? You need to do the same thing in your community. Create your own kind of
catchphrases. And verbage that's specific to you. You know, just yesterday
I was on the phone with the client and we narrowed down her ideal clients and
we narrowed down what she did. And we figured out this beautiful phrase for
her. She's an interior designer, alright? And she does home design and she puts
together these blueprints for creating beautiful interior spaces. And she also
does mental work. She does mindset training and breakthrough work. And so, he
created this phrase for her that said, "She is the queen of remodeling
unconscious design." I mean, that's a cool catchphrase. That she's going to be able to
use from stage in her books, in her blog and social media posts. It's a phrase
that she like crafted that she's going to define. So, when anyone hears it,
they're going to think of her and they're going to know exactly what it means.
Secret number 5 when speaking on stage is something you absolutely have
to understand. Only 7% of what you're communicating to people happens
through your words. The rest shows up in your tone and it shows up in your body
language. So, I'm going to ask you to do something that you may feel like a
little bit crazy. And I'm going to ask you to do something that honestly most of
you won't do. Because you think it's weird, okay?
I'm going to ask you to actually film yourself with a phone or a camera or
whatever it is. Film yourself speaking on stage. And here's what you're looking for.
You want to have your body language match your message. And you know, you
watch out for a few key things. I call this t-rex arms, okay? People will have
these... The arms right like glued to their side when they're speaking. And they'll
have these t-rex arms. They won't get out of the box. You need to have arms that
are open. Up, down to the side of wherever you are. If you do allow your arms to
come into the box, make it intentional. Make it something that happens on
purpose, alright? So, avoid the t-rex arms
whenever possible. You also you do need to be aware of where you're standing on
stage, how you're standing on stage. I remember trading one excellent speaker.
She's amazing. But before she became a speaker in my classroom, she actually
used to march in the marching band. And whenever I would watch her walk around
the stage, it would walk over here and then she would stand at attention. And
then she'd walk over to this portion of the stage and
she would stand at attention. And it was so distracting because I felt like she
was more concerned about where she was standing than she was about conveying a
clear message to me. So, watch yourself on stage and be clued into the things that
are distracting to you. That's the biggest red flag. If you're distracted by
the way your body moves, it's probably not matching your message. Practice
doesn't make perfect, right? Like you've heard that before, right? Now, you've heard
practice makes perfect. That's not what I'm telling you. Practice does not make
perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect. And I got to tell you, in my classroom,
when people come into this pressure cooker, I'm going to be stopping them every
15 seconds. And sometimes even more often than saying, "Hey look, no, no. Turn around
do that again. Or maybe try a different verbage or you need to stop touching
your face." It's perfect practice makes perfect. And you can't get perfect
practice without watching yourself. So, record yourself like I've said before.
And watch it over and over again. In fact, go to other people's presentations. Watch
them. Watch what you like and watch what sticks out like a sore thumb. And then
make perfect practice. So, thanks for watching. I want you to know that I have
so much content for you that I actually had to put it in another video. So, make
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