News on Youtube Oct 29 2017

IYANLA: You know, I just ended a relationship,

a 14-year relationship at my age.

You know why?

After 14 years, I recognized he don't love me the way I wanna be loved.

I just don't wanna be loved like this, see, I don't

get to tell people how to love me, I get to see

how they love and then choose if I wanna participate.

So, for 14 years, I was hoping, "Okay, he's gonna get it.

He's gonna get it. He's gonna get it. He's gonna get it."

And then I said, "You know what, he ain't getting it."

And it's okay.

VAKHARA: Uh-hmm.

IYANLA: I don't choose to participate in the way he loves.

Now I got a bunch of degrees and it took me 14 years to get that.

Thank God I couldn't get pregnant. Ooh.

So, you know, you get to make that choice and look at

carefully, and consciously, and honestly,

ruthlessly what you did and how you did it,

so that you don't do that [bleep] ever again.

For more infomation >> Iyanla Explains Why She Ended Her 14-Year Relationship | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network - Duration: 1:29.

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