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It's not a secret that women constantly struggle to maintain a positive

self-esteem because we're constantly too tall too short too fat too thin too sexy

not sexy enough too emotional. Whatever! We're always something not enough or too much

We're never just right. Let's be honest

we all daily fight with our inner critics, that's why this video is

about how to maintain a positive self-esteem for a better relationship.

The battles against your inner self do not only affect yourself but also your

partner. That means self esteem influences your own satisfaction in a

relationship but also the satisfaction your partner feels with you in your

relationship. So if you feel really insecure and unsatisfied well, most

likely your partner's gonna feel that too and your partner won't be able to

make up for that and then all these insecurities creep into the way which we

interact with our partner. Hey ambitious entrepreneur

I'm Vivi welcome to Adventure Your World, my channel is all about creating

sustainable happiness and a deeper connection with your soulmate so you can

start living a happier life. Make sure you subscribe and Hit the little notification bell

to get notified whenever new videos are released. When you're trying to

address insecurities that creep into your relationship, then it's important

that you're honest with yourself and part of that is being really self aware.

Are you a person that tends to distance yourself from a partner or are you more

that needy kind of person? There's no right or wrong here. It's just really important

that you really tune in here and that you are honest with yourself and you share the honest

answer with your partner because your partner is your partner, he's your soul

mate, he's your teammate. There should be nothing that you should be afraid of or

scared or ashamed of. You should be there for each other, so there's no shame

in sharing your true inner self, then tell your partner what your biggest

insecurities are so he can help you watch out for them and catch you and lift

you up whenever you get caught up by them. Once you become self-aware and this

is an ongoing journey so you can always be more and

and more self-aware and ask your partner to help you with that. Just tell

them hey well you know whenever you see me getting insecure, tell me, let me know.

I need to improve that and whenever you let your insecurities shine through

practice love and compassion. We can't really control how we feel but we can always

control how we react to it. It's also really important that you separate your

self-worth from your performance because just because you've been performing

badly this time doesn't mean you are a failure, you are bad are you not good enough

because most of us really feel that our worth is based on our performance

today. So if you had a bad day, we feel that we're not good enough and we just

feel really shitty because well we're just not as good as all these other

amazing people out there right, I get you. But that's not true.

Because you are not your performance, you have good days and you have bad days and

you are amazing! Did you hear me? You're amazing!

And you're self worth should be way up there in the clouds. When you perform

poorly, that's most likely when your insecurities shine through and that's

exactly the moment when you need to practice self compassion.

and no matter how self-aware and self accepting you become there is always gonna

be things that make you insecure, so don't you worry. It's absolutely normal

and it's okay, but keep growing, keep working through them and life becomes

easier and better. Being in a relationship is a constant balance

between loving your partner the way he or she is and encouraging him or her to

grow constantly and as you are trying to get through your insecurities and battle

your way up and out of them. Really don't feel ashamed to ask your partner to help

you through it. That's why you are a team, that's why you're in a relationship. You

got this together. Please be nice to each other!

Avoid criticizing, shaming and blaming each other. It really doesn't get you

anywhere and don't believe that criticizing is

the same as communication because it really isn't. The most unhealthy

relationships are characterized by shouting, blaming and criticizing the

whole, whole time and how would you feel if your partner's constantly like you're

really bad at doing the bed right? I know like, the coffee you did this - really

didn't taste that good. I mean, can you never be at time for work?

Why do you always have to pick up the kids late? Is there any food you can

actually cook that tastes kind of good and acceptable? How would you feel? You

can't always criticize your partner. Both of you are not perfect. If there's something

that really bothers you, talk about it, at least give constructive feedback and

tell them how to improve because just blaming really doesn't get you anywhere

and it actually just makes the situation worse. Also it's really important to

distinguish shame from guilt and no they're really not the same. Shame means

I did something wrong, I did a mistake shame means there's something wrong with me

Do you get the difference? You can do something wrong

but that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you! Okay? So don't

mix these two things up, you can feel guilty but please don't be ashamed. It's

really common for couples that argue a lot, that they criticize each other a lot,

and this can be from of:" If you weren't so selfish you would help more with the

housework" or "If it weren't so irresponsible with money we would be

able to pay our bills at the end of the month" or worse "what is wrong with you?

Don't you know better than that?" These are two of the worst things that you can

say. I mean, what is wrong with you for saying what is wrong with you? Seriously?

and even if you get the result that you're actually seeking by these

comments for example your partner helping you of the house works or paying

the bills or whatever it is, it's actually more harmful than helpful for

your relationship and are just creating negative

feelings such as anger, resentment or rejection so it really does not get you

anywhere if you really need to criticize your partner, be constructive and tell

him "hey, I know you doing that, I think that there are some better ways to deal

with it, here is how we could do that. What do you think about it?" Offer your

partner solutions rather than just saying like this is shit what are you

doing, what's wrong with you, we can't keep doing like that, this is really not

the right way and you will not improve your relationship. If you want to learn

more about building a stronger relationship, controlling your emotions

or living a happier life, make sure you get my free four day video training

series on this topic in the comment below, also if you liked this video give

me a thumbs up let me know in the comments below what do you most

struggling with in your relationship and if you found this video valuable make

sure you share it with your friends and family so they can start living a

happier life and relationship as well. Thank you for watching and I see you soon!

For more infomation >> How to maintain a positive self esteem for a better relationship - Duration: 7:26.

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The Secret To A Happy Relationship Or Marriage | by Tanvir Ahmed - Duration: 4:35.

What's up, everybody?

Welcome to the video.

My name is Tanvir Ahmed.

And hey, consider subscribing, if you haven't already, to upgrade yourself and your relationships

to the next level.

Society makes a lot about "sacrifices" in a relationship.

You are supposed to keep the relationship happy by consistently sacrificing yourself

for your partner and their wants and needs.

There is some truth to that.

Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times.

But the problem arises when all of the relationship's happiness is dependent on the other person

and both people are constantly in a state of sacrifice.

Just go back and listen to that again.

That sounds horrible.

A relationship based on sacrifices cannot be sustained, and will eventually be damaging

to both individuals involved.

You need to understand that it is up to you to make yourself happy, it is NOT the job

of your partner.

I am not saying that you shouldn't do nice things for each other, or that your partner

can't make you happy sometimes.

I am just saying don't lay expectations on your partner to "make you happy."

It is not their responsibility.

A healthy and happy relationship requires two healthy and happy individuals.

The keyword here is "individuals."

That means two people with their own identities, their own interests and perspectives, and

things they do by themselves, on their own time.

Figure out what makes you happy as an individual, be happy yourself, and then bring that to

the relationship.

This is why attempting to control your partner or submitting control over yourself to your

partner to make them "happy" ultimately backfires.

It allows the individual identities of each person to be destroyed, the very identities

that attracted each person and brought them together in the first place.

So, don't you ever give up who you are for the person you're with.

It will only backfire and make you both miserable.

Have the courage to be who you are, and most importantly, let your partner be who they are.

But how does one do that?

Well, it's a bit counterintuitive.

But that's exactly what I'll be discussing in next week's video.

Actually, I changed my mind.

We're going all in in this video.

So, listen up you savages.

So, how do you do it?

Well, you need to give each other space.

space.

Okay, maybe that's a little too much space.

You don't want to give them that much space because then you'd just be all alone on

a different planet.

But be sure you have a life of your own, otherwise it is harder to have a life together.

What do I mean?

Have your own interests, your own friends, your own support network, and your own hobbies.

Overlap when you can, but not being identical should give you both something to talk about

and expose one another to.

Some of us are afraid to give their partner freedom and independence.

This comes from a lack of trust and insecurity that if we give our partner too much space,

then they will discover that they don't want to be with us anymore.

Generally, the more uncomfortable we are with our own worthiness in the relationship

and to be loved, the more we will try to control the relationship and our partner's behaviors.

BUT, more importantly, this inability to let our partners be who they are,

is a subtle form of disrespect.

After all, if you can't trust your husband to have a simple golfing trip with his buddies,

or you're afraid to let your wife go out for drinks after work,

what does that say about your respect for their ability to handle themselves well?

What does it say for your respect for yourself?

I mean, after all, if you believe that a couple after-work drinks is enough to steer your

girlfriend away from you, you clearly don't think too highly of yourself.

Thank you for watching.

This is the part where you like this video and subscribe to my channel.

And remember, you are an amazing person and I love you.

For more infomation >> The Secret To A Happy Relationship Or Marriage | by Tanvir Ahmed - Duration: 4:35.

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How To Deal With Loss Of Relationship - Duration: 7:12.

You know we tend to think of loss as a negative thing.

Well today, we're going to talk about the loss of a relationship or losing a

relationship. Could it be that that's not a negative thing? Thanks for joining us

again today. We're talking about loss and what is loss? And how does it affect us

in our lives. And specifically today, we're going to talk about the loss of a

relationship. And we're going to talk about a relationship that is an

important relationship in our life. So, this could be the loss of a loved one, it

could be a friend, co-worker or boss. Any relationship that is important and

meaningful to us. But before we talk about the loss, again, we're going to talk

about the principles that surround this. Because oftentimes, the solution to the

problem that we're facing really what it requires is just a different

understanding of the problem or a different way of looking at the problem.

If we don't correctly understand what the problem is or where it lies then

we're never going to find the solution to the problem. And so, let's talk about

loss. What is loss? Does loss even exist? Think about that. So, in order to

lose something, first we have to have something, right? I mean for me to lose my

life, I first have to have a life to lose. In order for me to lose a job, I first

have to have a job to lose. In order for me to lose money, I

first have to have money to lose. So, in order to lose a relationship, we first

have to have a relationship to lose. Well, if I have a relationship and then I lose

that relationship, what do I really lose? So before I had that relationship, was

that considered a loss in my life because I didn't have that relationship?

Or I go from a place of not having a relationship to having the relationship.

So now, I've gained something in my life. Now I lose that relationship. Do I really

lose anything? Because I still have what I had. That relationship and the time

that I spent in that relationship is not taken from me. So, everything that I

gained, the time that I spent with that person, the experiences that we had

together, the things that I learned from that

person and through that relationship, I don't lose any of that. I get to hang on

to that and to keep that. And actually I get to use that to move forward in my

life to help me and benefit me in future relationships. The only thing that I lose

is what could have been that I yet don't have. But here's the thing. If I focus on

the loss and and what I don't have, what I miss out on is everything that I did

have and still have. So, I take a positive thing in my life. And by focusing on what

I don't have moving forward, I oftentimes lose or tarnish or turn into a negative

things. Something that was positive in my life. So when I'm in that place of

scarcity and loss, whenever I think about this individual, I think about

losing that relationship. So, it brings emotion of unhappiness into my life.

And I lose all of the positive that I could have gained from that and the

benefit of using that in creating new relationships and moving forward. So,

losing a relationship? No, it cannot happen. All we can do is create

relationships then we can focus on making those relationships the very best

that we can make them. Gaining from them and providing giving to the relationship

all that we can to make it as positive as possible. Knowing that most

relationships that we have in this life are going to end at some point. So, we

could be fearful and some people do this ,right?

Some people are fearful of losing a relationship and so they don't engage in

a relationship. So fear keeps me from getting close to anyone because I'm

afraid that they're going to leave me or they're going to die or they're going to

reject me. And so I keep people at a distance and I'm never able to

experience the closeness that can come from allowing myself to develop a real,

loving relationship with another person. So, I encourage you to to just be aware

of your beliefs and your mindset about loss. And to consider changing that

belief that loss even exists. And to look at this earth experience as one of

opportunity. And that if we've ever had something in our life, whether that's a

relationship or anything else, we focus on what we gained from having it and

then we move forward with excitement and hope for what we can attract and bring

into our relationship in the future. So, what are the new relationships do we

have the ability to go out and to create and to enjoy for the period of time

that those relationships exist. Thanks for watching today. Hopefully you found

what we talked about today useful and beneficial to you. And if so, subscribe to

our channel if you haven't done that already. And come back and visit us again

tomorrow.

For more infomation >> How To Deal With Loss Of Relationship - Duration: 7:12.

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3 Things That Make a GREAT Book Relationship! - Duration: 1:45.

(cheery music)

- A book relationship is chemistry, communication

and empathy towards each other.

- I look for the chemistry between the hero and heroine.

- They have to have a chance.

A lot of book relationships start off

with them having so many things that hold them apart

that even though they've gotten together

you wonder what's going to happen three years from now.

- They've gotta have some sense of excitement.

Something has to be happening,

some sort of greater thing than: "Oh he's hot."

- Chemistry, a sense of humor,

and the ability to make each other a better person

than when you started.

- Loyalty, humor and compassion.

- Communication, respect and support!

- What's the one thing that the hero, or heroine,

should not ever be involved in,

that that author had better put them right in the middle of.

That's gonna make it a good story for me.

- The two people have to have something really intrinsic

and common that attracts them.

They say that opposites attract

but I don't really believe that.

- They have to respect each other,

even if they don't necessarily get along at first.

'Cause we all like the tension.

- That idea of being better together.

You know, that good match

where you both make each other better.

- And then all of what they wanted,

and their goals, and their passions

become secondary to taking care of that person.

And that's where the real love starts and you've got me.

That's what I love!

(cheery music)

For more infomation >> 3 Things That Make a GREAT Book Relationship! - Duration: 1:45.

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Married at 23 My Relationship Advice (With subs) | 23歲成為人妻的愛情心得 - Duration: 10:25.

Hi guys, it's Yuffie here.

Lemme briefly introduce myself first

so that we can get to know each other ♥

I was lucky enough to marry a wonderful man at 23.

After the heartbreaking first love,

I met my husband who has changed my life for the better.

Today I've summed up what I've learnt from my relationship

and share with you 3 useful tips

to help you and your partner maintain a healthy relationship.

Stay tuned! ♥

Just to let you know that

I'm not a relationship expert.

I'm an ordinary girl like you who has been through heartbreaks

like having a crush on someone and being rejected.

Though I'm no relationship expert,

I believe the following advice can inspire you

no matter which gender you are.

Most of us usually say love

"I love you"

"I miss you"

Saying love is easy

but only by showing love can you spread love.

Showing love through action is a subtle but powerful way

to express how special he/she means to you.

Lemme give you an example.

After graduating from university,

I had an interview for my first graduate job.

On my way to the office,

I found my husband (who was still my boyfriend)

waiting for me at the stop when I got off the bus.

He was there hoping to give me support

and calm my nerves before the interview.

I was really grateful for his company

and he even prepared breakfast for me.

Thanks god I eventually got the job offer.

In the first week of work,

he was my greatest cheerleader

who stopped by the train station early every morning

to let me know that he'd be by my side

and root for me as always.

Sometimes he couldn't make it to the train station

he'd just pass by the block where I worked,

take a selfie to let me know that he was there for me

and to cheer me up.

Then he'd head off to work.

I'm not asking guys to be super romantic

or do tricks to make someone fall for you.

But if you really mean to maintain the relationship,

I'm sure you'd do anything for your lover.

It can be little things that make his/her day

like making time or effort for him/her.

Showing your love through action is way more powerful that saying it.

Show her you're her hero whom she can rely on now

as well as in the future.

This is particularly important for men.

Women are usually more expressive in love

such as writing love letters.

So man up, guys!

Show him/her she's the only one

who deserves your effort

and your lover will know he/she is the special one.

It may sound corny but guys

it's really important to know when does your lover

usually experience negative emotions.

Sharing happiness is easy

but helping your lover overcome negative emotions

or examining his/her emotional patterns

is always challenging but necessary in a relationship.

I used to be easily irritated at night

or when I was worn out.

I'd become short-tempered.

I didn't even realise it was a negative emotional pattern:(

Besides, it happened when I was in somewhere crowded.

As we often skyped before bed,

my husband was quite shocked at first

when my negative emotions crept in.

But he was so patient with me

and figured out the reasons behind my emotions.

I think it's essential to know "why"

instead of just tolerating.

By figuring out the reasons or patterns,

you will not take the problem personal.

Now my husband knows if I'm annoyed at night,

it's probably because I'm tired at the end of the day.

He won't fall out with me over this

and I won't blame myself to be Debbie Downer.

Our negativity usually comes with patterns,

say in particular time

or particular situation

that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Find out the reasons. If you don't get it, relax and talk.

Stop taking the problem personal

as it is always the root of endless arguments

or miscommunication.

If he/she gets short-tempered or impatient at night,

why don't you leave the serious topics until tomorrow

or text him/her the next day? :)

Love is just chilling if you know how to do it right.

You will subconsciously impress your lover

that you are the only person in the world

who is the ultimate best friend that

makes him/her feel so in love even in the worst times.

It can be something that even family don't notice.

Make it as your habit

and you will take your relationship to the next level.

Most people don't think the small things matter

but it is exactly the subtle moves that change the game.

Say when you keep a pet,

you pay attention to its traits.

So when you are having a committed relationship,

why wouldn't you remember his/her little things

and make it as a habit?

Do it and do it for her only (let him/her know!)

If you are horrible at this, at least try.

This is definitely a bonus trait.

Honestly it came as a complete surprise to me

that I'm pretty good at this.

Then I realised my husband really appreciated it

and many don't find this trait a must.

Let's say he tells you a film he likes,

food he wants to try

or countries he wants to visit

After a period of time, you can bring it up to him.

"Hey babe let's watch this film tonight!"

"Still wanna go there? We can travel this holiday."

"Oh wow, you still remember it?" he replies. BINGO.

Make him/her impressed by how observant you are.

Friends come and go

and people rarely pay much attention to our little things.

Be the special one who makes him/her feel special.

Using techniques in love is not an evil thing

as long as you do it to him/her only.

Win his/her heart! ♥

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