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Ruben Loftus-Cheek insists his relationship with Maurizio Sarri is strong despite only featuring for 33 minutes in the Premier League this season and subsequently losing his place in the England squad

Loftus-Cheek made giant strides at Crystal Palace last season and subsequently became a key part of Gareth Southgate's thinking as England reached the World Cup semi-finals in Russia

However, Sarri is yet to embrace the Chelsea midfielder, who he insists must improve the 'defensive phase' of his game

  Loftus-Cheek poses with the match ball after his hat-trick against BATE  Borisov on Thursday Loftus-Cheek minutes for Chelsea this season  August 11 vs Huddersfield Town (Premier League) - 22 minutesSeptember 9 vs Bournemouth (Premier League) - 11 minutesOctober 4 vs MOL Vidi (Europa League) - 66 minutesOctober 25 vs BATE Borisov (Europa League) - 90 minutes  Sarri also admitted after Loftus-Cheek's hat-trick in the 3-1 victory over Bate Borisov that Loftus-Cheek faces an uphill battle to displace Mateo Kovacic or Ross Barkley - players the Italian describes as sharing 'the same characteristics' as Loftus-Cheek

 The 22-year-old was omitted from Southgate's squad for recent matches against Croatia and Spain

In scoring a hat-trick against Bate, Loftus-Cheek became only the sixth player in the club's history - along with Didier Drogba, Gianluca Vialli, Tommy Baldwin, Peter Osgood and Terry Venables - to score three in a European game

 He is also the first Chelsea academy graduate to score a hat-trick in any competition since Clive Walker in 1982

The English midfielder fired in his first to give Chelsea an early lead in the Europa League game Loftus-Cheek got the final touch on the ball to double Chelsea's advantage inside 10 minutes Loftus-Cheek curls in his third goal of the evening to complete his hat-trick on Thursday 'I think my last one was in the Under-13s!' Loftus-Cheek said

'It might have been against Charlton. But this was different. 'A European night under the lights, it's a dream

There is still a long way to go. I want to keep being ambitious, keep improving and see how far I can go

'Loftus-Cheek admits his mental strength has been tested in the early months of the season

He said: 'Yes, but I have never doubted my ability. It's just hard sometimes to perform at your best when you are not playing regularly

 'So it is important to train well, keep your good habits - eat well and sleep well - so that when games like this come along you can be as close to your best physical shape as possible

 'I will keep trying to do that and it's all I can do right now.' Chelsea fixtures  Premier League unless statedSunday Burnley (A)October 31 Derby County (H)EFL Cup fourth roundNovember 4 Crystal Palace (H)November 8 BATE Borisov (A)Europa League group stageNovember 11 Everton (H)November 24 Tottenham Hotspur (A) Loftus-Cheek, who has not started a Premier League game for Chelsea since April 2016, insists the relationship with Sarri remains positive

'He is asking me to improve defensively and positionally,' the 22-year-old added. 'We are working on it every day in training

 'He is so demanding on shape, but also wants you to play freely as well, which I why we can play such free flowing football

It is really good work.'For a manager who has been in the game for a long time, it would be daft for me not to take in what he is telling me

He is a top manager. For me to learn from him is great for my development. I will keep on doing that

 'I will keep on listening and learning whenever I'm on the pitch or in training. As a player-manager relationship it works - we both have respect for each other

This is a good relationship.'

For more infomation >> Ruben Loftus-Cheek says his relationship with Maurizio Sarri is strong - Duration: 5:12.

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Accused of Being Unfaithful for the Whole Relationship (Full Episode) | Paternity Court - Duration: 16:42.

You may be seated.

Hello, Your Honor.

Good morning, Ron.

This is the case o Baylor v. Earls.

Thank you.

Good day, everyone.

AUDIENCE: Good day.

Miss Baylor, you petitioned the court for a DNA test.

You want to prove to your ex-fiance, Mr. Earls

that he fathered your three-year-old son, Marcus Junior.

Is that correct?

Yes, Your Honor.

You say Mr. Earls called off your wedding

just three months prior to getting married because of his paternity doubts?

Yes, Your Honor.

JUDGE LAKE: Mr. Earls,

you and Miss Baylor have been together

since you were 17 years old,

and you believe she's been unfaithful

the entire relationship.

EARLS: Yes, Your Honor.

Today, you're counter-suing Miss Baylor for a lie detector test

because you want the entire truth.

Yes, Your Honor.

All right. Miss Baylor, what have Mr. Earls' accusations and denial

done to your relationship?

Your Honor, his accusations have ruined our relationship.

It has tore us apart.

We have been together since I was 17, and he moved in with us,

and then we had two beautiful daughters,

and then after our third child,

we decided that we wanted to get married.

And he called off the wedding three months before we got married.

JUDGE LAKE: Really?

And we planned everything.

I had everything picked out, Your Honor.

I had a dress. He bought me a ring. Everything...

Our wedding day was supposed to be 12, 13, 14.

Like, that was so significant.

And it really hurt me for him to do that, Your Honor.

Can I submit this to you?

What is that?

This is my wedding planner.

I had everything...

JUDGE LAKE: May I see that, Ron?

BAILIFF: Yes, ma'am.

So you really planned an entire wedding?

Yes.

You had three children with this man...

BAYLOR: Yes, Your Honor.

...and I can see that really hurts you.

It hurts, like, so bad

for him to not think that my son is his.

Like, I don't know where these rumors came from,

I don't know who started them,

I don't know anything. I love Mr. Earls.

I wanna spend the rest of my life with him.

He's a beautiful little boy. So, Mr. Earls...

Yes, Your Honor.

You certain this child is not yours?

I'm certain. I'm 100% sure that that is not my baby.

So, this had to be really serious

for you to call off the wedding just three months before.

It was very serious.

What happened?

I went away on August 16,

and Sondra came and visited me,

two weeks after I was gone.

Uh, and she gave me some news that she was pregnant.

Okay, I was excited...

Come to find out a week later, she visited me again,

and she tells me, "I stepped out on you

"a month prior to the time you had left."

A month before I got pregnant with my son,

I did step out on the relationship. I did.

This was nowhere near the conception date.

This was a whole month before I conceived.

And when I told Mr. Earls that I was pregnant,

you know, he was happy, you know? We were both happy,

because we had two miscarriages before that.

Unexplained, you know?

And it devastated us, we wanted a baby. We planned to have my son.

And when he went away,

he just feels that, you know, the dates don't add up.

I suppose.

We didn't plan anything.

Okay, do you know what month you cheated in, Miss Baylor?

July.

Sure was.

Because I got pregnant in August.

I got pregnant August 14.

Let me go to my conception calculator here so I can understand this.

When was Marcus Jr. born?

He was born April 22, 2013.

JUDGE LAKE: Okay, now if we calculate the date of his birth,

your conception date would've been...

(JUDGE LAKE READING)

Yeah, but he's supposed to be premature.

That's about a ten-day window.

That's when you said you cheated.

I cheated in July, yes, Your Honor,

but that is not when I conceived.

My son was due May 7,

but I had a C-section due to...

I had two other kids,

my blood pressure goes up when I go into labor,

and I had to have a C-section.

That's why he was born April 22.

Miss Baylor, you're saying the baby was born early.

And so, your conception date

would actually have been later than what is projected here.

Yes.

Mr. Earls, do you think the baby was born early?

No, that baby wasn't born early.

She carried that baby full-term.

That is not true, Your Honor.

You don't know no baby

premature at six pound, nine ounces.

I know, that's a big baby.

(AUDIENCE LAUGHS)

I do agree. A six pound, nine ounce baby?

I mean that is a... That's a full-term weight.

EARLS: Yeah!

Exactly, because I was due May 7,

I had a C-section which was scheduled at 38 weeks.

Our daughters weigh five pound, seven ounces,

five pound, eight ounces, and they was full-term.

All babies are not gonna be born the same weight.

All my babies is.

No, they're not. No, they are not, because...

We're not going to get into that, because we're here to prove that my son

is your son.

EARLS: He is not my son.

BAYLOR: That is your son.

EARLS: Look, she carried him full-term.

She cheated on me in July, the time adds up.

She brought me all the way down.

I just want her to tell me the truth.

I wanna understand why you are cheating in the relationship.

I just felt like he was still lying to me.

EARLS: She couldn't close her legs.

So you... Who was this person you cheated with?

His sister's cousin.

So, this was a one-night thing?

A fling? What happened?

It was a fling, maybe. But not that long.

Just a couple of times and, like, that was it.

A couple too many.

But I used protection when I stepped out, unlike him.

He has two other kids outside of our relationship...

...that he stepped out on me on plenty of times.

I do. I do.

She cheated on me with the cable man.

No, I did not cheat on him with the cable man.

He was a friend.

Wait, when did the cable man get in it?

As soon as I went away, the cable man came in.

He was a friend. He took me to get my kids something to eat one day,

and we went to go play pool and have a few beers at the bar,

and I "cheated," supposedly.

My brother also even told me about some things.

What did your brother tell you?

Oh, my brother told me he caught her doing

mysterious things on her phone,

talking to others, talking about she wanna

meet up with them, and things.

We have your brother joining us today from your hometown.

That's good!

JUDGE LAKE: Mr. Earls...

Can you hear me?

Yes, ma'am.

Your brother has testified that you've caught Miss Baylor

in some very, uh, questionable circumstances. Is that true?

Yes, ma'am. About three weeks before, prior,

before my brother went away,

I caught Miss Baylor texting another dude

talking about how she wanna have sex with him.

The dude's picture kept popping up on the phone.

Miss Baylor?

Yes, I do flirt a lot.

I do. I flirt a lot.

Oh, God. Yeah, yeah.

More than a lot.

EARLS: Yeah, more than a lot.

BAYLOR: That is a lie.

But you were on the phone texting a guy.

BAYLOR: Yes, I was,

but Marcus has done me so much worse.

Mr. Earls, do you know anything else?

Uh, about two weeks after my bro went away,

we was having a get-together at the house,

and she was drinking, having a good time.

Next thing I know she burnt off,

and didn't come back till the next day.

She came home the next day?

PAUL: Yes, ma'am.

Who did you see her leave with, Mr. Earls?

A dude!

I left with my cousin,

and that's probably who he's seen me leave with, my cousin.

EARLS: That ain't her cousin.

Judge, she's a compulsive liar.

All right, Mr. Earls, thank you so much for your testimony today.

Yes, ma'am.

So, Mr. Earls, you say she just lies.

Yes, Your Honor.

JUDGE LAKE: And that's why you asked the court

to administer a lie-detector test.

Yes, Your Honor.

Oh, I just had a light bulb,

'cause I'm thinking to myself,

he is so mad at her for cheating,

and it is wrong,

but you were cheating, and you got two children outside the relationship,

but what you're most angry at, you're saying,

"You told me the truth, that you cheated,"

but you feel like she's making up this whole story

about the baby being early,

'cause she doesn't wanna admit that it's a possibility

that this other guy is the father.

She's in denial, Your Honor.

JUDGE LAKE: That's what's making you most angry?

Yes, ma'am.

So, when you found out she cheated

did you immediately have doubt?

Yes, I already knew like, it already...

It clicked to me. I was insecure.

JUDGE LAKE: What clicked?

That she cheated and that's his baby.

May I submit my evidence?

Absolutely. What did you bring for the court?

It's just the picture to show everybody in this court room

that this is not my...

Let me see that.

That is not my son.

You're presenting to the court...

...a side by side photo.

On the left-hand side is Marcus Jr.

EARLS: Correct.

JUDGE LAKE: And on the right-hand side...

Is a picture of you.

EARLS: Yes, Your Honor.

You don't believe you don't look anything alike.

EARLS: Nothing alike.

Okay, I have a question,

how did the baby get the name Marcus Jr.

then, if you never thought?

I felt bad. I always wanted a son.

I wanted a son with her.

I felt bad. I mean she crying in a hospital laid up

with her guts out on her belly.

So, I was like, yeah, you could give him my name.

BAYLOR: Your Honor...

JUDGE LAKE: So, wait a minute.

You seem like a strong-minded young man.

EARLS: Yes, I am.

How did you get to the hospital and decide,

"Okay, I'm gonna give this baby my last name as my Jr.

"and I don't believe he's mine."

That's, man, I can... Look, I don't know.

I just know I made a mistake.

Did you sign the birth certificate?

EARLS: I signed it.

You signed the birth certificate?

When you signed that birth certificate,

you acknowledged paternity, you understand that right?

Well, hopefully, this DNA can help me out.

You know black women like to put people on child support,

I ain't got time for that.

BAYLOR: You're not gonna pay...

Hold on!

Hold on, 'cause I'm a black woman.

No. No. Well, certain ones.

I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Your Honor.

JUDGE LAKE: Hold on!

Sorry, Your Honor.

JUDGE LAKE: Hold on!

Sorry, Your Honor.

Now we, look...

We get to the truth in this court room.

Okay.

JUDGE LAKE: Hold on!

Let's get something straight.

EARLS: Yeah, I'm back up...

It's women of all races and colors

that are receiving child support for children.

But let me be clear

the child support is for the child.

EARLS: Yeah.

(AUDIENCE APPLAUDS)

BAYLOR: Exactly.

And then let me be even clearer, you did this.

Once you sign that birth certificate,

you were responsible for child support.

So, don't come into my court room

talking about what a black woman gonna do

'cause this black woman gonna let you know.

(AUDIENCE APPLAUDS)

Now, I'm really ready for the results.

EARLS: Sorry.

Ron, hand me the lie detector results first.

Your Honor.

You were asked during the last ten years,

other than the one time you admitted to cheating,

have you had sexual intercourse

with another man?

You answered, "Yes."

The lie detector determined that was the truth.

That's because we split up.

Yeah.

Within that, we split up.

A lot of times, we split up.

Ms. Baylor, we asked you,

did you have sexual intercourse

with the man you admitted

to cheating on Marcus with more than one time.

You answered, "Yes."

Wow.

The lie detector determined that was the truth.

Wow.

I just mentioned that here, I've nothing to hide. I mentioned that.

Mr. Earls, you seem surprised.

She did testify in court today

that it was kind of a fling. It was more than one time.

Yeah, well, that ain't what I've been hearing

for the last three years.

JUDGE LAKE: So, you're saying

even though it was determined

that she was telling the truth,

the answer she gave to the questions are different

from what's she's been telling you?

Yes, Your Honor.

And that's why you called off the wedding.

That's exactly why I called off the wedding.

To be a man that's always wanted a son,

to be excited about it,

to go in the hospital, to give this child your name,

to sign the birth certificate

to be legally responsible for the child,

why is it, you haven't

been able to... It seems like you've done everything else.

I wanna give him the opportunity to know his father.

He knows his father for the...

I grew up without a father, okay?

I've been here for him, okay?

But I wanna give him that opportunity.

If you're not the child's biological father,

is this relationship over? Where do you go from here?

It's over, she, she, look, that lie detector test...

She passed it cause I mean,

I already knew she was lying to me all this whole time, anyway.

She passed it though.

You said the relationship is over

if Marcus Jr. is not your biological child.

EARLS: Correct.

But you had two children outside the relationship, and she stayed with you.

EARLS: She did, Your Honor.

Ms. Baylor, what are you thinking right now?

What are you feeling?

I feel that it is so unfair because...

I've been with him for so long.

I'm the one who's been there,

but he can have babies by other women,

and then always run off to them

but you wanna leave me?

But my son is his. They look so much alike.

You can tell, like, I wanna be with Mr. Earls

for the rest of my life. I love him.

He's the only man I know since...

17 years old. I was young.

Like, he is all I know.

JUDGE LAKE: If Marcus Jr. is not Mr. Earls' biological child,

where do you go from here?

I mean, I would love to be with him

but I can't make somebody stay if they don't wanna stay.

Even though, I did step out, yes,

but I was there for him.

All right. Well, I have the results.

Let's get to the truth.

In the case of Baylor v. Earls Sr.

When it comes to three-year-old

Marcus Earls Jr.,

it has been determined by this court...

Mr. Earls, you...

...are the father.

I told you.

I told you.

I have my doubts, I have my insecurity.

But I do love that little man.

JUDGE LAKE: And I'm sure he loves you too.

You're the only man he knows as his father?

EARLS: The only one.

Then does it hurt you in this moment that you did

carry that doubt for three, four years of...

Yeah, that's what's killing me right now.

I'm sorry, and I'm sorry to you too.

I'm sorry, too.

JUDGE LAKE: This is...

...a time for you to stand up and be the man,

the best man you can be.

You're right, Your Honor.

When you give a child your name,

there's a responsibility in that,

because when he looks to the example

of who he can be in this world,

his first point of reference

is gonna be the man that has his name.

So that means, it's time for you

to create that life so your son

can have a life he can emulate.

That's how you break the cycle.

That's how you make sure he doesn't end up

in the places where you've been.

If you all are gonna build a family,

or try to figure this thing out,

you got to set a proper foundation.

All this sleeping around outside the relationship...

No, no, no.

It's time to pull that all together.

Talk through it,

because I can tell you do both love one another very much.

I do love him.

I do love her.

JUDGE LAKE: And love is worth fighting for.

EARLS: Yes, it is.

Go fight it out in a good way this time, together.

Court is adjourned.

For more infomation >> Accused of Being Unfaithful for the Whole Relationship (Full Episode) | Paternity Court - Duration: 16:42.

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How To Deal With Loss Of Relationship - Duration: 7:12.

You know we tend to think of loss as a negative thing.

Well today, we're going to talk about the loss of a relationship or losing a

relationship. Could it be that that's not a negative thing? Thanks for joining us

again today. We're talking about loss and what is loss? And how does it affect us

in our lives. And specifically today, we're going to talk about the loss of a

relationship. And we're going to talk about a relationship that is an

important relationship in our life. So, this could be the loss of a loved one, it

could be a friend, co-worker or boss. Any relationship that is important and

meaningful to us. But before we talk about the loss, again, we're going to talk

about the principles that surround this. Because oftentimes, the solution to the

problem that we're facing really what it requires is just a different

understanding of the problem or a different way of looking at the problem.

If we don't correctly understand what the problem is or where it lies then

we're never going to find the solution to the problem. And so, let's talk about

loss. What is loss? Does loss even exist? Think about that. So, in order to

lose something, first we have to have something, right? I mean for me to lose my

life, I first have to have a life to lose. In order for me to lose a job, I first

have to have a job to lose. In order for me to lose money, I

first have to have money to lose. So, in order to lose a relationship, we first

have to have a relationship to lose. Well, if I have a relationship and then I lose

that relationship, what do I really lose? So before I had that relationship, was

that considered a loss in my life because I didn't have that relationship?

Or I go from a place of not having a relationship to having the relationship.

So now, I've gained something in my life. Now I lose that relationship. Do I really

lose anything? Because I still have what I had. That relationship and the time

that I spent in that relationship is not taken from me. So, everything that I

gained, the time that I spent with that person, the experiences that we had

together, the things that I learned from that

person and through that relationship, I don't lose any of that. I get to hang on

to that and to keep that. And actually I get to use that to move forward in my

life to help me and benefit me in future relationships. The only thing that I lose

is what could have been that I yet don't have. But here's the thing. If I focus on

the loss and and what I don't have, what I miss out on is everything that I did

have and still have. So, I take a positive thing in my life. And by focusing on what

I don't have moving forward, I oftentimes lose or tarnish or turn into a negative

things. Something that was positive in my life. So when I'm in that place of

scarcity and loss, whenever I think about this individual, I think about

losing that relationship. So, it brings emotion of unhappiness into my life.

And I lose all of the positive that I could have gained from that and the

benefit of using that in creating new relationships and moving forward. So,

losing a relationship? No, it cannot happen. All we can do is create

relationships then we can focus on making those relationships the very best

that we can make them. Gaining from them and providing giving to the relationship

all that we can to make it as positive as possible. Knowing that most

relationships that we have in this life are going to end at some point. So, we

could be fearful and some people do this ,right?

Some people are fearful of losing a relationship and so they don't engage in

a relationship. So fear keeps me from getting close to anyone because I'm

afraid that they're going to leave me or they're going to die or they're going to

reject me. And so I keep people at a distance and I'm never able to

experience the closeness that can come from allowing myself to develop a real,

loving relationship with another person. So, I encourage you to to just be aware

of your beliefs and your mindset about loss. And to consider changing that

belief that loss even exists. And to look at this earth experience as one of

opportunity. And that if we've ever had something in our life, whether that's a

relationship or anything else, we focus on what we gained from having it and

then we move forward with excitement and hope for what we can attract and bring

into our relationship in the future. So, what are the new relationships do we

have the ability to go out and to create and to enjoy for the period of time

that those relationships exist. Thanks for watching today. Hopefully you found

what we talked about today useful and beneficial to you. And if so, subscribe to

our channel if you haven't done that already. And come back and visit us again

tomorrow.

For more infomation >> How To Deal With Loss Of Relationship - Duration: 7:12.

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3 Things That Make a GREAT Book Relationship! - Duration: 1:45.

(cheery music)

- A book relationship is chemistry, communication

and empathy towards each other.

- I look for the chemistry between the hero and heroine.

- They have to have a chance.

A lot of book relationships start off

with them having so many things that hold them apart

that even though they've gotten together

you wonder what's going to happen three years from now.

- They've gotta have some sense of excitement.

Something has to be happening,

some sort of greater thing than: "Oh he's hot."

- Chemistry, a sense of humor,

and the ability to make each other a better person

than when you started.

- Loyalty, humor and compassion.

- Communication, respect and support!

- What's the one thing that the hero, or heroine,

should not ever be involved in,

that that author had better put them right in the middle of.

That's gonna make it a good story for me.

- The two people have to have something really intrinsic

and common that attracts them.

They say that opposites attract

but I don't really believe that.

- They have to respect each other,

even if they don't necessarily get along at first.

'Cause we all like the tension.

- That idea of being better together.

You know, that good match

where you both make each other better.

- And then all of what they wanted,

and their goals, and their passions

become secondary to taking care of that person.

And that's where the real love starts and you've got me.

That's what I love!

(cheery music)

For more infomation >> 3 Things That Make a GREAT Book Relationship! - Duration: 1:45.

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How To Storm Proof Your Relationship || KADRIAN THOMAS - Duration: 6:02.

so how do you storm proof your relationship how do you storm prove your

marriage we all know what a storm is right a storm is when there is a buildup

of heat and cold of pressure in the atmosphere or the meteorological system

causing heavy rains heaviest thunderstorms lightning etc I am Kadrian

Thomas and on this channel I share tips of how you can enrich and enhance your

relationship so how do you start with your marriage or your relationship

doesn't mean that you will not have storms in your relationship that you

will not have storms in your marriage now many people are many folk they are

attuned to the weather channel on the radio are on the TV and they will not

leave home without taking note of what is going to happen during the daytime

with the weather just imagine if you were attuned to your relationship to

your marriage just as all these folk are attuned to the Weather Channel

of what is happening now if farmers stayed attuned to the weather channel just as

all these folk are we would all die hunger because they would never plant a

seed however when we do tune in to the weather channel and we hear that there

is an impending storm there are certain things that we put in place there are

certain things that we do we buy extra food we buy extra fuel we get extra

water because after a storm usually if your home is affected by it

it's going to take a time for you to rebuild and to reposition yourself and

regain momentum it's no different with your relationship in preparing for the

storms which are ahead the problem however is that most folks never plan

never prepare for the storms that are impending in the relationship so how do

you storm proof your relationship while reading this book written by John

Gottman called the seven principles that makes marriage

work I came across a statement or a phrase or a theory called the PSO

positive sentiment override what it means is that each partner is so

positive and optimistic about their partner that it

supersedes any negative thoughts that they hold toward each other they are so

positive that the positive thoughts supersedes the negatives that are in the

relationship or negative thoughts that they have toward each other now many

relationship started out on such a high note where each partner was so positive

about their relationship about their partner that they couldn't see the

relationship derailing but over a period of time with irritation

arguments fights unresolved issues those turn into resentment and eventually

separation in the marriage now how do you build PSO now PSO can be likened

to the setpoint approach to exercise whereby the body has a set point where

it just does not fall below a certain threshold when it comes to weight loss

so in order to lose weight one has got to go on a rigorous regimen of dieting

and exercise to go below a certain point with the body

and the same is true for those who want to gain weight they have to reset their

metabolism so for those who find it hard to lose weight they have to speed up

their metabolism rate while those who find it hard to gain weight has to find

a way to slow it down and to go on exercise and take additional supplements

and nutrients in order to build their muscles up so in order to build positive

sentiment override in the relationship for it to have that set point where no

matter what is thrown at you in life you can weather the storm you can start with

your relationship is that at the core of it you need to be a friend to your

partner to your spouse because usually friends you cry on your friends shoulder

right you tell your friend what is happening you are open you are

vulnerable you look toward the future positively and so at the poor at PSO

positive sentiment override being so positive about your partner

being so positive about him or her that you give him or her the benefit of the

doubt at all times now for example if my wife is having a rough day or a

challenging day and I may ask her for something I'm looking for and she

answers me in a tone that is very edgy I don't take it personal because I know at

the moment it's just a fleeting moment in her experience she may be irritated

by something or she is overwhelmed by what she is doing so having that

positive mindset towards my wife being so positive because we are friends at

the core of our relationship then the relationship is so positive that it

would take a cataclysmic event to stir the relationship and to overturn the

relationship just like in your body it would take a major sickness for example

or rigorous regimen or dieting in order to lose weight below a certain threshold so to

build positive sentiment override you need to be a friend to your partner at

the core of your relationship and when you are friends you can weather the

storm you can storm proof your relationship against any life events

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Married at 23 My Relationship Advice (With subs) | 23歲成為人妻的愛情心得 - Duration: 10:25.

Hi guys, it's Yuffie here.

Lemme briefly introduce myself first

so that we can get to know each other ♥

I was lucky enough to marry a wonderful man at 23.

After the heartbreaking first love,

I met my husband who has changed my life for the better.

Today I've summed up what I've learnt from my relationship

and share with you 3 useful tips

to help you and your partner maintain a healthy relationship.

Stay tuned! ♥

Just to let you know that

I'm not a relationship expert.

I'm an ordinary girl like you who has been through heartbreaks

like having a crush on someone and being rejected.

Though I'm no relationship expert,

I believe the following advice can inspire you

no matter which gender you are.

Most of us usually say love

"I love you"

"I miss you"

Saying love is easy

but only by showing love can you spread love.

Showing love through action is a subtle but powerful way

to express how special he/she means to you.

Lemme give you an example.

After graduating from university,

I had an interview for my first graduate job.

On my way to the office,

I found my husband (who was still my boyfriend)

waiting for me at the stop when I got off the bus.

He was there hoping to give me support

and calm my nerves before the interview.

I was really grateful for his company

and he even prepared breakfast for me.

Thanks god I eventually got the job offer.

In the first week of work,

he was my greatest cheerleader

who stopped by the train station early every morning

to let me know that he'd be by my side

and root for me as always.

Sometimes he couldn't make it to the train station

he'd just pass by the block where I worked,

take a selfie to let me know that he was there for me

and to cheer me up.

Then he'd head off to work.

I'm not asking guys to be super romantic

or do tricks to make someone fall for you.

But if you really mean to maintain the relationship,

I'm sure you'd do anything for your lover.

It can be little things that make his/her day

like making time or effort for him/her.

Showing your love through action is way more powerful that saying it.

Show her you're her hero whom she can rely on now

as well as in the future.

This is particularly important for men.

Women are usually more expressive in love

such as writing love letters.

So man up, guys!

Show him/her she's the only one

who deserves your effort

and your lover will know he/she is the special one.

It may sound corny but guys

it's really important to know when does your lover

usually experience negative emotions.

Sharing happiness is easy

but helping your lover overcome negative emotions

or examining his/her emotional patterns

is always challenging but necessary in a relationship.

I used to be easily irritated at night

or when I was worn out.

I'd become short-tempered.

I didn't even realise it was a negative emotional pattern:(

Besides, it happened when I was in somewhere crowded.

As we often skyped before bed,

my husband was quite shocked at first

when my negative emotions crept in.

But he was so patient with me

and figured out the reasons behind my emotions.

I think it's essential to know "why"

instead of just tolerating.

By figuring out the reasons or patterns,

you will not take the problem personal.

Now my husband knows if I'm annoyed at night,

it's probably because I'm tired at the end of the day.

He won't fall out with me over this

and I won't blame myself to be Debbie Downer.

Our negativity usually comes with patterns,

say in particular time

or particular situation

that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Find out the reasons. If you don't get it, relax and talk.

Stop taking the problem personal

as it is always the root of endless arguments

or miscommunication.

If he/she gets short-tempered or impatient at night,

why don't you leave the serious topics until tomorrow

or text him/her the next day? :)

Love is just chilling if you know how to do it right.

You will subconsciously impress your lover

that you are the only person in the world

who is the ultimate best friend that

makes him/her feel so in love even in the worst times.

It can be something that even family don't notice.

Make it as your habit

and you will take your relationship to the next level.

Most people don't think the small things matter

but it is exactly the subtle moves that change the game.

Say when you keep a pet,

you pay attention to its traits.

So when you are having a committed relationship,

why wouldn't you remember his/her little things

and make it as a habit?

Do it and do it for her only (let him/her know!)

If you are horrible at this, at least try.

This is definitely a bonus trait.

Honestly it came as a complete surprise to me

that I'm pretty good at this.

Then I realised my husband really appreciated it

and many don't find this trait a must.

Let's say he tells you a film he likes,

food he wants to try

or countries he wants to visit

After a period of time, you can bring it up to him.

"Hey babe let's watch this film tonight!"

"Still wanna go there? We can travel this holiday."

"Oh wow, you still remember it?" he replies. BINGO.

Make him/her impressed by how observant you are.

Friends come and go

and people rarely pay much attention to our little things.

Be the special one who makes him/her feel special.

Using techniques in love is not an evil thing

as long as you do it to him/her only.

Win his/her heart! ♥

Thank you for supporting this video

and this is actually my first ever YouTube video.

I hope to become your sister or best friend

and share with you things that make your day

like beauty hacks,

wedding preparation

and more lifestyle hacks ♥

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Turn on the notification button

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