hello and welcome to feminine success secrets the place women come to become
powerfully feminine I'm Candice Oneida today I want to answer a question by a
subscriber dodo Shahin writes I love your videos I'm a new subscriber I
stumbled across your channel while I was trying to learn more about femininity
her question is I have a problem which is I can't commit in a relationship
because after a while it becomes boring and I don't feel the rush or attraction
could you please advise how to stay feminine and stay in a relationship I
love you so much
it's funny Dodo because your question how to stay
feminine and stay in relationship is the answer in that if you want the
relationship to work you need to get into your feminine the relationship is
probably not working because of the habit of taking charge taking control
leading not allowing the man's masculine to come forward so one of the things in
my mission that I've been really intent on doing is I have so many women that
would come to me and say something like but how can I be in my feminine you know
he's not leading and he's not doing what he should do and I'm not feeling met my
needs aren't being met it's like whoa sister Oh take a breath what if by
understanding that in your feminine power the more you get into your
feminine polarity the more you get into your feminine orientation you lead
through receptivity let me repeat that when we get into our feminine we create
a space a vessel if you like a container into which a man's masculine can be
invited into which a man can pour his leadership pour his beautiful masculine
power and energy into you now I was a woman that definitely would do
this thing where if the man was not Manning up leading making decisions
making me feel safe feeling protected and all that kind of thing my masculine
would just come on in and take charge and there's two issues here I was
previously in relationships with men who didn't know how to do that and so
because I did because of my training and I'm a strong woman I would take the
masculine pole so if they already don't own that pole and I come in and take it
there's no room for them to be able to learn how to do that
so that's one issue the second is if you're more in a dating or a new
relationship scenario situation you're attracting the wrong kind of men so dodo
you may be in a situation where that's what happens and so I made another video
I'll put a link up here which is was about why being in your masculine won't
work in relationships it's because when were in our masculine as women there's
no space for hits there's no space for the man's masculine to thrive and
flourish and if it is that you actually want a very strong man a man who was
strongly in his masculine and not strongly in his feminine then I would
suggest that you learn how to be in your feminine now I think the thing is one of
the things that we end up having to deconstructors women is that we've been
taught through our lives and through society and through all sorts of levels
of education we could even say thousands of years of masculine power being
dominant that the feminine needs weak is lesser than is secondary somehow now
whether I'm putting words to something that has gone on in the background of
your head and justified why you've gone into your masculine to be powerful and
strong and to take charge and control and to get shit done then this is
exactly why I'm here we're here to deconstruct the
foundational beliefs that have actually made us go into man mode BNL masculine
exert ourselves through that lens of being powerful and successful I'm here
to show you that the feminine is equally as powerful you can be equally as
successful you can in fact the point I'm making here is you can get more of what
you want by learning to be in your feminine power and when I say learn
really of course I'm saying relearn because there's a woman in a woman's
body all the know-how is inside of us and so I'm here to teach you how to
tease it out how to bring it out of you in order that you can start to
experientially embody what it feels like to be feminine what it feels like to be
in something more fluid more circular something less directional and forward
moving something that's more in the orientation of being and receiving
rather than that of constantly doing and acting learning how to be in the
orientation of surrender and letting go versus taking control and holding the
reins all of the time you need that sound familiar
so when dodo you're asking the question about how can I stay in a relationship
and stay in my feminine well if you're wanting to really know what it means to
be feminine then I would insist that you try and you learn the skills of feminine
power and then see if it turns things around in your existing relationship or
you may just find that that person doesn't have a strong masculine pole and
doesn't know how to exert that sense of polarity now I often do this thing with
my hands where I'm talking about masculine feminine priorities this thing
that does this and it's a good thing when I do that gesture it's because I
remember in biology when I was a kid in high school that when you'd watch
television underneath the microscope you'd see when the sperm fertilized the
ovum you'd see this thing where the cell division would happen and then two cells
would go BAM and it's like underneath the microscope boys go wow that's life I
can see life happening and then they come back together and they do their
thing and and then four cells would separate it was
like seeing the force of life and the beautiful power of polarity underneath
the microscope and this is actually what we're wanting to create in a
relationship dynamic we want strong polarity now this video is not so much
about when you swap polarity cuz some relationships they can swap between
masculine and feminine a bit that can happen but whether you're straight or or
gay I have noticed the gay couples always take a poll and it's beautiful
that there's a strong masculine and feminine poll whether you're gay or
lesbian couple and the reason for this is the law of nature behind this there's
something that's beautiful in the person that brings the masculine strongly in
the relationship and the person that brings the feminine strongly in the
relationship as in for me I said to be more in my feminine in my life in
general but definitely in my relationship and the more I've learned
how to do that well at the moment I've tracted incredibly masculine man
incredibly masculine so in his masculine polarity and so then it becomes even
easier for me to be in my feminine because he's come forth and he's
beautiful masculine ah I can like go and sink into his masculine it encourages my
feminine Ford and then we have this beautiful circle of encouraging each
other's masculine and feminine to be in the relationship and then what happens
is this co-creative dynamic back to the under the microscope image right is this
beautiful sense of creation of life going on right I'm not talking about
necessarily having two co-creators in be in business with each other or something
but there's a vibrancy in the dynamic in a relationship when there's a strong
masculine and feminine pole being held by the two individuals so I would love
you to put a comment below on any challenges or experiences that you are
having with regards to you being in your feminine polarity in the relationship or
even in the dating scenario if you liked the video today give me a thumbs up
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every single Sunday and remember when you have the courage to go out there and
shine you give others permission to do the same so let's go out there and shine
this week bye bye for now
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