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there's always bumps in the road in every relationship but when you

understand your partner's past dynamics the childhood traumas that they're

bringing into you and you both get it there's a whole new way to communicate

through those traumas

welcome back to our second act with Paige and Silke we're continuing a

conversation with Riana Milne about childhood trauma and how that affects

our relationships as adults Riana welcome back to the show Thank you Silke

thanks for having me Riana in our in our last two segments you know you took

us through what childhood trauma is and you know how we recognize it and and and

how you deal with it what I'd like to focus on I want to our

last segment today is how do you know how do we build an emotionally healthy

relationship and what does that look like sure

ideally it's two consciously aware evolved people and research those the

best and longest lasting relationships are those that are spiritually based so

that's number one so get yourself out to webinars and seminars where other

spiritually conscious minded people exist that's number one but once you're

in the relationship what it looks like is a balance of me you and us like a

triangle okay okay so time for you time for them and time

as a couple it should be balanced it shouldn't be all about you all about

them so keep that in mind equilateral triangle then I have another saying it's

you and me against the world so your partner always comes first no matter

what even when you have children the problem

with a lot of breakups they put the children first they don't do their date

nights they're not having intimacy the family breaks up by the time the child

goes off to college huge mistake that's interesting that you

state that I is because of our generation especially mm-hmm you would

say the children are always first know if you put your partner first and that's

maybe why we have so many breakups that's right so the children grow up

actually accepting Saturday night is mom and dad's date night they are just going

out that's what we do we get a sitter Friday night is family night it's either

board games or we all go to a movie together an event so you know there is

dynamic than the family that I also teach I teach a lot of family work but

you and me against the world so friends don't come first I always say a four to

one ratio on couple states to friend dates I hear this all the time well

when's the last time you had a date together the eyes go up to the ceiling

like so that's too long oh well we go out with friends all the time no not

good enough because the guys are talking about football but women are talking

about careers or recipes whatever that kids and they're not relating on an

intimate basis for days as a couple to one as a group really good probably

recommended at that okay requirements are met that the top five to six

requirements are met as a couple of requirements or non-negotiables so if

I'm working with somebody in their 30s and they want marriage in a family they

don't stay with dating someone who says well yeah kids are okay no no it's like

yes I want kids I've always seen myself as wanting to be a dad that's a

requirement there non-negotiables like I Scott from the TV show he goes well he

must love dogs if he doesn't love dogs it's not for me perfect one of my crazy

requirements is must love to dance and do it well and I've got an incredible

boyfriend that dances amazing because that's part of something I really enjoy

so you know those are the things requirements know what they are and

don't to settle because you're not gonna be happy your emotional needs are met

you know they they show you their love and the ways that you need and your

functional needs are met so functional needs are are they a good partner around

the household are they neat are they clean

do they help with the cooking and the cleaning you know they're good partner

in all areas that you need there's no hard and fast rules but what are your

emotional and functional needs we need to define that point in our life we

should know what those are exactly and then do you have the same dream for your

future together what does one year three years five

years ten years look like to you and they better well match especially over

50 right so and I'd say also practices good health

mind/body/spirit because if you do those things and you don't have a partner that

does its gonna you're gonna have a hard time you really are and I did want to

mention to silca about you know family dynamics and you know childhood trauma

goes through the generations and the first segment when we talked on there

having 210 traumas if you are someone from childhood trauma mom or dad had it

too so think back and then their parents had it so this goes through the

generations and the only way it stops is if you go through an intensive coaching

program like mine that totally deals with life love and trauma from the past

and getting rid of it and being clear of it and then bringing your children up or

grandchildren up in an environment where it does not exist that is so essential

how do you work with people I know you said globally which means you have give

us an example of how we would work with you okay well I live in Delray Beach

Florida paradise except during the Hurricanes and I do have local clients

but primarily I have global clients and just like you and I I work through Skype

so and I have a 200 page workbook that they get and a live-in love book and we

work together module by module and everyone presents to me a different

puzzle a different dynamic so from their answers on the worksheets I then know

how to turn around and help them so the notebook is the magic and the other

books are the research but you really need the magic to all come together and

someone to guide you through where your dynamics were and how to change them so

it's a six-month VIP program or I also have a 90-day online school what's

called the life and love training academy and I have relationship rescue

for couples and dating to mating for singles and again people of all ages and

backgrounds attend the school platform do you do you have an example especially

somebody our age that you know I have a perfect yes okay one of my clients I

call her Marie came in and she says Rihanna I'm here to help

you me through a divorce and I looked at her file and she was 72 and she's been

married over 40 years I said you really want a divorce now at this phase of life

he's cheating on me all the time he's cheating again well how old is he

78 and I'm like well you try coaching with me she goes well yes I went

coaching to raise my self-esteem I've lost myself I don't know who I am and I

hear that all the time I haven't been happy he's verbally abusive and mostly

abusive he ignores me he's passive-aggressive

she's definitely in a toxic relationship and I said Marie this is a program for

you so she I said can we get Ken in here she was probably not he doesn't think

anything's wrong with him so I said well let's start so I started with her and

she started changing and became more appealing and attracted to him and a

book loved beyond her dreams was sitting on the table one day she was out he

picks it up and reads it he calls me in this gruff voice he goes are you Rihanna

the coach and I said yes I am he goes womp Ken Murray's husband I said hey how

you doing you want to come in and see me he goes yeah I think I better he goes

you know there's personality things you talked about in the front part of this

book the 14th personality types that can break your heart and said yes because I

probably have about six of them I didn't think I was the problem but I guess I am

I said look the relationship is in crisis

we're not pinning a problem on either one of you come on in I'll catch you up

then we'll go together and since then he was cheating he admitted that he never

admitted that before to her she just suspected it they sold that house where

he cheated in the house they bought this beautiful new home together in a

community where she is active he was active and they are doing amazing today

so I'm like you don't want to divorce at this stage of life guys you've come this

far so he was like it was so amazing to see the transformation from her anger

and the resentment and she was so closed down all the time and him just saying

I'm not dealing with it so he went off and did his own life

and then now they're walking in holding hands and they're happy and it's really

a beautiful transformation that's why I love what I do well and I love happy

endings

I'm not going forever we already have we're already out of time on our segment

again yeah I love that story I mean that that is that is hope very late in life

and that that's a great example so thank you for sharing that I would encourage

you know all of our viewers if you if any of this resonates with you if this

is yet that meetin I need to look into this deeper do get in contact with

Rihanna again we have all of your information on our website as well as in

the video description below and you know I hope that we'll do a lot more have you

back a lot more there's so much is so much more to talk about is there

anything anyone last-minute thing you want to leave our viewers with we 4mad I

mean if there is always bumps in the road in every relationship but when you

understand your partner's past dynamics the childhood traumas that they're

bringing into you and you both get it there's a whole new way to communicate

through those traumas so like Ken and Marie they had no idea what was going on

there is hope there is answers I would love to help you I would be truly

honored please reach out to me well thank you thank you somebody was great

talking with you and we look forward to having you back again on another episode

thank you our second act with patron silica thanks okay bye bye everyone

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silca thank you

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Unbeatable Valentine's Day Tips for a New Relationship - Duration: 2:21.

Let's be honest, Valentine's Day is a stressful time,

especially when the relationship is

new and you really want to impress her.

So we have The Definitive Guide

Like most guys,

So I've got relationship guru, expert...

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Take it all.

I just meet a girl, first Valentine's together, what do I do?

Why don't we start with something creative?

Girls love that.

Create something? Create something.

Now that might be intimidating to guys though.

It is, but intimidating is good.

A good relationship challenges you to move beyond your

comfort zone.

Okay.

You can do any of these things.

What do we do?

So, we're talking a painting pottery class, which is cool

because then you could pick,

like, a little jewelry box to paint for her.

Oh, that's nice.

And then you can use that to hide your gift in later.

We'll get to that.

You don't have to be Picasso.

She's not expecting that from you.

Right, okay, okay.

But she'll like that you have fun and that you're open to

trying new things and that

you don't take yourself too seriously.

That's a really sexy quality.

Cool. What do you do next?

Alright, so now that you've painted something awesome

for her, if you want to be a real "G,"

you can use it to present the gift.

Okay. What's the gift?

So, the gift is something understated because if you

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too hard and that's not hot.

And here's a perfect nice and smooth gift for you.

So, these earrings right here – Oh, wow.

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These two heart earrings, I absolutely love.

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And then you can hide these, like, if you paint a little

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it just makes for a fun surprise.

Oh, that's awesome.

Now, we're going to bring it all home with a great dinner.

Instead of just doing the normal formal dinner, why don't

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I like tapas.

Yeah, because tapas is great, because you get to share,

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And this is a winning Valentine's Day?

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Sobriety Gives Son New Relationship with His Parents - Duration: 5:09.

How how are your parents responding to your newfound sobriety

My parents when it comes to my mother

She still has certain things she struggles with right

But I talked to her very frequently and there are certain times when I call her and I can tell that she's intoxicated

So I just attached myself in the situation, and I just tell her I'll call you tomorrow

But my relationship with my father has completely rebounded 180 degrees

We actually have discussions about what's going on in our minds and with our hearts and our feelings

And he understands where I'm coming from and some of the things that led me to my addiction and the difficulty and struggles

I'm dealing with in trying to move past that and become a truly productive member of society

And so I know you two have been talking every day

But you haven't seen each other since you came out to LA no, and I've gone through your rehab wall

I think it's time for a surprise family reunion

Ron

Mason's father come on out

I

Love I love seeing the raw emotion on the two of your faces. I first want to

Ask you Mason that moment right there when you embrace your father

You it felt brand new it was something. I've won in my entire life to

Have a relationship with him that is functioning Ron

I just want to ask you about what it's been like to see your son

Start starting to finally grasp that potential that I'm sure you always knew was in him

But he just wasn't quite reaching because of his addiction

Absolutely Mason's always been one of the smartest people. I know I knew he had it in him to succeed

Many people asked me when he came out to the program. Well you think he'll make it. No more. Well. Yeah. He'll make it

He's determined. He's smarter. I had no doubt ever he would he would succeed

Seeing him for the first time

Amazing you know I'm always telling you. I love you, and of course. I love you. I love you, too. I'm very proud of you

Like I said, I knew you can do it

You got the difficult road ahead of you it doesn't stop here

And you have a lot of dreams in front of you that is the rest of your life

And I think you're going to succeed you've got what it takes to succeed

Certainly the work isn't done, but now I know you're looking toward your future

And securing your future and your education all those things that matter to you

Ultimately my number one priority is staying sober. That's my primary purpose anatta

For you exactly

Ninety percent besides that I'm definitely looking to go to college

I never expected myself to further my education and it's become a huge priority for me to start looking into that and besides that I

Think I actually want to go into working in treatment centers, so I can help people who are in my position

That you have already taken your first step on that path and you spoke

Just a minute ago about how you wanted to further your education we have one last surprise for you dr.

Jackson Moore joins us on skype with a special message for you take it away doc

How you doing Mason congratulations? I'm just Briah T. That's awesome

We want to help you take those first steps

The aesthetic Institute believes education is one of the most important ways of reaching that success and we want to donate

$5,000 towards your

How do you feel hearing that and knowing that someone wants to invest in your education

It feels amazing I mean I never really had any form of investment from outside sources

except for the doctors in the hills and dr

Howard Samuels and for you to come out and be willing to do that for me is

It's just mind-boggling

Thank you so much

I

Know this is part of your passion for anyone

Watching you may be right now where Mason was three months ago with very little hope for the future. Just trying to survive each day

There's always

Always the chance to change your life right here right now. Just like Mason did we're gonna have resources on our website

I'm proud of you. Thank you

You

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5 2 Naive Bayes Relationship to Language Modeling 4 35 - Duration: 4:36.

It turns out that Naive Bayes is a very close relationship to language modeling.

Let's see how that is. We'll start by looking at the generative model for

multinomial Naive Bayes. So imagine I have a class, let's say it's China. And we're,

imagine that we were randomly generating a document about China. So we might start by

saying well the first word except one is Shanghai and the second word is And, and

the third word is Shung Jung and the forth word is Issue and the fifth word is Bounce

and so on. We've just generated a little document, a random little document about

China. So, what this generative model shows you, is that each word is a

independently generated word from a class. Generated with a certain probability, we

have a little set of probabilities we're keeping for each word. Let's think about

that. Now in general Naive Bayes classifiers can use all sorts of features

URLs, email addresses. We'll talk about that for spam detection. But if in the

previous slide, we just use the word features and if you use all the words in

the text, then it turns out that this generative model for Naive Bayes gives it

a important similarity to language model. Naive Bayes turns out to be a kind of

language model. And in particular each Naive Bayes, each class in a Naive Bayes

classifier, each class is a unigram language model. I mean, the way we can

think about that, is, each word in a naive bayes classifier, the likelihood term

assigns a word, The probability of the word given the class. And a sentence in a

naive bayes classifier, since we're multiplying together a sentence, or even,

even a whole document. Since we're multiplying together the probabilities of

all the words, we compute the probability of a sentence, given the class. We're just

multiplying together all the words, the likelihoods of all the words in the class.

So let's see how that works. Imagine that we have, the class positive. And we have

our likelihoods, the likelihood of I given positive, that's P of I given positive,

and we have P of love given positive, and we have P of this given positive and so

on. And P of I given positive is.1 and P of love given positive is.1 and so on.

Okay? So here's our naive Bayes classifier. Well, we can think of that

exactly as a language model. We have a sequence of words. I generate some words:

I, love, this, fun, film. And, and naive Bayes is assigning that sequence of words

a set of probabilities, one for each word from the class, .1, .1, .05, and so on. So

that if we multiplied all these together we can get a probability of the sentence.

So in naive Bayes, each class is just a unigram language model conditioned on the

class. So when we ask the question, which class assigns a higher probability to a

document, it's like we're running two separate language models. So here I've

shown you two separate language models, the positive class, and the negative

class, and each one has separate probabilities. So here's probability of I

given negative, and here's probability of I given positive. I guess people are more

likely to use the word I when they don't like something. And, now, if we take a

particular sentence, I love this fun film and we say what probabilities does this

sequence, what proba, what's the probability of this sequence according to

our first model? And what's the probability according to our second model?

Each one assigns a probability for each word. That's the naive Bayes likelihoods.

We can multiply them all together, and we can show that if we multiply them all

together you can sort of see from inspection that the positive probabilities

multiplied together are gonna be, become mimics of this one and this one are gonna

be much higher than the negative probabilities. So you can think of naive

Bayes. As each class is a, is a separate class condition language model. We're

gonna run each language model to compute the likelihood of a test sentence and

we'll just pick whichever language model has the higher probability as the class

which is the more likely class. So that's the close relationship between naive based

and language modeling.