so I recently sat down and read the big book of submission of volume 2 and one
of the themes within the book is that there are so many different ways to
submit so of course I got me thinking about all the different ways that one
can be dominant or submissive or a switch and so then of course I thought
of all of the different archetypes available within BDSM so today that's
what we're going to talk about
hi guys it's Morgan with BDSM relationships and education thank you
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you are subscribed and have your notifications turned on so like I said I
was reading this book and it really inspired this you know thinking about
archetypes know archetypes are something that I teach when I teach a class called
discovering dominance and so I wanted to share a little bit of that with you guys
now obviously in a classroom situation I have a lot more time and I can go into a
lot more detail but this is just to kind of get you thinking so I will throw it
out there that if you do want to check out any of my workshops you can check
out my website to see what my schedule is and if you want to read either any of
my books or the big book of submission then you can check out on my website I
have a little section books I love or books I recommend so you can check those
out and you'll find both my books and some of my favorite books by different
BDSM authors there so I want to talk about archetypes but first we have to
decide what is an archetype now there's a couple of different definitions for
the word and that really depends on the context in which it's used the context
that I'm using it is that it is a like an ideal a cultural ideal that can be
used within literature or art or even relationships and it is one of those
things that is so embarrassed that it becomes a symbol of those qualities so
an example of this is one of my personal favorite relationship styles which would
be the queen or a lady of lourdes and they're Knights so I had like this
particular relationship style because I like to obviously be in control in my
own early chips I am sort of the leader
I prefer that role it's more comfortable for me so within my relationship I lead
but I don't want somebody that is just going to blindly follow me and be
useless otherwise I want somebody who is you know powerful in their own right I
get a lot of joy out of knowing that I have power over somebody who is so
powerful themselves you will notice this for those of you who actually know me
and they probably would have noticed that I tend to date a lot of people that
are physically quite powerful I am partial to you know people that you know
are into weightlifting and powerlifting and all that kind of stuff
I'm also partial to people who play full-contact sports like rugby or MMA
all kinds of stuff like that so I do like the physically powerful and often
quite large folks for what I decide to date somebody I also try to make sure
that my partners all have skills and knowledge that I don't have because I
want to be able to get their input I want to be able to their feedback on
things and then I can make a decision so I don't want someone again who's just
going to blindly follow and I know that there are dominants out there who do
want someone who will simply be obedient and that's that and that's totally fine
you just have a different style of relationship you apply you subscribe to
a different archetype with in BDSM we can use these archetypes to express the
type of relationship we're looking for I think that they can also help people who
are struggling with in their own goals and who have a very sort of
stereotypical view of what BDSM is so I've seen this so many times with both
guys and and women who think that submissive men fit all fit a certain
mold where they are the sort of worthless worm type so they need to
enjoy humiliation they need to be less than they need
if you women as superior or you know whatever it is they need to you know be
I guess short and slight and have small penises and there's this whole list of
things that a man has to be in order to be submissive now I'm sure there's
people out there who would like all of those things but I you know that's not
what I'm into as you have seen when I shot videos with my boy he's he's way
bigger than me like seriously he's a foot taller and quite a bit heavier than
I am and you know he's quite powerful he works out at the gym all the time you
know like it's it's what I prefer but he certainly does not fit into that sort of
worthless worm stereotype of male submission so by talking about these
different archetypes we can help people see that there are different ways that
you can engage in a d/s relationship and I like that so another very very popular
archetype within BDSM is the Donny and baby girl archetype now this is a
completely different one than the the Queen and her Knight basically it is a
more sort of nurturing relationship where we look at okay well what is it
daddy a daddy is is nurturing and loving and he guides his submissive you know
there's there's all kinds of different qualities of a daddy that we all sort of
have in our minds and so when I say daddy baby girl you guys will get an
idea of a relationship style without me even having to explain it so that's
that's an archetype and that's why they are useful to us
the other great thing is that we can use these archetypes if we don't always have
the words to explain exactly what we want so I may have I struggle sometimes
explaining what I'm looking for in a partner but if I simply say I'm looking
for a knight because I you know that's who I'm who I'm I want I prefer to be
the the lady or the queen who is in charge and I need a knight by my side so
that gets a message across if I preferred a more nurturing relationship
I might express that that I met the John I'm just coming to join us
hey so the dog has come to join me I don't know if you can actually see him
in the bottom of the frame he's he's pretty tall and I'm not sure if it's
getting caught within this frame anyways if I was looking for a more nurturing
style of relationship that I could say I prefer to be a caregiver or mommy and
I'm looking for somebody that fits that role that complements mine so I'm going
to stop a couple of the different archetypes within VDS mmm relationships
and I'm curious to know which one is your favorite and what style of
relationship do you prefer so I've already mentioned the lady or the Queen
and her knight and of course that can work as a lord and his knight as well
the daddy and baby girl and of course we can swap the genders there and simply
have like a parental figure and a baby figure or a young figure you can also
have the lady or the Lord and the servant or Butler the handmaiden because
that is a different style from the lady and Knight archetype but it's somewhat
similar in that both of the dominant roles are similar but the submissive
roles are different there's of course the captain and first mate
the teacher and the students you know a jailer and their prisoner a
disciplinarian and the miscreants the priest and the priestess and the
Pentiums the god or the goddess and their
worshiper so of course you can pick you don't have to pick just one you can pick
multiple if there's different styles that sort of combine or you can create
your own like I said these are just a few of the common ones that I've found
so what are your preferred archetypes for relationships please leave me
you know answers in the comments if you'd like to join in on the
conversation oh I also wanted to throw in for those
of you who are big philosophy geeks like me another way of looking at these
archetypes is by thinking of Plato's allegory
I'm sorry not the allegory of the gate the cave but the idea of the forms and I
mean those two things are linked but think about the theory of the forms and
that is the idea that we have these pure forms if I say table we all have
something in our mind that says table that is the form of a table it is the
purest version of a table and it's something that exists in our minds I'm
not in the real world and so we are kind of going like the same type of thing
with these archetypes it is that ideal of a relationship that is universal that
we all understand they're also quite popular with certain branches of
psychology Jung really liked the idea of personality archetypes so that's another
thing that you can you know take a look at if it's something that interests you
anyways guys I'm gonna leave it there I just kind of wanted to get you thinking
a little bit about the styles of relationships that you are interested in
anyways thank you so much for checking out this video I'm gonna try not to trip
over the dog getting back to the camera and have a good one
I'll see you in the next video
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