Relationships are great, there's no denying that.
One thing I hear from women often though, is that they don't understand what they've
done wrong once their love life runs dry and they find themselves single again.
Well, believe it or not, there are some very common mistakes women make that kill relationships,
and in this video I'm going to share with you the five biggest ones.
Before I do, I want to take a moment to introduce myself.
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Now, let's talk relationship killers.
1.
Being Clingy
If your entire day revolves around your man, whether it's texting him insistently, checking
up on his social media, or calling to share what you ate for lunch, then we have a problem.
Expecting your man to communicate with you constantly, to always be by your side, or
to rearrange his life to suit your needs are clear signs of clinginess.
That said, sometimes clingy behaviour isn't as obvious, and instead takes the form of
being emotionally needy.
When this happens, women find themselves upset when their guy doesn't involve them in all
of their plans, or they need daily reassurance and he still likes her or finds her attractive.
This kind of desperation is far from attractive, and it doesn't take long for men to grow
sick and tired of it.
The number one reason why men fear commitment and getting into relationships is because
they don't want to lose their freedom.
This is why when you act clingy, it doesn't take long for him to find the door.
Often times this sort of behaviour starts off as mildly and can easily be overlooked.
Like wildfire though, it can quickly evolve into something much bigger and when that happens,
more often than not the relationship goes up in flames.
Instead of letting your emotions get the best of you it's important that you learn how
to be your own person.
This means having your own interests and activities outside of the relationship.
To do so, keep busy with your friends, pick up a new hobby, or take a class you've always
been interested in.
Focusing on other areas of your life will not only keep your head clear and attitude
positive, but it will also give your guy a chance to miss you when you're not around
– this is one of the best ways to keep the spark alive between the two of you, but it's
not possible when you act clingy.
2.
Acting Insecure
Hand in hand with being clingy, is acting insecurely.
Allow me to explain how this happens, and why it's so unattractive.
Think for a moment about the early days of a relationship.
You probably feel like a million bucks around your man, and the buzz you shared was infectious.
Over time though, you may start to feel those initial butterflies fade, and when they do,
it's not uncommon for feelings of doubt to come creeping in.
If this happens you might find yourself over analyzing or looking for small changes or
reasons why you think your man is losing interest in you and the relationship.
Unfortunately, this is a vicious circle situation, because if you're bugging him about these
things, then he's bound to get bored of your insecurities and leave.
Overcoming insecure feelings can be tough, but the first step to doing so is recognizing
these tendencies in yourself.
In fact, you may even think the questions you ask about his female co-workers or comments
you make about his dating history are justified, but to him, they're much heavier and scream
insecure.
Of course you'll have days when you feel less than awesome, we all do, but when those
insecure feelings come creeping in it's important that you keep them under wraps and
don't unleash them on your man.
A good tip for getting into a positive, confident headspace is to make a point to stop focusing
on the past or the future, and instead learn to enjoy the moment.
And instead of looking for reasons why you man wouldn't want to be with you, tell yourself
that ANY guy would be lucky to have you.
For some awesome tips that will help boost your confidence and keep you radiating with
positivity check out the free video on my site.
The URL is www.coachnorth.com, and I'll post it in the description below, too.
3.
Acting Abusively
Some people believe that it's okay to take out their daily frustrations on their partner,
but that couldn't be farther from the truth.
Sure, you might get upset with your guy from time to time, but there is never a good reason
or excuse to verbally, emotionally, or physically abuse him.
This kind of behaviour is a guaranteed relationship killer.
Now you may be thinking, "I'd never do that!" and believe me, that's what most
women say.
What so many of them fail to realize though is that their words do more damage than they
think, so what to them is simply venting, is actually belittling and harmful to their
man.
To complicate the situation even further, most times guys won't show that what you've
said has upset him, and instead they choose to bottle it up.
Since we all like being around people who make us feel good, if you're doing the opposite
and constantly putting your man down, calling him names or criticising him then you're
going to be the last woman on earth he's going to want to be with.
To prevent this from happening think before you speak and keep your words kind.
4.
Control Issues
If you're constantly calling the shots, telling your man how to act, or trying to
"fix him," then he's going to make a run for it.
If he feels he has to compete to get his voice heard or like he has no control over the relationship,
it's only a matter of time until he calls it quits.
Since relationships are about two different people coming together to create something
special together, if only one of you is laying down the law then the relationship will become
a ticking time bomb.
The scary thing with control issues is that they aren't always obvious.
In fact, you may be controlling without even realizing it, or mistaken these tendencies
as "winning because he cares about you."
It sounds dumb, but something as simple as being the one who chooses what shows you watch,
or what you eat for dinner on a regular basis all stems back to control issues.
To avoid this be sure that you're asking for his input and taking his preferences into
consideration.
Even if the two of you barely agree on anything, relationships are about give and take, so
be sure you're playing a role in both parts of that.
It can be tough to change a behaviour that's become such a strong part of your personality,
so if you notice a controlling tendency in yourself then talk to your guy about it.
Openly admit that you realize you have a habit of being power hungry and tell him that you
want to work on it.
Letting him know that you recognize this behaviour is the first step to overcoming it, plus who
knows, talking about it sooner than later may be the saving grace that prevents him
from leaving you.
5.
Cheating
Everyone has a different idea for what constitutes as cheating, so right from the beginning of
your relationship – or now if you haven't already done so – it's important that
the two of you set some boundaries and establish what constitutes as cheating.
This may sound unnecessary, but you'd be surprised by what some people consider it
to be, and to prevent this kind of heartache, you have to first know.
Since cheating is the ultimate betrayal it can be hard to bounce back once a partner
has been unfaithful.
To avoid this situation completely, make a point to be completely transparent with your
man, and let him know about the uncomfortable situations you may find yourself in.
for instance, let's say you were out with the girls and a handsome stranger tried to
put the moves on you.
As much as your man may not want to hear about other guys coming onto you, hearing it from
you is so much better than hearing it from someone else he knows who may have witnessed
it go down.
Lastly, remember that double standards don't exist in a healthy relationship, so if you're
behaving one way and have different expectations for your man then the relationship is going
to crumble.
Instead make a point to be fair and treat him and the relationship the same way as you'd
like him to.
At the end of the day men want to be with the kind of woman who brings something positive
to his life, not one who sucks the life out of him.
If you're acting like a leech, putting him down, trying to call all the shots, or sneaking
around behind his back then you're going to lose him.
To prevent this, and for a complete guide on how to be any man's dream woman, grab
a copy of my latest free PDF.
You can find it at www.coachnorth.com/free!
Well, that's all for this video, thanks so much for watching.
I really hope that you found this one helpful, and that you keep these pointers in mind with
your own relationship.
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