hi thanks for visiting with me I appreciate when you take the time to
watch and comment on my videos and please stay tuned until the end of this
video for an exciting announcement are you looking for a relationship if you
want to be in a relationship have you thought about why
as a relationship
coach one of the first things I discuss with the client is what they want and
what it will mean for them when they get it so imagine that you come to my office
and I ask you why do you want to be in a relationship what would you say if you
ask people why they want a relationship many will say things like I want someone
to love me and make me feel special and worthy I don't want to be alone and
lonely anymore I want to have children or I want to feel safe and secure what
they might not say or even know about themselves is that they want a
relationship to fill the empty place within them or complete them they hope
that their partner will give them what they're not giving themselves and what
they might not have received as children they want to feel taken care of
emotionally financially or sexually do any of these reasons come to mind for
you do these sound like strong positive reasons to desire relationships let's
turn things around a little and imagine that instead of a relationship my client
said he wants to have a child and I asked what would it mean for you to have
a child if he gave these same answers how would it sound I want a child so I
will have someone to love me and make me feel special and worthy and I won't be
alone and lonely anymore I want a child to fill the empty place
inside and complete me do you hear what I hear
this man is expecting too much from a partner no other person can fill the
empty space inside of us and make us complete we have to do that for
ourselves so what would be a better stronger and more positive response to
that question what would it mean for you to be in a relationship
there are many compelling reasons to want a relationship and here are seven
of them number one being in a relationship is good for your health
statistics show that married people live longer than unmarried people and they
have higher happiness levels number two dual earning healthy couples create more
opportunity money and fun when you have someone by your side who is striving for
the same goals they are attained much more easily number three relationships
can help us be our best selves often we have the energy to do things for others
that we wouldn't do for ourselves love is powerful and your partner can bring
out the best in you number four you can get more done when
you have a partner sometimes it's a matter of motivation other times it's
just nice to have company whatever the reason four hands can get
more done than two number five having someone who knows you deeply is
validating this is the gift of knowing that the wonderful things you do are not
going unnoticed and it gives you more reason to do them
number six romance creates warmth hope and happiness the more you have the more
you'll enjoy your life having a hand to hold as you go through life makes the
difficulties we all experience easier to deal with when things go wrong knowing
that your mate has your back will help you get through whatever you
have to and come out the other side a more positive person
number seven is life affirming and all-encompassing and perhaps the best
reason of all to desire a relationship that is to learn more about myself grow
as a person and give love and support to someone who loves and supports me in
return relationships are the most fertile
ground for learning about what is wounded within us and for having a safe
space to heal most of us have baggage from our childhood that we carry into
our primary relationships such as fears of rejection abandonment and loss of
self these fears generally may be worked out with a partner which offers us an
incredible opportunity to learn about and heal them a relationship can provide
great motivation for personal growth learning about fears of intimacy as well
as about control issues that may surface with a primary partner can lead to
learning and growing as a person and enhancing our ability to love the more
you learn to take responsibility for your own feelings such as learning to
love yourself and feel special and valued the more you may want a
relationship to share your love rather than to get love contrary to what many
believe it's not receiving love that takes away loneliness it's sharing your
love with another that does that the most profound and beautiful experience
in life is the opportunity to share love but we can't share our love unless we
are first filled with love when we learn to fill ourselves with love from our
source whatever that is for each person such as nature spirit God or the energy
of the universe then we come to our partner with inner fullness rather than
with inner emptiness we share from our abundance or overflow that way rather
than needing a partner to complete us we want to share our completeness with our
partner when two people come together to get love rather than to learn heal and
share love there's a strong possibility that their relationship won't last with
both partners trying to get loved and filled by the other and neither one
having learned to love and fill them selves each will ultimately be
disappointed very often one or both might believe they've picked the wrong
partner when two people come together because they want to learn together grow
together heal together share their time and companionship and share their love
and passion they have a good chance of creating a lasting loving relationship
when these people are asked why they want a relationship they'll say I have a
lot of love to give and I want to share it with a partner who also has a lot of
love to give possibly we might want to have children
to love as well I want to learn and grow with someone who also wants to learn and
grow or I want to share time companionship lovemaking laughter and
play with someone and feel a deep connection look deeply inside now and
honestly ask yourself why you want a relationship and if you find that you
just want to be loved remember you can learn to love and fill yourself with
love so that you have plenty of love to share with a partner it's important to
realize that we attract people who are most like us in thought and belief
patterns and that means we'll end up with a person who is at the same level
of taking personal responsibility for their happiness and well-being as we are
or they may be at the level of giving up on themselves which includes making
someone else responsible for their feelings given this reality you have a
far better chance of creating a healthy and loving relationship with a partner
when you have a healthy and loving relationship with yourself I'd love to
know your answer to the question what would being in a relationship mean for
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