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[Michael] Oh hey welcome back this week we're talking about romance

[Adee] personality tests have been really helpful in getting us to know each other a little bit better

we think we know ourselves really well but when you take something like a

personality test like the Kolbe or the love languages test it really shows you

objectively what it is that you do really well what it is that you prefer

what it is that you might least likely prefer or what that you need some extra

help with or doesn't come to you as naturally

[Michael] one of those tests that she just mentioned is called the Kolbe A test and we give this to all of our

employees and what it shows is your conation or the way that you get things

done and originally we just did it as part of our work to see who fits in what

role best and how to communicate with people over time we realized that we can

use this information in our relationship as well to be very specific one way that

we use it it is on the Kolbe test I'm a really high quick start in that I

start things really quickly I energize projects but I have really bad

follow-through Adee on the other hand has really good follow-through and

actually is really good at researching things and so when we're thinking about

doing something like planning a trip I will start to put the pieces in place

we're really quickly and give her some direction and then she'll follow through

on it that way we're getting things done more efficiently and we're communicating better

[Adee] and it really helps not to get frustrated

with the other person when they're not doing something the way that you expect

them to do it because it might not come as naturally to them Michael's much lower

on the follow-through scale than I am so when he doesn't finish a project all the

way through it's super easy for me to just be like why didn't you finish it

you started it but in now I know this about his Kolbe

score so I don't get as frustrated I know it just takes him a lot more energy

to finish a project than it does to get it started so I know that I'm a lot

better at it so I'll just take over and not get super frustrated

[Michael] one of the main personality tests that we use comes from the book the five love languages

the five love languages describes how all people like to give

and receive love the five languages are quality time acts of service words of

affirmation physical touch and gifts so we use this in our relationship to

communicate with each other better and to show each other love

[Adee] so we know each other's top two love languages as well as our least favorite love

language and the way that we use this intentionally in our relationship my

number one is acts of service so I could probably take this overboard sometimes

but I ask for little acts of service all the time whether it's you know can you

get grab me a glass of water or can you do me a favor and Michael knows that

that is going to land more for showing me love then getting me a present or a

necklace or a new ring because that's the lowest on my love languages so an

acts of service whether it's you know picking something up for me or doing a

favor for me is going to really make me feel loved and that's how we use that intentionally in our relationship

[Michael] I really love that she has the cheapest love languages she hates gifts

[Adee] yeah but it's really high in effort [Michael] that's true

so in the beginning of our relationship she would ask me to go get a glass of

water when she is clearly closer to the refrigerator and it was really annoying

to me and I thought she was just being lazy once we took this test it

was really like it gave me a totally new perspective on who she was and so I

I stopped seeing it as an annoyance and now I just see it as a

really easy opportunity to show her how much I care about her

this is not something that I think we picked up on naturally or automatically we learned

about each other by intentionally taking this test

sharing the results with each other and then consciously and proactively

treating each other and giving love in the way that we know the other wants

[Adee] it really is like speaking another language like he learned a different love

language than I learned growing up so naturally we're just I just don't speak

Chinese and if he spoke Chinese [Michael] I don't speak Chinese either [Adee] right but we would

have to put some effort and time into understanding each other's language so

it's definitely not something that came absolutely naturally to us but more so

taking the time and effort to get to know each other and what each other wants

do I think there's anything wrong with completely doing something just for

your significant other I think it can go both ways I think it might be a bad

thing if you're gonna do something that's for them and you're going to be

resentful for it after and you're gonna hold a grudge about it ultimately if

you're doing something for your significant other it's never just for

them it's never a hundred percent for them it's also a little bit for you

you're also deepening your relationship maybe you're doing something that's

gonna stop them from nagging you about it later you're fulfilling showing

them love in a way that they love to receive love so it depends on the

perspective that you're gonna take on doing something for them when really it is also for you

[Michael] that's a really great point anytime you can do some kind of

some small act you know giving your partner love and the way that they want

to receive it it's going to make your relationship better

it's going to make them treat you better which is gonna make your entire life better

[Adee] and then on the other side should you always be doing something for your

significant other that you really don't want to do and continue to give and what

you feel like is giving and giving and giving and not receiving what you want

or not getting the break that you want that's definitely an opportunity to

reach some level of compromise or have a conversation about it so instead of you

know mine is acts of service instead of Michael always getting me that glass of water

and then feeling annoyed about it every single time he can let me know hey you

asked for these things all of the time and I totally get that that's your love

language but you know once in a while you can get that for yourself and I can

accept that and say hey you're totally right I don't need to ask you to get

that for me all the time and try and catch myself literally sometimes in the

middle of the sentence I'll be like hey Michael oh I can actually just go and

get that myself and I've gotten a little bit better about doing it for myself and

he's gotten better about doing it for me without me having to ask for it and

it's kind of a win-win so I really think it depends on the scenario but the key

is to not hold any resentment inside and to talk about what you're feeling with your partner

so that was a sneak peek into our relationship how we make

balanced fitness nutrition fit with each of our goals and how we continue to work

on it each and every day I hope that this helped you with your relationships

and if you have any questions post them in the comments and we'll be here to

answer them for you next time

For more infomation >> Q&A With Adee, Episode 21: Tools to Strengthen Your Relationship - Duration: 7:16.

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What about my relationship with my father? Tarot Reading video by Alejandro Jodorowsky for Andrew - Duration: 9:34.

Dear Andrew

Sorry

for the late delay to respond,

but,

the creation of Poesia Sin Fin

and after the theater releases

around the world

it has been a huge amount of work and

i was sick

but now, I'm really happy to do this

to thank you for your collaboration

to the crowdfunding of our movie

Poesia Sin Fin

You helped us a lot, thank you.

You asked three

3 numbers that I have here

The first one

The carriage

the 7th

Third is the Empress

and 17th

is the Star

You are not asking a question

really precise, you are talking about relationship

and I don't understand if you are talking about a couple relationship

or if you are talking about the relationship between us, me as the reader

so I'll try to see what the Tarot

wants to tell you

As you see,

There are 2 cards

feminine

you see..

And there is a card

masculine

It is interesting

An other interesting thing

is in the Tarot

there is a series of numbers 1 to 10

that correspond to another series of numbers 10 to 20

and it is ..

1 is matching with 11

3 is matching with 13

10 to 20..

7 is

matching with 17

you see...

Let's say that 17

corresponds of the finger toes, always hidden in the shoes

like unconscious strength

and 7th

is like hand fingers, always in action

so... it is interesting

in the other hand

you see that the carriage

is looking to where you come from

he wants to conquer the world

but..

he sees his past,

and the world he wants to find

is not looking at him

because the Empress

is looking to the Star

and the Star is acting on the Empress

So there is a huge

feminine part

So, i'll shuffle the cards

1...

2..3

and i'm picking a card

haha.. look what you are looking at

in the past, you are looking at a man

and a strong man

in the past, you are looking a man

a strong man who doesn't look at you

Here..

You are not looking to the women

and here you are looking to a man in the past

who is not looking at you.. and what is looking this man

this man is looking

let's say a..

a separation, you will see why

in this

crown that opens, there are four spikes you see

4 spikes, it is a crown

4 spikes, and the man of the past

who are looking..

is the emperor, number 4

So let's say that the 4

lost his power

and two people get their freedom

two people get their freedom

so let's say that

here..

you have a crown

you are the son of the Emperor

The Emperor is your father you see, you have a crown

and you are looking to the Emperor who are looking that

he lost 2 people

and the 2 people are here

it could be, so i could say..

i don't know you

that your father

get divorced

that your mom

left

that your mom

because it is the Empress

and she is the wife of the Emperor

so your mother

left

let's say with your sister

or with another woman

and you..

you stayed with a father

feeling destroyed

and couldn't act like a father

and a mother leaving

with your sister

and you are alone

trying to unite the both sides

so..

this feeling of a father

not watching you

the father not watching you

is the relationship with me

you are looking

with the consultation

a relationship with your father

that your father can see you, finally

to finally see you as a man

you are 35

years old, with all your strength

you understand..

but you need

that the father

take

your testicles

and give you

his strength

to feel you

alive

What can we do..

I think that..

lika Psychomagic act

you have.. this situation

causes you

a kind of anger inside you

you see.. that is the anger

inside, the inside anger..

of your father

for the part

for the leave

of your mother, of his wife

he is abandoned by his wife so..

he has some anger he didn't let go

this anger..

possesses you

so I advice you that..

to let go out the anger you..

can express

you go in a shouting club

and you learn to shout

with..

if it is possible.. with a submachine gun

learn rally how to shoot

to let go out your anger

and you'll feel better, and powerful

and you'll conquest the world

it is all i can say to you..

and again, I thank you

for helping me, thank you

for helping your father you have inside you

this suffering father that you are caring

let him be happy,

and let express his anger

Thank you really much

For more infomation >> What about my relationship with my father? Tarot Reading video by Alejandro Jodorowsky for Andrew - Duration: 9:34.

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Relationship and Relating - Duration: 4:19.

relationships by their very nature are based in the past and future they exist

as a construct of the mind we feel more secure in relationship because we

believe others will be there for us in the future which helps us escape from

the pain of being alone it helps us escape the pain of

separation in the pain of living in a world where no one is truly present but

this mechanism of escape will take you out of presence and imprison you within

the mind then you will be caught in the past you will bring your incomplete

relationships from the past particularly with your mother and father and project

them onto your current relationships you will project all your unhealed wounds

and unfulfilled needs into your relationships then your relationships

will become contaminated with expectation resentment blame guilt

judgment and issues of control relating can only be in this moment no

past no future with relating there is no projection of the past on to the present

and there is no anxiety about what might happen in the future when you relate to

someone you are present you are spontaneous and you have no expectations

there is no attachment because you are focused in the moment rather than in the

past or future this does no mean that you cannot live with someone and share a

life together it just means that the focus will be much more on relating than

on relationship with relating there is no ownership there are no guarantees of

security you cannot be sure that the person with whom you are relating will

be there for you in the future but that keeps you alive and vibrant it keeps you

at the edge of the unknown it prevents you from taking each other for granted

in relationship you gain security by owning each other he is mine she is mine

the ownership kills you and it kills the relationship ownership brings with it

control restriction and limitation which deadens you to life it is only by

allowing yourself to live in a state of not knowing that you remain open to life

and feel fully alive each new moment is pregnant with the unknown

if you can live with the unknown then sooner or later you will enter into the

unknowable

you

you

you

For more infomation >> Relationship and Relating - Duration: 4:19.

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House Rules: Josh and Brandons' relationship secret - Duration: 1:09.

For the women out there hoping humble country brothers Josh and Brandon might be single, unfortunately they're both taken! Josh's girlfriend Maddie is a university student, while Brandon's partner of three years, Jess, is an apprentice hairdresser

'I'd seen her around a bit and thought that she looked alright so I sent her a Facebook message,' Josh, 23, says of meeting Maddie

Brandon, 21, also met Jess in their town of Maryborough. 'I picked my sister up from work one day and she worked with my sister, and I'd never seen this girl before,' Brandon says

'She was getting picked up and I was like: "Damn, who's that?"'