Hello it's Carol Chapman, and today I'm interviewing Dr. Stephanie Stanfield who
has a PhD in Energy Medicine. So, you are an author of this series of books. And
the series is called Stress Buster Secrets? [Dr. Steph:] Yes:]. [Carol:] Okay, and this first one in
the series, say, what is it again? [Dr. Steph:] Shake Stress: Master Wellness. [Carol:] Oh ,that sounds
good, that sounds really good. I want you to explain the difference between the
sympathetic and the parasympathetic nervous system, because you have helped
me with stresses in my life and you usually begin by telling me there's this
difference between these two nervous systems, 'cause, so, could you explain
that? [Dr. Steph:] Yes, and we all have it, and we all, um, we all
use it to varying degrees without realizing it, but when you're aware of it
and you understand it, you can actually use it for your highest good. So the
sympathetic is your fight, flight, or freeze. The emotion associated with it is
fear. Its constriction and protection, and your options become limited. The only
thing available to you in sympathetic, or the fear response, or anxious response, is
fight, flight, or freeze. That's it. That's, that's all you got baby. It's just like:
"Okay, I'm standing on the stage in front of a large audience,
deer-in-the-headlights, frozen. That's one choice. "I don't think I can do this!
So, I exit." I've actually seen people leave. And a story that illustrates this:
everyone forgets, but I was watching my seven-year-old grandson in the school
play, and he forgot his line, and he's standing there for just a second, and you
could see he was trying to figure out what to do. Then he walks over to the
teacher, he asked for his line, he comes back to the microphone, and he says his
line, and ,he goes back, just smooth as silk. Okay if he had been extremely
frightened, he wouldn't have thought to ask his teacher. And she
wasn't gesturing or anything like that. You could just see he was thinking, which
let me know then that he's in the parasympathetic. Parasympathetic is
relaxation, its rest, it's digest, but it's also expansion, growth, learning. And the
the emotion associated with it is love, not fear. And so love, in courage, and
strength, and excitement, and all of those wonderful emotions. And you can think. You
could see that he was just considering his options, so I knew he was thinking.
And everyone said, Oh poor little thing," and I'm thinking, "No, he's, he's doing
exactly right. He's, he forgot his line, in the excitement of everything that
was going on." So we talked about that later and I said, "Well, in the excitement
of everything, sometimes it's easy to forget some information, and you did
exactly the right thing." [Carol:] It's, that's a great story.
That is a great story. Yes, he wasn't embarrassed, he wasn't . . . he didn't start
crying. [Dr. Steph:] No. [Carol:] I mean little kids - these are all the kinds of things little kids would do. [Dr. Steph:] Yes. [Carol:] He just
stood there, went, "No, it's not coming." [Dr. Steph?] "It's not coming, I'll ask my teacher." [Carol:] "I think I'll
just ask my teacher." How beautiful! You must have been very proud. [Dr. Steph:] I was. [Carol:] Yeah. [Dr. Steph:] I
was, and again I supported that he was nervous maybe, or excited, or whatever. And
he thought about it and did the right thing. And so, I really reinforced that.
[Carol:] Yeah, beautiful. Now something that you have helped me with, and this is actually
something that I do, you know how sometimes you wake up at 2:00 in the
morning, and you've got this stuff that's bothering you and you can't fall asleep,
and you had taught me how to do belly breathing, and it really helps.
So, you know, I've jokingly said that I've heard of belly breathing before, and I thought, big deal,
you know, you breathe in, out, in, out, in, out. You explained to me, "No, no, no, no. I mean, even if you're moving
your belly in and out, in and out, that's not what you mean by belly breathing. So
could you explain what you mean, because, wouldn't this be a helpful, something
helpful to do, as well. [Dr. Steph:] It would. It actually would. Again, when you wake up
and sometimes your subconscious will give you a little nudge about things
that you didn't finish that day or things that you have to do the next day,
especially if you're preparing for a speech, sometimes you'll be a little
restless in your sleep. Well, belly breathing is actually using your
diaphragm, which sits below your ribs. And your diaphragm pulls your lungs down, so
that they infuse with life-giving air, rich with oxygen. And then when you
contract your diaphragm and expel your air, or exhale, it gets rid of all the
carbon dioxide and the stale air that no longer has oxygen in it, so that your
next breath coming in, you can take in oxygen-rich life-enhancing
air. So, for me, air is kind of a living thing. It's got all of these wonderful
dimensions to it, but if you're holding on to it, or you're holding your breath
unconsciously, the air in your lungs actually gets stale, and you don't have
enough oxygen to support the normal functioning of the body. And then you
might translate it as an emotion like fear, or things like that. So, when you're
getting ready for your speech and you're breathing in, count to four, and when
you're breathing out, count to six. If the excitement of giving a speech the next
day wakes you up, breathe in to the count of four,
and out to the count of six, and do at least six to seven breaths just counting.
That quiets the mind, that shifts you out of the activity of the sympathetic and
into the activity of the parasympathetic. So now you can get relaxed enough to
sleep. [Carol:] And this is breathing in from the belly so it's not like, like this. [Dr. Steph:] No, your
shoulders should stay absolutely still. [Carol:] Okay, well, I was just belly breathing as
you were describing it, and already I find myself calmer and didn't even realize
that I could do with some calming. But, it's noticeable. It was . . . it's wonderful. I
really, really love it. Now, I really enjoy talking with you, and I would
imagine that people who are watching this video might want to be in touch
with you. Do you offer anything to people that they can get in touch with
you online? [Dr. Steph:] I coach stressed-out women executives who have migraines or
insomnia or any other chronic health condition, so that they can begin living
a life of energy, effectiveness, and they can leave some of their pain behind. And,
Carol, in my research project for my PhD, these are some of the things that people
recorded - and they're the highest categories of change and transformation -
they have more energy, they had a better relationship with time, they didn't seem
to always be running behind, and they got more done in the course of a day. So
those are some of the things that people can expect if they work with me. [Carol:] what if
somebody just wants to work with you and they're, Number One: they're not female,
they're male - a male executive or a male non-executive. Do you work with them as well? [Dr. Steph:] Yes, yes, I
actually do. I've had great success with men, because men tend to be results
driven, and when you can show them a graph
that showed improvement - a decrease in pain levels, an increase in energy - and
they can see that that's something that they can achieve, they're all in. [Carol:] I've
really enjoyed this, and people are really going to benefit from what you
just shared. And if they want to get a deeper relationship with you, like I said,
that link is just down below. [Dr. Steph:] Look down below. She's got it down there. [Carol:] Remember
to comment, like, and subscribe. [OUT TAKES Carol:] Wait, I just jiggled the camera by
mistake. Okay, hold on, I have to get my energy up.
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